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I’m sharing an email from someone working on a documentary about couples and alternative relationships:

Hi there, I’m writing to you from HBO and BBC Worldwide productions. We’re working on a documentary film about couples, and are seeking couples in various alternative relationships who are interested in being interviewed for the film.I wanted to reach out to your organization and see if you know any couples who might be interested in being interviewed, and/or if you could forward our request to your participants.

We’re seeking NYC-based couples in all different types of relationships; gay, straight, poly, involved in the BDSM/kink scene, trans couples, etc. We’re primarily looking for couples in the 20-40 age range, but we’re open to all folks who are open and confident enough to talk about themselves publicly.

The documentary will focus on the secrets of successful relationships and throw light on how different partnerships can survive and thrive. The film is meant to be upbeat and positive, showing that whatever form it comes in, love is universal.

If chosen, the couple would only need to be available for one day of filming, during the month of August.

Anyone who is interested or has questions should feel free to call or email me any time. All inquiries will be in confidence, and there is no obligation to take part in the film. I’m happy to chat and answer questions!

Please let me know if you might be able to help us put the word out, and if you have further questions for me about the project, don’t hesitate to ask!

Thanks so much in advance for any help you can provide.

Take care,
Jess Ansary

email: relationshipdocumentary@gmail.com

. . .Which isn’t to say there haven’t been noticeable changes, beginning in the late ’80s, when k.d. lang became an icon of lesbian chic. Nor is it to minimize the impact of ‘‘The L Word,’’ a tribute to the high testosterone level of gay babes, or to ignore hip same-sex Hollywood couples, like Lindsay Lohan and Samantha Ronson. It is to say rather that Sapphic archetypes tend to raise questions more than answer them, since both categories (butch and femme) borrow from gender-influenced dichotomies of beauty. There have, that is, always been women known for a sort of arrant handsomeness — like Gertrude Stein, who always struck me as resembling no one so much as Hadrian VII— or for their arresting exoticism, like the painter Romaine Brooks. And then there are the gay women, known as ‘‘lipstick lesbians,’’ who look like any other pretty young thing. Indeed, the power of lipstick lesbians relies precisely on the fact that theirs is an exclusively inner ‘‘outing’’; outside they are all mascara, blush and, yes, lipstick. Their allure is in their ability to mimic the normative language of sexual discourse while at the same time poking it in the eye.

Well, look again. Lesbianism has finally come into a glamour of its own, an appeal that goes beyond butch and femme archetypes into a more universal seduction. Her name is Rachel Maddow, the polished-looking, self-declared gay newscaster who stares out from the MSNBC studio every weekday night and makes love to her audience.

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Posted at the request of Alana Lowe, who’s developing a documentary style, reality TV show for a major cable network about a group of friends, some of whom are part of the lifestyle:

Real swingers on TV?! The media portrays the lifestyle as a bunch of old, unattractive weirdos – but we all know the truth! I am developing a documentary-style reality series for a major cable network, that will open America’s eyes to what it really means to be in the lifestyle today.

I am looking for a group of friends that already exists, anywhere in the US, that includes some vanillas and some swingers, who are comfortable being ‘out’ about their lifestyle. Couples who go out and party, who hang out with their friends, who go out to dinner, who gossip about what happened last night, and, of course, who are sexy.

If this sounds like something you and your sweetheart are interested in or if you know anyone who might be, please pass this information along. Contact me for more information. alana DOT research AT gmail dot com. Credentials available upon request.

Violet Blue says that if you think “sex sells” then you’re not paying attention.

VB (Violet Blue): Does sex really sell?

SH (Steve Hall): According to some studies, the “sex sells” adage in misleading if not wrong. Several studies have found ads laced with sexual imagery of women targeted to women actually turn women off to the product. And it’s not a new conclusion about sex and advertising, either.

Initially sexual imagery can “sell” — when it comes to attracting attention to an ad. After all, humans are innately programmed to respond to titillating imagery and the possibility of sex. It’s just in our DNA. So it’s natural for marketers to use this attraction and for people to respond. But, it can be a lame cop-out used by marketers who lack imagination to create more compelling work that will sustain itself beyond the initial titillation. Despite studies minimizing its benefits, sex will continue to be used in advertising because it’s a quick and easy solution which doesn’t require much thought and can garner the immediate attention some marketers need for their promotional efforts.

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VB: Should there be more sex in advertising?

SH: Yes and no. Yes, in the sense that sex is normal. It should not be taboo. It should be a normal part of everyone’s life and so therefore should be represented as such in advertising. No, because it’s just too easy and makes for too much bad advertising. And the sexual content in a sexually-laced ad can overshadow the product being promoted and therefore make it even more difficult to remember what the ad was actually promoting.

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National Coalition for Sexual Freedom — Media Update

media@ncsfreedom.org

August 22, 2008

NCSF Media Updates represent a sampling of recent stories printed in US newspapers, magazines, and selected websites containing significant mention of SM-leather-fetish, polyamory, or swing issues and topics.

These stories may be positive, negative, accurate, inaccurate – or anywhere in between.

NCSF publishes the Updates to provide readers a comprehensive look at what media outlets are writing about these topics. NCSF permits and encourages readers to forward these Updates where appropriate.

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