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Caitlyn Becker moderates a group including Marketplace series author Laura Antoniou erotica writer Ella Boureau, JuicyPinkBox’s Jincey Lumpkin and AfterEllen’s Trish Bendix (with a shout out to Susie Bright).

34791 10150097277521019 693826018 7282196 5374890 n Lesbian Sex Mafia presents Unscheduled Maintenance: Keeping your SM Relationship Purring with Laura Antoniou and Kim Attica (Annual All Genders workshop)Kim Attica and Laura Antoniou – ten years in a DS relationship as of 2013 – will discuss tried and true methods of keeping all participants in an SM relationship feeling nourished and cherished, how to handle slight upsets and occasional crises with humor and caring; and how to keep an eye on what makes the relationship special and worthy. While some of the content here may be thought of as “little things mean a lot,” the presenters will show how so many of the so-called “little things” are as vital to the happy functioning of a relationship as oil changes are to maintaining your car. Bring your experiences with what makes your relationship tick, or what made it break down, and we’ll share insights into the good, the bad and the sadly mistaken.

Where: LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave) Our annual workshop at which all genders are welcome
When: Friday, November 15, 2013; 8:00-10:00PM
Cost: $5/LSM members, $10/Non members

ABOUT LAURA ANTONIOU

Laura Antoniou is the author of the well known Marketplace series of erotic novels. As a presenter, panelist, and keynote speaker, Laura has appeared at dozens of conferences over more than twenty years, both entertaining and delivering an occasional verbal indictment. She has also appeared at colleges and universities, including NYU, Rutgers, Columbia and the University of Washington. Laura lives in Queens, NY with her wife Karen, and happily serves as boy to Kim Attica. Friends have called her all sorts of names. Current favorites being “Renaissance Perv” by Midori, “Good Boy!” by Kim and of course, “best thing that ever happened to me” by Karen.

Recent publications include “The Killer Wore Leather,” a murder mystery set at a Manhattan convention devoted to BDSM, “The Reunion”, the 5th novel in the acclaimed Marketplace series and “Scenes from The Marketplace,” a collection of all of her Marketplace-themed short stories.

ABOUT LESBIAN SEX MAFIA

About Lesbian Sex Mafia
Lesbian Sex Mafia (http://www.lesbiansexmafia.org) (LSM) is a social and educational organization for women and transfolk who have a positive personal interest in BDSM with other women. Our tenets are safety, consensuality, confidentiality and the right of women to explore their  sexuality as they choose.

Membership in Lesbian Sex Mafia is open to all women 18 years of age or older including gay, straight, bi, and transsexual and intersexed women who live their daily lives as women, and all female-born transgendered persons who have a connection with and respect for the women’s community. For membership information and benefits please visit http://www.lesbiansexmafia.org.

LSM reserves the right to deny admission to non-members it has reason to believe will not abide by the LSM principles of safety, consensuality and confidentiality.

No member is turned away from an LSM event based upon ability to pay. Please contact us in advance to request a scholarship.

NinaLove Web Lesbian Sex Mafia presents Head Games: Playing with Emotions with Nina LoveJoin us as we examine the psychological play of consensual, non-consent and the mind. This, often controversial class, will include a demo and an intimate look at the motivations and rewards from both the top and bottom perspective. We will explore verbal humiliation and assault, sexual manipulation and rape and other ways of being just plain mean. (With Gwendolyn).

Where:  LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave)
When:    Friday,May 17, 2013; 8:00-10:00 PM
Cost:      $5/LSM members; $10/Non members

About Nina Love

Nina Love is a fierce femme, an educator, a freelance writer, an activist, and a Leather Woman.  A native of Baltimore, Nina splits her time between Baltimore and New York, where she is active in the Leather/BDSM community.  She is the current Mid-Atlantic Leather Woman and an active member of the Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM) and The Eulenspiegel Society (TES) and is an Emeritus Board Member of the Baltimore Education and Social Society (BESS).  She is proud to be the Education Director for FetFest Con!  An advocate of education, play, and sex, Nina has a diverse background in Fashion and Organizational Development and has used this experience to explore identity, self expression, and communication in the Leather/BDSM lifestyles.  She is blessed to be self employed and enjoys traveling throughout the United States presenting on topics such as: Self Discovery: Finding individuality in a community of labels; Communication Skills for your Alternative Relationship; and Head Games: Playing with Emotions. Nina enjoys giving back to the community whenever she can by volunteering and presenting for events and organizations such as FetFest, Southeast Leatherfest, International Ms. Leather, Black Rose, Dark Odyssey, Leather Leadership Conference, Leather & Levis Weekend, The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and Playhouse Studios.

About Lesbian Sex Mafia
Lesbian Sex Mafia (http://www.lesbiansexmafia.org) (LSM) is a social and educational organization for women and transfolk who have a positive personal interest in BDSM with other women. Our tenets are safety, consensuality, confidentiality and the right of women to explore their  sexuality as they choose. Membership in Lesbian Sex Mafia is open to all women 18 years of age or older including gay, straight, bi, and transsexual and intersexed women who live their daily lives as women, and all female-born transgendered persons who have a connection with and respect for the women’s community. For membership information and benefits please visit http://www.lesbiansexmafia.org.

LSM reserves the right to deny admission to non-members it has reason to believe will not abide by the LSM principles of safety, consensuality and confidentiality.

Lolita Wolf crpA 201x300 Lesbian Sex Mafia presents How to Play with Needles with Lolita WolfWhen thinking of needles, most people remember of going to the doctor and getting shots. Ick! The last thing that they want to do is play with needles. But once one gets over that fear, playing with needles can be a lot of fun. Play piercing can give you a big endorphin rush. Endorphins are those sensations that your body makes to give you a natural high. Long distance runners experience a runner’s high that is very similar. Needles can leave you a different sort of breathless.

Where: LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave)
When: Friday, March 15, 2013; 8:00-10:00PM
Cost: $5/LSM members, $10/Non members

Fetlife RSVP: https://fetlife.com/events/156534

About Lolita Wolf

Lolita Wolf discovered the BDSM scene back in the late 80′s when “online” meant being on the phone sex lines. She is an activist who defends the sexual freedom for all consenting adults, spreads the word about BDSM, sex and poly, and helps the community grow and flourish. Yet, her goal remains “to have fun.”
Lolita has taught hundreds of classes for organizations and events across the country, including South Plains Leatherfest, Thunder in the Mountains, Dark Odyssey, Kinkfest, Shibaricon and many others. She is well-known for a fun and entertaining style that packs a lot of information into a short class. Lolita is an Emeritus Board Member of of both TES and Leather Leadership Conference. She is a former Chair of Lesbian Sex Mafia and was an honorary member of GMSMA. She is active with National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, Leather Pride Night and Open Love NY.
This year she is honored to be giving the keynote at International Ms. Leather (IMsL) and judging International Mr Leather (IML). Her writing has appeared in On Our Backs, Prometheus and Rachel Kramer Bussel’s Lust Chronicles. She has authored two books : Spanking and CBT in a Nutshell and is featured in the Details of Flogging DVD. She also has a chapter in Tristan Taormino’s The Ultimate Guide To Kink. She has also appeared in the New York Times One in 8 Million series: http://is.gd/RIbuhN. Her website can be found at http://leatheryenta.com/
About Lesbian Sex Mafia
Lesbian Sex Mafia (http://www.lesbiansexmafia.org) (LSM) is a social and educational organization for women and transfolk who have a positive personal interest in BDSM with other women. Our tenets are safety, consensuality, confidentiality and the right of women to explore their  sexuality as they choose.

Membership in Lesbian Sex Mafia is open to all women 18 years of age or older including gay, straight, bi, and transsexual and intersexed women who live their daily lives as women, and all female-born transgendered persons who have a connection with and respect for the women’s community. For membership information and benefits please visit http://www.lesbiansexmafia.org.

LSM reserves the right to deny admission to non-members it has reason to believe will not abide by the LSM principles of safety, consensuality and confidentiality.

No member is turned away from an LSM event based upon ability to pay. Please contact us in advance to request a scholarship.
Voice: 646-450-0576
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At a moment when erotica is mainstream, and when the issue of who controls a woman’s body has never been more relevant, “Nine and a Half Weeks,” and its frank, poetic treatment of illicit sex, has lost none of its disturbing power. But what’s stranger is that Day chose to reveal even more disquieting aspects about herself under her real name than she ever did with a nom de plume. Examining “Ghost Waltz” and “Nine and a Half Weeks” in tandem, we see a woman whose identity is divided in two.

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Reading “Ghost Waltz” and “Nine and a Half Weeks” side by side, Day’s vulnerabilities come shimmering into view. Both books examine the consequences of relationships marked by withholding—be it her lover’s effortless domineering humiliation or her parents’ shutting the door on discussing Herr Seiler’s deep-seated Nazi ties. The absence and emotional deprivation that young Ingeborg detects and learns to live with permeated her adult life, and must have been tied up with her brief but toxic relationship, in which submissive infatuation was mistaken for something more. The pair of books allow us access to Day’s mind, demonstrating her obsessive need for order in the face of extreme emotional chaos. But they also offer insight into a particular moment in history ripe for both a self-excusing memoir of a Nazi past and a self-punishing memoir of sexual obsession. The prolonged social upheaval of the decade threw secrets into the light and enabled the discussion of formerly taboo topics. To pilfer from the title of one of the more popular self-help books of the period, if Day’s book-length confessions enabled her to be O.K., then perhaps we could be similarly O.K. with our own darkest fears and desires.

Read more: http://www.newyorker.com/online/blogs/books/2012/11/who-was-the-real-woman-behind-nine-and-a-half-weeks.html#ixzz2FNkDjAR3