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Ravenous Nights: A Full Roster… of BDSM! Leather! February 3rd!

by Viviane on 02/03/2012

02/03/2012
8:00 PM

Location: Happy Ending Lounge, 302 Broome Street, New York, NY 10002
Tel: (212) 334-9676
Cost: Free

Lolita Wolf discovered the BDSM scene back when “online” meant the phone sex lines. An activist who defends sexual freedom for all consenting adults, Lolita spreads the word about BDSM, sex and poly, and helps the community grow and flourish. Yet, her goal remains to have fun. Known

for a fun and entertaining style that packs a lot of information into a short class, she has authored two books with videos: Spanking and CBT in a Nutshell, and is featured in the Details of Flogging DVD. Her writing has appeared in On Our Backs, Prometheus, and Rachel Kramer Bussel’s Lust Chronicles. She also a chapter in the soon to be published Ultimate Guide To Kink edited by Tristan Taormino. Lolita was featured in the New York Times One in 8 Million series: http://is.gd/RIbuhN Her website can be found at http://leatheryenta.com.

Angel Propps is a sex-positive femme leatherdyke and Ms. SouthEastLeatherFest 2011. She is an often-published writer of lesbian BDSM erotica and horror, a poet who has appeared in art journals, and the author of many nonfiction essays and articles on sexuality and feminism. She grew into her kinks during her years as a Riot Grrl and, later, the manager of a gentlemen’s club. Angel was a member of the International Ms. Leather Seduction Team 2011 and is a puppy who has written much about the subject, most notably in a series run by Leatherati.com. She is the founding member of both a Riot Grrl band (The Southern Helles) and an outreach program for the homeless in Columbus, GA. Angel has presented nationwide on Bratting, AgePlay, Puppy Play, and Lap Dancing. When not traveling with her butch dyke Daddy (OB of Owhips) she lives in rural North Carolina.

Sara Eileen is a writer, editor, marketer, artist and event coordinator. Her journalism, non-fiction, and award-winning short fiction has been published internationally. Sara holds a BA in English and Art from Columbia University, and a Masters of Creative Writing from the University of Sydney. She has been writing about kinky things on the Internet, in various forms, for the past 5 years.

Laura Antoniou is the author of the best selling Marketplace series of BDSM novels, about a realistic, modern day slave training world. In addition to writing a ton of other erotic material, she has edited over a dozen anthologies and is collecting stories for even more right now. For over twenty years she’s been teaching and ranting at the kinky and alt-sex communities, and her contribution to Tristan Taormino’s The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge is a rare example of her non-fiction work. Naturally, it’s all about how to train a slave. She can be found at lantoniou.com and on Fetlife and Facebook.

Elizabeth Thorne began writing erotic stories when she started working in a place known as The Sex Lab. It was an act of desperation since, ironically enough, studying sex kept her too busy to meet anyone larger than a mouse… and unlike Cinderella she doesn’t actually swing that way. These days, Elizabeth spends her time sitting around in her PJs writing popular science during the day and erotic romance at night. You can sometimes find her haunting NY delis at 2 a.m., looking for chocolate chip cookies and wondering why people are staring at her fuzzy pants. She has contributed to more than ten anthologies of erotica and erotic romance and is proud to be the author of “The Gingerbread Dungeon,” a collection of BDSM fairy tales. You can find her online at withbatedbeth.com.

New layer…

Tagged as: Angel Propps, bdsm, Elizabeth Thorne, Events, laura antoniou, leather, Lolita Wolf, nyc

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“Venus in Fur” opens on Broadway, Nov. 8th

by Viviane on 09/28/2011

in culture,sex

I saw David Ives’ brilliant play based on the erotic novel, “Venus in Fur” when it played at the Classic Stage Company last year. The demand for the play was so intense, the run was extended twice. What starts out as an audition for the play about the kinky lovers, slowly and relentlessly evolves as fantasy gradually becomes reality. It also introduced us to the amazing new actor, Tony Award nominee Nina Arianda, who went on to win several awards for this role and also for her work in “Born Yesterday.”

Now it’s opening on Broadway, at the Manhattan Theatre Club (MTC), and will have a limited run until December 18th. British actor Hugh Dancy will be playing the role of the director originally played by Wes Bentley. Hugh Dancy can also be seen treating women for hysteria with vibrators in Hysteria.

I’m curious to see what the chemistry between Dancy and Arianda will be like. Whether you love theater, or kink, or both, you should really try and see it. The video is from the photoshoot for the new play.

Venus in Fur on Broadway
PHOTO CALL: Venus In Fur, Starring Nina Arianda and Hugh Dancy, Meets the Press (Playbill.com)
Tickets for Broadway’s Venus in Fur Now On Sale; Opening Night Is Nov. 8 (Playbill.com)
Interview: Nina Arianda and Hugh Dancy – Venus in Fur (Time Out New York)

Tagged as: bdsm, David Ives, Events, Hugh Dancy, kink, masochism, Nina Arianda, nyc, Walter Bobbie

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Lesbian Sex Mafia presents Play Piercing with Mistress Trish

by Viviane on 09/14/2011

in bdsm,Events,nyc

09/16/2011
8:00 PM

What’s not to love about penetrating someone or being penetrated by someone with needles? Join Mistress Trish as she shares her enthusiasm for temporary piercing. Whether you are new to piercing or an experienced piercing top or bottom this class is for you. Trish will cover the basics of needle play as well as some of the more advanced ways to safely incorporate needles into your scenes.

Where: LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave)
Cost: $5/LSM members, $10/Non members

About Mistress Trish

When not being extraordinarily sweet and/or/but extraordinarily sadistic for kicks, Mistress Trish is a pro-Domme, a maker of Femme Domme porn, and a kink, relationship, and sexuality educator.

About Lesbian Sex Mafia

Founded in 1981 by Dorothy Allison and Jo Arnone, the Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM) is the oldest continuously running women’s BDSM support and education groups in the country. We are located in New York City, with a membership primarily in the tri-state area of New York, New Jersey and Connecticut. However, we also have members along the East Coast, across the country and even in Europe!

LSM is a support and information group for all women 18 years of age or older, including transexual and intersexed women who live their daily lives as women and all female-born transgender people who feel they have a connection with and respect for the women’s community. And, who are interested in fantasy and role playing, bondage, discipline, S/M, fetishes, costumes, alternate gender identities and uninhibited sexual expression in a safe, sane, consensual and confidential way.

Tagged as: bdsm, Events, MIstress Trish, needles, nyc

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Bookmarks for 8-16-2001

by Viviane on 08/16/2011

in bdsm,del.icio.us,sex

BDSM’s Dirty Secret – The Real Risk of Kinky Sex by Midori | Sexis – I can’t shake the feeling that I’m not watching two people sharing an experience, but rather two strangers having separate thrills over one activity. The top feels satisfaction in displaying competence in a set of measurable standards (The ropes go on. The person goes up. They come down and they’re still in one piece), while the bottom gets to have a self-contained experience delivered by a competent technician. The human factor of the other person seems irrelevant in either case.
James Franco is Directing a Documentary About Porn Site Kink.com Because He’s James Franco – indieWIRE -
‘Sex On Six Legs’: When Insects Go Wild : NPR – Everything you wanted to know about bug sex (but didn’t bother to ask) is explained in a new book by insect expert Marlene Zuk. Sex on Six Legs: Lessons on Life, Love and Language from the Insect World, describes a world of small — but surprisingly sophisticated — insect behavior.
The Art of Rope Bottoming: Delano by Midori – Getting tied up isn’t for wimps. To bottom gloriously takes mad skills.
The Creepy Naked Guy In The Dungeon | Maggie Mayhem Speaks -Today’s lesson: You are not a hypocrite for confronting Creepy Naked Guy

Tagged as: bdsm, bondage, kink.com, Midori, rope, sanfrancisco, sex, shibari

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Ravenous Nights: It’s all about the kink!

by Viviane on 08/04/2011

in Events

08/05/2011
8:00 PM

Join us as Indigo, Miss Topaz, Lisa Michelle Jones, and author/editor D.L. King, all creative spirits from the NYC BDSM community, join us. The Ravenous Nights reading series celebrates erotica and erotic romance the first Friday of every month. Sponsored by erotic romance e-book publisher, Ravenous Romance, and hosted by its editorial director, Lori Perkins, Ravenous Nights spotlights authors and their works with readings, door prizes, and endless enthusiasm for hot, steamy fiction.

Where: Happy Ending Lounge, 302 Broome Street, NYC (Pink awning says “Xie He Health”)

Cost: FREE

Indigo is a black poly kinky feminist queer dyke; writer, teacher, artist and aspiring sex education/blogger. She’s about liberating the woman, questioning the man and fantasizing about all folks in between. I read, question, wonder, write and hope the art leads the way. Her blog, Indigo’s Theory, explores being in a loving poly relationship, having sex in great spaces, learning to love herskin, belly, hair, etc. and coming into her kinky queer self.

Miss Topaz is Dean of Nightlife at Miss Vera’s Finishing School For Boys Who Want To Be Girls. She worked for many years as a Legal Assistant for the American Civil Liberties Union, where she was very active in promoting the rights of all minorities: women, people of color, gays and lesbians and the transgendered community. Today, she focuses her attention largely on working and playing with gender illusionists. She was recently in a serious relationship with a cross-dresser for two years, and believes that she, herself, is a drag queen trapped in woman’s body. She is also a cabaret singer and performance artist, and frequently appears as Marlene Dietrich in drag. She was recently interviewed by Annie Sprinkle about her wild and diversified forays into sex, for the magazine Over 50. Her short story, Life is Stanger Than Fiction, won third prize in a TES literary contest and was published its magazine, Prometheus. The story focused on a serendipitous blind date with a cross-dresser.

Lisa Michelle Jones was born in Dallas and raised in a conservative East Texas town from which she escaped as soon as possible. She earned a BA in Creative Writing from the University of Wisconsin – Milwaukee, where she discovered feminist literature, Anne Sexton, Lucille Clifton, and the short story genre. In addition to writing, she sang with the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee choir at Carnegie Hall in a 1996 production of Brahm’s “Ein Deutsches Requiem.” Two months before her 30th birthday, she moved to NYC for the first time and never looked back. Lisa finds pleasure in writing erotica, short fiction, poetry, and essays. Her literary mentors are Sylvia Plath, Vita Sackville-West, Raymond Carver, Carole Maso, Jay McInerney, and Herman Melville. She currently lives in NYC where she enjoys dating, mating, satiating…and rhyming.

D. L. King is a smut writing — and editing –New Yorker who lives somewhere between the Wonder Wheel at Coney Island and the Chrysler Building. The editor of Carnal Machines: Steampunk Erotica,Spank!, The Sweetest Kiss: Ravishing Vampire Erotica and the Lambda Literary Award Finalist, Where the Girls Are: Urban Lesbian Erotica, D. L. King also publishes and edits Erotica Revealed, the erotica book review site. The author of dozens of short stories, her work can be found in various editions of The Mammoth Book of Best New Erotica, Best Women’s Erotica, Best Lesbian Erotica, as well as titles such as Fast Girls, Sex in the City: New York, Please Ma’am, Sweet Love, Girl Crazy, Broadly Bound and Frenzy, among others. She is the author of two novels of female domination and male submission, The Melinoe Project and The Art of Melinoe. Find out more at dlkingerotica.com and dlkingerotica.blogspot.com.

Tagged as: bdsm, erotica, Events, kink, ny

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Dark Odyssey: Summer Camp – Registration Now Open

by Viviane on 07/14/2011

in Events

09/14/2011

09/19/2011

Dark Odyssey: Summer Camp
Northern Maryland
September 14-19, 2011
http://www.darkodyssey.com

Imagine a vacation that brings together sexuality, spirituality, education, and play in a fun, diverse environment where fantasy becomes reality.

Dark Odyssey: Summer Camp 2011, a journey of sexual exploration for the spiritual and creative sex-positive communities returns for its eighth year. It will be held at a secluded, two hundred acre retreat in Northern Maryland. Our mission is to cross-pollinate ideas and concepts between groups of individuals who desire to explore different areas of alternative sexuality.

The event, from September 14-19, 2011 will feature dynamic workshops taught by top-notch sex educators, relationship experts, SM masters, and spiritual teachers from around the world, including:

Arli * Annie Earl * Artemis Hunter *Bear * Dylan Ryan * Ignacio Rivera * Lee Harrington
Lolita Wolf * The Marine * MojoDaddy * Mollena Williams *Princess Kali * Sam Martin
* Sinclair Sexsmith * * Sir C * TTT * Wintersong Tashlin

In addition to workshops, Dark Odyssey features creative social activities, nightly special events, erotic rituals, lakeside bonfires, the Sex-O-Rama playspace, and a 10,000 square foot fully equipped dungeon open for play around the clock.

All this happens in a fun camp environment at a retreat with great accommodations: forty cabins with real beds, full bathrooms, hot water showers, electricity and great centrally located swimming pool; plus, breakfast, lunch, dinner, and a midnight snack included.

Unlike a typical conference event, where you have to pay for registration fees, hotel room costs, plus meals, Dark Odyssey is an all-inclusive event. Weekend rates range from $350 to $425 depending on when you register, and if you are a member of a participating group. Early registration rates are good through August 1st. Remember that Summer Camp SOLD OUT last year in record time, so sign up today!

Dozens of community organizations have signed on as participating groups in Dark Odyssey, and we add new groups every day. Check the website to see if your group is one of them, and you’ll be entitled to a registration discount. If your group would like to be added to this list, please contact greg@darkodyssey.com

Visit our website, http://www.darkodyssey.com for more details. We hope you will join us for this exciting event!

Best Regards,

Greg and Karri
On behalf of everyone at Dark Odyssey

For more information: http://www.darkodyssey.com
Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/darkodyssey
Fetlife: http://fetlife.com/groups/756

Tagged as: bdsm, Dark Odyssey, Events, kink, polyamory, sex, tantra

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Bookmarks

by Viviane on 03/02/2011

in del.icio.us,sex

Control Tower by Mistress Matisse – The Stranger – Because being a nerd—especially if one participates in nerd culture around things like comic books, science fiction/fantasy, RPGing, etc.—is excellent training for becoming an active member of the BDSM community. The young nerd, shunned by the elite, perforce becomes accustomed to hanging around other nerds and social outcasts of all types. Nerds thus develop a high tolerance for socially nonconforming people and come to feel that such individuals are, by definition, nicer and more interesting than the Cool Kids. They embrace being weird, in other words.
Majoring in Kink | The Eye – I’m at the semester’s first meeting of Conversio Virium, Columbia’s BDSM, or kinky sex, education group, witnessing famed fetishist Dov demonstrate “rough body play,” or “thug play.” The demonstration is instructional, with an emphasis on avoiding actual bodily harm, but it’s easy to forget this as Dov maneuvers her onto the floor, grip strong, demonstrating an impressive and creative repertoire of ways to twist her body and apply force.
The Cambridge Porn Debate Story « The Sexademic – I waited to hear what I knew would be many misrepresentations of the porn industry as well as false data. It came rather quickly when she stated that the average age of internet porn exposure was 11.
Sex, Law, and Cinema in the Digital Age (1989-2010) – James Fallows – Personal – The Atlantic – On that cheery note, here’s my survey of the key social, legal, cinematic, and technological moments of the last 22 years, with my take on how they delivered us (and by “us” I mean “me”) to where we are now.

Tagged as: bdsm, censorship, debate, gail+dines, kink, movies, nerd, nyc, porn, sex, shirley+lubben

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e[lust] #23

by Lolita Wolf on 02/23/2011

in sexbloggers

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #24? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Roadmaps of Consent – I fucking love consent. I love safewords. I can be much more cruel, and push much harder, if I trust my partner to tell me when I go too far.

Staying Safe – One cock, from one man, missing one condom, ultimately led to my brother’s death. And that sucks.

Flying the Friendly Skies – One button on her sweater was undone, there was a rip in her hose, scratches on her boots, and her hair was carelessly pinned back with stray wisps of hair escaping. There was a curious flavor of soiling about her, something a bit dirty and unkempt.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Labels and my thoughts… - In the past year and a half I have gone from being someone that was lost, without identity that fit, rattling around inside myself to someone that has names for what they are.

~ e[lust] Editress: Dangerous Lilly

See also: Pleasurists #116 and #117 for all your sex toy review needs

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Kink & Fetish

5 Kinky Toys from the Dollar Store
Alive in my Skin
Dacryphilia
Digitalized for Posterity
Eroti…ca
filthy…
He ripped a string of orgasms from me, and then ramped it up
Manual Dexterity
Nadia’s Surprise
Orgasms, Spoons Rests, and Fishnets! (The Play Party)
Punishment, humiliation and bondage
Schoolgirl in Saturday Detention
Steeling The Show
Water torture

Erotic Writing

A Little Night Music
Afternoon darkness
Crisp White Linens
dancing with (& then kinkily fucking) the dj
In the Mirror
Lope
Morning Sex
My First Anal Sex
September 1935
Shutter
Schoolgirl Part 1
Teenage Bukkake
Transition
You’re Gonna Keep My Soul

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

A Doggie Kind of Love
Ashamed?! Are You Kidding Me?
Giggles, Groans and Panting
I Can Imagine How You Feel
Sex As Love
6 Moves Men Need to Be Sex Gods in the Bedroom
Terminology Fundamentalism
The COME HITHER QUIVER -or- How To Squirt
This Love
What I Want

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Kink Network Announces the Opening of Their Adult Blog Host Kinky-Blogging.com
Porn, degradation, and Khan Tusion
Women With Two Vaginas
Kink, virginity and big-tittied whores

Ashley Fires and Kait Snow on WhippedAss.com

Tagged as: bdsm, erotica, e[lust], fetish, kink, sex, sex blog

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Lesbian Sex Mafia presents: Brutal Affection: Punching, Kicking, Slapping and Sex with Felice Shays

by Viviane on 01/28/2011

in Events,feliceshays

02/18/2011
8:00 PM

It ain’t about the brawn. Regardless of your size, gender, or physical ability, this highly interactive workshop uses scads of demonstrations to teach you fierce, passionate methods of slam, slap and thud. Learn to use your brain and a multitude of body parts to bring you and your partners to new found levels of physical, sensual, sexual intensity and intimacy. With humor, affection, straight talk, and smarts, Felice Shays will discuss and demonstrate technique, safety, partnered positions, head space, anatomy, and helpful items. Also, as time allows, Felice will work with individuals, dyads and other combinations of partners to resolve their dilemmas of inequity of size, status, attitude or muscle.

Date: Fri, February 18, 2011; 8pm – 10pm
Location: The LGBT Center, 208 W 13th St, NY (Google Maps). Get directions using Hopstop.
Cost: LSM member: $5; Non-members $10 (Members – renew now and continue to get all the benefits of an LSM membership!

About Felice Shays

Where respect, sex, tenderness, straight talk, laughter, and safety intersect is where you’ll find Felice Shays; she’s a sex and BDSM educator and counselor who travels the US and Canada. Newly relocated to Portland OR, this Brooklyn Femme has presented at a plethora of events for about a decade including Good For Her, Black Rose, Pacific Friction, Dark Odyssey, Babeland, LSM, TES, Kinky Kollege, Wicked Womyn, Shebop, KinkFest, Safer SM, Sugar, Tribal Fire, MOB, Come As You Are, The Exiles, Desire, Thunder In The Mountains, Kinky Kollege, and IMsL. Named Dark Odyssey’s Campers’ Choice: Favorite Presenter, Felice also stirs up trouble as a sex and BDSM event producer, performance artist, and ASL interpreter.

About Lesbian Sex Mafia

Tagged as: bdsm, Events, Felice Shays, Lesbian Sex Mafia

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elust #22

by Lolita Wolf on 01/20/2011

in sexbloggers

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #23? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Erotic asphyxiation: treatments of kink in therapy and the media - Kink and BDSM practitioners often come to an enhanced understanding of their own desires through the emphasis on personal boundaries and communicative consent which arises from a responsible approach to power and pain play.

Mirror, mirror – I found myself back there again, perched on the edge of the white expanse, spreading myself shamelessly in front of the glass

Worry – I’ve been thinking about rape culture more than ever before. On the outside, much of K’s and my play looks like sexual abuse. It’s not, because consent is always central.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

gender and misogyny: responsibility and erotic writing – I spent a good portion of my adult life being gender fluid myself …, and have partnered with several gender fluid folks as a top. Creating representation of us and our eroticism feels so vital to me, so important.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Help End the Backlog - Speaking out works. Taking action works. Silence doesn’t. Politicians on every level need to hear your voice saying “this is unacceptable”. 76%. 3/4. That’s how many rapists get away with it on a national level.

See also: Pleasurists #111 and #112 for all your sex toy review needs

Erotic Writing

A Tryst By The Car
Compliant
Fantasy: Brand New Day
First-Time Sex: How I Lost My Virginity
Happy New Year
Hysteria
Indiscretions Vol. 1: Caught And Wild Chlid
Like Mother, Like Daughter (part two)
Loving her, Mounting her, Owning her
Merry Christmas Baby
O/One
Should Have
The Starlet
Undiscovered
Wax Off
Whenever I’m Alone With You
Yeeees. Date Night

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Breaking Up, Polyamory Style
Computer Sex
Douchebagopolis – When Communication Fails At A Swinger Party
Epiphora’s best and worst sex toys of 2010
Good Head
Hormones & Biological Clock Ticking
Lockets, Sins and Ink
Off My Chest
Swing Shift Volume 39- One and Only
Semi-Rant Part Two

Kink & Fetish

Barely Cooking Christmas Party
Camp Smack That Ass!
Fucked in bondage
Fucking bitch
How He Does It
Master’s Good Medicine
Paddled and Fucked
Parodies and Pizza Boys
Photographer
School Girl Night
shes and me…
You Know It Was Good When…

Amber Rayne and Kiera King on WhippedAss.com

Tagged as: bdsm, erotica, e[lust], fetish, kink, sex, sex blog

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e[lust] #21

by Lolita Wolf on 12/26/2010

in sexbloggers

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #22? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

Important e[lust] update: e[lust] will be going on hiatus for the holidays. The editions for November and December would both occur around the holidays and I know I’ll be short on both submissions and judges as well as personal time. e[lust] #22 will return in January, with ample advance warning, so please make sure you’re subscribed for updates!

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

D/s Without the D/s? – This is one of those situations in a real time D/s relationship where much of the “fun” aspects of the D/s needs to be stuffed in the closet for a bit. And for us, it’s not a great time to be either a masochist or a sadist. We can deal with that.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Yes, Jelly Sex Toys Can be Dangerous – Even if a jelly rubber toy says “phthalate-free”, it still can contain toxic chemicals that can cause skin reactions in some people. These toys are still non-porous and can harbor dirt and bacteria because they cannot be sanitized.

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Unfortunately, this edition has no Top Three picks as I didn’t have enough volunteer judges. If you’d like to volunteer to help, visit this page to find out more info and ensure that the Top Three picks continue.

See also: Pleasurists #101 and #100 for all your sex toy review needs.

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

All Painted Up…
A Modest Proposal: Should Ginger & Cooper Fuck?
Happy Sexual Freedom Day
How Do You Explain
Life in spanking after 30: part 2

Erotic Writing

blindfold
Fantasy: Movie Night
Feeling Helpless
Gabrielle, Guest Star
Happy Anniversary…
History Lesson
I Still Don’t Know How You Taste
Monday Morning 2am
Metallic Seduction
Need
New Erotic Story For The Holidays – Tinsel Temptation
Putting the car into park
The Ordeal (Part Four)
The Sweetest Violation
The Young Mom
The Moment
The Soccer Mom
Timeless in a Window’s Light

Kink & Fetish

A space to hate and rage and be angry (photo story)
Beyond the Bedroom
Does liking Helmut Newton equal a fetish?
Happy Halloween: Light Me Up
I am all pins and needles
Kink and Fibromyalgia
Ownership and Monogamy
Pi
Punishing the servants
Switching It Up
The Cage
The Sacred Swinger Holiday: Halloween!
the most amazing night with HIM
The Pedicure
The Right Question
Wax on, wax off!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

All Roads Lead to Acceptance… I hope!
Crisis Averted
Dear boyfriend, I love you. And your cock.
Having Great Goddamned Expectations
If You Google it, I will Answer #9
I Don’t Know If I’ve Ever Been Really Loved By a Hand That’s Touched Me
How to Massage Man’s G-spot
My Coming Out Story
National Coming Out Day
Recovering From Anorexia
Role Reversal
Sadie’s Condom PSA

Evilyn Fierce on TheTrainingOfO.com

Tagged as: bdsm, erotica, e[lust], fetish, kink, sex, sex blog

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Winter Solstice 2011

by Viviane on 12/15/2010

in Events,sex

12/31/2010

01/02/2011

This three day, three night lifestyle event featuring classes, New Year’s Eve celebration and night time play space will be held at the Radisson Hotel, Piscataway NJ.

Winter Solstice is a three day/night lifestyle event featuring 66 classes consisting of six tracks broken down into four sessions/day. Topics included Bondage/Suspension; Master/slave; SM, Singles, Women, Polyamorous and other eclectic topics. Also featured is a New Year’s Eve Dinner celebrations, pre-paid food plan and three nights in our play space.

For more information, visit the Winter Solstice site.

Fetlife page: http://fetlife.com/events/23218

Black Phoenix on Fetlife: http://fetlife.com/groups/5483

Tagged as: bdsm, bondage, Events, kink, tantra

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Just Play – A Weekend of Play for Women and Transfolk, Baltimore MD

by Viviane on 11/17/2010

in Events,sex

11/26/2010 9:00 PM	to	11/27/2010 2:00 AM
11/27/2010 9:00 PM	to	11/28/2010 3:00 AM
11/28/2010 1:00 PM	to	11/29/2010 8:00 AM

This event is open for leather women of all persuasions who enjoy woman to woman S/M. All S/M dykes, straight, bisexual and trans-sexual/gender women are welcome. FTM transgender bois/boys/men who feel they have a place in the S/M women’s community are also welcome. We ask that cis gender men, cross-dressers and transvestites please respect that this definition does not include you. We welcome you to join any of our many pansexual events at Play House which are held almost every weekend.

Cost: $25 per day, $75 for the weekend; off street parking available for $5 per day.

Location: Play House Studios in Baltimore, MD – street address provided when you RSVP to GlendaCPFA@aol.com

RSVPs are Strictly Required as this is a sex positive event!!!
Please bring something to share for our communal food table
Non-alcoholic beverages are available for purchase at the club
All experience levels welcome but you must be over 18 to attend
Over-night dorm style crash space is available for an additional fee of $25 per night;
A limited number of work exchange scholarships are available;

For more info please write GlendaCPFA@aol.com

Fetlife RSVP: http://fetlife.com/events/33708

Friday 11/26/10: 9 PM -2 AM: Open Play

Friday 11/26/10

10 PM Class: Empowerment Through Erotic Motion by grrlMel – This class is for anyone who wants to feel beautiful, self-assured, and sexy in the body she has right now not the one she hopes to have after her New Year’s resolutions. It is designed to help people harness their own sensual power and reconnect with the joy that comes from expressing yourself in musical motion — whether slow and steamy or high-energy and hot. I encourage everyone to be gentle with themselves they learn to strut their stuff, and shred their clothes (optional) and inhibitions with style and musicality. Come prepared to participate because you can’t learn to move by watching. (presenter bio at end of invitation)

Saturday 11/27/10:

2 PM Visionary Arts Museum (800 Key Highway, Baltimore, MD 21230) Dinner 6:30 PM @ Kumari (911 N Charles St.Balto, MD 21201) All are welcome, RSVPs requested to GlendaCPFA@aol.com – please specify museum, dinner or both in your RSVP and the # of people.

Saturday 11/27/10 9 PM – 3AM Open Play and the Wrestling Mats will be out! And we are adding a Rope class to Saturday night, too.

Strip Tease and Lap Dancing Extravaganza at Midnight, please bring cash to tip the dancers, it’s for charity!

If you would like to participate in the NCSF Strip Tease and Lap Dancing Extravaganza Fundraiser, please notify Glenda and bring a CD or Mp3 player with your song(s) on it. If you choose to use an Mp3 player, please have your song(s) on it’s own playlist and clearly labeled! You may perform 2 – 3 songs depending on length.

Sunday 11/28/10 1 PM -8 PM: Brunch and Open Play

Sunday 11/28/10 3 PM Class: Strap-ons for Bigger Bodies – A word to the thick soul sistas: Do you find your strap-on sex difficult or clumsy? Is it hard to find a harness that fit you comfortably? Do you wish your dildo was an extension of yourself? We will walk you through how to find the right harness for your size, what to look for in your dildo and how to enhance your pleasure as the thruster while giving your partner that best ride possible. We will also show you different positions in our live demo and how to keep it safe and sexy. (presenter bio at end of invitation)

Please RSVP to GlendaCPFA@aol.com – RSVPs are STRICTLY REQUIRED so that we may bring you sex positive events. Even if you announced your attention to attend via the FetLife events page or a group posting please also RSVP via e mail. THANKS.

We ask that everyone bring something to share for our communal food table. BYOB is allowed but if you choose to drink, please drink only in moderation as inebriation is not appropriate for this event. Non-alcoholic beverages are available for purchase at the club.

Presenter Bios:

ABOUT grrlMEL: grrlMel has been dancing her whole life and teaching dance since 2004. Whether it’s West Coast Swing or Burlesque, she’s known for easy sensuality and her ability to connect to her dance partner and her audience. She focuses on teaching simple, sexy moves set to music (not dancing), to help you connect to your inner sensuality. I strive to provide a supportive environment where folks can relax, be gentle with themselves and gain confidence in expressing themselves through sensual motion.

ABOUT SARA: Sara Vibes was born and raised in New York City. She is a black, polyamorous, queer, kinky, Bi-dyke and an adopted daughter of a sex therapist who had specialized in sex and disability and was disabled herself. Sara knew she was poly when she remembered that her Ken doll dated all the Barbies! Sara is an active member in BDSM, LGBT, and Kink communities in New York City.

She is a founding member of Nina Hartley’s SexWise.me, a sex-positive online community. She currently works as a curator and contributor of SexWise Magazine and a moderator of the online forums. Sara has been interviewed by Nerve magazine and will soon be writing for Zora and Alice, an online magazine for young women of color.
@Sara_Vibes on twitter

ABOUT ASHLEY: Ashley Young is a teacher, writer and artist living in New York City. She identifies as a Fem Queer Dyke and is new to polymory as well as the BDSM scene. Ashley is a huge advocate for people’s fully sexually expressed selves and aspires to be a sex educator along with her partner in the near future. She sums up her poly lifestyle by saying, “I can’t tell the difference between a lesbian and a serial killer, so being poly with my partner has kept me level headed, drama free and allowed me to explore my sexuality with both women and men” @Indig09 on TwitterA

Please help us spread the word about Just Play by forwarding the info to your friends, tweeting your plans to attend and/or posting it to any group where it would be appropriate and welcome. Thanks so much.

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LSM Presents: Surviving Corporal 101 with Boymeat

by Viviane on 11/05/2010

in Events,Events, Fetish & Kink

11/19/2010
8:00 PM

Meeting open to all genders

Presented by Lesbian Sex Mafia

How to Handle the Physical and Emotional Effects: Pain is a very complicated thing, and creates a myriad of responses in the body. There is the physical side (Ow, fuck! Jeez, how can he take that!) Then there are the emotional effects; the multitude of emotions and thoughts that go through one’s head through pain. Processing pain, while so simply stated in this world, is actually quite difficult at times. In this class we will talk about how to handle the pain both inside and out. We will explore why we endure it, where it takes us and what we can get out of it.

Date: Fri, November 19, 8pm – 10pm (In the spirit of community, it is an LSM tradition to open up our November meeting to all genders.)
Location: The LGBT Center, 208 W 13th St, NY
Cost: LSM member: $5; Non-members $10

About Boymeat

Boymeat, is a 31-year-old native New Yorker.

Discovering The Eulenspiegel Society (TES) at the age of 19, he quickly became an active participant and presenter in the New York SM scene. A former TES board member, he also holds memberships with the Gay Male SM Activists (GMSMA), the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) and the Leather Archives & Museum. He is also an associate member of the New York boys of Leather and active with New York’s Leather Pride Night Committee.

Best known for his outreach to the younger members of our community, he co-created the concept of The Next Generation (TNG), specialized groups serving young adults between the ages of 18 and 35 who are interested in SM. Boymeat was the co-founder of both TES-TNG and GMSMA-TNG, groups that helped kick off the national TNG movement. He also helped organize the first 3 national TNG conferences – Chickenstock in 1999, Second Coming in 2002, and TNG3: BDSM in the Big City in 2003. He has presented on TNG and other issues at multiple Leather Leadership Conferences.

Known as a SM educator, he has taught at almost every major educational event in the United States. He has taught SM, role play, fetishes, and relationships at TES Fest, Black Rose, South Plains Leather Fest, Dungeon 701-901, Portland Kinkfest, and many others. He has also been asked to teach to students at New York University and Columbia University. Finally, he presented keynote speeches at SM Odyssey’s Folsom Fringe 2007, Rio Grande Leather 2007, and TNG4: Bound for the Bay in 2008.

Boymeat is honored to have experience on the title circuit as a judge both at Ms. World Leather 2006 and South East Leatherfest 2007. In addition, he appreciates the chutzpah it takes to run for a title, having run for Gotham Leatherman 2000. His latest and greatest honor has been being asked to serve as Tallymaster at International Mr. Leather 2008.

A bisexual, polyamourous switch, with a penchant for foot fetishism, incest role play and piss play, Boymeat is rumored to be the quite the sadist. An aspirational handcuff collector and leather history slut, he is the man who nerve.com said “makes the Marquis de Sade look like Pat Boone.”

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Lolita’s NYC Picks of the Week: November 4-10

by Lolita Wolf on 11/04/2010

in Events, Fetish & Kink,nyc

Thursday: Midori is teaching Erotic Humiliation at Purple Passion, but it’s sold out. She’ll be back in 2011. Get your spots early!

Friday: “Artistic Needle Play” with Mistress Sade Ami at DSF.

Saturday: Head down to Philly for Philadelphia Leather Pride Night.

Sunday: The Baroness‘ Fetish Retinue returns on a new night (first Sunday of every month) and at a new place (White Noise, 225 Avenue B). www.Baroness.com

Monday: Poly Cocktails with Sex at Dawn author Christopher Ryan.

Tuesday: TES Meeting — “Cunt and Ball Busting” with Mistress Trish

Wednesday: Impact has moved to Wednesday because Thursday is a holiday.

James Deen, Kristina Rose, Mark Davis, Jessie Cox
and Lorelei Lee on sexandsubmission.com