- Heads Up! Silicone Lube is Flammable | Charlie Glickman – I have to admit that it never would have occurred to me to check and see if lubricants are flammable. After all, when I think about the question of whether lubes burn, Iâ€™m thinking more about allergic reactions and yeast infections.
- What I Write for Money, Honey | Chelsea G. Summers | Filthy Gorgeous Things – The great irony about it all is that I hold great ambivalence about my sex writingâ€”the only writing that I have complete confidence in. While itâ€™s true that in the kingdom of ambivalence I wear the royal skort and eat with the royal spork, I remain unwaveringly ambivalent about the sex-writing.
- Anna Paquin Comes Out as Bisexual – Anna Paquin : People.com -
- Can Animals Be Gay? – NYTimes.com – Various forms of same-sex sexual activity have been recorded in more than 450 different species of animals by now, from flamingos to bison to beetles to guppies to warthogs. A female koala might force another female against a tree and mount her, while throwing back her head and releasing what one scientist described as â€œexhalated belchlike sounds.â€ Male Amazon River dolphins have been known to penetrate each other in the blowhole. Within most species, homosexual sex has been documented only sporadically, and there appear to be few cases of individual animals who engage in it exclusively.
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- An Epidemic of Sex Addiction? | Dr. Marty Klein | Sexual Intelligence – Iâ€™ve been a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist for 30 years. Thatâ€™s some 30,000 sessions with men, women, and couplesâ€”a ringside seat at the human circus. The guy was yet another supposed â€œsex addict.â€ I listened to his story carefully, and told him I sympathized with how he had damaged his life and hurt people with bad sexual decisions. â€œBut I donâ€™t treat â€˜sex addiction,â€™â€ I said. I think itâ€™s a bogus concept.
- The Art of Restraint @ Femina Potens – Some willing volunteers get all tied up in knots at Femina Potens art gallery's "The Art of Restaint" where attendees indulged in rope bondage, champagne, chocolate and all other kinds of sinful delights.Photos by Gretchen Robinette.
- Why Women Don’t Want Macho Men – WSJ.com – New research suggests that women from countries with healthier populations prefer more feminine-looking men. Jena Pincott on the science behind attraction and masculinity, and the future for manly men.
- Jamie Wetherbe: SXSW Comes Out: The Annual Conference Gets More Gay Friendly – "There was nothing queer about SXSWi, despite many lesbians â€• and other parts of the LGBT community â€• being techies, geeks and the like," said Bendix who organized the panel. "There have been panels and talks about other minorities in the industry, but nothing specifically LGBT…. I was shocked to find out our panel was the first."
- Q: What to do if attacked by Donna M. Hughes and Margaret Brooks? | Sex In The Public Square – Margaret Brooks and Donna M. Hughes recently attacked Maymay, originator of the KinkForAll unconference model, in a bulletin published by their organization, Citizens Against Trafficking (CAT), which Maymay suggests is more suitably named Citizens Against Sexual Freedom and Discussion (CASFD). The bulletin  uses a technique typical of CAT CASFD: Take out-of-context statements and blend them with factual inaccuracies to produce a piece of writing capable of creating (or sustaining) irrational moral panic on the part of those who read it.
- The mythology of prostitution – advocacy research and public policy | Ronald Weitzer – This article examines the claims made by organizations, activists, and scholars who embrace the oppression paradigm, evaluates the reasoning and evidence used in support of their claims, and highlights some of the ways in which this perspective has influenced recent legislation and public policy in selected nations. The author presents an alternative perspective, the polymorphous paradigm, and suggests that public policy on prostitution would be better informed by this <br />
(…) What it took me years to realise is that while I’ve changed a lot since writing these diaries â€“ my life has moved on so much, in part thanks to the things that happened then â€“ Belle will always be a part of me. She doesn’t belong in a little box, but as a fully acknowledged side of a real person. The non-Belle part of my life isn’t the only â€˜realâ€™ bit, itâ€™s ALL real.
Belle and the person who wrote her had been apart too long. I had to bring them back together.
So a perfect storm of feelings and circumstances drew me out of hiding. And do you know what? It feels so much better on this side. Not to have to tell lies, hide things from the people I care about. To be able to defend what my experience of sex work is like to all the sceptics and doubters.
Anonymity had a purpose then â€“ it will always have a reason to exist, for writers whose work is too damaging or too controversial to put their names on. But for me, it became important to acknowledge that aspect of my life and my personality to the world at large.
I am a woman. I lived in London. I was a call girl.
The people, the places, the actions and feelings are as true now as they were then, and I stand behind every word with pride. Thank you for reading and following my adventures.
These are my links for October 21st through October 22nd:
- Mollena Williams Named Ms. SF Leather 2009 | San Francisco Bay Times – Originally from New York, Mo has been active in the BDSM community since 1996. She is a founding member of the Crowded Fire Theater Company and speaks at leather events across the U.S. on many kinkcentric topics. Over the next year, Mo will be at every major leather event in the Bay Area and will produce several fundraising events to benefit Bay Area non-profits organizations. Mo plans to travel extensively and, in March 2010, will be competing for the title of International Ms. Leather here in San Francisco.
- NYS Updates Rape Kit, For the First Time in 20 Years | WNYC – For the first time in 20 years, New York is overhauling the way it collects forensic evidence from sexual assault victims. They found the rape kit needed to be updated to include more areas of the body for possible DNA collection. Evidence will also be gathered in a different sequence, from head to toe so it's not destroyed.
- Two Yale Law Grads Settle Suit Against Once-Anonymous Online Critics | ABA Journal – Law News Now – Two graduates of Yale Law School have settled their defamation lawsuit against several online critics who wrote nasty comments about them on the law school discussion board AutoAdmit.
- Rape Is a Pre-Existing Condition? The Heartlessness of the Health Insurance Industry Exposed | Health and Wellness | AlterNet – Some women have contacted the Investigative Fund to say they were deemed ineligible for health insurance because they had a pre-existing condition as a result of a rape, such as post traumatic stress disorder or a sexually transmitted disease. Other patients and therapists wrote in with allegations that insurers are routinely denying long-term mental health care to women who have been sexually assaulted.
- The Daisy Dick Strap-on/Strap-off rope harness | Feel the Love – I spent the entire weekend on into tonight mucking with it and ended up making a decorative dick harness that can be taken off, reused, and even washed (theoretically). It can be sized to custom fit any body. The centerpiece knot is a modified doubled up version of the Good Luck Knot, which can be seen here.
- The Gender Illusion | jaysays.com | – Caster outwardly threatens the gender illusion with her deep voice, masculine build and female identity. Because of her amazing athleticism she is now scrutinized and labeled in an attempt to disenfranchise her from her own identity. The boundaries of her gender and the legitimacy of her very existence are being judged by people who have no way of accomplishing such a task.
- Judge shoots down challenge to Craigslist erotic services • The Register – The ruling by US District Judge John F. Grady is good news not only for Craigslist but for any US-based website that accepts comments, photos, or other types of user-submitted content. The 22-page decision made it clear that a provision in the CDA, or Communications Decency Act, fully immunizes the site for user-supplied ads even when they "provide" contact details for prostitutes and brothels.
- KinkForAll (aka. KinkCamp) / KinkForAllSanFrancisco – KinkForAll San Francisco will be the first sexuality unconference of its kind in the Bay Area! Imagine what would be possible if you combined TED Talks with BarCamp. Welcome to KinkForAll! Now, get ready to change the world. Don't worry, it's actually not very difficult, and it's a lot of fun.
- WordPress › WordPress Exploit Scanner « WordPress Plugins – This plugin searches the files on your website, and the posts and comments tables of your database for anything suspicious. It also examines your list of active plugins for unusual filenames.
- WordPress 2.8.5: Hardening Release – We have also been working on trying to make WordPress as secure as possible and during this process we have identified a number of security hardening changes that we thought were worth back-porting to the 2.8 branch so as to get these improvements out there and make all your sites as secure as possible.
Sex 2.0 will focus on the intersection of social media, feminism, and sexuality. How is social media enabling people to learn, grow, and connect sexually? How is sexual expression tied to social activism? Does the concept of transparency online offer new opportunities or present new roadblocks â€” or both? These questions, and many more, will be addressed within a safe, welcoming, sex-positive space.
The first Sex 2.0 was a year ago, which came about because Amber Rhea had a vision. Last year’s Sex 2.0 was really energizing – an diverse group of sex nerds, bloggers, sex workers and writers, talking to each other (and Twittering all the while). We have the run at a really nice venue in Silver Spring, MD. And like last year, the out of town guests will be staying at the venue, so there will be a lot of hanging out, before during the after.
I’ll be doing a WordPress open Q&A with MayMay, so bring your questions about WordPress and blogging and we’ll do our best to answer them. There will be even more attendees this year who will be Twittering throughout the weekend. I’ll try to post a list soon.
The discounted registration of $30 (which was to have ended today), has again been pushed back to April 16th, so you have two more days to register at the lower rate. It’ll go up to $40.00.
The website is here: sex20con.com/
The Sex 2.0 Google Group is where all the discussion and organizing of the event (and the events before and after) is happening.
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If you’re wondering what last year ‘s event was like, here’s lots of linkage:
- Cory Silverberg’s interview w. Amber Rhea
- Flickr group pool
- My Flickr slideshow
- The Sex 2.0 back-channel (Being Amber Rhea)
- Liveblogging at Sex 2.0 Conference (Funky Brown Chick)
- Audacia’s Ray’s Notes from her keynote
- Sex 2.0 bookmarks on del.icio.us
- My blogging presentation
- Sex 2.0, the awesome and the suck (Renegade Evolution)
- Sex 2.0 exceeded my expectations (Radical Georgia Moderate)
- Sex 2.0 – a brief recap of an amazing event (Sex in the Public Square)
- A brief summary of the “sex commons” session (Sex in the Public Square)