(…) What it took me years to realise is that while I’ve changed a lot since writing these diaries – my life has moved on so much, in part thanks to the things that happened then – Belle will always be a part of me. She doesn’t belong in a little box, but as a [...]
Bookmarks for October 21st through October 22nd
Posted in del.icio.us, sex on Oct 22nd, 2009
These are my links for October 21st through October 22nd:
Mollena Williams Named Ms. SF Leather 2009 | San Francisco Bay Times – Originally from New York, Mo has been active in the BDSM community since 1996. She is a founding member of the Crowded Fire Theater Company and speaks at leather events across the [...]
Sex 2.0 May 9, 2009
Sex 2.0 will focus on the intersection of social media, feminism, and sexuality. How is social media enabling people to learn, grow, and connect sexually? How is sexual expression tied to social activism? Does the concept of transparency online offer new opportunities or present new roadblocks — or both? These questions, [...]
Call for sex / gender / body writers and bloggers
Posted in submissions on Mar 10th, 2009
Do you write about any of these issues and communities?
LGBT
TS/TG/TV
Fetish
Sex Work
Polyamory
Swing
Bdsm
Transhuman
Do you work with these communities as an advocate or ally and would like to write? Would you like to make an impact across your own affected community and reach out to other SGB communities? Would you like to help bridge the gap between [...]
Dearly Departed blogs (or maybe just on hiatus)
Posted in sex, sexbloggers, sexblogs on Dec 31st, 2008
May the roads rise to meet you.
May the wind be at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face; The rain fall soft upon your fields
And, until we meet again, May God hold you in the palm of His hand.
A GAELIC BLESSING
It’s been a devastating year for sex writing. Audacia Ray sums it up [...]
Conversio Virium talk: Intro to Sex Blogging
Posted in Blogging on Nov 21st, 2008
Intro To Sex Blogging
View SlideShare presentation or Upload your own. (tags: sex security)
Here are my slides from Monday’s talk at Conversio Virium. I spent much more time talking about sexual privacy than about setup and promotion. Thanks again to Elizabeth and MayMay for the opportunity to speak. This presentation is available on the Blogging page.
Tags: [...]
No to California’s Proposition 8: two fundraisers
Posted in gay marriage on Oct 25th, 2008
California’s Proposition 8 is the ballot initiative which would eliminate the right of same-sex couples to marry.
This post summizes the polling, which is all over the place – the gap is closing.
Two members from the East Coast sex positive community are raising funds in the fight against Proposition 8.
Comstock Films: Comstock Films is running a [...]
Refresher Course: HNT (Views From the Back Row)
Posted in meme on Oct 16th, 2008
Osbasso, originator of the popular internet meme, Half Nekkid Thursday, has a post reminding viewer of the original guidelines:
The Guidelines
I offer these guidelines for “Half-Nekkid Thursday”:
* In that North American, Puritanical way that most of my readers think, “Nekkid”, or its variations, somehow insinuates sex, or its variations. WRONG!! The purpose of “Half-Nekkid Thursday” [...]
When Blogs Cry: How To Breakup Online (Melissa Gira; The Frisky)
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, relationships, social media on Oct 7th, 2008
Cancel, unsubscribe, unfollow. Sort out how you want to react to the breakup only after you’ve canceled the relationship, unsubscribed from her Tumblr, or blocked him from Twitter. To undo a relationship that made it online in any form—whether you’ve got photos together all over MySpace or earned your own tag on Gawker—requires investing as [...]
Oversharing, or, the Anxiety of Inverted Fantasy (The Posthuman Marxist)
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, identity, internet on Oct 6th, 2008
There is a new phenomenon in today’s information society, the anxiety of which becomes pervasive when one realizes the dangers and fragility brought upon by the interconnected Web 2.0 sphere. This is the problem of online oversharing: the tension in finding the right balance of what parts of one’s subjective identity should be put online. [...]
. . . If anonymous blogging is already writing for the drawer and this blog is a space for my most personal and difficult thoughts, then where do I write down the things that I can’t even say here? One solution is personal friendships. I have a friend that frequently sends me emails with pieces [...]
Arse Elektronika 2008
Posted in Events, Fetish & Kink, sex, technology on Aug 29th, 2008
Arse Elektronika 2008 — “Do Androids Sleep with Electric Sheep?” — will take place at CELLspace (San Francisco). September 25 thru 28, 2008.
Susan Mernit and I will be doing a panel:
Avoiding the Emily Gould Effect
Susan Mernit & Viviane
“Oversharing”, sex blogging & erotica. How to successfully manage your online identity, whether you’re pseudonymous or right out [...]
Friends of Jefferson fundraiser, Aug. 27
Posted in Events, Fetish & Kink, Jefferson on Aug 20th, 2008
Join the Friends of Jefferson
on August 27, 7 p.m. to 10 p.m.
at
Happy Ending Lounge
302 Broome Street, NYC • B or D to Grand Street
J, M, Z to Bowery • F to Delancy
$20 suggested donation—but pay what you wish
Come and get your spank on at the Spanking Booth! Enter to win:
Babeland gift certificates • Books [...]
What fresh hell is this?: She said, she said & she said
Posted in sex, sexbloggers on Jul 8th, 2008
Jezebelism (Lizz Winstead, Huffington Post):
I don’t know if they came to the show drunk, or just ended up drunk by the time they hit the stage, but what I do know is that the discussion that ensued was deeply disturbing to me for a few reasons:
1. Because they had no regard for the people who [...]
Ch-ch-ch-changes
Posted in Lolita Wolf, lolitawolf, sex blog, sex blogs, sexblog, sexbloggers, sexblogs on Jun 11th, 2008
I am pleased to announce the brand spanking new home of my blog, Lolita’s Predictions & Predilections. This spiffy new design is at my own domain, http://www.leatheryenta.com. Viviane, my Blog Mommy, has been working on this move for months! Thank you, Viviane! And thanks to Nayland Blake for the banner [...]
links for 2008-06-06
Posted in del.icio.us on Jun 6th, 2008
And Then There Were Three | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com | sex. dating. relationships.
I had my first threesome with two friends last night. Needless to say, that is so tooooootally not how I expected yesterday evening / this morning to turn out.
(tags: sex sexblogs)
balanced on the tip of my tongue | Sugarbutch Chronicles
We talked. Safer sex, my history, [...]
links for 2008-05-30
Posted in del.icio.us on May 30th, 2008
What constitutes sexual harrassment? Confessions of a woman who can finally admit that she experienced it | BlogHer
He used such a crass image to verbally smack me in the mouth. To shut me up. I suppose he referred to my other colleague’s private parts to prevent any possible accusation that he’d suggested sexual acts done [...]
links for 2008-05-29
Posted in del.icio.us on May 29th, 2008
The End of Innocence and Making It Big: The NYTimes spins yet another lost girl tale of innocence, regret and discreetly hot sex | BlogHer
Is there truly any less foolproof way to sell the Sunday issue that to get huge viral buzz from a damsel in distress story played out in that most modern of [...]
links for 2008-05-28
Posted in del.icio.us on May 28th, 2008
A Gentleman Whore: The Twenty-Second Post
All the spare time I have to myself these days is spent staring at the ceiling, catching up on sleep, feeding myself properly when I remember to, and trying to exhaust myself at the downtown all-night fitness. And I’d go tonight, but all I want to do at t
(tags: bloggers)
Cool [...]
links for 2008-05-27
Posted in del.icio.us on May 27th, 2008
The Jaded Hippy: Third Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy
(tags: carnival feminism LGBT military misogyny orientations patriarchy race sex sexwork)
Judy’s Story – Pt 5
“Mmm, Cindy… this looks good enough to eat,”, I said and Judy breathed in sharply. I leaned over and lightly brushed my nose and lips through her pubic hair. Judy practically [...]
Boundaries (Always Aroused Girl)
Posted in privacy, sexbloggers on May 27th, 2008
…In all this time, only three people have tied the real person to the blog without my help. One was told the URL by an irate friend; I am now at peace about this. The other two people, my parents, were told by God. I am most decidedly not at peace about [...]
links for 2008-05-16
Posted in del.icio.us on May 16th, 2008
Woman indicted in fatal cyber-bully case | U.S. | Reuters
A Missouri woman who prosecutors say used a fake MySpace persona to “torment, harass, humiliate and embarrass” a 13-year-old girl who committed suicide was indicted on Thursday on federal charges.
(tags: myspace cyberbullying)
Polyamory Weekly » Poly Weekly #152: Trans Like Me!
A Cunning Minx freshly back from Sex [...]
links for 2008-05-15
Posted in del.icio.us on May 15th, 2008
pretty dumb things: on clowns and fear, itself
Fear is a lot bigger in our heads than it is in real life. In real life, it’s almost always not that bad. And here’s the other thing: those people who wanted to instill fear in me by attempting to out my blog identity to my students, they [...]
links for 2008-05-14
Posted in del.icio.us on May 14th, 2008
Twittergasms: The Real San Francisco Treat (Fleshbot)
A Twittergasm is a post to your Twitter profile indicating that you just had a real orgasm. You can use the codes ICSW (I came, so what?) and JOSW (jacking off, so what? related term to indicate you are jacking off), and we’ll track, count and include you
(tags: Twitter [...]
Photo: Danielle (Mc Nudes)
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #131? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s [...]
links for 2008-05-02
Posted in del.icio.us on May 2nd, 2008
Masturbation Celebration: Happy Masturbation Month! (Yes, You Now Have An Official Excuse) (Fleshbot)
…check out a few resources to help you experience National Masturbation Month to the fullest … not to mention the other eleven months of the year.
(tags: masturbation)
Being Amber Rhea » R.I.P. Deborah Jeane Palfrey
Bound, Not Gagged was started in the wake of the [...]
links for 2008-05-01
Posted in del.icio.us on May 1st, 2008
Some Differences Between Pitching Mainstream Press and Bloggers | chrisbrogan.com
We’re obsessed with getting information out into the world. Desperate to be useful. I’d say that we’re like news junkies, only we’re really interested in how we can contribute to making the news.
(tags: blogging)
Lust in translation – Broadsheet – Salon.com
It’s a familiar scene: A guy and [...]
Photo: Demi & Zelda (errotica archives)
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #130? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all [...]
links for 2008-04-25
Posted in del.icio.us on Apr 25th, 2008
Bedroom Radio #14 “Sex 2.0 and Spanking” | Lumpesse
Talk about the sexy sexy parts of Sex 2.0
(tags: sexblogs sex2.0)
Eagan couple’s sex ads on craigslist were a setup for ID theft
The sex partners were really pickpockets and forgers, say charges against an Eagan couple.
(tags: craigslist)
I’ve Been Conned | Suzanne Portnoy
I was telling him about my recent [...]
Photo: Sapphic Erotica
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #129? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks