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  • Heads Up! Silicone Lube is Flammable | Charlie Glickman – I have to admit that it never would have occurred to me to check and see if lubricants are flammable. After all, when I think about the question of whether lubes burn, I’m thinking more about allergic reactions and yeast infections.
  • What I Write for Money, Honey | Chelsea G. Summers | Filthy Gorgeous Things – The great irony about it all is that I hold great ambivalence about my sex writing—the only writing that I have complete confidence in. While it’s true that in the kingdom of ambivalence I wear the royal skort and eat with the royal spork, I remain unwaveringly ambivalent about the sex-writing.
  • Anna Paquin Comes Out as Bisexual – Anna Paquin : People.com -
  • Can Animals Be Gay? – NYTimes.com – Various forms of same-sex sexual activity have been recorded in more than 450 different species of animals by now, from flamingos to bison to beetles to guppies to warthogs. A female koala might force another female against a tree and mount her, while throwing back her head and releasing what one scientist described as “exhalated belchlike sounds.” Male Amazon River dolphins have been known to penetrate each other in the blowhole. Within most species, homosexual sex has been documented only sporadically, and there appear to be few cases of individual animals who engage in it exclusively.
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  • An Epidemic of Sex Addiction? | Dr. Marty Klein | Sexual Intelligence – I’ve been a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist for 30 years. That’s some 30,000 sessions with men, women, and couples—a ringside seat at the human circus. The guy was yet another supposed “sex addict.” I listened to his story carefully, and told him I sympathized with how he had damaged his life and hurt people with bad sexual decisions. “But I don’t treat ‘sex addiction,’” I said. I think it’s a bogus concept.

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  • The Art of Restraint @ Femina Potens – Some willing volunteers get all tied up in knots at Femina Potens art gallery's "The Art of Restaint" where attendees indulged in rope bondage, champagne, chocolate and all other kinds of sinful delights.Photos by Gretchen Robinette.
  • Why Women Don’t Want Macho Men – WSJ.com – New research suggests that women from countries with healthier populations prefer more feminine-looking men. Jena Pincott on the science behind attraction and masculinity, and the future for manly men.
  • Jamie Wetherbe: SXSW Comes Out: The Annual Conference Gets More Gay Friendly – "There was nothing queer about SXSWi, despite many lesbians ― and other parts of the LGBT community ― being techies, geeks and the like," said Bendix who organized the panel. "There have been panels and talks about other minorities in the industry, but nothing specifically LGBT…. I was shocked to find out our panel was the first."
  • Q: What to do if attacked by Donna M. Hughes and Margaret Brooks? | Sex In The Public Square – Margaret Brooks and Donna M. Hughes recently attacked Maymay, originator of the KinkForAll unconference model, in a bulletin published by their organization, Citizens Against Trafficking (CAT), which Maymay suggests is more suitably named Citizens Against Sexual Freedom and Discussion (CASFD). The bulletin [1] uses a technique typical of CAT CASFD: Take out-of-context statements and blend them with factual inaccuracies to produce a piece of writing capable of creating (or sustaining) irrational moral panic on the part of those who read it.
  • The mythology of prostitution – advocacy research and public policy | Ronald Weitzer – This article examines the claims made by organizations, activists, and scholars who embrace the oppression paradigm, evaluates the reasoning and evidence used in support of their claims, and highlights some of the ways in which this perspective has influenced recent legislation and public policy in selected nations. The author presents an alternative perspective, the polymorphous paradigm, and suggests that public policy on prostitution would be better informed by this <br />
    evidence-based perspective.

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Belle de Jour

by Viviane on 11/20/2009

in bloggers,sex blogs

(…) What it took me years to realise is that while I’ve changed a lot since writing these diaries – my life has moved on so much, in part thanks to the things that happened then – Belle will always be a part of me. She doesn’t belong in a little box, but as a fully acknowledged side of a real person. The non-Belle part of my life isn’t the only ‘real’ bit, it’s ALL real.

Belle and the person who wrote her had been apart too long. I had to bring them back together.

So a perfect storm of feelings and circumstances drew me out of hiding. And do you know what? It feels so much better on this side. Not to have to tell lies, hide things from the people I care about. To be able to defend what my experience of sex work is like to all the sceptics and doubters.

Anonymity had a purpose then – it will always have a reason to exist, for writers whose work is too damaging or too controversial to put their names on. But for me, it became important to acknowledge that aspect of my life and my personality to the world at large.

I am a woman. I lived in London. I was a call girl.

The people, the places, the actions and feelings are as true now as they were then, and I stand behind every word with pride. Thank you for reading and following my adventures.

Love, Belle

via Link

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These are my links for October 21st through October 22nd:

  • Mollena Williams Named Ms. SF Leather 2009 | San Francisco Bay Times – Originally from New York, Mo has been active in the BDSM community since 1996. She is a founding member of the Crowded Fire Theater Company and speaks at leather events across the U.S. on many kinkcentric topics. Over the next year, Mo will be at every major leather event in the Bay Area and will produce several fundraising events to benefit Bay Area non-profits organizations. Mo plans to travel extensively and, in March 2010, will be competing for the title of International Ms. Leather here in San Francisco.
  • NYS Updates Rape Kit, For the First Time in 20 Years | WNYC – For the first time in 20 years, New York is overhauling the way it collects forensic evidence from sexual assault victims. They found the rape kit needed to be updated to include more areas of the body for possible DNA collection. Evidence will also be gathered in a different sequence, from head to toe so it's not destroyed.
  • Two Yale Law Grads Settle Suit Against Once-Anonymous Online Critics | ABA Journal – Law News Now – Two graduates of Yale Law School have settled their defamation lawsuit against several online critics who wrote nasty comments about them on the law school discussion board AutoAdmit.
  • Rape Is a Pre-Existing Condition? The Heartlessness of the Health Insurance Industry Exposed | Health and Wellness | AlterNet – Some women have contacted the Investigative Fund to say they were deemed ineligible for health insurance because they had a pre-existing condition as a result of a rape, such as post traumatic stress disorder or a sexually transmitted disease. Other patients and therapists wrote in with allegations that insurers are routinely denying long-term mental health care to women who have been sexually assaulted.
  • The Daisy Dick Strap-on/Strap-off rope harness | Feel the Love – I spent the entire weekend on into tonight mucking with it and ended up making a decorative dick harness that can be taken off, reused, and even washed (theoretically). It can be sized to custom fit any body. The centerpiece knot is a modified doubled up version of the Good Luck Knot, which can be seen here.
  • The Gender Illusion | jaysays.com | – Caster outwardly threatens the gender illusion with her deep voice, masculine build and female identity. Because of her amazing athleticism she is now scrutinized and labeled in an attempt to disenfranchise her from her own identity. The boundaries of her gender and the legitimacy of her very existence are being judged by people who have no way of accomplishing such a task.
  • Judge shoots down challenge to Craigslist erotic services • The Register – The ruling by US District Judge John F. Grady is good news not only for Craigslist but for any US-based website that accepts comments, photos, or other types of user-submitted content. The 22-page decision made it clear that a provision in the CDA, or Communications Decency Act, fully immunizes the site for user-supplied ads even when they "provide" contact details for prostitutes and brothels.
  • KinkForAll (aka. KinkCamp) / KinkForAllSanFrancisco – KinkForAll San Francisco will be the first sexuality unconference of its kind in the Bay Area! Imagine what would be possible if you combined TED Talks with BarCamp. Welcome to KinkForAll! Now, get ready to change the world. Don't worry, it's actually not very difficult, and it's a lot of fun. icon smile Bookmarks for October 21st through October 22nd
  • WordPress › WordPress Exploit Scanner « WordPress Plugins – This plugin searches the files on your website, and the posts and comments tables of your database for anything suspicious. It also examines your list of active plugins for unusual filenames.
  • WordPress 2.8.5: Hardening Release – We have also been working on trying to make WordPress as secure as possible and during this process we have identified a number of security hardening changes that we thought were worth back-porting to the 2.8 branch so as to get these improvements out there and make all your sites as secure as possible.

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lips date sponsor 400 The second Sex 2.0: May 9th

Sex 2.0 May 9, 2009

Sex 2.0 will focus on the intersection of social media, feminism, and sexuality. How is social media enabling people to learn, grow, and connect sexually? How is sexual expression tied to social activism? Does the concept of transparency online offer new opportunities or present new roadblocks — or both? These questions, and many more, will be addressed within a safe, welcoming, sex-positive space.

The first Sex 2.0 was a year ago, which came about because Amber Rhea had a vision. Last year’s Sex 2.0 was really energizing – an diverse group of sex nerds, bloggers, sex workers and writers, talking to each other (and Twittering all the while). We have the run at a really nice venue in Silver Spring, MD. And like last year, the out of town guests will be staying at the venue, so there will be a lot of hanging out, before during the after.

I’ll be doing a WordPress open Q&A with MayMay, so bring your questions about WordPress and blogging and we’ll do our best to answer them. There will be even more attendees this year who will be Twittering throughout the weekend. I’ll try to post a list soon.

The discounted registration of $30 (which was to have ended today), has again been pushed back to April 16th, so you have two more days to register at the lower rate. It’ll go up to $40.00.

The website is here: sex20con.com/

The Sex 2.0 Google Group is where all the discussion and organizing of the event (and the events before and after) is happening.

groups bar The second Sex 2.0: May 9th
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If you’re wondering what last year ‘s event was like, here’s lots of linkage:

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Do you write about any of these issues and communities?

  • LGBT
  • TS/TG/TV
  • Fetish
  • Sex Work
  • Polyamory
  • Swing
  • Bdsm
  • Transhuman

Do you work with these communities as an advocate or ally and would like to write?  Would you like to make an impact across your own affected community and reach out to other SGB communities?  Would you like to help bridge the gap between all SGB identities to increase understanding, acceptance, rights and respect?

A new collaborative community blog is being launched that will bring these communities, individuals and issues together in frank, open discussion.  Contributions will come from anyone that wants to post at the site, cross-posters from other blogs active in a community and featured writers.

We are looking for Feature Authors for this site from among the following:

  • Established bloggers
  • Advocacy and rights writers / bloggers
  • Published Sgb authors
  • SGB journalists

Interested parties please contact webmaster@thenationalgadfly.com with the following:
NAME
EMAIL / IM / TWITTER
PHONE
SGB ISSUE OR COMMUNITY OF YOUR FOCUS
BLOG ADDRESS
WRITING SAMPLE

The site is scheduled to begin in May 2009.  The selection of Feature Authors will be completed by April 15.

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May the roads rise to meet you.
May the wind be at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face; The rain fall soft upon your fields
And, until we meet again, May God hold you in the palm of His hand.
A GAELIC BLESSING


It’s been a devastating year for sex writing. Audacia Ray sums it up the changes best in her post, “The End of the Sex Writer?”

Bloggers write for as many reasons are as there are blogs. And they cease writing, or go on hiatus for just as many reasons. Whatever the reason, here are a few notable ones I know about that have gone dark, or private, and will be missed.

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Intro To Sex Blogging

View SlideShare presentation or Upload your own. (tags: sex security)

Here are my slides from Monday’s talk at Conversio Virium. I spent much more time talking about sexual privacy than about setup and promotion. Thanks again to Elizabeth and MayMay for the opportunity to speak. This presentation is available on the Blogging page.

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vote no red No to Californias Proposition 8: two fundraisers

California’s Proposition 8 is the ballot initiative which would eliminate the right of same-sex couples to marry.

This post summizes the polling, which is all over the place – the gap is closing.

Two members from the East Coast sex positive community are raising funds in the fight against Proposition 8.

Comstock Films: Comstock Films is running a No on Prop 8 fundraiser. If you buy any of their erotic documentaries from Tuesday, Oct. 28, 12AM Eastern to Oct. 29 3AM Eastern. 27 hours, 100% of the purchase price (excluding S&H) will be donated to the No on 8 campaign. Follow Tony and Peggy on Twitter.

8 Against 8: Sinclair (aka @mrsexsmith) is one of the “8 against 8“. The 8 lesbian bloggers have already reached their target goal of $8,000 but they are still collecting funds through October 27th.

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Blogroll

by Viviane on 10/19/2008

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National Coalition of Sexual Freedom
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The Wirenius Report Blog (John Wirenius)

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Conversio Virium (Columbia U. BDSM organization
Dossie Easton
Dr. Dick’s Sex Advice
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The Dinah Project
Em & Lo
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Female Masturbation And Sexuality Information Site.
Frankly Speaking (Lou Paget)

Kink Aware Professionals (NCSF)
Logan Levkoff
Midwest Teen Sex Show
Our Bodies Ourselves
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RAINN | Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network
Regina Lynn’s SexRev 2.0
RHRealityCheck
Scarleteen | Sex Education For The Real World
sexgenderbody

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Emily Nagorski
Sexual Intelligence (Marty Klein)
Reid Mihalko
Sarah Sloane – Where and When
Annie Sprinkle
Mollena Williams

Pucker Up (Tristan Taormino)
Lolita Wolf’s Predictions & Predilections

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Body Electric School of the Healing Arts
Chemistry
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KinkForAll
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Queer Playcon

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Sexy Spirits
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Fellow Perverts
A Gentleman Whore
A Place To Draw Blood Laughing (Eileen)
Alan, Esq.’s Journal
AlwaysArousedGirl

bad influence girl
Barbara Nitke
Boymeat

the ch!cktionary (Lena)
CineKinkster (Lisa)
Comstock Films – The Art & Business of Making Erotic Films (Tony)
The Control Enthusiast
debauchette

Defending the Raven (Mark)
DelanoBound.com : A Personal Journey Through Rope
Desire X
Dominatrix Next Door
Eros, Logos (O)

Erosblog (Bacchus)
Eternal Apprentice
Exposing the cherry
Figleaf’s Real Adult Sex
Lux Nightmare

Flint, in New York
Fuck: A Love Story (Tilda)
Girl with a one-track mind (Zoe Margolis)
Graydancer’s ROPE WEEKLY
Heart Full of Black (Wendy)

The Intent to Arouse: A Concise History of Sex, Shame, and the Moving Image
JamYe WaXman
jbrotherlove
kink + culture
Kinky Stick Figure (Lynsey)

Kittie in the Citi (Citi Kittie)
Literate Perversions (Chris Hall)
Lumpesse (Ellie)
Lusty Lady (Rachel Kramer Bussel)

Madeline in the Mirror (Madeline)
Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed (MayMay)
Melissa Gira
MonMouth (Mon)
Naked Loft Party (Lex Konrad)

One Life, Take Two (Jefferson)
open source sex (violet blue)
Papercuts and Plastic
pretty dumb things (Chelsea Girl)
Quickies in New York
Rope Springs Eternal (Mac K.)

Sex and the Ivy (Elle)
Sex in the City – The Real Version (Selina Fire)
Sex in the Public Square (Elizabeth Wood)
Sexoteric (Stanley)
Thomas Roche
Sugarbutch Chronicles (Sinclair)

Susie Bright’s Journal
Suzanne Portnoy
Swordfish Suite (Swordfish)
Tatsumi Girl (Tatsumi)
The Gold Slut Standard (Goldslut)

tiny nibbles (violet blue)
Unspeakable Axe (Axe)
Venus Ropes: Enduring Passions & Passing Fancies (Jocasta)

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The Bilerico Project | Daily experiments in LGBTQ
En)Gender (Helen Boyd)
Joe. My. God.
PhinLi Bookings, LLC
Polymorphous Perversity – A legal blog on sexuality and gender
Trans Group Blog
Transcending Gender (Jen Burke)

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Alltop – Sex
Carnal Nation
Clean Sheets
Daze Reader Sex News Blog
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Filthy Gorgeous Things
The Frisky – A Daily Romp on the Sexy Side
Sex and the 405 (AV Flox)
The Sexist (Amanda Hess)
Sliptongue Magazine

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Of Note
A Good Girl Goes Kinky (Teardrop)
A Nawty Mouz
Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40
AlexSuze.com

alt porn
Alt.Sex.Stories Text Repository
Ambient Storm’s Provocative Persiflage
Amorous Propensities : sex is funny, sex is sad
Atlanta Bondage

Aunty Agony – The amateur spanking blog
Babes With Books
Bad Bad Girl
Bad Girls Blog
Belle de Jour

Feministing
biandbi
Bitchy Jone’s Diary

Blood, Sex, Crimson (D’jaevle)
Bunny Galore
Byron’s New Adventures
Cliterati.co.uk
cunting linguist

Curvaceous Dee
Daily Bedpost (Em & Lo)
danae whispering
Devil in Sexy Blue Dress

Devil’s Adult Blog World
Diary of a Mad Pornographer (N.T. Morley)
Diary of An Unrepentant Sex Addict
Dirty Prom Queen
Dive Bar Dancer (RAchel)

Down On My Knees
Easily Aroused
Edinburgh Erotica
Elegant Smut
EllaRegina

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The Enchanted_Palms Blog
Erotic found images
The Erotic Journal of Juno Henry
Erotica Lee1 :: Close Your Eyes…

Erotiterrorist
ex-millennial girl
Exile Industries: Department of Redundancy Department
Fancies & Fuckeries (Rups)
Feminism Without Clothes (Candy Poses)

fine nudes
first kiss project
Flaunting It
flickr’s finest females
fluffy Lychees

forksplit
freaksexual
Freddy and Eddy
Friction – A Sex Worker’s Weblog
The Frisky

Full Frontal Politics (Sabrina Morgan)
Funky Brown Chick
furtive minx
Genderfork
girlspoke…this is no joke (Meme)

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Grace Undressed
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headphone sex

the heart broke daily
Hobo Stripper
Hot Female Dominant Utopia!
How My Other Half Lives (Sasha)
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just a little bit naughty …
Kicks: Words from The People’s Burro
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life of a demure college student

Lily Burana
lumpesse
Lust Bites
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Marky D. Sade

Married In Ohio
Masocast
Mercurial Girl
metaphysical pussy
MOC (Men of Color) Blog

My Mom Writes Erotica (Alana Noel)
My Not-So-Secret Self
Nameless Erotica
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Not Proud – online confessions
Note Inconsistant
Oh la la Paris
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Once You Go Asian….

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PervScan
pinkmilk
Piper’s Place

Pluff Mud Musings
plumpr
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Sexagenarian and the city
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Sexuality Happens
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Smart Girls Who Do It
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Tales from the City: A (646) Guy in a (212) World (Brian)
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Wants And Needs
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Wilful Damage

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Practical Polyamory (Anita Wagner)

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Bound, Not Gagged
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Sex Work Awareness
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SWAAY (Sex Work Activists, Allies, and You)

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Ms Naughty Porn for Women
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Only Cuties
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Quips and Chains
Sapphic Erotica
Sensual Liberation Army
sensual lips
sex (not sex)

Sex Blogs : Porn Blogs
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The Things That Excite Me
Tasty Trixie
The Return of We Love Big Girls!

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HNT2 Refresher Course: HNT (Views From the Back Row)

Osbasso, originator of the popular internet meme, Half Nekkid Thursday, has a post reminding viewer of the original guidelines:

The Guidelines

I offer these guidelines for “Half-Nekkid Thursday”:

* In that North American, Puritanical way that most of my readers think, “Nekkid”, or its variations, somehow insinuates sex, or its variations. WRONG!! The purpose of “Half-Nekkid Thursday” is not to see sex acts! It is the celebration of exposure. Of your big toe. Of your breastbone. Of your knuckles. Of your uvula. Whatever. Of course, sex acts can qualify, so if you want to post those…..

* “Nekkid” is not the same as nude! Again, nude qualifies, but it is not a requirement!

* Pictures should be taken of you or by you. Don’t be going to some internet site and downloading “Half-Nekkid” pics. And don’t use Uncle Bob’s pictures from Spring Break ’72, either. Let’s try to keep this fairly “real”.

* You don’t necessarily have to be the subject of the picture. By the same token, if you’re not, then the subject(s) should be known to you. No fair going to the beach and snapping pictures left and right. Yes, they might be “Half-Nekkid”, but they don’t follow the spirit of “Half-Nekkid Thursday”.

* While animals can be included in a “Half-Nekkid Thursday” picture, they are not the focus, therefore cannot be the subject. If an animal is all that keeps your picture “Half-Nekkid” rather than “Full-Nekkid”, that’s OK.

* You are allowed a very limited number of cute-kids-in-the-tub type of pictures. We’re interested in YOU!

* Use some originality with your shots. Facial shots should be limited. Artsy body landscapes, conversely, are highly encouraged. If a partner/family member is needed to take the picture, that’s OK.

* Props can help you with creativity, and their use is encouraged, but not necessary.

* As we get into this, you may find that you want to post more than one picture for “Half-Nekkid Thursday”. I would discourage this practice unless absolutely necessary. You should hold some pictures in reserve, in case you find yourself without a new picture down the road.

* While I can hardly control when you post pictures on your own blogs, let’s try to keep “Half-Nekkid Thursday” special, and post “Half-Nekkid” pics only on Thursdays. If you feel the urge to post them more than once a week, I might recommend just emailing them out, rather than posting.

* Tattoos are certainly an acceptable subject, regardless of location. Scars are also acceptable, but please respect the others who visit “Half-Nekkid Thursday” on a regular basis. Spread out the scar pictures over a few weeks’ time, please!

* Speaking of scars–If you use a picture of a scar, it must be accompanied by some sort of humorous anectdote as to how you got it. For a long, but good example, go here.

* Other skin conditions might not be acceptable, due to good taste. These include, but are not limited to warts, zits, lesions, ingrown hairs, boils, open sores, peeling skin, scabies, rashes, or any other assorted gross things. I’m not saying that you can’t post them. Just use your best judgement, for the sake of the rest of us.

* When referring to “Half-Nekkid Thursday”, please spell it correctly! Not Naked, not Neked, not Nakid. It’s “Half-Nekkid Thursday”.

* It’s very important to not be dissing other’s submissions! We’re all going to have half-hearted entries from time to time. None of us is better than the other. One the other hand, it’s completely acceptable to heap praise upon those that deserve it!

* IMPORTANT!–Remember to visit my current “HNT” post and leave a comment indicating that you’ve posted a picture for “Half-Nekkid Thursday”. Consider my blog as the informational kiosk for “Half-Nekkid Thursday”. You’ll be able to see who is joining the tradition. Commenting is much easier for all concerned, rather than updating my blog each time someone posts their picture. I will try to keep the Blogroll in my sidebar updated each week.

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Cancel, unsubscribe, unfollow. Sort out how you want to react to the breakup only after you’ve canceled the relationship, unsubscribed from her Tumblr, or blocked him from Twitter. To undo a relationship that made it online in any form—whether you’ve got photos together all over MySpace or earned your own tag on Gawker—requires investing as much shared exposure as you put in. Make a cold calculation: in my case, that meant reframing a year-and-a-half long affair, across half a dozen online networks, and doing it in just a few days. This condenses everything: how much it hurts, how fast you have to react. You had weeks or months to attach to one another’s blogs, profiles, and endearingly staged snapshots. Now you have to delete or address it all, all at once.

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There is a new phenomenon in today’s information society, the anxiety of which becomes pervasive when one realizes the dangers and fragility brought upon by the interconnected Web 2.0 sphere. This is the problem of online oversharing: the tension in finding the right balance of what parts of one’s subjective identity should be put online. This is an anxious search, because, at first, it is understandably hard to realize that the internet is a totally new space with its own novel dynamics; any attempt to categorize it as public or private sphere or any of the classical categories would fail just as miserably as any attempt to introduce old-market commodity dynamics to the remix culture of intellectual property. As such, adapting to the new big Other of the internet becomes even harder.

How much should our online avatar, our novel cyber-embodiment, resemble our stupid, abrupt, physical identity of existence? Of course, we have all the big postmodern theories about how everything is no more than a simulacra, how reality and fantasy becomes blurred, that we live in a state of hyperreality, etc. But I think this idea is a little too naive for today’s society — rather than the blurring of fantasy and reality, is it not more true that the condition of our second embodiment, one I dubbed the monitor phase, calls for an inversion of fantasy? What I mean is quite simple: as our lives are today more and more lived on the other side of the screen, is it not, then, only logical that when the simulation is more real than the reality itself, reality becomes more and more like our fantasies?

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. . . If anonymous blogging is already writing for the drawer and this blog is a space for my most personal and difficult thoughts, then where do I write down the things that I can’t even say here? One solution is personal friendships. I have a friend that frequently sends me emails with pieces of writing and a subject line like, “I can’t blog this”. Sometimes he is correct. For social reasons or political ones or just “good taste”, he really can’t. Sometimes I convince him that he is wrong because I know his subject line is a challenge to both of us, of course he “can” blog it, but will he?

Me? I don’t even commit these dirtiest of thoughts to words in a publishable way. I may talk about them with friends or even allude to them on Twitter but the simple act of stringing words into sentences and sentences into paragraphs seems very risky and final to me. If I write and I don’t publish, I am admitting that the thoughts are unpublishable. And if I don’t publish the unpublishable, what am I doing here?

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arse Arse Elektronika 2008

Arse Elektronika 2008 — “Do Androids Sleep with Electric Sheep?” — will take place at CELLspace (San Francisco). September 25 thru 28, 2008.

Susan Mernit and I will be doing a panel:

Avoiding the Emily Gould Effect
Susan Mernit & Viviane

“Oversharing”, sex blogging & erotica. How to successfully manage your online identity, whether you’re pseudonymous or right out there. As the legions of bloggers sharing personal stories of sexuality, erotica and adventure grow and as sex & relationship blogs become big business we hear both stories of bloggers who regret what they’ve shared (Emily Gould) and survived a tawdry outing (Zoe Margolis), and those who’ve parlayed sex & erotica blogging into far more mainstream careers (Rachel Kramer Bussel, Melissa Gira Grant, Violet Blue. How do you manage your online persona so you’re in control of your story? What to do if you get outed?  Join Viviane, leader of The Sex Carnival, and Susan Mernit, sex and relationships contributing editor at Blogher, in a discussion of sharing, oversharing, and the best ways to put it out there. A hand out of tips for beginners and getting started will also be provided.

Full schedule here.

About AE

Critical Perspectives on Sexuality and Pornography in Science and Social Fiction

Taking up where the successful conference in autumn 2007 left off, this year’s Arse Elektronika stands under the motto “future” — and the ways in which the present sees itself reflected in it. Maintaining a broadened perspective on technical development and technology while also putting special emphasis on its social implementation, this year’s conference focuses on Science and Social Fiction.

The genre of the “fantastic” is especially well suited to the investigation of the touchy area of sexuality and pornography: actual and assumed developments are frequently depicted positively and approvingly, but just as often with dystopian admonishment. Here the classic, and continuingly valid, themes of modernism represent a clear link between the two aspects: questions of science, research and technologization are of interest, as is the complex surrounding urbanism, artificiality and control (or the loss of control). Depictions of the future, irregardless of the form they take, always address the present as well. Imaginations of the fantastic and the nightmarish give rise to a thematic overlapping of the exotic, the alienating and, of course, the pornographic/sexual as well.

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