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…Whatever one thinks of BDSM, given the pain and intensity associated with it, it certainly doesn’t come across as a stress-reducing activity — to most outsiders, there wouldn’t appear to be anything relaxing about whips and handcuffs. And yet practitioners say that BDSM is more than just kinky sex. Some practices, they argue, can enhance the psychological well-being of their participants. And recent science has started to support these claims, suggesting that certain forms of BDSM may have anti-anxiety effects, as well as other mental health benefits.

The transformative effects of bondage are well known within the BDSM community. “We call it ‘rope space,’” says Roxie, who leads the New York chapter of Hitchin Bitches, a rope bondage group for women. Also called “subspace” or being “rope drunk,” submissives describe entering an altered state of consciousness in which one feels totally released from stress and present in the moment…

http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2015/01/can-bondage-reduce-anxiety.html

Ht to my pal RopeDreams for this article.

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Full Weekend Intensive Rope Bondage Dojo® with rope experts, Midori & Delano and the Dojo Cadre team.

COURSE DETAILS:

A Rope Bondage Weekend: A dojo styled intensive from the basic to the introduction of advanced techniques with Midori and Senior Cadre Member Delano.
Want to learn about rope bondage?
Frustrated with short workshops & demos?
Do you want personalized attention to improve every aspect of your rope techniques?
Are you ready for the disciplined approached to take you to the next level?
Have you wanted to know what Midori teaches her personal apprentices?
Are you a total rope beginner with the motivation to move past your hesitation & blow your lover’s mind with hot scenes?
Or have you already lassoed the basics and ready for a real challenge?

In this concentrated weekend you will cover the heart & soul of the rope experience, covering top and bottom perspectives as well. From the very basics to the introduction of advanced techniques of basic safe rope suspension, they’ll put you through the paces and improve your skills.
Your Full Weekend Package Includes:

16+ hours of concentrated instruction from Midori & Delano + trained cadre with lots of hands-on practice.
Continental breakfast both days
Catered lunch both days*
Limited edition commemorative graduation gift
Free admission to the Saturday night play party
Take-home gifts

(* For vegetarians: For those specifying vegetarian meals, we provide ovo-lacto based veggie meals. If your dietary needs are more specific, we encourage you to bring your own meals. There will be a kitchen with fridge and microwave to store your items.)

Saturday, Day 1: Fundamentals of Technique & Scene Dynamics

Safety, rope selection, basic knots, rope care
Basic Two-Column Tie, Body Harness, Sex Bondage, Partial Suspension, Basics of Shibari. Freestyle Bondage
Psychology & Emotional Dynamics of Rope, Dominance & Scene Control
History of Japanese Rope Bondage
Speed Drills

Sunday, Day 2: Mastering Rope

Speed Drills
Problem Solving Skills
Creativity Exercise
Taking Flight: Introduction to safe suspension bondage
It’s in the Details: Hand & feet bondage, dildo/cock harness
Visions & Perversions: Learn to think and create with mastery, art & power & more.

TIME:
Sat. 10am to 6:30pm (doors open 9:30am)
Sun. 10am to 6:30pm (doors open 9:30am)

LOCATION:
The Crucible, 16 M Street, N.E. Washington, DC

Facebook RSVP: https://www.facebook.com/events/423847614354363/
Fetlife RSVP: https://fetlife.com/events/142948

COST:
US$400 for Singles.
US$700 for Pairs. (Buddies and pals welcome. You don’t have to be a couple for the Pair ticket.
Because of the intensive nature of the material & instruction, this course is limited to only 30 participants.

REGISTRATION
Registration closes midnight, Pacific Time, Friday, March 29.

CANCELLATION POLICY:

Full refund (minus processing fee) if canceled by March 28.
50% (minus processing fee) refund if canceled between March 29th and April 5th
No refund if canceled after April 6th.

Hotel: Hotel recommendations will be emailed to registered students.

HOW TO PREPARE FOR DOJO:

Read the FAQ on http://www.ropedojo.com
Be well rested.
Wear comfortable clothing.
Bring large towels, blanket or yoga mats for floor work.
Encouraged to bring floor cushion or comfy folding chair to sit in.
Bring lots of rope & a pair of safety shears. Suggestions on rope you might want to bring:

Please read the FAQ at http://www.ropedojo.com
Special Dojo Rope Kits are available for student discount from http://twistedmonk.com/midorikit.htm. Make sure to give your registration confirmation number. TwistedMonk.com is Midori’s favorite rope vendor.)

Learn from the author of “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé

The human eye is drawn to the triangle, the thing that is out of place, the imbalance in life. Asymmetrical bondage is not just aesthetically pleasing, but a sexually and sensually pleasing practice that puts us out of balance, reminding us where balance really is important. We will address key ways to bring asymmetry into our scenes, from disproportionate bindings to being forced to balance on one leg, lop-sided ties and punishments to ties that pull in reversed directions. Body stresses, imbalanced desires, and how to pull it all together will be of major import, as well as asking how we can not make it look stupid.

Bring at least one 25+ ft piece of rope for hands on opportunities in class.

Lee Harrington is a passionate spiritual and erotic educator, gender explorer, eclectic artist and published author and editor on human sexuality and spiritual experience. Some folks think he’s an all-around interesting person. He thinks you deserve the life of your dreams… yes you.

Where: Purple Passion, 211 West 20th Street (bet 7th and 8th Ave.), 212-807-0486
Cost: $20 (and enjoy a 15% discount on shopping before or after the class)
Dress code: comfortable

Class size is limited so prepaying is advised. Many of our classes sell out. Don’t be turned away. Reserve your spot at the store or at the  Purple Passion website.

Where:  Pearl Studios, 500 8th Avenue (35th/36th), 12th Floor, NYC
Cost: $5/LSM members, $10/Non members

Come to this hands-on class to learn how to make the best fitting dildo harness ever! Great for all body types, secure and easy. No more fussing with straps, getting scratched with Velcro, poked by buckles or hassle of post-sex leather care. Also learn fast easy play tips with items in your closet. Midori will supply dildos, scarves and material to make your harness, but we strongly encourage you to bring your favorite dildo and long scarves.

About Midori

One of our favorite presenters at Lesbian Sex Mafia, frequent sightings of her from around the globe make us wonder if she ever sleeps or if she¹s cloned her self. A sex-positive activist, artist and educator, she¹s made an improbable career out of being the traveling sexpert. Don¹t miss the groundbreaking book “Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” which first cracked open the mysteries to Westerners, the hot essays in “Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink” and twisted dark science fiction in “Master Han¹s Daughter.” Learn the basics in “Midori¹s Expert Guide to Sensual Bondage” DVD. Don’t miss her other classes while she’s in NYC. You’ll find her adventures, twitters, calendar and more at PlanetMidori.com.

About Lesbian Sex Mafia

Lesbian Sex Mafia is a support and information group for all women 18 years of age or older, including transexual and intersexed women who live their daily lives as women and all female-born transgender people who feel they have a connection with and respect for the women’s community. And, who are interested in fantasy and role playing, bondage, discipline, S/M, fetishes, costumes, alternate gender identities and uninhibited sexual expression in a safe, sane, consensual and confidential way.

The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage by Midori
Photography by Craig Morey
Publisher Greenery Press (2001)
175 pages, Softcover.

A few years ago (2005) I was lucky enough to take a bondage workshop with Midori: “Intro to Japanese and other Creative Rope Bondage Essentials” in Halifax at Venus Envy, one of the local sex shops.  It was one of two workshops I took with her and was an amazing experience.  Midori-only a small woman in stature-has a powerful and dynamic charisma; cool and collected with an authoritative presence that demands people sit back and take notice.

A friend of mine Kate volunteered to be Midori’s guinea-pig.  Kate is quite a bit taller than Midori, very butch and buff.  Although quite submissive, Kate plays mostly as a dominant as she doesn’t find too many Dom/mes who can handle her.  I was interested in seeing what Midori would do with her.

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First Midori stood before Kate and the audience dressed in a gorgeous sea foam and silver Asian-style dress, slowly unraveling a long piece of hemp rope and running it through her fingers as she stared Kate down.  The room was completely silent, except for a few uncomfortable giggles that were soon silenced by Midori’s schoolmarm stare, as Kate stood blushing profusely.  In “The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage“,  Midori explains this technique in detail in her “Analysis of a Scene”: “While effectively setting the tone and head space for the dominant, the visual effect of the top methodically stroking the ropes may be quite profound on the bottom…  Many different moods and attitudes might be presented… powerful and slightly intimidating… playful, humiliating…”  Of course, running the ropes through the hands at the beginning of the scene has many other practical uses as well such as untangling the rope, finding debris, and ridding the rope of its “bad habits.”

Next, Midori began to rub the rope over Kate’s body and head.  She held the rope up to Kate’s nose to allow her to smell it like an aromatic aphrodisiac.  Midori explains in her book the strong connection that many bottoms will make with the scent of the rope, associating it “with the sensual, sexual and magical experience of wonderful rope bondage scenes.”  This technique was obviously effective on Kate as she nearly swooned and leaned against Midori who took her weight.

Midori then made a rope blindfold to remove Kate’s sight and place her more into the scene, effectively blocking the audience from her view.  While Kate knew she was still on display, she quickly fell into the grove of Midori’s quick, clever hands working magic on her body.  Midori spun Kate around as she skillfully tied knots, moving the larger woman to her will, sometimes holding her a little off-balance, and then capturing her again within her strong embrace.  In her book, Midori says that the top should make the bottom move to their whim using “firm decisive moves, sometimes punctuated by a quick change in pace… to emphasize the emotional dominance and control the top has over the scene…”  She also calls this to tie with “gusto” where her rhythmic handiwork would suddenly change to a quick yank as she synched the knots which would rouse a sharp intake of breath and sigh from Kate.

Reading “The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” was almost like being at Midori’s workshop once again, where rather than teaching the technical aspects of knot-work (Midori only showed us three knots), she demonstrates the dynamics of the scene itself.  In the book Midori talks about her personal history with rope bondage, the visual aesthetics of shibari including symmetry, tension, and balance, as well as introduces the reader to a brief history of Japanese bondage.  She covers safety elements and aftercare as well as explains the various types of rope and what they are best suited for.

The final section of the book shows seven classic positions with photographs by Craig Morey and simple diagrams, focusing on the techniques and knot-work.  Most of the techniques are fairly easy to follow, although some of them can get confusing, especially when a few illustrative steps are missed.  I would have preferred the images to be more step-by-step and photographed rather than line drawings.  As mentioned before, Midori doesn’t focus on difficult knots, but only shows a few basic ties, as she did in her workshop.  Her focus is not on technical skills but rather showing how bondage can be accomplished by a novice.  Any boy scout can learn to tie intricate knots and there are many books on that, but very few people can show effectively the dynamics of a scene like Midori can, that left my friend Kate a pile of wet, hot, quivering mush afterward.

If you haven’t had a chance to see one of Midori’s excellent bondage workshops I highly recommend this book.  It is a great introduction for beginners and I know many so-called “experts” in my BDSM community who would benefit from learning the dynamics of a scene as well.  For someone like me who has had the advantage of seeing Midori live, this book is a great reminder of all the techniques that are taught in her workshop (many that I had forgotten) and may inspire you to take up your rope again and begin practicing.

With the book that I received from Tabu Toys, I also got a length of Japanese Silk Love Rope (5 meters) to play with and practice my knots.  This rope comes in brilliant colors, is soft, yet strong and fairly easy to work with.  Together, “The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” and the Japanese Silk Love Rope makes a great beginner’s rope kit to start playing with, and is also an excellent gift for your lover if you want to give them a subtle, yet effective hint.  You can purchase both items from Tabu Toys.

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