(…) What it took me years to realise is that while I’ve changed a lot since writing these diaries – my life has moved on so much, in part thanks to the things that happened then – Belle will always be a part of me. She doesn’t belong in a little box, but as a [...]
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When Blogs Cry: How To Breakup Online (Melissa Gira; The Frisky)
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, relationships, social media on Oct 7th, 2008
Cancel, unsubscribe, unfollow. Sort out how you want to react to the breakup only after you’ve canceled the relationship, unsubscribed from her Tumblr, or blocked him from Twitter. To undo a relationship that made it online in any form—whether you’ve got photos together all over MySpace or earned your own tag on Gawker—requires investing as [...]
Oversharing, or, the Anxiety of Inverted Fantasy (The Posthuman Marxist)
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, identity, internet on Oct 6th, 2008
There is a new phenomenon in today’s information society, the anxiety of which becomes pervasive when one realizes the dangers and fragility brought upon by the interconnected Web 2.0 sphere. This is the problem of online oversharing: the tension in finding the right balance of what parts of one’s subjective identity should be put online. [...]
caro:
There’s been a lot of blogger-to-blogger drama on the Internet recently (Baron v. Calacanis, Rambin v. Frangry, what-have-you) and it’s all made me think back to a time when I was 17 and royally pissed off my ice cream store co-worker’s girlfriend on LiveJournal. I’d ranted about how she was suspicious of me being friends with her boyfriend, and how it was so unfair that girlfriends assumed guys couldn’t just be friends with girls, and blah blah blah. As I recall, she proceeded to flood the comments section of the post with hate messages from her friends.
(Don’t bother searching for it. It was locked up years ago. But Maria probably knows the incident in question, and katiebakes has inevitably visited the establishment where all this wild teenage drama went down.)
The fact of the matter is, once I was even a year or two older I wouldn’t have wanted to air that sort of grievance on the Web, no matter how convinced I was that the girlfriend in question wouldn’t find it. (She did.) Oversharing the details of your life (Gyno exams! PMS! Grocery lists! Penis lengths!) is one thing; actively carrying out feuds for all to see is a whole different can of Sour Patch gummi worms.
So anyway, now we have this missive. I’d prefer not to make a judgment call on either side because I don’t know Chaya and only know Nick through work, I don’t know exactly what happened, and obviously this deals with an extremely sensitive matter that I hope the two of them can resolve with minimal pain and angst. But look at how it all unfolded! Plurk? Twitter direct messages? Tumblr? Gchat? Things were so much simpler when all we had were AIM and LiveJournal.
Just reading these things makes me feel awkward, as though I’ve inadvertently listened in on a phone call or read someone’s personal e-mails. But clearly there was an active choice in making something so deeply personal available to the public, whether it’s a cry for help or a call for attention or even an attempt to get the Interwebs to take sides.
I’m sorry. It’s just that Tumblr has started to feel like a middle school cafeteria as of late. Remember when you were at a pre-self-consciousness age and were willing to say just about anything about anyone without concern for the consequences? Apparently that just doesn’t go away now.
As a woman who has dabbled with bisexuality myself, and written about my sexual adventures both on my blog and in a couple of sexual memoirs, I can empathize with Jefferson. Not so long ago, one of the UK’s biggest mid-market tabloids and self-identified upholder of “family values” — the ultra-conservative Daily Mail — implied [...]
Sex Work 101 was inspired by conversations that happened during the Women, Action and the Media 2008 conference held in Cambridge, MA from March 28-30, 2008.
I gave a talk at WAM called Sex Workers and Media Representation (click to see notes for the workshop), and questions during and after the talk made me realize [...]
Hat tip to Jezebel for alerting me of the existence of Mike Cherico, a self-described “Edgy English Teacher” who blogs sex/dating for Glamour. Jezebel does a great job writing up his ignoramousness, so I’ll just copy-paste the highlights:
First off, he accepts and embraces the nickname “Edgy English Teacher,” which, ew. Also, he hints that [...]
Recognition
Posted in bloggers on Aug 6th, 2007
Not one, but three four of my blogger pals have nominated the Sex Carnival for a Rockin’ Girl Blogger Award. Wheee! Thank you Desire X, Sugarbutch, Engrailed, and Lolita. it is very appreciated.
I’ll be back, once I decide who in turn to nominate…
And Tom Paine of Polyamorously Perverse has named us one of the [...]
Blogher07: Day 2 Photos
Posted in Blogging, Events, Fetish & Kink, bloggers, blogher07, chicago on Jul 31st, 2007
Back home from Blogher and Chicago
Posted in Events, Fetish & Kink, bloggers, blogher07, sexbloggers on Jul 30th, 2007
(Lisa Williams of Placeblogger, Liz Rizzo of BlogHer & Rachel Kramer Bussel at the closing cocktail party at the Children’s Museum. More pics here.)
BlogHer was amazing. Meeting in person and spending time with brilliant bloggers and the dinners with the viviacious and engaging sex bloggers was amazing (sorry I can’t help being redundant). I think [...]
Blogher 07 Day 1
Posted in Events, Fetish & Kink, bloggers, blogher07, chicago on Jul 28th, 2007
Packing the stuff for a trip always takes the longest for me. The chargers, books, equipment. The clothes? 10 minutes.
I’m bringing enough smut to run a mini-festival (Matt and Khym, The Bi Apple, Passion and Power: The Technology of Orgasm (showing this weekend at the Walter Reade with a panel that includes Betty Dodson) [...]
BlogHer OpenSpace: Sex & Relationship session
Posted in Blogher, bloggers, sexbloggers on Jul 14th, 2007
Susan Mernit and I are going to facilitate a session at Blogher at the end of the month for bloggers who want to talk about Sex and Relationship Blogging–if you’re coming to the conference and are interested in this session, let us know. Here’s the description of what we’re hoping to facilitate:
Cloaked behind another name, [...]
Perverts’ Saloon Tea Party: Food Porn
Posted in bloggers, nyc, sexbloggers on Jun 11th, 2007
My strawberry shortcake, made from scratch. More food porn.
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Mass deletion of communities on LiveJournal sparks revolt (C|Net)
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, incest, pedophiles on May 30th, 2007
Thousands of LiveJournal customers are rebelling against the company’s recent decision to censor hundreds of sex-themed discussion groups, a broad swath that has led to the removal of literary critiques and fan-written fiction about Harry Potter.
LiveJournal, which is owned by San Francisco-based Six Apart, confirmed Wednesday that it deleted around 500 journals this week in [...]
Chinese Blogger Jailed For Posting Sex Stories (XBiz)
Posted in bloggers, censorship, china, sexbloggers on May 22nd, 2007
By Q Boyer
BEIJING — To further its ongoing effort to combat sexually explicit websites, the Chinese government last week arrested a blogger for posting sexually explicit stories to his website, the Chinese state news agency Xinhua reported.
The blogger, identified only by his surname Li, posted the stories to a blog called “Hazy Night.” According to [...]
Bitch Ph.D responds to Kos’ post regarding blogger code of conduct
Posted in bloggers, ethics, harassment, stalking on Apr 13th, 2007
…Dude, this post is messed up. I agree with you that the proposed blogger code of conduct is asinine, but it certainly doesn’t follow that Kathy Sierra (or any other women who are threatened with death, rape, or frivolous lawsuit, ahem) are making shit up or overreacting or (as you kind of imply) being [...]
In the Flesh Reading Series, Wed., Apr. 18th:
Posted in Events, Fetish & Kink, bloggers, nyc, sexbloggers on Apr 11th, 2007
2nd Annual True Sex Confessions NightWednesday, April 18 At 8 PmHappy Ending Lounge, 302 Broome Street, NYC(B/D to Grand, J/M/Z to Bowery, F to Delancey)Admission: Free 212-334-9676
The second annual True Sex Confessions night features an all-star roster of artists, bloggers, and writers, including blogger Chelseagirl (Pretty Dumb Things), author Valerie Frankel (The Accidental Virgin, Hex [...]
5 Questions about Blogging: Lisa Vandever
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, cinekink, movies on Apr 4th, 2007
Lisa Vandever, Co-Founder & Director of the Cinekink film series, blogs at CineKinkster.When did you start blogging?I started a personal blog about a year-and-a-half ago, right before I got married, to serve as a virtual scrap-book and touch upon on everything that was going on at the time. I launched the official [...]
5 Questions about Blogging: Elizabeth Wood
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, sexbloggers on Apr 3rd, 2007
Sex-radical feminist and sociologist Elizabeth Wood writes at Sex in the Public Square.
1. I started blogging on June 27, 2006, not quite a year ago. Coincidentally that is my mother’s birthday and she has been a regular reader of my blog (and occasional commenter!) from the start. I started because I wanted a way to [...]
5 Questions about Blogging: Goldslut
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, sexbloggers, sexblogs on Apr 2nd, 2007
Goldslut’s blog is The Gold Slut Standard.
When did you start blogging?I started The Gold Slut Standard on December 30, 2006, to fulfill a New Year’s resolution. I had been hanging out with bloggers, as my blogger boyfriend’s +1, for about a year. It was time for me to step up.
What do you like [...]
Carnival of Bent Attractions has a new owner
Posted in bloggers, carnivals, lbgt, sex, sexbloggers on Mar 31st, 2007
I read on Transcending Gender that Marti Abernathy of Transadvocate has taken over the Carnival of Bent Attractions, which features blog posts from various blogs on articles of interest to the gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, trans and queer communities. The Carnival of Bent Attractions is published monthly.
I hosted the March carnival. Transadvocate is hosting the April [...]
Perverts’ Saloon member Chris Hall’s blog is Literate Perversions.
When did you start blogging?I’ve been blogging on and off since November, 2003. Like a lot of people, I started out on Blogger, first on Blogspot, then moving it over to my own domain, which I had already owned for several years. I think I [...]
5 Questions about Blogging: Mon Mouth
Posted in bloggers, sexbloggers on Mar 28th, 2007
Mon Mouth’s blog is MonMouth.
When did you start blogging?Autumn 2003
What do you like about blogging?The interactivity – getting comments, commenting on others’ blogs, the unexpected links and accidents.
Is blogging a major or minor way of connecting to other people for you?Very minor. I’m not “out” as a blogger, so I rarely socialize as my blogging [...]
5 Questions about Blogging: Jefferson
Posted in bloggers, sex blogs, sexbloggers on Mar 27th, 2007
The introductory post for this series.
Parent, pervert, Carnival contributor and my dear friend Jefferson blogs at One Life Take Two.
When did you start blogging?My blog began in November 2004 with an email to my friend Audacia Ray. I was new to dating after the end of my marriage, and she provided a sympathetic ear [...]
5 Questions about Blogging: Rachel Kramer Bussel
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, rachelkramerbussel, sexbloggers on Mar 26th, 2007
The introductory post for this series.
Rachel Kramer Bussel is the Lusty Lady.
When did you start blogging?I’ve been blogging in some form probably since 2000 or so, I had an old tripod site where I’d post updates, then I was on Livejournal, and joined Blogger in, I believe, 2003. I deleted my blog archives in 2005 [...]
5 Questions about Blogging: Jessica Gold Haralson
Posted in bloggers, jessicagoldharalson, sexbloggers on Mar 22nd, 2007
The introductory post for this series.
Penn student, libertarian, and intellectual pervert Jessica Gold Haralson blogs here at the Carnival and at her own blog.When did you start blogging?In high school, puttering around on “starter” sites like LiveJournal. Once I made my Livejournal account friends only, I created my eponymous blog as a public forum for [...]
Sharing the Love (Sex in the City – The Real Version)
Posted in bisexual, bisexual, bloggers, sexbloggers, sexblogs on Mar 21st, 2007
Martin and I go to a party for my bisexual support group. It’s a party in which we all perform: I play guitar and sing, and then read from my Penthouse Forum porn column, and others read poetry, perform music, or read their own work. At the end of the evening they ask me to [...]
5 Questions about Blogging: Zed Sinclair
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, gay, queer, sexbloggers, sugarbutch on Mar 21st, 2007
The introductory post for this series.
Chivalrous kinky writer, queer butch top, sex educator Zed Sinclair writes at Sugarbutch Chronicles.
When did you start blogging?in 1998 I started the only feminist blog there was called Feminist Media Watch. it was collaborative, and got extremely popular, at one point we had about twenty-five authors and had very high [...]
Sugasm #71
Posted in Joyce, adult, bdsm, bloggers, bondage, erotica, fetish, galleries, kink, nsfw, nude, orgy, sex blogs, sexbloggers, sexblogs, sexy, skin, sugasm on Mar 20th, 2007
The best of this weeks blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #72? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s PicksRoué (http://www.easilyaroused.co.uk)“Her sighs of [...]