Posted in Blogging on Nov 16th, 2009
(…) A better example of someone operating on her own terms it’s hard to imagine. Anonymous bloggers everywhere can read Belle’s story and take heart in the fact that it really is possible to be both successful and anonymous in the Internet age.
There’s just one problem: it isn’t.
Let’s give Belle and the Sunday Times the [...]
This sex positive carnival highlights posts/articles promoting the sexual rights and freedom of women:
This theory of feminism is known more commonly as Sex Positive Feminism, a movement that developed in the 1980s in response to feminists against pornography and prostitution. Sex Positive Feminists (or sex-radical, pro-sex or sexually liberated feminists) believe that women’s sexual freedom [...]
Posted in Blogging on Feb 18th, 2009
. . .These days I don’t have a lot of interest in writing about sex at all. Part of my erotica apathy stems from the sense that I’ve written a lot about sex. I’ve described it. I’ve intellectualized it. I’ve made it funny. I’ve made it emo. I’ve done it in a train. I’ve done [...]
Do you Tweet during sex? You might moan or squeal, but even if you’ve never heard of the free, minimalist social networking service that allows users to write, send and post to the Internet short messages via devices ranging from phones to laptops via SMS (text). This might sound like an “only in San Francisco” [...]
Posted in Blogging on Nov 21st, 2008
Intro To Sex Blogging
View SlideShare presentation or Upload your own. (tags: sex security)
Here are my slides from Monday’s talk at Conversio Virium. I spent much more time talking about sexual privacy than about setup and promotion. Thanks again to Elizabeth and MayMay for the opportunity to speak. This presentation is available on the Blogging page.
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This Monday, November 17th, I’ll be doing an “Intro to Sex Blogging” talk at Conversio Virium, the student BDSM education and discussion group at Columbia University:
What is a blog? Should I have one? How do I set it up? How do readers find me? Should I write as myself, or under a pseudonym? This introductory [...]
. . . To bring Elizabeth’s argument back in: if the feminist marketplace of ideas cannot support a true diversity of sexual theory, and neither can the mainstream, then maybe blogging is a wonderful, messy middleground. Personal sex blogging may be (hopelessly?) marginalized to the hoary Blogspots of the the web, but within every [...]
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, relationships, social media on Oct 7th, 2008
Cancel, unsubscribe, unfollow. Sort out how you want to react to the breakup only after you’ve canceled the relationship, unsubscribed from her Tumblr, or blocked him from Twitter. To undo a relationship that made it online in any form—whether you’ve got photos together all over MySpace or earned your own tag on Gawker—requires investing as [...]
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, identity, internet on Oct 6th, 2008
There is a new phenomenon in today’s information society, the anxiety of which becomes pervasive when one realizes the dangers and fragility brought upon by the interconnected Web 2.0 sphere. This is the problem of online oversharing: the tension in finding the right balance of what parts of one’s subjective identity should be put online. [...]
. . . If anonymous blogging is already writing for the drawer and this blog is a space for my most personal and difficult thoughts, then where do I write down the things that I can’t even say here? One solution is personal friendships. I have a friend that frequently sends me emails with pieces [...]
caro:
There’s been a lot of blogger-to-blogger drama on the Internet recently (Baron v. Calacanis, Rambin v. Frangry, what-have-you) and it’s all made me think back to a time when I was 17 and royally pissed off my ice cream store co-worker’s girlfriend on LiveJournal. I’d ranted about how she was suspicious of me being friends with her boyfriend, and how it was so unfair that girlfriends assumed guys couldn’t just be friends with girls, and blah blah blah. As I recall, she proceeded to flood the comments section of the post with hate messages from her friends.
(Don’t bother searching for it. It was locked up years ago. But Maria probably knows the incident in question, and katiebakes has inevitably visited the establishment where all this wild teenage drama went down.)
The fact of the matter is, once I was even a year or two older I wouldn’t have wanted to air that sort of grievance on the Web, no matter how convinced I was that the girlfriend in question wouldn’t find it. (She did.) Oversharing the details of your life (Gyno exams! PMS! Grocery lists! Penis lengths!) is one thing; actively carrying out feuds for all to see is a whole different can of Sour Patch gummi worms.
So anyway, now we have this missive. I’d prefer not to make a judgment call on either side because I don’t know Chaya and only know Nick through work, I don’t know exactly what happened, and obviously this deals with an extremely sensitive matter that I hope the two of them can resolve with minimal pain and angst. But look at how it all unfolded! Plurk? Twitter direct messages? Tumblr? Gchat? Things were so much simpler when all we had were AIM and LiveJournal.
Just reading these things makes me feel awkward, as though I’ve inadvertently listened in on a phone call or read someone’s personal e-mails. But clearly there was an active choice in making something so deeply personal available to the public, whether it’s a cry for help or a call for attention or even an attempt to get the Interwebs to take sides.
I’m sorry. It’s just that Tumblr has started to feel like a middle school cafeteria as of late. Remember when you were at a pre-self-consciousness age and were willing to say just about anything about anyone without concern for the consequences? Apparently that just doesn’t go away now.
As a woman who has dabbled with bisexuality myself, and written about my sexual adventures both on my blog and in a couple of sexual memoirs, I can empathize with Jefferson. Not so long ago, one of the UK’s biggest mid-market tabloids and self-identified upholder of “family values” — the ultra-conservative Daily Mail — implied [...]
This week, the potential of the Internet to expose and disgrace when marriages fall apart came into stark relief as Tricia Walsh Smith, who is being divorced by Philip Smith, a theater executive, put a video on YouTube announcing that they never had sex, and yet she found him hoarding Viagra, pornography and condoms.
Not surprisingly, [...]
I tried embedding the slide show but it’s really throwing the template off.
Please go to the Slideshare site to view or download my presentation:
Everything You Need to Know about Being a Sexblogger (but were afraid to ask).
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Sex Work 101 was inspired by conversations that happened during the Women, Action and the Media 2008 conference held in Cambridge, MA from March 28-30, 2008.
I gave a talk at WAM called Sex Workers and Media Representation (click to see notes for the workshop), and questions during and after the talk made me realize [...]
I get asked a lot about how to get started in blogging, how to set up a blog, and publicizing a blog. Or perhaps I just offer advice all the time…
This year I developed a presentation on How To Be a Sex Blogger at Dark Odyssey’s Spring Fire. I finally got around to putting the [...]
Posted in Blogging, Events, Fetish & Kink, bloggers, blogher07, chicago on Jul 31st, 2007
Packing the stuff for a trip always takes the longest for me. The chargers, books, equipment. The clothes? 10 minutes.
I’m bringing enough smut to run a mini-festival (Matt and Khym, The Bi Apple, Passion and Power: The Technology of Orgasm (showing this weekend at the Walter Reade with a panel that includes Betty Dodson) [...]
Posted in Blogging, education, roundup, sex, sexbloggers on Jun 5th, 2007
I missed posting or mentioning this (because I am swamped), but Amber Rhea points us to Renegade Evolution’s comprehensive roundup.
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Posted in Blogging, bloggers, incest, pedophiles on May 30th, 2007
Thousands of LiveJournal customers are rebelling against the company’s recent decision to censor hundreds of sex-themed discussion groups, a broad swath that has led to the removal of literary critiques and fan-written fiction about Harry Potter.
LiveJournal, which is owned by San Francisco-based Six Apart, confirmed Wednesday that it deleted around 500 journals this week in [...]
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, cinekink, movies on Apr 4th, 2007
Lisa Vandever, Co-Founder & Director of the Cinekink film series, blogs at CineKinkster.When did you start blogging?I started a personal blog about a year-and-a-half ago, right before I got married, to serve as a virtual scrap-book and touch upon on everything that was going on at the time. I launched the official [...]
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, sexbloggers on Apr 3rd, 2007
Sex-radical feminist and sociologist Elizabeth Wood writes at Sex in the Public Square.
1. I started blogging on June 27, 2006, not quite a year ago. Coincidentally that is my mother’s birthday and she has been a regular reader of my blog (and occasional commenter!) from the start. I started because I wanted a way to [...]
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, sexbloggers, sexblogs on Apr 2nd, 2007
Goldslut’s blog is The Gold Slut Standard.
When did you start blogging?I started The Gold Slut Standard on December 30, 2006, to fulfill a New Year’s resolution. I had been hanging out with bloggers, as my blogger boyfriend’s +1, for about a year. It was time for me to step up.
What do you like [...]
Perverts’ Saloon member Chris Hall’s blog is Literate Perversions.
When did you start blogging?I’ve been blogging on and off since November, 2003. Like a lot of people, I started out on Blogger, first on Blogspot, then moving it over to my own domain, which I had already owned for several years. I think I [...]
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, rachelkramerbussel, sexbloggers on Mar 26th, 2007
The introductory post for this series.
Rachel Kramer Bussel is the Lusty Lady.
When did you start blogging?I’ve been blogging in some form probably since 2000 or so, I had an old tripod site where I’d post updates, then I was on Livejournal, and joined Blogger in, I believe, 2003. I deleted my blog archives in 2005 [...]
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, gay, queer, sexbloggers, sugarbutch on Mar 21st, 2007
The introductory post for this series.
Chivalrous kinky writer, queer butch top, sex educator Zed Sinclair writes at Sugarbutch Chronicles.
When did you start blogging?in 1998 I started the only feminist blog there was called Feminist Media Watch. it was collaborative, and got extremely popular, at one point we had about twenty-five authors and had very high [...]
Posted in Blogging, bloggers, sexbloggers on Mar 20th, 2007
Introductory post for this series.
Mikey Mongol blogs here at the Carnival, and has a new blog, A Savage Place.
When did you start blogging?Way back in the mists of time, around the turn of the millennium, I was splitting my time between two cities — I had a job in one and a girlfriend in another. [...]
Posted in Blogging, Chelsea Girl, bloggers, sexbloggers on Mar 19th, 2007
The introductory post for this series.
Chelsea Gir’sl endowments include breasts that are fake and spectacular, and a vocabulary as capacious as her good-natured ass. She writes at pretty dumb things. And today is her two year blogday.
When did you start blogging?I started blogging almost exactly two years ago–my two year anniversary will be next [...]
Posted in Blogging, Lolita Wolf, bloggers, lolitawolf, sexbloggers on Mar 16th, 2007
Introductory post for this series.
BDSM educator and princess Lolita Wolf blogs at Lolita’s Predictions and Predilections.
When did you start blogging?I am a “preblogger.” I started an email newsletter 13 years ago that was sent to over 1400 email addresses and was hosted on several BBS’s and websites. Over the years it has morphed [...]
