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  • Queeriodic Table | Xtra! – Inspired by a blog post of a periodic table made entirely of cupcakes, artists Jen Crothers and Kona thought a queer version would be an ideal way to raise money for Out in Schools’ annual fundraiser, High School Confidential.
    “What queer doesn’t love smart and delicious in the same thing?” asks Kona. The pair quickly realized that the logistics of baking 112 cupcakes was beyond their collective skill set and instead parlayed the idea of a queered periodic table of elements into a set of posters and buttons.
  • Understanding humankind. (Interview with Bacchus of Erosblog) – They are places in life, where a compendium of wisdom, art and eroticism collide to form a unique entity, beautiful on it´s virtues and the way it is presented to the world (in fact available for averyone) that special place is Eros Blog.
    The ruler of this crazy world is Bacchus, someone who is totally motivated to show the world the bast regions of human mind, human and non human sexuality and how the work of erotic artists (of all kinds, and times) in general, is maybe the path that lead us to finally understand our past, present and future as humankind.
  • Sock Puppets, Jack Puppets, and Spotting Sexual Predators | violet blue ® :: open source sex – Socks are an oft-used tool of those who like to whip up controversy about themselves, as well as emotional infants who can’t accept contradicting ponts of view – not to mention people who just want to promote themselves, and are not always malicious trolls.

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Bookmarks

by Viviane on 10/23/2010

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  • The Downfall of Alexa Di Carlo | Charlie Glickman – But I do take exception when someone creates false credentials in order to dupe the gullible. I worked hard to get a doctorate in sex education and many of my colleagues, whether they have academic credentials or not, have dedicated years of their lives to learn about sexuality in order to provide good information. I feel a lot of anger when someone pretends to have done the work in order to make it seem as if they know what they’re talking about….It also upsets me when people misrepresent sexwork. Usually, people make it seem as if it’s much a much worse career than it might be, especially when they want to ban it. But it’s also problematic when people glorify it because it creates a misrepresentation of the challenges and difficulties that sexworkers face. In turn, this romanticizes the profession and makes it more likely that people will decide to try it out without knowing how to protect themselves.
  • Law.com – ‘Cached’ Pages May Be Evidence in Child Porn Case, Panel Says | Law.com – In a case of first impression in New York, a Brooklyn appellate panel has held that temporary files automatically “cached” by an Internet browser may serve as evidence of promoting and possessing child pornography…The Appellate Division, 2nd Department, looked at similar cases from other jurisdictions and concluded that their “consistent thread” was the need to distinguish “inadvertent” acquisition and possession of child pornography from “knowing” and “intentional” acquisition and possession.

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Bookmarks

by Viviane on 09/04/2010

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  • Comment Period Now Open on .XXX – Make Your Voice Heard | techyum :: – On August 24 the 30-day comment period opened for the proposed .XXX top-level domain. Until September 23, the public is invited to tell ICANN what they think. If you’re unfamiliar with the history and issues around .XXX, and the men who stand to profit from it (while exhibiting blatant disregard for the very serious problems it poses) please read Now Playing: .XXX. TLD Carpetbaggers Give New Meaning to “Drop and Snatch” (carnalnation.com).
  • How To Get A Sex Blogger To Have Sex With You | Sex and the 405 – A good way to get to know me is to engage me regarding the content I post. Yes, we may talk about sex, my preferences and your own. That does not mean you should suggest we fuck. It just means we’re discussing our preferences. Please note that many people engage me in this way and the best way to differentiate yourself is by having intelligent conversation with me.
  • An Interview with the author of Sex at Dawn; The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality | Examiner.com – I recently had the opportunity to speak with psychologist Christopher Ryan, one of the authors of a revolutionary new book that debunks the theory that monogamy is a natural and thus appropriate construct for our species. The book is entitled Sex at Dawn; The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality and was co-written by Ryan's wife, psychiatrist Cacilda Jetha.
  • “it’s not about sex” and other lies « Sex Geek – I realize that I come to my poly from a place of queerness, where because of a long history of oppression, of being told our sex is bad, many of us hold onto and defend the beauty of our sexuality with great ferocity. I come to it from a place of kink, where we spend tons of time talking about how to play and have sex in ways that feel good to us. But whether you’re kinky or queer or poly, all of the above or none of the above, I invite you to join me in refusing to buy into any variety of “sex is bad” or “sex is less than,” no matter whose mouth it comes out of. Whether it’s conservative lawmakers, or our intimate partners; the American Psychological Association or our community leaders; the Religious Right or the sacred sexuality proponents.
  • 5 Things an Affair May Not Mean | Christopher Ryan | Huffington Post – In "Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality," Cacilda Jethá, my coauthor (and wife) and I argue that there's a good reason long-term sexual monogamy is hard for human beings. The evidence we present in the book shows that til death do us part may be a wonderful ideal, but it's anything but an easy (or natural) path for most human beings. Yes, we are moral beings (most of us) with the capacity to override our evolved predispositions to some extent, but maybe, just maybe, an occasional slip on that long and arduous path is to be expected…Or maybe not. Such notions of tolerance are actively discouraged in America. As Pamela Druckerman explains in "Lust in Translation," her survey of global attitudes toward infidelity, "It has come to seem obvious to Americans that the discovery of infidelity leads to a confrontation, followed by counseling, perhaps other forms of support, and a long period of discussion and recovery (sometimes in perpetuity)."
  • Sex and Censorship: What Recent Attacks on Online Sex Discussions Have to Do With Your Blog | BlogHer – That is what is at stake here. This isn't an issue of us versus them, morality versus indecency, conservatives versus liberals, believers versus atheists. This is a matter of freedom to speak, freedom to congregate, freedom to learn about ourselves and to share that knowledge. That's what this country stands for and it's essential that those of us who believe in these tenets take a stance against those seeking to oppress them.

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Zoe Margolis, the writer behind the Girl With a One Track Mind blog and books, has won libel damages after the Independent on Sunday called her a “hooker” in a headline.Margolis launched a libel action against the newspaper after it referred to her as a “hooker” in a headline on an article on 7 March that she wrote for them, which was in the paper and online.The article, which was published with the headline “I was a hooker who became an agony aunt”, was about attitudes to women and sex.Margolis launched legal proceedings against the title's then-owner, Independent News & Media. The parties have reached an out-of-court settlement.

Congratulations, Zoe!

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Live by social media, die by social media. Last week her blog cost TBK her job.

Where once The Beautiful Kind reposed, resplendent in lacy lingerie, chronicling the ins and outs of her polyamorous escapades, her blog now consists of a note from her “web guru” stating that “the site will remain closed until further notice” and implying that the virtual drapes have been drawn because the author’s virtual fig leaf of anonymity had been stripped away.

As it turned out, said outing had gotten her fired. When she arrived at work last Tuesday, April 27, TBK tells RFT, she was terminated on the spot.

The cause: “a Twitter glitch” that came to light when her boss, at the suggestion of top management, performed Google searches seeking information about employees.

“My boss said that they couldn’t be associated with anyone who was posting graphic images and erotica, and they wanted me to pretend that I never even was there; they want nothing to do with me, they want to act like it never happened,” recounts TBK, who had been in the position about a month.

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TBK has posted on Alway’s Aroused Girl’s blog: A Very Personal Message from The Beautiful Kind. You can also donate here.

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  • R-Wipe & Clean – CNET Download.com – We like this system-cleaning utility's feature set and flexibility. Naturally, R-Wipe & Clean can erase your browser's cache, cookies, temporary files, and typed URLs. In addition, you can securely delete any file via the right-click menu in Windows Explorer. You can perform common system deletions as well, such as emptying your Recycle Bin and erasing your Clipboard history.
  • They Shoot Porn Stars Don’t They | Words & photos by Susannah Breslin – A photo-and-text essay on the adult movie industry and the recession.
  • Want To Break Up? Tis The Season, So Better Hurry : NPR – It's not just turkeys that get nervous this time of year. Chances are high that a failing relationship will also meet its end during the holidays. That's because it's not just turkey season — it's turkey drop season.
  • The Complete Guide to Google Wave: How to Use Google Wave – The Complete Guide to Google Wave is a comprehensive user manual by Gina Trapani with Adam Pash. Google Wave is a new web-based collaboration tool that's notoriously difficult to understand. This guide will help. Here you'll learn how to use Google Wave to get things done with your group. Because Wave is such a new product that's evolving quickly, this guidebook is a work in progress that will update in concert with Wave as it grows and changes. Read more about The Complete Guide to Google Wave, and follow us on Twitter for updates and Wave tips.
  • A Few Questions for Belle de Jour, Call Girl and Scientist – Freakonomics Blog – NYTimes.com
  • Indecent Exposure: When Sex Workers Get Outed | Carnal New York – The most common complaint leveled at Belle both before and after the reveal is that her memoir "glamorizes" prostitution—as though simply telling the truth about one's life is synonymous with promoting those circumstances. It's fascinating that in both England and the US, selling sex for money is assumed to be so alluring to most women as to need nothing more than one woman's non-traumatic experiences to convince thousands of others to join the hooker ranks. (Perhaps this is, in some ways, tacit acknowledgement of how few high-paying careers seem readily accessible to women or the pay gap that exists in both countries?)

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Belle de Jour

by Viviane on 11/20/2009

in bloggers,sex blogs

(…) What it took me years to realise is that while I’ve changed a lot since writing these diaries – my life has moved on so much, in part thanks to the things that happened then – Belle will always be a part of me. She doesn’t belong in a little box, but as a fully acknowledged side of a real person. The non-Belle part of my life isn’t the only ‘real’ bit, it’s ALL real.

Belle and the person who wrote her had been apart too long. I had to bring them back together.

So a perfect storm of feelings and circumstances drew me out of hiding. And do you know what? It feels so much better on this side. Not to have to tell lies, hide things from the people I care about. To be able to defend what my experience of sex work is like to all the sceptics and doubters.

Anonymity had a purpose then – it will always have a reason to exist, for writers whose work is too damaging or too controversial to put their names on. But for me, it became important to acknowledge that aspect of my life and my personality to the world at large.

I am a woman. I lived in London. I was a call girl.

The people, the places, the actions and feelings are as true now as they were then, and I stand behind every word with pride. Thank you for reading and following my adventures.

Love, Belle

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  • I want you back, says Belle de Jour’s lover | News
  • Generation B – Anything He Can Do, She Can Do | NYTimes.com – IN September 1998, David Buechner, then 39, a prominent classical pianist, came out as a transgender woman, explaining that from then on, she would live and perform as Sara Davis Buechner. The pianist had been accustomed to rave reviews (at 24, David, in his New York City concert debut, was called “an extraordinary young artist” by a New York Times critic). But the debut as Sara, reported in a Times magazine article, was not so well received, even by loved ones.
  • Depathologizing Porn | Psychotherapy Networker – Yet, despite the undeniable harm that porn can do, we therapists need to bear in mind a fundamental fact: the overwhelming majority of people exposed to it don't become addicts. Patrick Carnes's research shows that sexual addiction affects three to five percent of adults, suggesting that porn use isn't about to turn us into a country of addicts glued to their computer screens. Further, assuming that porn inevitably leads to addiction can blind us to understanding its nonpathological appeal to so many people—most of them men who are quite normal in every other way.
  • Belle de Jour revealed as research scientist Dr Brooke Magnanti – Times Online – Magnanti is a respected specialist in developmental neurotoxicology and cancer epidemiology in a hospital research group in Bristol. Six years ago, in the final stages of her PhD thesis, she ran out of money and turned to prostitution through a London escort agency, charging £300 an hour. Already an experienced science blogger, she began writing about her experiences in a web diary that was adapted into books and a television drama starring Billie Piper.
  • New York 2009 » I Wish I Was At WordCamp – If you couldn't make it to Wordcamp, you can follow what happened on this page.
  • » yeah I might be cracking I am a poster girl with no poster. – Please help Ammre, who has been housebound since August from an injury that went untreated due to lack of insurance.
  • hyper-fetish: Lady Gaga’s “Bad Romance” video | violet blue ® :: open source sex – The video is way more entertaining than the song itself (which is catchy, by the way), and it’s packed with sex, high-gloss fetish couture, surreal effects and some serious shoes worthy of worship. Can you count the fetishes? There are some pretty obscure ones here, mixed with more obvious ones, and it’s interlaced with current pop fetishes (such as the coffins resembling the [Anubis] travel coffins in “True Blood”).
  • the top online sex management tools | violet blue ® :: open source sex – This week’s San Francisco Chronicle column is dedicated to everyone who wants to be organized, responsible, and truly deeply nerdy about their sex lives: it’s a guide to online sex management tools.
  • Help Lift Sex Ed to a Higher Plane: Support Scarleteen! | Scarleteen – What you might not know is that Scarleteen is the highest ranked online young adult sexuality resource but also the least funded and that the youth who need us most are also the least able to donate. You might not know that we have done all we have with a budget lower than the median annual household income in the U.S. You might not know we have provided the services we have to millions without any federal, state or local funding and that we are fully independent media which depends on public support to survive and grow.

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  • High Schools Struggle When Gender Bends the Dress Code – NYTimes.com – Dress is always code, particularly for teenagers eager to telegraph evolving identities. Each year, schools hope to quell disruption by prohibiting the latest styles that signify a gang affiliation, a sexual act or drug use…But when officials want to discipline a student whose wardrobe expresses sexual orientation or gender variance, they must consider antidiscrimination policies, mental health factors, community standards and classroom distractions.
  • Sex-All ages Dr. Dick on Demand: Virginity, Part 2 – Teenagers face enormous peer pressure when it comes down to sex, yet there’s precious little education afforded them in terms of the fundamentals of human sexuality. This dearth of clear, unambiguous information on how our bodies work is just the first way we let our children down. There’s almost nothing available to teens to emotionally prepare them for partnered sex.
  • Why The Stupak Amendment Is A Monumental Setback | RHRealityCheck.org – If you thought that just because abortion is a constitutional right and part of basic reproductive health care it would be available in the reformed health insurance market known as the Exchange, think again. The Stupak Amendment, passed Saturday night by the House of Representatives after a compromise deal fell apart, potentially goes farther than any other federal law to restrict women’s access to abortion.
  • 2010 Sex Blogger Calendar Release Party | Photos By: Nick McGlynn | Random Night Out
  • Pleasurists – Round-up of Adult Product and Sex Toy Reviews – Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere.

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Linkage

by Viviane on 10/14/2008

in sex

Jefferson has posted an FAQ about the custody case, which is still pending.

AAG is writing about an ugly situation with an affiliate company.

The Village Voice has a slideshow of this past weekends NY Leather Weekend.

Lee Harrington’s October newsletter and appearances may be found here.

The children of Dr. Martin Luther King are fighting over love letters he sent to his wife, Coretta Scott King.

The Arizona Supreme Court ruled Thursday that a lower court must re-examine a state law restricting hours for sexually oriented businesses in a case involving two Phoenix adult bookstores.

The Extreme Associates case is now scheduled to go to trial on March 16th.

The next Vanguard Leather Retreat will be held November 7-9.

An interview with Lenny Waller, who managed the Hellfire Club. (I took that picture of Lenny)

IFC has a new documentary about commercial photographer Ellen Stagg, whose love of photography extends from her mainstream job as a commercial photographer to her more personal erotic work.

Sarah Palin was a Mean Girl.

The latest Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy is up.

Barbara Nitke has redesigned her website and has a blog – go have a look at what she’s been up to.

Cinekink, the really alternative film festival, is accepting early bird entries until October 15th. The final deadline is November 15th.

There are two classes at Purple Passion this weekend: Elegant Pain Compliance & Control & Self Defense for Women.

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