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e[lust] #23

by Lolita Wolf on 02/23/2011

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Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #24? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Roadmaps of ConsentI fucking love consent. I love safewords. I can be much more cruel, and push much harder, if I trust my partner to tell me when I go too far.

Staying SafeOne cock, from one man, missing one condom, ultimately led to my brother’s death. And that sucks.

Flying the Friendly SkiesOne button on her sweater was undone, there was a rip in her hose, scratches on her boots, and her hair was carelessly pinned back with stray wisps of hair escaping. There was a curious flavor of soiling about her, something a bit dirty and unkempt.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Labels and my thoughts… - In the past year and a half I have gone from being someone that was lost, without identity that fit, rattling around inside myself to someone that has names for what they are.

~ e[lust] Editress: Dangerous Lilly

See also: Pleasurists #116 and #117 for all your sex toy review needs

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Kink & Fetish

5 Kinky Toys from the Dollar Store
Alive in my Skin
Dacryphilia
Digitalized for Posterity
Eroti…ca
filthy…
He ripped a string of orgasms from me, and then ramped it up
Manual Dexterity
Nadia’s Surprise
Orgasms, Spoons Rests, and Fishnets! (The Play Party)
Punishment, humiliation and bondage
Schoolgirl in Saturday Detention
Steeling The Show
Water torture

Erotic Writing

A Little Night Music
Afternoon darkness
Crisp White Linens
dancing with (& then kinkily fucking) the dj
In the Mirror
Lope
Morning Sex
My First Anal Sex
September 1935
Shutter
Schoolgirl Part 1
Teenage Bukkake
Transition
You’re Gonna Keep My Soul

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

A Doggie Kind of Love
Ashamed?! Are You Kidding Me?
Giggles, Groans and Panting
I Can Imagine How You Feel
Sex As Love
6 Moves Men Need to Be Sex Gods in the Bedroom
Terminology Fundamentalism
The COME HITHER QUIVER -or- How To Squirt
This Love
What I Want

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Kink Network Announces the Opening of Their Adult Blog Host Kinky-Blogging.com
Porn, degradation, and Khan Tusion
Women With Two Vaginas
Kink, virginity and big-tittied whores

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Ashley Fires and Kait Snow on WhippedAss.com

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elust #22

by Lolita Wolf on 01/20/2011

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Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #23? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Erotic asphyxiation: treatments of kink in therapy and the media - Kink and BDSM practitioners often come to an enhanced understanding of their own desires through the emphasis on personal boundaries and communicative consent which arises from a responsible approach to power and pain play.

Mirror, mirrorI found myself back there again, perched on the edge of the white expanse, spreading myself shamelessly in front of the glass

WorryI’ve been thinking about rape culture more than ever before. On the outside, much of K’s and my play looks like sexual abuse. It’s not, because consent is always central.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

gender and misogyny: responsibility and erotic writingI spent a good portion of my adult life being gender fluid myself …, and have partnered with several gender fluid folks as a top. Creating representation of us and our eroticism feels so vital to me, so important.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Help End the Backlog - Speaking out works. Taking action works. Silence doesn’t. Politicians on every level need to hear your voice saying “this is unacceptable”. 76%. 3/4. That’s how many rapists get away with it on a national level.

See also: Pleasurists #111 and #112 for all your sex toy review needs

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Erotic Writing

A Tryst By The Car
Compliant
Fantasy: Brand New Day
First-Time Sex: How I Lost My Virginity
Happy New Year
Hysteria
Indiscretions Vol. 1: Caught And Wild Chlid
Like Mother, Like Daughter (part two)
Loving her, Mounting her, Owning her
Merry Christmas Baby
O/One
Should Have
The Starlet
Undiscovered
Wax Off
Whenever I’m Alone With You
Yeeees. Date Night

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Breaking Up, Polyamory Style
Computer Sex
Douchebagopolis – When Communication Fails At A Swinger Party
Epiphora’s best and worst sex toys of 2010
Good Head
Hormones & Biological Clock Ticking
Lockets, Sins and Ink
Off My Chest
Swing Shift Volume 39- One and Only
Semi-Rant Part Two

Kink & Fetish

Barely Cooking Christmas Party
Camp Smack That Ass!
Fucked in bondage
Fucking bitch
How He Does It
Master’s Good Medicine
Paddled and Fucked
Parodies and Pizza Boys
Photographer
School Girl Night
shes and me…
You Know It Was Good When…

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Amber Rayne and Kiera King on WhippedAss.com

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5332553260 dbf2e71721 Midoris NYC Rope Dojo

The next Rope Bondage Dojo ® weekend intensive will be March 19 – 20, 2011 in New York City at The LGBT Center.

Online registration opens Tuesday, February 1st, 8am Eastern Time.
Info & Registration: RopeDojo

Space Limited: 30 students
Cost: $375 /singles, $650/pair

Prerequisite: Willingness for serious learning. Must be able to tie your
shoelaces. No experience necessary. However, those with experience will be appropriately challenged.

Includes: 16+ hours of intensive training from four Dojo Cadres. Emphasis will be on balanced education focusing on Heart-Mind-Hand approach, covering rope skills, scene managements, psychology, history and more for both those who tie and those who are tied.

For more information see the curriculum and FAQ.

(I’ll be helping out at the Dojo. We have a really great team. – Lolita)

5332553098 46f4eb6e1d Midoris NYC Rope Dojo

Photos are copyright Midori

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e[lust] #21

by Lolita Wolf on 12/26/2010

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Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #22? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

Important e[lust] update: e[lust] will be going on hiatus for the holidays. The editions for November and December would both occur around the holidays and I know I’ll be short on both submissions and judges as well as personal time. e[lust] #22 will return in January, with ample advance warning, so please make sure you’re subscribed for updates!

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

D/s Without the D/s?This is one of those situations in a real time D/s relationship where much of the “fun” aspects of the D/s needs to be stuffed in the closet for a bit. And for us, it’s not a great time to be either a masochist or a sadist. We can deal with that.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Yes, Jelly Sex Toys Can be DangerousEven if a jelly rubber toy says “phthalate-free”, it still can contain toxic chemicals that can cause skin reactions in some people. These toys are still non-porous and can harbor dirt and bacteria because they cannot be sanitized.

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Unfortunately, this edition has no Top Three picks as I didn’t have enough volunteer judges. If you’d like to volunteer to help, visit this page to find out more info and ensure that the Top Three picks continue.

See also: Pleasurists #101 and #100 for all your sex toy review needs.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

All Painted Up…
A Modest Proposal: Should Ginger & Cooper Fuck?
Happy Sexual Freedom Day
How Do You Explain
Life in spanking after 30: part 2

Erotic Writing

blindfold
Fantasy: Movie Night
Feeling Helpless
Gabrielle, Guest Star
Happy Anniversary…
History Lesson
I Still Don’t Know How You Taste
Monday Morning 2am
Metallic Seduction
Need
New Erotic Story For The Holidays – Tinsel Temptation
Putting the car into park
The Ordeal (Part Four)
The Sweetest Violation
The Young Mom
The Moment
The Soccer Mom
Timeless in a Window’s Light

Kink & Fetish

A space to hate and rage and be angry (photo story)
Beyond the Bedroom
Does liking Helmut Newton equal a fetish?
Happy Halloween: Light Me Up
I am all pins and needles
Kink and Fibromyalgia
Ownership and Monogamy
Pi
Punishing the servants
Switching It Up
The Cage
The Sacred Swinger Holiday: Halloween!
the most amazing night with HIM
The Pedicure
The Right Question
Wax on, wax off!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

All Roads Lead to Acceptance… I hope!
Crisis Averted
Dear boyfriend, I love you. And your cock.
Having Great Goddamned Expectations
If You Google it, I will Answer #9
I Don’t Know If I’ve Ever Been Really Loved By a Hand That’s Touched Me
How to Massage Man’s G-spot
My Coming Out Story
National Coming Out Day
Recovering From Anorexia
Role Reversal
Sadie’s Condom PSA

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Evilyn Fierce on TheTrainingOfO.com

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31 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: November 4 10

Thursday: Midori is teaching Erotic Humiliation at Purple Passion, but it’s sold out. She’ll be back in 2011. Get your spots early!

Friday: “Artistic Needle Play” with Mistress Sade Ami at DSF.

Saturday: Head down to Philly for Philadelphia Leather Pride Night.

Sunday: The Baroness‘ Fetish Retinue returns on a new night (first Sunday of every month) and at a new place (White Noise, 225 Avenue B). www.Baroness.com

Monday: Poly Cocktails with Sex at Dawn author Christopher Ryan.

Tuesday: TES Meeting — “Cunt and Ball Busting” with Mistress Trish

Wednesday: Impact has moved to Wednesday because Thursday is a holiday.

16 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: November 4 10
James Deen, Kristina Rose, Mark Davis, Jessie Cox
and Lorelei Lee on sexandsubmission.com

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e[lust] #20

by Lolita Wolf on 10/16/2010

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Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #21? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

On Making Sex Last: Cheerleading & Open Relationships - as long as the possession stuff can be fun and consensual, and not interfering with each other’s sovereignty, I think the two—cheerleading and possession—aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive.

Owned – I had almost forgotten that while here, with him, I was HIS plaything. I was OWNED by him. We had discussed this. I knew the rules. I must not forget again.

The sheer indecency of what we are doing – Is he looking for what I’m looking for? Surely so—all men want that, don’t they? A flaming succubus that comes only in the dark to bring unworldly pleasures and leave behind strange lingering dreams that spice their dutiful daytime lives.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Stop Hating on Campus Sex Education – Clearly, there is a need for this education, because if it doesn’t come from sexuality educators, it comes from word of mouth (which can often provide incorrect information), or from the internet, or from trial and error.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Is it Really “Strange” Sex?

See also: Pleasurists #96 and #97 for all your sex toy review needs.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Kink & Fetish

A teabreak tawsing
Blow job
Caribbean Screw
His evil twin
My adventure in subbing continues
My Big Pink Robot
Play Party!
Sisters unite for the MFW, part 2
The one with the Violet Wand
Turning Lemons into Lemonade
Wanton Wednesday: Bitten

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Cunning Linguists Are We: Cunnilingus 101
Crushing Swingerphobia by Hitting the Club
Coming Out & Invisible Illness
Hold Up Stockings
My First Grue in Review
NSE – New Swinger Energy
Relationships and Emotions
Sadie’s Thoughts on Cheating. Confession #507
Three’s Company, Too – Dreaming of the Multi-Relationship Home
The Sisterhood
Thoughts on bisexuality and visibility
When I’m Done With Crying…
Why Lie, Why Cheat?

Erotic Writing

A Raise
Any Idea?
Buttlove
Building the Anticipation
Coming Back to Me
Extraordinary Uses for Ordinary Objects
“Enslaved The Story of Jen” Chapter 13
Fantasy: Waking Up
Hotel windows…
I Give Good Head
Lipstick Kisses
Like Mother, Like Daughter
My first little girly night
One Night With NSVG
Oh, What a Night!
Revisited
Rekindling
She
Something in the Air
sacks, part one
The Quick Ebony Fux
up lateish

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Jason Miller and Bobbi Starr on DivineBitches.com

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2 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: 14 20

Thursday: Bondage or Impact? New York boys of Leather presents
a Basic Rope Bondage Demonstration with Scot Laney or… choose my Flogging 101 class at Purple Passion.

Friday Oct 15: Laine teaches “A Servant’s Toolkit – Guide To Being Prepared” at LSM. Then go to play at the Switch party

Saturday is the Mr American Rubber contest at the Eagle.

Sunday: Graydancer is in town and teaching “TIE ‘EM UP & FUCK ‘EM: Rope Bondage for the Impatiently Kinky”

Tuesday: “BDSM for Couples” at The Pleasure Chest.

Wednesday: The TES Dominant Women/submissive men’s group has a panel discussion with the Doom Maidens on “Fetishizing Female Physical Force.”

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Lea Lexis on HogTied.com

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5 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: Oct 7 13

This week is all about the NYC Fetish Tribe Experience. There’s parties four nights in a row and plenty of daytime activities including a shopping trip to Purple Passion with 20% off everything in the store.

Tuesday: TES presents “A Tale of Two Histories” with Justin John Costello. He’ll discuss the histories of both the Leather and the BDSM communities from the Marquis de Sade, to the 303rd Bombardment Troop and more.

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Mark Davis and Jynx Maze on SexAndSubmission.com

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Thursday: Sinclair Sexsmith will be teaching “A Dyke’s Secrets for Cunnillingus” at Purple Passion.

Friday thru Sunday: 2nd annual Sacred Sex Roundup. I’m teaching a class on Sunday.

Saturday: LSM meets for dinner and socializing before going to Submit. With the Butch Voices Conference in town, the Submit Party will be hopping!

Sunday: Suspension party at The Delancey. Woot!

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Maitresse Madeline and Mckenzie Lee on WhippedAss.com

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Thursday: The TES Queer SIG hosts an open forum about “The State of New York Queerdom.”

Friday: Eric Pride will be at DomSubFriends with a demo at Paddles on “Interrogation: The Border Between Play & Reality.” Also at Paddles later in a separate space is the Switch party for women and trans.

Saturday: Two good parties: TES and Stimulate.

Sunday: Rawhide Bar hosts “Guard,” a monthly Fetish CODE night 6pm to Midnight with special guest Bryan Slater, give-aways, demos and 2 for 1 drinks if you are in gear. 8th Ave at 21st Street.

Wednesday: The TES Bondage SIG invites you to share your knowledge at: ” Rope Tips and Tricks – A Bondage Experience.” Bring rope. This will be very hands-on!

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Amber Rayne on hogtied.com

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21 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: Sept 9 15

Thursday: The first DSD meeting is open to everyone and features Dov presenting “Crazy Glue Invisible Bondage and Infibulation!”

Saturday: New York boys of Leather and The Jersey boys of Leather host a Boy on Boy! bar night upstairs at the Stonewall, Wear fetish gear for drink specials. They’re having a 50/50 raffle to benefit the Women’s Leather History Project.

Wednesday: The TES Dominant Women/submissive men’s Group has Mistress Jada teaching: “Singletails: for the Safe, Sane, and Sadistic”

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James Deen and Ashli Orion on SexandSubmission.com

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Friday: Dov teaches “The Art of The Singletail” at DSF.

Sunday: It’s a three day weekend so you can party late on Sunday at Impact.

Tuesday: It looks like an interesting TES meeting: “Taming The Shrew with Blyss.

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Maitresse Madeline and David Chase on DivineBitches.com

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8 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: Aug 25 Sept 1

Saturday: Last chance to see Shine at 2pm. Great show. See it! There’s also a Submit Party.

Sunday: Suspension party where you can play outside on the roof of The Delancy.

Wednesday: My favorite monthly bar night is Pleasure Salon.

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Tommy Defendi, Nick Moretti, Drake Jaden and Derek Pain on BoundGods.com

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12 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: August 18 24

Thursday: Andrea Zanin aka Sex Geek is visiting NYC from Toronto and teaching Strapping It On at Purple Passion.

Friday: Switch party at Paddles for people who identify as women, trans, genderqueer, multi-gender, gender non-conforming, gender variant, gender fluid, etc.

Saturday: Two good parties: Stimulate and TES.

Sunday: Suspension party where you can play outside on the roof of The Delancy.

Tuesday: Grant will be teaching Variations on a Quick Harness at TES.

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Lorelei Lee and Kristina Rose on WhippedAss.com

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13 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: August 12 18

Shine, the Wet Spots burlesque show, is part of the Fringe Festival. There are five shows coming up this week.

Thursday: Impact returns to its original home at China1. Dress up and go!

Friday: DSF hosts an Exotica BDSM Play party & Arabian Slave Auction at Paddles.

Saturday: Hit the beach with LSM’s 5th Annual Naked (or Not) Beach Party at Jacob Riis Park.

Sunday: Instigate NYC presents “Front Hole Fisting” with Ignacio Rivera at The Center.

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Jessie Cox and Maestro on thetrainingofo.com

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