Lolita Wolf

3 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: July 29   August 4

A new munch in NYC: “Dom Women/Masculine Sub Men First Munch” on Friday at 7:30pm at Pot Luck Asian Cuisine, 255 W 26th St. They’ll be going on to the TES Papparazzo Party across the street at Paddles afterward.

Saturday night check out the Submit Party for Women and Trans in Park Slope, Brooklyn. Call for exact location 718-789-4053

On Sunday, MAsT Metro NY‘s topic is “Feeding the Master Heart/slave heart.”

Sir Guy will be at TES with his “Styles of Dominance: Leadership” class on Tuesday.

I wish I could be at two places at once on Wednesday: Pleasure Salon as well as the TES Bondage SIG with Zelda teaching “Insertable Hooks.”

11 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: July 29   August 4

Felony and Curt Wooster on DivineBitches.com

1 SMOOTH HOTEL show held over for the summer

SMOOTH HOTEL features Barbara Nitke‘s provocative photographs of chic people misbehaving in anonymous hotel settings. The photography series is in collaboration with New York fashion designers Tom and Linda Platt. You can see it at 69 Gansevoort Street, NYC through August 22, 2010.

Update 7/28: Barbara emailed me to say 69 Gansevoort has closed. But Season Two of the acclaimed SMOOTH HOTEL fashion/art soap opera photo series begins shooting this fall with an expanded cast of actors, models and wonderful clothes from Tom and Linda Platt.

8 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: July 22 28

There’s a new group in town call NYC Submissive Society. Their first monthly meeting is with guest host Eric Pride on Thursday.

Also Thursday night is Lip Service, a pansexual kissing and cocktails party.

On Friday night, submissive women are invited to preview and critique a new movie, Absolute Trust. 6pm at the LGBT Center.

Looks like there is a new bi-monthly play party in town: Wicked NYC. Saturday night. This is in the space where LSM had their Leather Pride party – really nice.

Sunday night is Suspension! You can play outside on the roof!

Monday night, check out The Pleasure Chest‘s free class: Blow Jobs and Beyond.

Tuesday night at TES, it’s a Hands-On evening of Sensation & Deprivation.

Corey Alexander presents “You Don’t Just Do It Once: Ongoing Relationship Negotiation in Polyamory” at TES on Wednesday night.

5 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: July 22 28

James Deen and Cali Lakai on sexandsubmission.com

e[lust] #15

by Lolita Wolf on 06/11/2010

in sexbloggers

16 e[lust] #15

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #16? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Evolution – Open Marriage, Swinging, & Polyamory – Do we REALLY believe that there is one love for us? Do we really believe there’s one cock or pussy to fuck for the rest of our life?

Sweet To Taste – “I’m dinner tonight,” she breathes. “So don’t let me get cold before you start feasting.”

Having a boyfriend makes me feel fat - I know my worth as a person isn’t devalued by my weight – but I can’t get past the notion that my worth as a partner is.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Fucked by a Stranger – For as long as I can remember, I’ve had this bizarre, twisted fantasy. The roads leading to it were different, but the end result the same: a stranger fucking a very willing me in my bed in the dead of night.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

At Her Mercy – “You have been such a good boy today. Where do you want me to put your cock next?” she said with a wink.

See also: Pleasurists #78 and #79 for all your sex toy review needs.

Erotic Writing

A Taste of Honey
A Collaborative Fantasy
Dirty in all the Right Places
Fuck my face
I miss your cock
I Didn’t Think I Was Ready…
In a nightclub
Just can’t get enough
Let’s Not Waste That Morning Wood
Morning Lust
Nothing Personal, prologue, part one
Possess Me
Stowaway Dildo. Confession #477
The Black Sheets
The Sitter
Waking Up

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

EdenFantasys: A pattern of deception
HIV, Lube Quality, and Anal Sex: Scare Tactics at the LA Times
I Bet Nick Cage Won’t Eat A Preying Mantis
Interview with Scott Owens of EroticBPM
Reaching a Goal

Kink & Fetish

Another Night of Debauchery
Batteries with a Hook
Chastity and the ensuing Punishment
Differences in Submission
I can feel him punch-fucking me
Patient Griselda
Please hurt me
Please, Sir
Remembrances
Story: The Price (FM/M)
Summoned
The Submissive & My Paddle
Visceral and cerebral
Whippings at the Royal Palace

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Answers with an Agenda 3- Dental Dams
Acceptance
Getting Started – Their Profile
How Swinging Gave Me Confidence
My View on Monogamy
Roxy’s April Visit: Collaring My girl, the Ceremony
Sometimes Simplicity
The Sad Seal Lady & Other Precautionary Tales
The 4 of Swords

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Derrick Pierce and Felony on SexandSubmission.com

18 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: June 10 16

Thursday, June 10
Impact party

Friday, June 11
DSF: “Judgement Night”

Saturday, June 12

Sunday, June 13
NY Bondage Club
Fixe Fetish Party

Monday, June 14

Tuesday, June 15
TES: ‘‘Strategizing Re-entry: Drop and Aftercare’’ w/ Corey Alexander

Wednesday, June 16
TES Dominant Women/submissive men’s Group: ‘‘You Have One, Now What? How Do You Train Your New Submissive?’’ w/ Dame Amanda

1 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: June 10 16

Van Darkholme, Vince Ferelli, Derek Pain
and Christian Wilde on BoundGods.com

0 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: June 3 9

Thursday, June 3
The Baroness‘ Royal Amusements Dinner
The Baroness‘ Fetish Fetinue

Friday, June 4
NYC BDSM Munch
Mistress Didi*s ClassicFetish Meet & Greet Pre-Party
DSF: “Fetish Fantasy Play Party & Slave Auction”
Empire City Motorcycle Club: Bike Blessing

Saturday, June 5
NYC TNG General Munch
Smack 14th Anniversary Party

Sunday, June 6

MAsT Metro NY: Master Tony & slave susan “Unconventional Mastery & Slavery: 24/7 With an Explanation”
New York Bondage Club
NYC TNG Meeting
Suspension

Monday, June 7

Tuesday, June 8
TES: ‘‘CBT: String and Clips and Cages, Oh My!’’ with Lady Velvet and Friends

Wednesday, June 9
TES Novice Group: ‘‘Surviving and Thriving at TES Fest 2010 & Other Large Events’’

9 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: June 3 9

0 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: May 27 June 2

Thursday, May 27
TES Queer SIG: ‘‘Sex, Grease, and Leather − Bootblacking’’ with Jim

Friday, May 28
NYC TNG Meeting
DSF: “Wet and Wild BDSM party“
Paradise Lost: “Unholy- AntiVirtues”

Saturday, May 29
Submit
Wicked NYC

Sunday, May 30
LSM New Member Safety/Orientation
Instigate: “Notes of a Reluctant Daddy” w/ Nayland
NYC TNG Meeting
Suspension

Monday, May 24

Tuesday, June 1
TES: ‘‘‘Roleplay: Everything from Sick to Silly’’ with Mistress Coraline

Wednesday, June 2
Pleasure Salon
TES Dominant Men/submissive women’s SIG: ‘‘NYC TNG & DM/sw’’
Vendetta “Meet and Beat” NYFM Opening night party

25 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: May 27 June 2

Bobbi Starr and Katie Kox on WhippedAss.com

e[lust] #13

by Lolita Wolf on 05/24/2010

in sexbloggers

3 e[lust] #13

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #14? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Stuck – Since I first saw the picture he sent me I have had this visual stuck in my head, like a sweet thing lingering in the mouth…. wrists bound, tied to headboard–ankles bound, tied to baseboard– naked, exposed

Animalistic - I grabbed the back of your ponytail like I owned you. No protest. Only a moan. Fuck, how aroused were you? Even your kiss was desperate, wet, passionate; your body was on fire and it showed.

A Hot Afternoon – She took Grady’s hand and guided it between her legs. Grady’s instinct kicked in as soon as she touched Hatty’s tender clit and felt the wetness gathered there.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Confessional: Fixation/Addiction – In porn, both video and photo, I have little interest in the men. It’s the women who get my full attention, who arouse me. I seek them out. I flick past hetero couplings, bored. Blow jobs? Meh. Oh wait, close-up of her pussy? Her coming? Ok I’ll watch now.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Thanks for the mansplanation, but I greatly prefer my vibrator – His views on female masturbation (derived, clearly, from absolutely nothing legitimate) are so fucked up, so irritating, and so detrimental, that I want to punch him in the face. It is, truly, mansplaining at its finest.

See also: Pleasurists #75 and #76 for all your sex toy review needs.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

A Pondering
An I thought us girls were supposed to be the confusing sex?
I get ragingly horny watching gay porn
Menopausal Body
Over-Rated
Snotty Blowjob
The Ethical Slut
What counts as kinky?
What Is Romance
Why We Swing

Sex News, Interviews, Politics and Humor

Strip Club Series – Part One – Club Super Sexe

Kink & Fetish

An Anal Fairy Tale
How I Turned My (Ex)Husband Into a Pervert Pt.1
In Her Place
Kinky
Love that Thang He Does
On Productivity, Insanity and Grilled Cheese Sandwiches
Rights and Responsibilities
Shoe shopping
Show Me Your Teeth
The Greek Slave
Voice

Erotic Writing

A Recurring Fantasy
almost
Awakenings
A Helping Hand
Bite me
challenge
des fumes
Exposed
Frankie Says Swallow
For your prompt review
Gardening
Glass Elevators
Haze
In The Boardroom With Brock
Microfantasy Monday, week 77: Rain, part 2
Monday Morning Flash – “Homebaking”

One of the Hottest Moments I Had as a Prostitute
Seven
the feast
Unexpected Pleasures
Used
Wet

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Steve Holmes and Mia Lelani on SexandSubmission.com

3 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: May 20 26

Thursday, May 20
Staten Island Kink Munch
Purple Passion workshop: “Rope Bondage for Beginners”

Friday, May 21
DSF: “Bondage class: Hogties & frogties” w/ Erin Houdini
Cercle des Dommes
LSM: “Caning – from “Ah!” to “Zowie!!!” with Lolita Wolf
Switch

Saturday, May 22
NyboL: Rubber Stamp Bar Night

Sunday, May 23
NY Bondage Club

Monday, May 24

Tuesday, May 25
TES: ‘‘Talent Show’’

Wednesday, May 26
TES Relationships SIG: ‘‘Commitment in the Scene’’ w/ August & Sue

22 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: May 20 26

Jessie Cox and Justin Long on PublicDisgrace.com

6 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: May 13 19

Thursday, May 13
Queens BDSM Munch
NYC TNG meeting
Impact party

Friday, May 14
DSF: “Make That welt: Straps, canes and implements that hurt” w/ Ted E.

Saturday, May 15
TES Spanking Group at Paddles: ‘‘Making Spanking Fun’’ w/ 007
TES Novice Excursion
TES: Gods and Goddesses: A Party of Mythological Proportions
SPAM

Sunday, May 16
fIXE Fetish Party

Monday, May 17

Tuesday, May 18
TES: “Hands On − Caning and Clothespins’’

Wednesday, May 19
TES Switchables & Other Polymorphous Perverts SIG: ‘‘‘The Romance of Cold Steel’’ w/ Paul NyghtOwl & Mark

26 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: May 13 19

Seda, Hollie Stevens, Tommy Defendi
and Dana DeArmond on divinebitches.com

4 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: April 29  May 5

Thursday, April 29

Friday, April 30
TES TNG: ‘‘Whip Practice Session’’
TES Through the Looking Glass: A Night in Wonderland party
Paradise Lost Party

Saturday, May 1
NYC TNG Munch
Rope Share Intermediate Skill Level to Advance w/ Erin Houndini
Pony Romp in Central Park

Sunday, May 2
MAsT Metro NY: “Non live-in M/s Relationships”

Monday, May 3
CV: “TBA”

Tuesday, May 4
TES: ‘Primal Play: Biting and Scratching’’ w/ Mistress Trish

Wednesday, May 5
Pleasure Salon
TES Bondage SIG: ‘‘Self Bondage’’ with Klawdya Rothschild

32 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: April 29  May 5

Kelly Divine and Luscious Lopez on everythingbutt.com

7 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: April 22 29

Thursday, April 22

Friday, April 23
DSF: “Let’s Get Sexy” BDSM play Party
Le Cercle des Dommes
NYC TNG Party Night

Saturday, April 24
Novice Rope Share w/ Delano and V.

Sunday, April 25
Instigate: “Bound on the Streets: Taking the scene into public, undercover “ w/ Yin
New York Bondage Club
NYC TNG Party Night
Suspension party

Monday, April 26
CV: “TBA” w/ Ben & Rachel

Tuesday, April 27
TES: “Foundations in Spanking with Margaret Davis”

Wednesday, April 28
TEC@TES: ‘‘Animal Roleplay Training Day’’

24 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: April 22 29

Mark Davis, Mr. Pete and Calico on sexandsubmission.com

6 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: April 15 21

Thursday, April 15
Staten Island Kink Munch

Friday, April 16
DSF: “CBT: A thru Z” w/ Mz Suzanne SxySadist
Switch party
Fashionably Fetish Midnight Fetish Cruise

Saturday, April 17
Purple Passion: “Rope Bondage for Dommies – Level 1” w/ Tyutumi & Master Mike
Brooklyn Leather Munch
Phoenix Rising Potluck/Fundraiser
TES Spanking: Group Spanking: through a bottom’s perspective w/ Sammi Sui
TES Novice Excursion
TES Taxman Party
STIMULATE: “Angels vs Devils”
SPAM party

Sunday, April 18
New York Bondage Club
Fixe Fetish party

Monday, April 19
CV: “Becoming a Better Hypnosis Subject” w/ Ben & Rachel
Pleasure Chest: “Back Door Antics – All About Anal” w/ Midori

Tuesday, April 20
TES: “ Spring Potluck Social”
Pleasure Chest: “Rosy Cheeks: Spankings and more” w/ Midori

Wednesday, April 21
Babeland Brooklyn: “Aural Sex 1: Seduction by Voice” w/ Midori
TES Dominant Women/ sub men’s Group: “”Sensual Flogging”

24 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: April 15 21

Amber Rayne and Amai Liu on whippedass.com

6 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: April 8 15

Thursday, April 8
LSM: “Ultimate Dildo Harness & Other Cool Pervertables quickie tips” w/ Midori
Queens Munch
NYC TNG party night
Impact party

Friday, April 9
DSF: “Fantasy Made Reality – BDSM Play Party and slave Auction”

Saturday, April 10
Rope Share
Fifth Annual KinkyJews Passover Seder

Sunday, April 11
New York Bondage Club

Monday, April 5
CV: “Hypnosis 101” w/ Ben

Tuesday, April 13
TES: “Fireplay and Fire Cupping 101” w/ Josh

Wednesday, April 14
TES Novice Group: “Basic Skills of Electrical Play” w/Dr. Clockwork

11 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: April 8 15

Holly Heart and Maestro on hogtied.com

e[lust] #10

by Lolita Wolf on 04/07/2010

in sexbloggers

11 e[lust] #10

Welcome to e[lust] - The 10th edition! Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #11? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Negotiation – Not Nearly As Awkward As Having a Breakdown in Public – All the worries about getting to know a new person (“Am I dressed ok? Are they gonna like my stories about my grandma?”) get exaggerated when you’re talking about sex and desire…

Dollar Store Domme – He definitely can’t elude the dollops of toothpaste I dab onto his nipples. It takes a delicious second before he feels the cool burn penetrate his flesh. By that time I’m already up and selecting a plastic spatula from the credenza.

The Best of Both Worlds or Lost in Limbo? – Whether intentional or unthinking, bisexual denial is a frustrating thing for bisexual, pansexual or ‘fluid’ people to have to deal with.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Navigating Genderqueer in Suburbia – But pray tell how do the rest of us navigate it? How the hell am I supposed to know if you identify as male or just like dressing like one?

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

The Daddy Issue: Sexualizing Abuse – I needed to walk through this fear, and turn it into pleasure. I needed to prove to myself that he hadn’t broken me. That he hadn’t changed who I was to become. That I was not affected by what he did. That he didn’t abuse me.

See also: Pleasurists #69 and #70 for all your sex toy review needs.


Erotic Writing

15 minute phone sex
…And Orgasms On Demand
A Neighbor In Need #7
Afternoon Delight!
Casino
Desperation & Dominance
Dreams
Evening Home, Part 3
First Asleep Loses
Happy ending
I Got….
I am a keeper of secrets
I Got Fucked
I am Coming for You: A Letter to Scin
Late Night Satisfaction
Lolita’s Mother
Making M Squirt
Sir ~ intro
The Hatter
The Flash Fiction Friday FAQ!
Trussed
We fucked, they applauded
Where there is a libido, there is a way
Wicked Wednesday: Idyll

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

20 Reasons Why Sex Is Good
Defining Sex
Hurt me, Pet
I Was Raped
Playing Dumb
Red Flags of an Abusive Partner, Part 2
Restrictions and Satisfaction
Someone Else’s Shoes
Sex Isn’t Everything
The Art of Sensual Touching-Caressing for You and Your Partner
The STI You Haven’t Heard of: Molluscum contagiosum
The Suit
Vibrant Woman or Live Masturbation Sleeve
What I Don’t Need

Kink & Fetish

A Little Girl’s Need for Submission
Are You Done Yet?
A Reformatory Punishment
BDSM Advice Series: Floggers
Bruises
Determined to bind
His Slut
I Really Wasn’t In The Mood
Impact
Pain and Healing
Questions From DH About These Things We Do
Surrender
Sub Drop: Fact or Fiction?
Tiiu Ashcraft – Fetish Artist and Beauty
The Eroticism of Tattoos
The Competition
Wanting to want

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

A History of Violence
Asshat of the Day Award
Awesome Mentoring Work and Upcoming Apprenticeship

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Aiden Starr, Maitresse Madeline, Dylan Deap, Zak Tyler
and Fivestar on divinebitches.com