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oral sex

Jack:

. . .I’ve never been in a relationship like that since, but similar feelings have been stirred up lately when I played around with something the kids call Queening.

I’ve been in the position of having a girl sit on my face before, I enjoy it, but recently when M and I were playing around in bed and I brought up that maybe she should do that, it suddenly turned into something very different.

The dynamics of M and I are fun. I am the daddy type top and she is the sometimes timid and often bratty little girl bottom. These are roles we slipped into nearly immediately upon meeting and play around with in a variety of ways that we both find hugely entertaining.

Bratty and rambunctious are one thing, but as we started playing that night it felt a little different. I felt different and she had a new glint in her eye.

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Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex #1: Cunnilingus (2006)
Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid/Smart Ass Productions
Cast: Justine Joli, Ariel X, Kelly Kline, Richard Kline, Cindy Crawford, Jack Lawrence, Tristan Taormino (non-sex)

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Well-known sex writer, educator and anal expert, Tristan Taormino, has been directing adult educational films since her debut with “Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women” (Evil Angel, 1999).  Both her guides and her Chemistry Series (reality TV meets gonzo porn) have been very popular with critics.  In “Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex #1: Cunnilingus” she covers the art or oral sex for women, starring Justine Joli who demos a live workshop followed by two hetero couple scenes and a bonus scene with Justine and Ariel X.  This is categorically an instructional video and not porn that is meant to titillate, unlike Nina Hartley’s guides, which are a bit of both.

Scene 1: Workshop with Justine Joli, Ariel X, and workshop attendees

 Tristan Taorminos Expert Guide to Oral Sex #1: Cunnilingus

Justine begins by educating her class on female sexual anatomy with the aid of a diagram and then on live model Ariel X.  The instruction is fairly basic, but if you didn’t know much about female genitalia, then you would definitely get something out of this.  I myself learned a new word: “fourchette” which is the skin where the inner lips meet at the bottom of the vulva.

Next, Justine demonstrates cunninglingus techniques and various positions with Ariel.  Justine has a very long and nimble tongue, so you can see clearly what she is doing and tell that she is definitely an expert at female oral sex.

Scene 2: Kelly and Richard Kline

 Tristan Taorminos Expert Guide to Oral Sex #1: Cunnilingus

Kelly and Richard have been together since Kelly was sixteen.  Richard knows Kelly’s body well and is very aware of how she responds to different techniques both verbally and through her body language, which both of them say is key to pleasuring your partner.  I found the scene(s) a little bit long (it is cut up to show various positions) and it is shot from mainly the same angle with little variation (except for a few close-ups) which gets a bit tedious after a while.  This leaves the scene feeling a bit static and you don’t really experience much momentum building because of it.  Then again, it is meant to be instructional and not pornographic or artistic.  The good thing is that the menus will let you view various parts of the scene if you wish.  It does demonstrate the various positions very well and Tristan seems to be quite fond of Liberator Shapes.

Scene 3: Cindy Crawford and Jack Lawrence

 Tristan Taorminos Expert Guide to Oral Sex #1: Cunnilingus

I enjoyed watching this scene quite a bit more as Cindy and Jack are fairly dynamic characters.  Jack begins by saying why he loves eating pussy and he is quite passionate about it.  His tip for dealing with cunninglingus fatigue: Eat more pussy!

Next, Cindy exits a bathtub and Jack shaves her pussy for her, which Tristan says (voice-over) can be quite erotic.  Tristan also talks about how some women feel uncomfortable about their genital odors, which she says can be cured by frequent bathing, especially just before the act of oral sex.  Although, this sounds like common sense, I’m glad Tristan brought it up, as many women do have that fear, so it is a good point to make.

Jack definitely knows his way around a pussy and takes his good old time getting to the sensitive bit, the clitoris.  This is one of his techniques as he allows for a build-up of tension and arousal, so when he finally does get there, Cindy is going crazy.  He sensually licks Cindy’s inner thighs and all around her mound, and then teases her occasionally by licking quickly over her pussy and clit.  When he finally goes for the kill, Cindy is possessed by passion.  He demonstrates the “ice cream” lick, a long vertical lick from the fourchette to the clitoral hood, and horizontal tongue flickering.  Justine says in the beginning workshop that many women prefer the horizontal flickering (side to side) more than the vertical licking, which is something I didn’t know.  I guess I have never really analyzed what types of licks I like when receiving oral sex as it all felt good, but I will make a point of testing this theory out now.  Another point that Tristan makes is that some women prefer one side of the clitoris over the other, which I have found to be true when I masturbate, and for me it is the 9 o’clock position.  I have also heard this from a girlfriend of mine who is a self-appointed expert at cunninglingus.  This scene is also a bit long, but there is more vibrant action, so doesn’t feel static and there seems to be much more variation in cutting from close-ups to long angles.  Jack ends by rimming Cindy which she says later drives her wild.

Bonus Scene: Justine Joli and Ariel X

 Tristan Taorminos Expert Guide to Oral Sex #1: Cunnilingus

I am really glad they added this scene to show oral sex between two women making the film more diverse.  I think many guys become pretty good at giving girl head from lots of practice, but many women at more tentative or too enthusiastic with their techniques, because they don’t get as much practice.  At least I have found that is the case for me and my partner: Gladiator (which roughly translated means” Glad-he-ate-her) a nickname he has had since I met him.  I guess it goes without saying he is a confident pussy licker.

Again, Justine goes down on Ariel and does a fantastic job eating her out with that super-fantastic Gene Simmons’ tongue of hers.  They then reposition themselves for a 69 and the scene has lots of enthusiasm.

Extras: Playing with Toys & Safe Sex

Tristan adds two extras as described above which demos using toys with oral sex, and then safe sex which demos using dental dams, plastic wrap and making a tongue condom.  There are also trailers for Tristan’s other films including her “Expert Guide to Anal Sex”, “Chemistry”, and “Chemistry 2″, which I can’t wait to see.

Things that worked well:  Tristan uses voice over throughout the scenes to give a few tips that are being demoed which are very useful.  The music is mellow and unobtrusive.

Things that didn’t work well:  Tristan uses these “pop-ups”, kind of like pop-up video, which are a bit distracting and many times hard to read.  Although it is a cute and novel idea, I think her voice-overs are more effective.  Also, the audio quality is sometimes lacking in the segments, and some of the shooting is very static as I already expressed.

“Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex #1: Cunnilingus” is a superb film and excellent guide, especially for those who feel they lack certain skills.  I think anyone can learn something new watching this film and I know I did.  I definitely recommend this film to couples or anyone who wants to become a cunninglingus artist.  It is always great to watch Justine Joli as well because she rocks, bringing her all into every film she does.


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. . . There is not much difference in your STD risk between spitting and swallowing — its the sucking on an unwrapped penis or un-dental-damned vagina thats risky when it comes to STDs Exposing yourself to skin-to-skin contact and body fluids whether they are spit out or swallowed during oral sex is how you can get STDs like herpes, gonorrhea and HIV. Even the wording “swallowing sperm” is inaccurate, as if you could separate the sperm from the ejaculate — just as Portia proved you cant separate a pound of flesh from the blood coursing through it, so it is with sperm and spunk.

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. . .I believe that people’s problems with oral sex taste are often more a problem of anticipation and association than anything else. Here’s why.

I’ve spoken and corresponded with hundreds of people over the years about oral sex taste and many tell the same story. They never liked the taste of oral sex until they met one partner in particular and then it was so hot that they ended up loving it, and now they still do. This story always reminds me a bit of the common “I never liked fruitcake until I had this fruitcake” refrain.

But I don’t think what’s going on here is that all these people found the right taste that they love. I think it’s about them connecting that taste and the experience of giving oral sex to intense sexual desire and arousal that they felt with that one partner for the first time. So many of our early sexual experiences are devoid of intense arousal and it’s possible that in these early experiences we start to associate the smells and tastes of our partners’ genitalia with anxiety and fear. With that established we approach each new partner with the same anticipatory anxiety. Until we have our first totally hot experience giving oral sex when we “get” that the smells and tastes aren’t there to ward us off, they are there to draw us closer.

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She lowers her pussy slowly towards my mouth, taking her time, drawing it out with an aching precision. Her lips settle on mine and for the first time this evening I experience the slickness of her sex. I stroke it with my tongue, reintroducing myself to her and a place I love so well. Her musk overwhelms me and I lap up her juices greedily, burying my face in her, pushing into her cunt as deeply as I can. In response she rocks against me, fucking my tongue and grinding her clit into me. I travel up to it and take her as fully as I can into my mouth. I purse my lips and pull her clit towards me, pulsing on the shaft while the tip of my tongue flits in figure eights and then broad strokes over her head. When she braces herself against the wall I start in earnest, rolling my tongue from blade to tip in undulating waves over her engorged sex and rocking my chin into the the flesh of her cunt, which gives slightly, engulfing me as she matches my movements with thrusts of her own.

(more. . . ).

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it dances
the blue spark between my tongue and her clit
just before
sizzling wire meets sizzling wire
just before
i forget my ideas of teasing
of coaxing her
(oh, how those ideas just melt away)
just before
the velvety smoothness of her lips
and the perfume of her sex
turn my head inside out
drawing me into her baptismal grace

(more…)

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Regina Lynn writes:

A recent conference brought sex researchers together for four days to talk about what we do and don’t know about female sexuality, with the general consensus being we don’t know much. Perhaps because “it wasn’t until very recently that anyone thought to test those theories by asking women,” according to Judy Peres, who covered the sixth annual meeting of the International Society for the Study of Women ‘s Sexual Health for the Chicago Tribune.

The whole article is interesting, but one bit that stood out for me is the recognition that when Masters and Johnson were studying female sexuality, they mainly looked at women who were having a lot of sex and enjoying it. But now, we’re looking at what makes women dissatisfied with sex, whether desire can follow arousal instead of the other way around, what happens during orgasm and what we can do to help women want more sex more often. (I have some theories on that, myself.)

As we set scientists loose on women’s sexuality — and I think we should — we need to make sure not to forget that biology and bodies are only part of the equation. Sex tends to happen within a gigantic messy unquantifiable subjective realm known as “relating” and that is not going to submit easily to objective study.

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IMG 0077 Monday NightValentine’s Day Smut: Zaedryn and Rachel read their stories from ‘Best Lesbian Erotica 2007‘ (edited by Tristan Taormino and Emma Donoghue) at Bluestockings Cafe.

IMG 0087 Monday Night‘Under the Covers’ Premiere Party: Rachel Kramer Bussel, Christen Clifford and Lillian Ann Slugocki

IMG 0094 Monday NightUnder the Covers Premiere party: Jamye Waxman (one of the stars of Under the Covers) and her brother Ian. Not shown, her beaming parents.

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LONDON – Doctors shouldn’t shy away from asking patients about their sex lives, a new research paper advises.

Researchers say problems in the bedroom can translate into serious medical conditions, and ignoring sexual dysfunction may mean missing early indicators for heart failure, depression or other ailments, according to a paper published in Friday’s issue of The Lancet.

“Sex is a legitimate part of medicine, but it has largely been kept separate from the rest of medicine,” said Dr. Rosemary Basson, the paper’s lead author. Basson is based at the British Columbia Centre for Sexual Medicine in Vancouver. (more…)

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By HEIDI SINGER, KIERAN CROWLEY & CYNTHIA R. FAGEN

February 1, 2007 — A flamboyant con artist and his Hamptons gal pal videotaped sex romps with married lonely-hearts they met over the Internet – then blackmailed them for thousands of dollars in hush money, police said yesterday.

The scammers went by the screen names “Mr. Nice” and “Gina.” Cops identified them as Michael Largue, 44, of Franklin Square, L.I., and Shawn Payne, 34, of East Hampton, who picked their marks from the sexually explicit Web site FriendFinder.

Largue would lure an unsuspecting woman into a sexual relationship and Payne would do the same with men, police said.

Cops said they know of at least two extortion victims: an upstate woman, 47, they hit up for $51,000, and a man, 43, from Garden City.

The scheme worked well, cops say, because unlike a quickie one-night stand, the alleged blackmailers gained their victims’ personal history during pillow talk over several weeks while videotaping and photographing the sex acts.

“The victims are all upstanding individuals and respected members of their communities,” said Nassau County Police Detective Lt. Ray Cote.

Once a victim was hooked, the shakedown began. (more…)

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NOTE: This essay was written by a woman interviewed by The Washington Post whose mother helps her find dates on Match.com.

Jennifer Aniston. Christie Brinkley. Sheryl Crow. Teri Hatcher. Either dumped or cheated on in a most humiliating and public way.

Every woman in the dating world has thought, “If it can happen to her, it can happen to me.” While he’s snoring away, we think quietly at night about what we can do to make sure it doesn’t happen to us.

We respond by trying to make our stomachs flatter, our boobs bigger, our faces prettier, and our clothes tighter and more revealing. We do everything possible to please our man. You prefer French cooking? Mais oui, mon cher! You want my hair long? No problem, I’ll get a hair extension. Spending part of your vacation with buddies? Go have a good time. You don’t want to be with my family on Christmas? I’ll see you on New Year’s Eve. Is that OK or would you prefer some other time? Do you like my mani-pedi’d, spray on tanned, liposuctioned, Pilates body? Can’t commit? Oh, that’s right. You’re just not that into me. Or her. Or her. Or her.

What the hell has happened? Three words. Match dot com. Match.com and other online dating services have given men access to thousands and thousands of women in every city who look just as great in jeans and a little black dress (the requirement in every man’s profile), a smorgasbord of women each one more delicious to devour than the next. (more…)

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From the website about the Genarlow Wilson case:

Genarlow Wilson sits in prison despite being a good son, a good athlete and high school student with a 3.2 GPA. He never had any criminal trouble. On the day he was to sit for the SAT, at seventeen years old, his life changed forever. He was arrested. In Douglas County he was accused of inappropriate sexual acts at a News Year’s Eve party. A jury acquitted him of the allegation of Rape but convicted him of Aggravated Child Molestation for a voluntary act of oral sex with another teenager. He was 17, and she was 15.

Along with the label “child molester” which will require him throughout his life to be on a sexual offender registry, Genarlow received a sentence of eleven years — a mandatory 10 years in prison and 1 year on probation.

On July 1st, the new Romeo and Juliet law went into effect in Georgia for any other teen that engages in consensual sexual acts. That change in the law means that no teen prosecuted for consensual oral sex could receive more than a 12 months sentence or be required to register as a sex offender.

Had this law been in effect when Genarlow Wilson was arrested, or had been done after the Marcus Dixon case, Genarlow would not now be in jail.

Genarlow and his mother are overjoyed that no one else in Georgia will have to know their pain. In the meantime, however, the legal fight goes on for Genarlow Wilson.

Genarlow has been incarcerated since February 25, 2005. (more…)

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I’ve been thinking a lot about recommendations for first scenes (“scene” is a term for an actual domination experience or session). The funny thing is – I can’t imagine what the ideal best scenes would be. The most important thing about your exploration of domination is that you enjoy it. That means you develop your style around the things that you enjoy (or will enjoy).

I’m sure many submissives would like to see me listing out all these really hot, intense scenes for you to try. In fact, I bet many dominant women have received little notes or printed stories from their partners saying “This is the kind of thing we could try.” Then you read it and realize – Oh my god – he wants me to do THAT? Even some of my own stories are so unrealistic that I feel almost guilty that some men might have forwarded them to their mates as a ‘helpful hint’.

Well, here is my helpful hint. When you consider what your first play time will be like, don’t consider what he wants; consider what you want.

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