. . .I believe that people’s problems with oral sex taste are often more a problem of anticipation and association than anything else. Here’s why.
I’ve spoken and corresponded with hundreds of people over the years about oral sex taste and many tell the same story. They never liked the taste of oral sex until they met one partner in particular and then it was so hot that they ended up loving it, and now they still do. This story always reminds me a bit of the common “I never liked fruitcake until I had this fruitcake” refrain.
But I don’t think what’s going on here is that all these people found the right taste that they love. I think it’s about them connecting that taste and the experience of giving oral sex to intense sexual desire and arousal that they felt with that one partner for the first time. So many of our early sexual experiences are devoid of intense arousal and it’s possible that in these early experiences we start to associate the smells and tastes of our partners’ genitalia with anxiety and fear. With that established we approach each new partner with the same anticipatory anxiety. Until we have our first totally hot experience giving oral sex when we “get” that the smells and tastes aren’t there to ward us off, they are there to draw us closer.
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