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From the monthly archives:
December 2010
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Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #22? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!
Important e[lust] update: e[lust] will be going on hiatus for the holidays. The editions for November and December would both occur around the holidays and I know I’ll be short on both submissions and judges as well as personal time. e[lust] #22 will return in January, with ample advance warning, so please make sure you’re subscribed for updates!
~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
D/s Without the D/s? – This is one of those situations in a real time D/s relationship where much of the “fun” aspects of the D/s needs to be stuffed in the closet for a bit. And for us, it’s not a great time to be either a masochist or a sadist. We can deal with that.
~ e[lust] Editress ~
Yes, Jelly Sex Toys Can be Dangerous – Even if a jelly rubber toy says “phthalate-free”, it still can contain toxic chemicals that can cause skin reactions in some people. These toys are still non-porous and can harbor dirt and bacteria because they cannot be sanitized.
~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
Unfortunately, this edition has no Top Three picks as I didn’t have enough volunteer judges. If you’d like to volunteer to help, visit this page to find out more info and ensure that the Top Three picks continue.
See also: Pleasurists #101 and #100 for all your sex toy review needs.
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!
Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor
All Painted Up…
A Modest Proposal: Should Ginger & Cooper Fuck?
Happy Sexual Freedom Day
How Do You Explain
Life in spanking after 30: part 2
Erotic Writing
blindfold
Fantasy: Movie Night
Feeling Helpless
Gabrielle, Guest Star
Happy Anniversary…
History Lesson
I Still Don’t Know How You Taste
Monday Morning 2am
Metallic Seduction
Need
New Erotic Story For The Holidays – Tinsel Temptation
Putting the car into park
The Ordeal (Part Four)
The Sweetest Violation
The Young Mom
The Moment
The Soccer Mom
Timeless in a Window’s Light
Kink & Fetish
A space to hate and rage and be angry (photo story)
Beyond the Bedroom
Does liking Helmut Newton equal a fetish?
Happy Halloween: Light Me Up
I am all pins and needles
Kink and Fibromyalgia
Ownership and Monogamy
Pi
Punishing the servants
Switching It Up
The Cage
The Sacred Swinger Holiday: Halloween!
the most amazing night with HIM
The Pedicure
The Right Question
Wax on, wax off!
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
All Roads Lead to Acceptance… I hope!
Crisis Averted
Dear boyfriend, I love you. And your cock.
Having Great Goddamned Expectations
If You Google it, I will Answer #9
I Don’t Know If I’ve Ever Been Really Loved By a Hand That’s Touched Me
How to Massage Man’s G-spot
My Coming Out Story
National Coming Out Day
Recovering From Anorexia
Role Reversal
Sadie’s Condom PSA
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Evilyn Fierce on TheTrainingOfO.com
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| 12/19/2010 | ||
| 1:00 PM |
Organized by Art Positive.
A version of “Fire in My Belly” may be viewed on Youtube (you must be signed in).
For more info about other protests, visit Hideseek.org (Chronicling responses to the “Hide/Seek: Difference and Desire in American Portraiture” exhibition and the removal of David Wojnarowicz’s film “A Fire in My Belly.”)
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| 12/17/2010 | ||
| 7:30 PM | to | 9:30 PM |
Join us for a vigil and community speak out
Where: Metropolitan Community Church of New York, Sanctuary (2nd floor), 446 West 36th Street, New York, NY 10018 btw 9th & 10th Aves
Who: Current & former sex workers, our allies, friends, families, and communities. This event is free and open to the public.
Join us in remembering those we’ve lost to violence, oppression and hate, whether perpetrated by clients, partners, police or the state.
We stand against the cycle of violence experienced by sex workers around the world. Recently in Geneva, the United Nations Human Rights Council looked at the human rights record of the United States during their Universal Periodic Review. Uruguay’s recommendation to the Obama Administration – to address “the special vulnerability of sexual workers to violence and human rights abuses” – is the moral leadership we have been waiting for! We come together each year to show the world that the lives of marginalized people, including those of sex workers, are valuable.
Speakers:
* Audacia Ray, Red Umbrella Project & Sex Work Awareness
* Chelsea Johnson-Long, Safe OUTside the System Collective of the Audre Lorde Project
* Michael J. Miller, The Counterpublic Collective and PROS Network
* Andrea Ritchie, Peter Cicchino Youth Project and Streetwise & Wafe (SAS)
Readings
* Reading of the names of sex workers we have lost this past year
* Memorial for Catherine Lique by her daughter Stephanie Thompson and read by Sarah Jenny Bleviss
* Speak out: Bring poetry, writings or just speak your truth.
Light snacks, beverages, and metrocards will be provided.
This event is co-sponsored by: Audre Lorde Project, Babeland, Counterpublic Collective, FIERCE, MADRE, National Latina Institute for Reproductive Health, Peter Cicchino Youth Project, The Queer Commons, PONY (Prostitutes of New York), PROS Network, Red Umbrella Project, SAFER, Sex Work Awareness, Sex Workers Project, SWANK (Sex Workers Action New yorK), SWOP-NYC (Sex Workers Outreach Project), the Space at Tompkins, and Third Wave Foundation.
- Facebook RSVP
- International Day toEnd Violence Against Sex Workers
- Cory Silverberg’s article about International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers
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Holland Cotter:
WASHINGTON — With the exhibition “Hide/Seek: Difference and Desire in American Portraiture,” one of our federally funded museums, the National Portrait Gallery, here in the city of “don’t ask, don’t tell,” has gone where our big private museums apparently dare not tread, deep into the history of art by and about gay artists.
Over the last few years there has been plenty of speculation as to how this show would shape up, and when a copy of the catalog arrived, I felt a bit let down. All the artists were well known — stars — as was most of the work. The whole enterprise looked like an exercise in Hall of Fame-building, rather than like an effort to chip away at the very idea of hierarchy and exclusion. We were getting a “pride” display, an old model, very multicultural 1980s.
Then, when the Catholic League and several members of Congress demanded the removal of a piece — a video by David Wojnarowicz (pronounced voy-nah-ROH-vitch) that included an image of ants crawling on a crucifix — and the gallery, which is part of the Smithsonian, said O.K., we really were in the 1980s, back in the culture wars. Which led me to understand the show in a somewhat different way.
On reconsideration, it seems more purposeful, as if specifically designed to avoid any controversy that might distract from the major point it was trying to make: namely, that work of gay artists was fundamental to the invention of American modernism. Or, put another way, difference had created the mainstream.
But how was the presence of difference defined in art? By subject matter? By style? By the sexual orientation of the artist? And isn’t gayness, the most familiar form of such difference, a period concept, inapplicable to life and art of a century ago? Today the very word is used for convenience rather than categorically, with “queer” often used. (One way to think of it: gay is something you are; queer is something you choose to be outside of the heterosexual norm.)
Clearly the exhibition covers a lot of ground and raises many questions. It also has wonderful art, and the art stays wonderful whether you ask the questions or not. Again this seems part of the plan devised by the curators, David. C. Ward, a historian at the National Portrait Gallery, and Jonathan D. Katz, director of the doctoral program in visual studies at the State University of New York at Buffalo. They have assembled a historical show with a very specific slant, but with rewards for everyone.
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EVERY HO I KNOW SAYS SO is a response to the total lack of accessible online resources for people looking for advice on how to be a good date or lover or partner to a sex worker. We want to support our lovers to continue unlearning the internalized stigma against sex workers, especially in intimate relationships. We think that sex workers themselves have valuable advice and direction to give to people who get into intimate relationships with us. This is the direct message we want to give to our lovers: “We hope that this video is useful to you in your journey to becoming a sex worker-positive and supportive lover and person in the community!!! By continuing to work on your attitudes about our work and educating yourself, you are showing us that you care. We love you!”
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| 12/31/2010 | to | 01/02/2011 |
This three day, three night lifestyle event featuring classes, New Year’s Eve celebration and night time play space will be held at the Radisson Hotel, Piscataway NJ.
Winter Solstice is a three day/night lifestyle event featuring 66 classes consisting of six tracks broken down into four sessions/day. Topics included Bondage/Suspension; Master/slave; SM, Singles, Women, Polyamorous and other eclectic topics. Also featured is a New Year’s Eve Dinner celebrations, pre-paid food plan and three nights in our play space.
For more information, visit the Winter Solstice site.
Fetlife page: http://fetlife.com/events/23218
Black Phoenix on Fetlife: http://fetlife.com/groups/5483
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Directed by Tristan Taormino
Starring Claire Adams, Chayse Evans, April Flores, Sinnamon Love, Adrianna Nicole, Dylan Ryan, Bobbi Starr, Madison Young, Mark Davis, James Deen, Shane Diesel, Richard Mann, Nathan Menace, and Orpheus Black.
The second installment of the AVN Award nominated series from award winning author and filmmaker Tristan Taormino. The scenes are based entirely on the real fantasies of female performers, which run the gamut from dominance to submission. Through deeply personal interviews, you’ll discover their definitions of rough sex, why they love it, how they establish trust with their partners, and what they need to feel safe to play on the edge. With scenes that are part documentary and part erotic vignette, Rough Sex dares to challenge conventional wisdom about the fantasy lives of women.
They create the scenes. They choose their partners. They control what happens. Mistress Claire takes her pet April on an unforgettable ride. Bobbi tastes total submission at the back of her throat. Ponygirl Madison gets trained. Chayse and Mark double team slave Adrianna. Madison bakes a cake for her Mistress with interesting results. Sinnamon serves her Master (and his friends) at a poker game. Each woman shares her most intimate desires, tests her own boundaries, and rides the seductive line between pleasure and pain. Witness female sexuality at its most extreme: raw, rough, and real.
With food fetish play, facesitting, strap-on sex, pony play, flogging, training, clothespins, forced orgasms, spreader bars, bondage, wrestling, slapping, spanking, dominance and submission, service, punishment, knife play, hot wax, and faceslapping, Rough Sex 2 is a lot kinkier than Rough Sex 1. It explores some of the most alluring and taboo elements of BDSM.
Purchase: http://www.puckerup.com/?cPath=&products_id=513&tpid=8
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The remarkable diversity of human behavior across cultures and classes also extends to sex and technology. Most discussions in this area tend to make certain assumptions about the culture, class, and race of the participants. Technologically represented sex tends to be ableist and heterocentric. Who gets left out of this, what effects does this have, and what would it look like to include them?
Is there working class, middle class and upper class porn? How does the commercial sex industry reproduce and enforce racial, gender, and class exploitation and dominance? How do people use sex and sexual technology to transgress or change social status? How can DIY porn and sex tech counter the social injustices reproduced by the commercial sex industry? Does gay porn make use of the class, race, and power tropes found in heterosexual pornography, and if so, how?
Is kinkiness a luxury? What does kink from different social classes look like? Can economic realities poison the power dynamics of a D/S relationship? What are the demographics of people admitted to hospitals with weird objects up their asses? Does activity in a swinger or BDSM scene act as bridging social capital? Are there class dynamics at work in the feminist debate over porn?
How and why do governments intervene in sexualities? When do governments shape or use sexual desire, both implicitly and explicitly? Can sex tech challenge the future of biopolitics and what Michel Foucault calls “biopower” (the subjugation of bodies and the control of populations by modern states)?
What are the labor conditions of non-Western workers who make most of the world’s sex toys? What’s the environmental footprint of a technologically assisted orgasm? How does the criminalization or stigma of sex tech production harm the communities in which it is produced? What’s the product life-cycle and planning horizon of sex tech? What are the barriers to entry for sex tech production? How important is intellectual property to sex tech, and how is it enforced?
What does production, regulation, distribution, and consumption of sex tech look like outside of North America, Western Europe, and Japan? How do state-sponsored religions or religious states interact with these issues? How do majority Muslim cultures differ from one another and from non-Muslim cultures on these issues? What’s the intersection of sex tourism and sex tech? Is Japan’s pornographic dominance in the Asian market an exception to the Korean wave? How does a country’s pornography (or lack thereof) reflect its culture? Who consumes racist pornography?
How do the class and cultural impacts of differential access to shifting reproductive technologies like IVF, surrogacy (especially international surrogates), egg and sperm donors, birth control, and abortions affect the ways people have sex and construct relationships? Do these technologies or their social deployment enforce heteronormativity? How could the sex tech industry positively impact control and awareness of STIs?
What’s the intersection of sex tech and hospitals or hospice care? Where are the sex toys for the elderly? Where are the sex toys for prisoners? What are the pornography surfing habits of homeless people in libraries? Can technology meaningfully contribute to solutions for sexual social problems like rape? Should the government allow or require masturbation aids in prisons to reduce prison rape? Should your health insurance be paying for your vibrator? How do your sex toys hurt you? What are the health risks of using everyday objects as sex toys when you can’t afford the good stuff?
Who buys sex tech? Is sex technology a luxury? Does the demand elasticity for sex tech vary across subcultures? By age, sexual orientation, race, etc? How much does the average lesbian couple spend on sex toys? What are the substitutes employed to or within sex tech if it’s unaffordable or unavailable? Is consumption of sex tech correlated with any other social significant behaviors or consumptions, positive or negative? How do distribution methods affect who consumes sex tech? How will the DIY movement change the sex tech market? Will we be able to print our on sex toys on rapid prototyping machines?
Who can afford to challenge sex tech?
Please email: office AT monochrom.at
Johannes Grenzfurthner/monochrom (Conference organizer)
- Arse Elektronika web site
- Arse Elektronika blog
- Arse Elektronika on the web
- Arse Elektronika (Wikipedia)
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The Leather Archives & Museum is seeking to compile resources about fetishes that we don’t usually hear about. We hope to expand our collections to cover a wider range of alternative sexualities.
We are interested in anything that has to do with unusual fetishes — objects, stories, pornography, erotica, websites, conversations — really, anything! Fetishes we don’t have much experience with include feet, fursuits, amputations, robots, dolls, balloons, tentacles, sneezing, crushing objects — but there are simply too many fetishes in the world for a comprehensive list.
We at the Leather Archives & Museum have plenty of experience with coming to terms with unusual sexual desires. Our goal is not to exoticize alternative sexuality, nor do we intend to shame anyone who discusses alternative sexuality with us. Our goal is to preserve the history of alternative sexuality — all alternative sexuality.
We respect your privacy. Anything you send us or tell us can be kept under your real name or a pseudonym, as you prefer.
The point person for this project is Clarisse Thorn, who can be reached by email at clarisse at leatherarchives dot org. You can also leave her a voice message if you call the Leather Archives at 773.761.9200.
ABOUT THE LA&M: The Leather Archives & Museum is devoted to preserving the history of alternative sexuality. By sharing your experience with the Leather Archives & Museum, you will be helping us document sexual practices that are not widely recorded or understood. The Leather Archives & Museum is located at 6418 N. Greenview Avenue in the Rogers Park neighborhood of Chicago, IL, USA; you can visit the website at www.leatherarchives.org.
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- » wanna participate? The Visibility Project – The Visibility Project is a photographic portraiture series focused on the Queer Asian American identified community. All the participants have identified as female at one time and the project is inclusive to: trans, ftm, mtf, genderqueer, bisexuals, lesbian, gay, intersex, andro, two-spirit, or any other gender or sexual identifications…Seeking participants who are willing to be photographed at a studio in Brooklyn, NY during the last week of December. Date(s) have not been finalized yet, but please send an email or post a comment if you’d like to be a part of this amazing project. The shoot dates will be between Dec 28th and Jan 2. Looking for all ages, no modeling experience necessary, just be willing to be photographed and interviewed, plan to spend about 20-30 minutes at the location. When the dates are finalized, time-slots will be given to each participant.
- WGLB: Sex and Civilization: The Body as Battleground – But if liberated sexuality is world-destroying from the mythic, fundamentalist point of view, it is world-creating from a pluralistic one.
- Twelve Ways To Scare Away Twitter Followers | Fiction Groupie –
- When’s the Best Time to Publish Blog Posts? | Problogger – I found that among very popular blogs, publishing multiple times per day led to a huge increase in a blog’s success. This tells us that rather than focusing one perfect day or time, we should aim to publish at many times, and on many days.
- Trve West Coast Fiction: Ethics Part I (Danny Wylde) – So here is my self-assigned homework: Talk to those who produce what I believe to be “ethical porn,” interview performers on what they feel differentiates a safe work environment from one that is degrading or dis-empowering, and do my best to figure out if there is any discernible way for consumers to figure out what type of product will get him/her off and still provide a clean conscious.
- Legit or Unfit? Finding Safe, Sound Sex Educators & Support Online | Scarleteen – Not every good sex educator or person you can trust to talk with about sexuality online and get reliable information from has one kind or set of credentials, nor one kind of experience or background. There are formal and informal routes into doing sex ed as your gig, and a lot of different avenues into the field. But even with our diversity, there are some common threads and some typical ways you can figure whose information and help you can trust and whose you probably shouldn't.
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Gallery Carre
