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July 2010

Bookmarks

by Viviane on 07/30/2010

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Sapphic Erotica

by Viviane on 07/29/2010

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sapphic16 Sapphic Erotica

Full gallery (16 pictures)

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Lolita’s NYC Picks of the Week: July 29 – August 4

by Lolita Wolf on 07/29/2010

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3 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: July 29 August 4

A new munch in NYC: “Dom Women/Masculine Sub Men First Munch” on Friday at 7:30pm at Pot Luck Asian Cuisine, 255 W 26th St. They’ll be going on to the TES Papparazzo Party across the street at Paddles afterward.

Saturday night check out the Submit Party for Women and Trans in Park Slope, Brooklyn. Call for exact location 718-789-4053

On Sunday, MAsT Metro NY‘s topic is “Feeding the Master Heart/slave heart.”

Sir Guy will be at TES with his “Styles of Dominance: Leadership” class on Tuesday.

I wish I could be at two places at once on Wednesday: Pleasure Salon as well as the TES Bondage SIG with Zelda teaching “Insertable Hooks.”

11 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: July 29 August 4

Felony and Curt Wooster on DivineBitches.com

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My letter to Facebook about removing the Our Porn, Ourselves page #proporn (Violet Blue)

by Viviane on 07/28/2010

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Hello,

I’m Violet Blue: bestselling and award-winning author, and educator who speaks from UCSF and UC Berkley (Boalt) to Google Inc. Tech Talks on my field of expertise — exactly what this Facebook group page was about.

My page did not violate any of the reasons stated for deletion. It was under constant attack by people who disagreed with our point of view, and constantly reported our posts and images, even though we were very careful not to violate your Terms. May I find out why the page was removed? It is my utmost priority to follow and uphold Facebook community rules and standards. With national media attention to the page, questions will be raised and I hope to be able to furnish answers. Especially with a higher minded page of over 3000 members seeking community and discussion around a topic that did not target any group, threaten anyone, or link/depict/suggest inappropriate content. In fact, I policed the posts hourly for spam and attacks on our members, of which there were many. We never posted obscenity in links or images, though innocent user photos seemed to be increasingly mysteriously removed.

I feel that our page was targeted, and that we did nothing to violate the community standards of Facebook, which we sought to uphold. Any help to find out why this has happened would be deeply appreciated. I do not want to be talking to press about this in the next few days and be left guessing. We sought a safe place to discuss sex culture in media, and that is all.

I sincerely hope we can resolve this. Salon and Examiner wrote about our page as a signifier of community organization around women’s empowerment, calling it a new movement for women’s rights. I could tell we were under attack by those who violently opposed our discussions and representation as a community intersection for enriched discussions about important women’s rights issues. This development is confusing and saddening.

This fostering of group community around female empowerment and the page topic stems from my work as a talkshow guest (Oprah), international conference speaker, and columnist for various national and international magazines and publications (Oprah Magazine, Forbes.com, MacLife, etc) and media pundit (Wall Street Journal, MSNBC, Esquire, Redbook, Wired, etc).

Please help me understand what I can tell media outlets asking about this, and the over 3K member we had in the page group.

Sincere thanks,
Violet Blue

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Bookmarks

by Viviane on 07/26/2010

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  • Samuel Steward’s Life in ‘Secret Historian’ – NYTimes.com – When the author Justin Spring finally tracked down the executor of Samuel Steward’s estate, he had no idea what this sexual outlaw and little-known literary figure had left behind after his death in 1993…So he was taken unawares by the 80 boxes full of drawings, letters, photographs, sexual paraphernalia, manuscripts and other items, including an autograph and reliquary with pubic hair from Rudolph Valentino, a thousand-page confessional journal Steward created at the request of the sex researcher Alfred Kinsey, and a green metal card catalog labeled “Stud File,” which contained a meticulously documented record on index cards of every sexual experience and partner — Rock Hudson, Thornton Wilder, “One-eyed Sadist” — that Steward said he had had over 50 years.
  • Interrogating Sexual Intentions on Mad Men | Cory Silverberg – Whatever the season brings I plan to follow Don's lesson about sex to Peggy; "Sex doesn't sell. You are the product. You feeling something is what sells." Watching characters we know have sex, particularly the ones we think are hot, may be fun, but it's what the sex makes them feel, makes us feel, that's far more interesting.
  • The Lesbians Who Love Male Gay Porn – The Daily Beast – “I wouldn’t have guessed lesbians would want to watch porn that didn’t have women,” said a straight woman who recently saw the Lisa Cholodenko comedy.
  • Prohibitionists, where are the answers when comparing sex work and straight work « Bound, Not Gagged – I have been far more harmed by “straight jobs” than I ever was as either a stripper or an independent escort.
  • GLAAD – Publications – Network Responsibility Index: 2009 – 2010 – The fourth annual GLAAD Network Responsibility Index is an evaluation of the quantity, quality and diversity of images of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people on television. It is intended to serve as a road map toward increasing fair, accurate and inclusive LGBT media representations.<br />
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    Primetime programming on the five broadcast networks (ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox and NBC) was evaluated as well as 10 highly-rated cable networks (A&E, ABC Family, FX, HBO, Lifetime, MTV, Showtime, TBS, TNT and USA). Based on the analysis, a grade was assigned to each network: Excellent, Good, Adequate, or Failing.

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Bookmarks

by Viviane on 07/22/2010

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  • N.Y.U. Doesn’t Want Film of Larry Rivers’s Naked Daughters – NYTimes.com – After it came to light last week that films and videotapes made by the artist Larry Rivers included footage of his two daughters naked, New York University informed his foundation that it did not want those materials included as part of the archive it was purchasing, said John Beckman, a spokesman for N.Y.U.<br />
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    That leaves the question of what to do with the films and tapes, which are now in the hands of the Larry Rivers Foundation and which Mr. Rivers’s younger daughter, Emma Tamburlini, wants turned over to her and her sister, Gwynne Rivers. Mr. Rivers died in 2002.
  • Buttman v. The Man: D.C.’s First Big Obscenity Trial in Decades Fails to Determine the Obscenity of Milk Enemas – The Sexist – Washington City Paper – But after the trial, jurors were more concerned with what wasn’t in Milk Nymphos: Violence. Rape. Bestiality. Kids. “These people were adults and they were willing. No one put a gun to their head,” Crawford said. “Had they brought a child out in pampers, then we would have been like, hell no,” Mordecai added. In opening arguments, the defense emphasized that the only entity forcing anyone to watch porn is the government. “The movies are not—and are not meant to be—distributed to these 14 strangers sitting in a federal courthouse,” defense attorney Paul Cambria said. The films feature “adults putting on a performance…for another adult, who would make that choice [to watch it] if that were his or her cup of tea.”
  • Stagliano Case: A Pyrrhic Victory? « Blogging Censorship – Not prepared to alienate anybody, Holder told a panel of congressmen that he will pursue, with limited resources, obscenity cases that have the “greatest potential for harm” while being aware of First Amendment considerations.
  • District To Pay Lesbian Teen $35K Over Prom Dispute : NPR – A school district in rural Mississippi that canceled its prom rather than allow a lesbian student to attend with her girlfriend has agreed to pay $35,000 to settle a discrimination lawsuit the ACLU filed on her behalf.

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Erotic short film competition: The Female Gaze

by Viviane on 07/22/2010

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FTG Erotic short film competition: The Female Gaze

To celebrate our 7th birthday,  For The Girls is holding an erotic film competition. Our aim is to discover new short films that depict an erotic subject from a female point of view.

THE FEMALE GAZE

The “gaze” is a term used to describe the way visual depictions present people and situations from a gendered perspective. Almost all mainstream movies and porn is presented with a male gaze; it assumes the audience is male and the camera acts like a man’s eye, looking at things as a man would.

The female gaze is the opposite. Films and photos shot using the female gaze speak to a female audience and depict a woman’s perspective.

Our short film competition aims to encourage the female gaze in erotic film.

THE COMPETITION

We are seeking original high quality short films up to 10 minutes in length that offer an erotic experience from a female perspective. Films do not have to be explicit but should deal with erotic or sexual themes in some way. Ideally we want to see arousing, thought-proving and moving films that capture a woman’s experience of sex or sexuality.

Entries don’t have to be made by professionals. First-time filmmakers are welcome. We are happy to see submissions from anyone with a desire to create good female-friendly erotic art.

Films should feature the official signature item, the number 7, in some way. The signature item can be peripheral or central to the story but it must be present in some form in order for the film to be eligible.

There are no fees to enter this competition.

THE PRIZES

First Prize is US$400 and a screening of the winning film at Cinekink Film Festival in New York in 2011.

Second Prize is US$100.

The top 5 films will also go onto Cinekink for automatic consideration in that festival.

The two winning films will feature prominently within the member’s area of For The Girls. We will also consider non-exclusively licensing other entries for use within the site.

DEADLINE

The Female Gaze erotic film competition officially opens on Monday June 14, 2010

Final deadline for entries is Monday, August 16, 2010

Winners will be announced on Monday August 30, 2010

More information: http://www.thefemalegaze.com/

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SMOOTH HOTEL show held over for the summer

by Lolita Wolf on 07/22/2010

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1 SMOOTH HOTEL show held over for the summer

SMOOTH HOTEL features Barbara Nitke‘s provocative photographs of chic people misbehaving in anonymous hotel settings. The photography series is in collaboration with New York fashion designers Tom and Linda Platt. You can see it at 69 Gansevoort Street, NYC through August 22, 2010.

Update 7/28: Barbara emailed me to say 69 Gansevoort has closed. But Season Two of the acclaimed SMOOTH HOTEL fashion/art soap opera photo series begins shooting this fall with an expanded cast of actors, models and wonderful clothes from Tom and Linda Platt.

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Lolita’s NYC Picks of the Week: July 22-28

by Lolita Wolf on 07/21/2010

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8 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: July 22 28

There’s a new group in town call NYC Submissive Society. Their first monthly meeting is with guest host Eric Pride on Thursday.

Also Thursday night is Lip Service, a pansexual kissing and cocktails party.

On Friday night, submissive women are invited to preview and critique a new movie, Absolute Trust. 6pm at the LGBT Center.

Looks like there is a new bi-monthly play party in town: Wicked NYC. Saturday night. This is in the space where LSM had their Leather Pride party – really nice.

Sunday night is Suspension! You can play outside on the roof!

Monday night, check out The Pleasure Chest‘s free class: Blow Jobs and Beyond.

Tuesday night at TES, it’s a Hands-On evening of Sensation & Deprivation.

Corey Alexander presents “You Don’t Just Do It Once: Ongoing Relationship Negotiation in Polyamory” at TES on Wednesday night.

5 Lolitas NYC Picks of the Week: July 22 28

James Deen and Cali Lakai on sexandsubmission.com

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Bookmarks

by Viviane on 07/20/2010

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  • Grab Your Dick and Double Click : Librarian Hot – It should come as no surprise that I really enjoyed the Blue and Lust books, while I wanted to throw the Jensen and Paul books across the room (or out the window, or off of a really big cliff). I do agree with them about a few things: for one, that pornography addiction is real, and it can cause serious damage to relationships (as can, of course, any addiction or compulsive behavior). I also agree that most mainstream porn is indeed extremely misogynistic. But do you know what I find even more demeaning to women? Anti-porn crusaders’ tired gender essentialism arguments.
  • How the Media Should Treat the Sexual Assault Allegations Against Al Gore | The Nation – A handful of feminist blogs, including Feministing, precede me in decrying the media's haste to impugn the credibility of the accuser. As they rightly observe, almost all other media coverage of the story has given the rest of us permission to giggle, when what we really need is a sober dose of reality: that these are credible charges against a very powerful and influential man. It's in our shared interest to take them seriously, evaluate them based on whatever information comes to light and demand answers and accountability.
  • The New Abortion Providers – NYTimes.com – This abortion-rights campaign, led by physicians themselves, is trying to recast doctors, changing them from a weak link of abortion to a strong one. Its leaders have built residency programs and fellowships at university hospitals, with the hope that, eventually, more and more doctors will use their training to bring abortion into their practices. The bold idea at the heart of this effort is to integrate abortion so that it’s a seamless part of health care for women — embraced rather than shunned.
  • For Women, Social Media is More Than "Girl Talk" | Mashable – It turns out that sociolinguists have found women to be innovators when it comes to communication, especially with new forms of languages. … The practical benefits that social media affords, combined with its emotionally fulfilling features make it likely that women will not only continue to engage with social media, but with future related innovations, as well.

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Bookmarks

by Viviane on 07/19/2010

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by Viviane on 07/16/2010

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  • Love in the Age of the Pickup Artist | Stendhal Among the Seducers | The Point Magazine – In other words, it is not enough that playfulness be taken up in the service of seriousness; the seriousness must always be present alongside the playfulness, bound up with it in a constant synthesis. This means that the lover will have to show his hand every once in a while, even if he is quick to hide it again. And this also means that love will always bring with it some portion of terror. Because his heart is at stake, the lover will feel the terror of losing the beloved, even in the moment she gives herself to him. This is the terror the seducer believes he has bypassed. Maybe he has—but in doing so the chance for love has slipped through his fingers. Because he does not sow, he cannot reap. There is no way around this.
  • Study: Fish-oil supplements may cut breast-cancer risk | Seattle Times Newspaper – Researchers at the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center surveyed more than 35,000 postmenopausal women in Western Washington and found that those who took omega-3 fish-oil supplements had a 32 percent lower incidence of breast cancer, but senior author Emily White doesn't recommend that women begin taking the highly touted capsules.
  • Star Witness Makes a Liar out of Stagliano’s Prosecution – Reason Magazine – The prosecution can no longer vouch for the integrity of its own star witness. FBI Special Agent Bradley is the only one to testify that he watched the entire content of the films in question and deemed them obscene, so if the prosecution has serious doubts about the honesty and accuracy of his testimony, the government has a responsibility to not present that testimony to the jury. And there are good reasons for doubting Bradley.<br />
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    In Thursday's proceedings, Bradley claimed that prosecutor Pamela Satterfield told him to review the movies before the trial began at the behest of Judge Richard Leon, so that he could recall better on the witness stand basic elements of the movies, including action and dialogue. If Bradley's statement is true, it would be a shocking breach of ethics by Judge Leon—you can't have impartial arbiters helping the prosecution prepare witnesses.
  • What turns women on: less kitsch, more context – The Globe and Mail – Swedish filmmaker Erika Lust favours everyday hook-up scenarios and modern apartment settings over Mafia dons on yachts.<br />
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    Female-friendly erotica features the guy next door and showcases the bed linens, says filmmaker Erika Lust

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Bookmarks

by Viviane on 07/15/2010

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by Viviane on 07/14/2010

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  • Fox Television Stations, Inc. v. FCC | 2nd Circuit (text of opinion) – “the FCC’s policy violates the First Amendment because it is unconstitutionally vague, creatin.g a chilling effect that goes far beyond the fleeting expletives at issue here.
  • Supreme Court Strikes Down FCC’s Indecency Policy – WSJ.com – A three-judge panel of the Second U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals in New York said the Federal Communications Commission’s indecency policies violate the First Amendment and are “unconstitutionally vague, creating a chilling effect that goes far beyond the fleeting expletives at issue here.” (Fox v. FCC)
  • “Buttman’s” porn obscenity trial: Why it matters | Salon.com – Whatever the outcome, the moment in our legal history when at last we recognize that community is now everybody with a computer, that “prurience” is in all our cable boxes and our hotel rooms — and that civilization has somehow managed to continue to exist anyway — may soon be upon us.
  • IML 2010 and Getting Real About Contests | Race Bannon – I now liken the contest circuit to the court system within the larger LGBT community. It has its own community, priorities, protocols, rituals, honors, awards and social constructs. It is a subset of the overall LGBT community, but does not necessarily “represent” that entire community in the sense that not all LGBT folks relate to the court system or its adherents. They might attend a court event or mix socially with court members and winners, but that doesn’t mean they relate to them personally whatsoever. That’s not a judgment, just an observation.

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Twitter Updates for 2010-08-14

by Viviane on 07/11/2010

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  • VSC Twitter Updates for 2010-07-10: VSC Bookmarks: Making a Hot Mess out of “Feminist” TV | where is your line? – … http://bit.ly/dbZ1ky #
  • VSC Submissions Wanted: Women’s Words on Their Orgasms:

    Midori by Steve Diet Goedde

    Midori is seeking submiss… http://bit.ly/dzra6b #

  • The Secret In Their Eyes is devastating and brilliant. GO see it. #

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