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A group link blog about sex and sexuality
From the monthly archives:
Jessica Bangkok and Derrick Pierce on sexandsubmission.com
Thursday, May 28
Pleasure Chest: “JoyStick Secrets: How to Thrill a Man†w/ Midori
TES Relationships SIG: “On the Road” w/ Ken, gee, & Boymeat
Alphabet Soup
Night of the Queens Femdom Play Party
Friday, May 29
TES: Intro to Practical Suspension w/ Cordage
TES Hangman’s Party: A Fettered Fete
Paradise Lost Party
Saturday, May 30
Empire City Motorcycle Club‘s 45th Annual Biker’s Picnic
Smack Party
Sunday, May 31
GMSMA Workshop: “Extreme Home Makeover”
ONYX-Pearls Northeast Meeting
Suspension Party
Monday, June 1
Tuesday, June 2
TES: “Punching in the Face (and Other Places)†w/ Angel and Sebastien
Wednesday, June 3
TES Dominant men/submissive women’s SIG: “Is Submissiveness Learned Behavior or in your Genes?†w/ Slave Lisa
Pleasure Salon
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Photo: Furry Girl
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
Bare-Assed Cheek (2): Punishment and Reward
“His finger glides up the inner side of my left thigh.â€
Lilly’s Turn – Part 1: Wherein a Power Play is Made
“I asked her, outright, if she considered herself submissive.â€
…please…
“Exquisite pain heralding exquisite surrender.â€
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Is Sasha Grey going mainstream?
Sugasm Editor
A Difficult Scenario
Editor’s Choice
Just Looking
News, Reviews & Interviews
Horny Goat Weed: The Facts
Top Five Tuesday – Pop Culture Porn
Uniram Manual Sex Machine
Sex Advice
Ask Miss Bliss – She Brings Her Man To The All-Girl Sex Party
Guide to First-Time Anal Sex
How to Make Your Own Fucking Machine
BDSM & Fetish
“Dominant Savant…?â€
Microfantasy Monday: Tits
More?
My favorite spanking blogs
Riffing on Brent Scott Riffing on Socrates (was Meeting BS)
Thank you, Jay Wiseman
What’s in the box?
Erotic Writing & Experiences
Burning the Midnight Oil
Camera Shy, Part 4
Couch. Confession #278
Drowning In Lust
Each Exquisite Stroke
Fantasy to Reality
I Like Being a Dirty Bitch
Miss blue that Naughty Little Voyeur
Play
Safe Haven
Sexy Skills
Sissy
Sleep Fucking
NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Bianca Beauchamp on a road trip
HNT – Thursday, May 21st, 2009
Hungarian Viva TV presenter is totally nude
Kim Kardashian Playboy Nude Pictures – Few More
Love HNT
Playful Flower
Stunning blonde schoolgirl is punished
“Vixen†-HNT
Sex Humor
A Chocolate Dick Treat
The Secret to Soul Mates
Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Blow Jays
Darling, You Look Wonderful Tonight
Have you seen her…?
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LA Times article on the upholding of Proposition 8:
“The justices uphold the same-sex marriage ban but also rule that the 18,000 gay couples who wed before November will stay married. The decision is sure to spark another ballot box fight.”
American Foundation for Equal Rights is supporting the lawsuit filed by top litigators Ted Olson and David Boies.
Above the Law has a post on the backstory of the Sonia Sotomayor nomination for the U.S. Supreme Court:
“This afternoon, we participated in a conference call between a senior Administration official and several reporters, to discuss the Sotomayor nomination. Here’s a quick write-up of the call.”
SCOTUS Blog discusses the likely lines of attack that will be directed at her:
” But the most extreme interest groups and ideologues are transparently uninterested in that reasoned debate as they rush to caricature the nominee and the opposing viewpoint.”
Deng Yu Jiao, a female hotel worker in Hunan province, China, stabbed to death a local party after he demanded sex from her. There’s been a lot of public support for her case and she’s been promised a fair trial.
NYC Comptroller William Thompson has issued a report declaring that marriage equality for LGBT couples would garner the state an additional $210M in revenue in the first three years. [Joe.My.God]
If you attended Sex 2.0, please fill out the survey and read about the 2010 Steering Committee.
An article at RH Reality Check analyzes AT&T vs. Hulteen:
“The case examined the pension payments for a number of former female employees of AT&T who had taken maternity leave before passage of the Pregnancy Discrimination Act, which clarified that under Title VII of the Civil Rights Act pregnancy discrimination counted as sex discrimination. Now, AT&T is defining unpaid maternity of these employees as personal leave from the company. Â And the court has now ruled that such personal leave doesn’t and shouldn’t count toward these women’s pensions.”
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SAN FRANCISCO (AP) — The California Supreme Court upheld a voter-approved ban on same-sex marriage Tuesday, but it also decided that the estimated 18,000 gay couples who tied the knot before the law took effect will stay wed.
Demonstrators outside the court yelled “shame on you!” Gay rights activists immediately promised to resume their fight, saying they would go back to voters as early as next year in a bid to repeal the ban.
The 6-1 decision written by Chief Justice Ron George rejected an argument by gay rights activists that the ban revised the California Constitution’s equal protection clause to such a dramatic degree that it first needed the Legislature’s approval.
The court said the Californians have a right, through the ballot box, to change their constitution.
“In a sense, petitioners’ and the attorney general’s complaint is that it is just too easy to amend the California Constitution through the initiative process. But it is not a proper function of this court to curtail that process; we are constitutionally bound to uphold it,” the ruling said.
The justices said the 136-page majority ruling does not speak to whether they agree with the voter-approved Proposition 8 or “believe it should be a part of the California Constitution.”
They said they were “limited to interpreting and applying the principles and rules embodied in the California Constitution, setting aside our own personal beliefs and values.”
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Starring Serenity’s Alan Tudyk gives Belladonna his single-gun salute.
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I’m a little back logged on links and just catching up now.
Typeface in skin [via Kinkerbelle]
No sooner, does it get announced, then it gets torn down.
http://edition.cnn.com/2009/WORLD/asiapcf/05/19/china.sex.park/
Confessions of an Ivy League Pornographer: an Ivy League graduate’s adventures in porn valley
On the 40th anniversary of the Stonewall riots, the NY Public Library is hosting a special exhibition, 1969: The Year of Gay Liberation. There will also be free public events related to the exhibition.
AtlAsien over at Racialicious talks about geisha cultists:
“But the weirdest piece has got to be white women. You would think they wouldn’t have a stake in this dynamic, but the most ardent geisha-worshippers seem to be white women who identify with geisha. They want to remake themselves into treasured objects. They want to steal a sexuality that’s already stolen.”
Clarisse Thorn has been asked to curate a pansexual BDSM books exhibit at the Leather Archives & Museum. Please nominate and vote for your favorite BDSM fiction titles. The poll closes June 1st.
Eurogeneticist and evolutionary biologist Dr. Sharon Moalem’s new book, How Sex Works, explores the culture & science of sex.
Registration is now open for TESFest, July 2-5.
A photoset of the uber hot Chloé des Lysses from the mid 90′s [via Thor]
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Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex #1: Cunnilingus (2006)
Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid/Smart Ass Productions
Cast: Justine Joli, Ariel X, Kelly Kline, Richard Kline, Cindy Crawford, Jack Lawrence, Tristan Taormino (non-sex)
Well-known sex writer, educator and anal expert, Tristan Taormino, has been directing adult educational films since her debut with “Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women” (Evil Angel, 1999). Both her guides and her Chemistry Series (reality TV meets gonzo porn) have been very popular with critics. In “Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex #1: Cunnilingus” she covers the art or oral sex for women, starring Justine Joli who demos a live workshop followed by two hetero couple scenes and a bonus scene with Justine and Ariel X. This is categorically an instructional video and not porn that is meant to titillate, unlike Nina Hartley’s guides, which are a bit of both.
Scene 1: Workshop with Justine Joli, Ariel X, and workshop attendees
Justine begins by educating her class on female sexual anatomy with the aid of a diagram and then on live model Ariel X. The instruction is fairly basic, but if you didn’t know much about female genitalia, then you would definitely get something out of this. I myself learned a new word: “fourchette” which is the skin where the inner lips meet at the bottom of the vulva.
Next, Justine demonstrates cunninglingus techniques and various positions with Ariel. Justine has a very long and nimble tongue, so you can see clearly what she is doing and tell that she is definitely an expert at female oral sex.
Scene 2: Kelly and Richard Kline
Kelly and Richard have been together since Kelly was sixteen. Richard knows Kelly’s body well and is very aware of how she responds to different techniques both verbally and through her body language, which both of them say is key to pleasuring your partner. I found the scene(s) a little bit long (it is cut up to show various positions) and it is shot from mainly the same angle with little variation (except for a few close-ups) which gets a bit tedious after a while. This leaves the scene feeling a bit static and you don’t really experience much momentum building because of it. Then again, it is meant to be instructional and not pornographic or artistic. The good thing is that the menus will let you view various parts of the scene if you wish. It does demonstrate the various positions very well and Tristan seems to be quite fond of Liberator Shapes.
Scene 3: Cindy Crawford and Jack Lawrence
I enjoyed watching this scene quite a bit more as Cindy and Jack are fairly dynamic characters. Jack begins by saying why he loves eating pussy and he is quite passionate about it. His tip for dealing with cunninglingus fatigue: Eat more pussy!
Next, Cindy exits a bathtub and Jack shaves her pussy for her, which Tristan says (voice-over) can be quite erotic. Tristan also talks about how some women feel uncomfortable about their genital odors, which she says can be cured by frequent bathing, especially just before the act of oral sex. Although, this sounds like common sense, I’m glad Tristan brought it up, as many women do have that fear, so it is a good point to make.
Jack definitely knows his way around a pussy and takes his good old time getting to the sensitive bit, the clitoris. This is one of his techniques as he allows for a build-up of tension and arousal, so when he finally does get there, Cindy is going crazy. He sensually licks Cindy’s inner thighs and all around her mound, and then teases her occasionally by licking quickly over her pussy and clit. When he finally goes for the kill, Cindy is possessed by passion. He demonstrates the “ice cream” lick, a long vertical lick from the fourchette to the clitoral hood, and horizontal tongue flickering. Justine says in the beginning workshop that many women prefer the horizontal flickering (side to side) more than the vertical licking, which is something I didn’t know. I guess I have never really analyzed what types of licks I like when receiving oral sex as it all felt good, but I will make a point of testing this theory out now. Another point that Tristan makes is that some women prefer one side of the clitoris over the other, which I have found to be true when I masturbate, and for me it is the 9 o’clock position. I have also heard this from a girlfriend of mine who is a self-appointed expert at cunninglingus. This scene is also a bit long, but there is more vibrant action, so doesn’t feel static and there seems to be much more variation in cutting from close-ups to long angles. Jack ends by rimming Cindy which she says later drives her wild.
Bonus Scene: Justine Joli and Ariel X
I am really glad they added this scene to show oral sex between two women making the film more diverse. I think many guys become pretty good at giving girl head from lots of practice, but many women at more tentative or too enthusiastic with their techniques, because they don’t get as much practice. At least I have found that is the case for me and my partner: Gladiator (which roughly translated means” Glad-he-ate-her) a nickname he has had since I met him. I guess it goes without saying he is a confident pussy licker.
Again, Justine goes down on Ariel and does a fantastic job eating her out with that super-fantastic Gene Simmons’ tongue of hers. They then reposition themselves for a 69 and the scene has lots of enthusiasm.
Extras: Playing with Toys & Safe Sex
Tristan adds two extras as described above which demos using toys with oral sex, and then safe sex which demos using dental dams, plastic wrap and making a tongue condom. There are also trailers for Tristan’s other films including her “Expert Guide to Anal Sex”, “Chemistry”, and “Chemistry 2″, which I can’t wait to see.
Things that worked well: Tristan uses voice over throughout the scenes to give a few tips that are being demoed which are very useful. The music is mellow and unobtrusive.
Things that didn’t work well: Tristan uses these “pop-ups”, kind of like pop-up video, which are a bit distracting and many times hard to read. Although it is a cute and novel idea, I think her voice-overs are more effective. Also, the audio quality is sometimes lacking in the segments, and some of the shooting is very static as I already expressed.
“Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex #1: Cunnilingus” is a superb film and excellent guide, especially for those who feel they lack certain skills. I think anyone can learn something new watching this film and I know I did. I definitely recommend this film to couples or anyone who wants to become a cunninglingus artist. It is always great to watch Justine Joli as well because she rocks, bringing her all into every film she does.
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Image by Autumn Sonnichsen Photography found via The Alexa Collection
Pleasurists is your round-up of the adult product reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #28? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #30? Submit it here before Sunday May 25th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.
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On to the reviews…
Editor’s Pick
To find the kind of inventor who cares enough to think things through, you need to look past the mainstream. Leave the well-trod paths behind, and explore the odd little shops where the master artisans do their work.
The Five-Contact Spark Plug is that kind of masterpiece.
Rupert Huse, who designed the Spark Plug, was clearly thinking about female anatomy and erotic response.
Editor’s Note: I’m fascinated with Electrosex and both this review and Themistokles’ other review this week deals directly with it, not only does this review give great information about the toy at hand it also talks about other similar items from other companies by comparison and is generally well written and enticing. Loved it!
Vibrators
Dildos
Anal Toys
Toys for Cocks
Lube, Bath Stuff, & etc.
BDSM/Fetish
Adult Books
Adult Movies/Porn
Miscellaneous
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Which brings me, finally, to the next generation of attenders, the so-called “net-gen†or “digital natives,†kids who’ve grown up with the Internet and other time-slicing technologies. There’s been lots of hand-wringing about all the skills they might lack, mainly the ability to concentrate on a complex task from beginning to end, but surely they can already do things their elders can’t—like conduct 34 conversations simultaneously across six different media, or pay attention to switching between attentional targets in a way that’s been considered impossible. More than any other organ, the brain is designed to change based on experience, a feature called neuroplasticity. London taxi drivers, for instance, have enlarged hippocampi (the brain region for memory and spatial processing)—a neural reward for paying attention to the tangle of the city’s streets. As we become more skilled at the 21st-century task Meyer calls “flitting,†the wiring of the brain will inevitably change to deal more efficiently with more information. The neuroscientist Gary Small speculates that the human brain might be changing faster today than it has since the prehistoric discovery of tools.
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Darling, Charley Chase and Kristine on hogtied.com
Thursday, May 21
Staten Island Kink Munch
Friday, May 22
DSF: “BDSM Barbeque Party & The Speed Dating Gameâ€
Le Cercle des Dommes Meeting
Saturday, May 23
Le Cercle des Dommes‘ Afternoon of Fellowship and Fun
Sunday, May 24
Babeland Soho: “Wrapped for Pleasure: Easy Bondage for Steamy Sex ” w/ Midori
Monday, May 25
Tuesday, May 26
TES: “Doing Dominance (M/s & D/s): An Autodidactic Perspective” w/ Mike Bond
MoSex: “Art of Sensual Feminine Dominance” w/ Midori
Wednesday, May 27
TES Bondage SIG: “Hojojutsu-The Art of Tying the Non-Compliant” w/ tomo
The Baroness’s Fetish Retinue
Pleasure Chest: “Aural Sex: Seduction by Voice†w/ Midori
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By the time I was your age, I really thought I knew who I was, but I had no idea,” Ellen said. “Like for example, when I was your age, I was dating men. So what I’m saying is when you’re older, most of you will be gay.
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Did I ever mention that I have a shoe fetish? Ever since I used to play dress-up as a little girl and put on my mother’s way too big high heel shoes, I have loved shoes and boots of all kinds from my high-cut black Converse sneakers with the red laces, my pink satin ballet slippers with the rabbit fur lining, to my leather motorcycle boots, come fuck-me stiletto heals, and Wizard of Oz red sparkly Dorothy shoes. Footwear just seems to complete what I am wearing, even if it is only my road-off army boots, what I put on my feet make a statement about who I am. The shoes I love best, however, are doll shoes, or what are often referred to as Mary Jane’s.
I have two pairs of Mary Jane’s-a pair of flats and ones with a slight heel-but I have always wanted a pair of Black Platform Mary Jane’s. These shoes are the perfect accessory for a schoolgirl outfit, or if you enjoy dressing up as a doll, as I do. I just think they look pretty hot with whatever fetish outfit you’d want to wear, especially goth or alt looks.
These Mary Jane’s are made by Ellie Shoes who are leaders in the exotic shoe industry. I have several other pairs of their boots and found them to be high quality. These shoes are very comfortable to wear for long periods of time as well, so perfect for a fetish ball or scene.
You can pair these Mary Jane’s up with the traditional white knee socks or thigh highs for a schoolgirl look or do something entirely different. I ordered a pair of Fence-net Stockings to go with mine and I think they look amazing together. I love the fence-net stockings as well, as they are very thick and sturdy, so won’t snag or rip easily, plus they are so sexy as the large diamonds mold with the curves of your legs.
You can find these and other sexy shoes and stockings in the Fantasy Wear section of Tabu Toys, where they have many styles and sizes to fit any shoe or stocking fetishist!
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