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. . . I met Anya on a long train ride, Chicago to Los Angeles. The first night we bonded over microwaved cheeseburgers in the dining car and spent the rest of the trip together, charting life courses and stealing quick cigarette breaks out the window.

“You know, I’m actually grateful that you’re married.” I told her.

She smiled. “Yeah? Why’s that?”

“We still got 47 more hours of travel time, not counting delays, and that’d be plenty of time for me to get hung up on you. But it’s easier not to if you’re off-limits.”

“But it’s not out of the question, is it?” She said, knowingly.

“It never is.”

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. . .Meanwhile, I thought Lily was quite entrancing. After a short time we began kissing, and before long, I couldn’t help myself from slamming her against the door of the refrigerator, where I held her by the arms so that she couldn’t move. She didn’t seem to mind this, but her wine glass nearly tipped out of her hand as I gripped her. “Let me hold that for you,” interjected the servant boy, who had been quietly observing us from a distance of a couple of feet. He took the wine glass from her quivering hand and stood back to watch some more.

I kissed Lily, playfully teasing her lips with my tongue. I took off her top, and she removed mine. After fumbling with the clips for what seemed like forever, I finally removed Lily’s bra. As her breasts came free they bounced in the air like young roes jumping on the hill. (more. . .)

Sugasm #159

by Viviane on 02/18/2009

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Photo: Sapphic Erotica

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #160? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
The Annual Anti-Valentine’s Day Posting: 2009 Edition
“Ahh, Valentine’s Day. Sigh.”

Exposed
“We talk a lot about putting me on display, and it was even more intense in reality as it has been in fantasy.”

Yes
“At the edge of the precipice, my nerves rippling with electricity, i tumbled down into you”

Sugasm Editor
Sex Work And Compassion: A Call From Baghdad

Editor’s Choice
Stairwell

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
A different approach to polyamory
Do vegetarians make good lovers?
Fantasies
Onesies and Twosies
Things I’ve Discovered I Like
Understanding Masturbation Addiction [podcasturbation]

Sex News, Review, and Interviews
20 Questions with Shawn (aka Syd Blakovich)
The Choices We Make…
Stars In My Eyes
Tribute to Milton

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Dakoda Brookes
Hearts -HNT
In the garden of lust
Kiki

BDSM & Fetish
25 Things, the Kinky Way
The Domme Experiment – The Result
Firsts, part 2
Permission
Single Minded Passion
“There is no ’should’” and the sex-positive “agenda”

Erotic Writing and Experiences
A Bossy Blowjob
Concrete
A Gift for Daddy
Guess Who I Came Across At The Weekend?
My Idea…
Naughty Rose goes bananas!
Petulant and Demanding
The Scream
While She was Waiting

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

. . .These days I don’t have a lot of interest in writing about sex at all. Part of my erotica apathy stems from the sense that I’ve written a lot about sex. I’ve described it. I’ve intellectualized it. I’ve made it funny. I’ve made it emo. I’ve done it in a train. I’ve done it with some pain. I’ve done it with a frown. I’ve done it with a clown. And I don’t know how much more I have to say about the sex. I am proud of my sex-writing. It’s damn good and it taught me a lot. It also has helped other people, or so all the emails I have received specifically about my deep-throating posts have led me to believe.

So there’s the feeling that I’ve done it to death. But there’s also the inescapable fact that I’m not fucking anyone right now, and while it would be nice to do so in the future, I’d like to fuck that person without the intellectual specter hanging over my bed and narrating what I’m doing and feeling. No one needs to imagine an apparitional Howard Cosell providing color commentary whilst one is going at it like rabid mongooses, not unless that fantasy would enhance one’s experience, in which case have at it. Plus there’s the fact that most humans don’t want their sexual experiences put into artful narratives and posted where the virtual world can see it. Sex with a human would be nice. Some day.

More. . . ..

Sugasm #158

by Viviane on 02/07/2009

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Sofi & Melany by Goncharov

Photo: Sofi & Melany (Met Art)

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #159? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me radicalvixenatgmaildotcom. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Sealing the Deal
“A hand reached down and grabbed my chin firmly, pulling it up to get a look at my face.”

Wait for me on your knees.
“She’s not scared or wincing but open and accepting, drinking in the sensation.”

What DO Women Want?
“This cultural context also means that what research describes might not be how things actually are, but how the current culture is shaping them to be.”

Sugasm Editor
Sex Work And Honesty: Political Opinions

Editor’s Choice
Like Rube Goldberg

Erotic Writing and Experiences
‘Just Mates’ – a short story
The Mile High Club…Almost
Misunderstanding. Confession #216
Monday’s Passion
OMG, You are Such a Flirt!
Real Live Sex
Shopgirl
Temporary Insanity
Yours

Sex Advice
5 Advanced Anal Sex Techniques
5 Sexy Gifts for Valentine’s Day
CurvaceousDee’s Love of Long Hair on Guys
Love Machine (Sex Machine) Review
Safety For Men Who Love Toys
This Sex Is Not Being Televised

BDSM & Fetish
Abduction + Rape Play
Blueprint
The Domme Experiment
Greedy slut
Origins, Part II: Caught.
Sex-kitten, restrained and purring.
Vanilla boy
Western fantasy – part 8 (the revelation)
What you do for me

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Katsumi with glass dildo
Love me tender…or else
Pearls and lace

Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
10 for 2… Or More! Top Ten Sex Toys For Couples
Another reason to dislike New Labour (without mentioning Jacqui Smith)
My Dirty Monday: Fetish Fantasy Inflatable Position Master

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Bareback and Breeding
The Blow Job
His fingers, the tip of my pinkie
Sex in SF
Snuggles and Sex

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

. . . I let the pain flow through me – out through my fingertips and into the mattress. Face down. Ass exposed. I closed my eyes and let myself feel the sting each time his hand connected with my skin. A groan spilled out of my throat with each strike.

“You like that, don’t you, little slut? See how turned on you are because I’m making your ass turn red?”

I nodded. I’m pretty sure that’s what he said, cliche as it sounds, though his words barely registered. I didn’t want them to. I didn’t want to think. I wanted the outside world to fade so that nothing remained but sensation.

At some point, he switched to a belt. I watched my own body buckle under each hit.

More. . ..

Sugasm #156

by Viviane on 01/11/2009

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Tasty Trixie

Photo: Tasty Trixie

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #157? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Mouth Music
“Can you feel the heat of my lips taunting you yet?”

4 a.m.
“My mouth craves skin and I dip my head to her shoulder.”

Wanting
“I want my whisper in your ear to make you shiver”

Sugasm Editor
Sex Work And Honesty: Being Too Honest

Editor’s Choice
To Richard, A Dedication. Confession #205

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Body like a battleaxe
The Fantasy of Infidelity
Hollywood-The Diva Bull Who Hated Condoms
The Making of a Stripper With Benefits
Sex In A Bar Fantasy
Touch
Unbidden Fantasies
Yearning
Your Smug Grin

Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
Fetish Interview with Mistress160
Immagini di un convento — Sexually Active Nuns
Top Five Tuesday: Our Favorites of 2008!

Sexual Poetry
When I think of her eyes…

BDSM & Fetish
A day in the life…
Donald D.U.C.K.
Energy Independence
Flip the switch, and make it burn…
His piss slut
Pre-Christmas Adventure
Seaside Vacation Spanking with a Switch
Seven In One Day
Short Sweet Visciousness

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Merry Christmas

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
But You Don’t LOOK Gay!
Dirty Boy
Interracial Depth
The Perverted Negress: Origins
This is Your Brain, on Masturbation [podcasturbation]
What Does a Big Penis Feel Like to a Woman?

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

Sugasm #155

by Viviane on 12/29/2008

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Sugasm #155 Photo: Liz (gODDESS)

Photo: Liv (gODDESS)

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #156? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
I’m kind of … insatiable.
“She’s gasping already. Each breath a moan, each touch connected to the noises she makes.”

The most spankable day of the year
“And for spankos, they are a high holy day to be approached with all the reverence and gaiety of a Pagan-cum Christian holiday.”

Private club
“It’s that kind of club – the kind you have to know about, the kind that doesn’t even have a name.”

Sugasm Editor
Sex Work And Honesty: Being Childfree

Editor’s Choice
I Wonder

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Autobiography of a Masturbator: Porn O’Graphicus, Part 5
Believing the Bullshit. Confession #202
Good Girl
Performance pressure
The Truth is, I’m Lonely

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Angel Dark & Tereza Ilova – Close Friends
HNT: Tie
Purple Passion
Sibelle – Toyed
Vintage Kink Wednesday
What Santa Sees Through My Window….

Sex Work
High Heel Sucking and Dripping Dicks
Sex work and the right to choose

Sex Humor
Monday Mirage: Hundred Orgasm Woods
Who’s Your Daddy? Vader vs. Joker
WTF To Do With a Botched Trim Job

BDSM & Fetish
A Boy and his Sleepsack
Call my name
Feast
I smell like sex
My First Over-The-Knee Spanking
The only DIY Leather Hood on the net
Sex Life Snapshot
Tie Me to the Ends of Love, Part 3

Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
12 Days of Christmas Sex Toys List
Beautiful Blonde Bondage Model Dia Zerva Endures Her Most Intense And Brutal Impact Play Scene Of Her Career
Bondage Model Christina Carter And Master Rigger Lochai In An Erotic Dance Of D/s on Hogtied
Fetish Pinup – Bettie Page dead at 85
Fresh Of The Presses, The Orgasm Bar 8 On DVD.
Fucking on Flickr
Hot Erotic Holiday E-books
On The 12th Day of Christmas: We-Vibe
Tribute to Bettie Page: Queen of Kink
Women In The Industry

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Almond’s Joy
Astrid, your mouth fucked my cock.
Casual Poetry
Headhunter
I Hurt
Mesmerizing Love
She Walks in Beauty Like the Night…
VIP anal, threesome, ATM
Windows

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

Sugasm #154

by Viviane on 12/12/2008

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Photo: Sapphic Erotica

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #155? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Watching
“My heart raced as I watched him stare at me, wondering if he knew I was awake. ”

Hot and Handy Part 2: Handjobs for the Ladies in Our Lives
“Getting her wet has two big benefits when it comes to getting her off.”

Sales Report
“I’m the only woman in the room.”

Sugasm Editor
Sex Work And Compassion: Death In A Client’s Family

Editor’s Choice
Crying

Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
Does Legislation affect Porn Fetishes?
Kinklab Vampire Gloves
Lusty Lady Seattle
On The 1st Day of Christmas: Tracey Cox Supersex Bullet Vibrator
Pleasurists #6
Review: Mo’s Sexy Black & Pink Box!
Sex Tips for Husbands and Wives from 1894: Another Internet Hoax?

Sex Advice
Advice: I Fucked His Best Friend
Q&A: Humiliation
What Should a Girl with a Boyfriend Do About Her Lesbo Longings? You Decide.

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Appetizer
AudioErotic – It Never Hurts to Ask
Back to basics
Brush Strokes
Camera Shy, Part 1
Chapter 2
Condom-less
Dreamweaver
Not a real lap dance
Police Officer Fantasy
Razorblade Dreams
Salty sweet
A Welcome Home

Sex Work
A Picture of a Caller in Pantyhose
Another Cockteasing HHNT
Humiliation From My Cell Phone

BDSM & Fetish
Breaking you
Latest Gifts from brock
Limits
More on Baltimore
Rough Beating
Teased and Tortured

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Ask Miss Bliss
Better Barebacking for Bloggers
Melt
An Oral Confession
Poly Perfect. Confession #186
Untitled
What’s it Really Like To Work for FetLife
Who Need Latex Fetish Briefs When You Can Get These?

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Andie Valentino removes her pink top to reveal her lovely naturals
Catalina loves Sunday Sin
Femme Fatale (part III)
Just a Little Something
Red Rose of love

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

. . .Five minutes later, we were making out in the kitchen of her 50′s designer pad. She was a little drunk, rubbing herself all over me, using her body against mine, pulling me into her.

“I like your lips,” she said. She put her hand in my shirt, rubbing it across my chest and onto my shoulder. “Feels nice.”

I grab her by the hair with one hand, and tilt her head slightly back. She yields, her mouth opening. I kiss her as I close a hand around her throat. I make the kiss last. I let go.

“Okay,” she said.

“Okay, what?”

She looked at me. “Well, do you want to stay here in the kitchen…?” She let the question hang.

I grinned. “Ah. I see. Well, Lana, would you like to give me the tour?”

“Yes,” she said, taking my hand and pulling me behind her. “That’s what ‘okay’ meant. See.”

I laughed, as I followed her up the stairs to her bedroom.

I was burying my face in her covered cunt now, she was cooing and moaning, and then I unsnapped the buttons on the crotch of the lace teddy she wore under her skirt and blouse, and my tongue sank in the butter of her wet cunt, and disappeared immediately in her slick void. She tasted great, like citrus, and smelled faintly of sweat, and musk, and piss. I took her lips in my lips. I took her clit between my teeth. I made her cum that way, then I fucked her with two fingers till her body shook.

More. . ..

conversiovirium twitter icon bigger Conversio Virium: Intro to Sex Blogging talk

This Monday, November 17th, I’ll be doing an “Intro to Sex Blogging” talk at Conversio Virium, the student BDSM education and discussion group at Columbia University:

What is a blog? Should I have one? How do I set it up? How do readers find me? Should I write as myself, or under a pseudonym? This introductory workshop will provide tips and tools for setting up a blog, finding inspiration and writing well and building readership in this highly interactive medium.

Class info at the Conversio Virium site. Follow them on Twitter.

I’m going to talk about protecting your privacy, writing tips, platforms, and promotions. The handout will be posted afterwards.

What questions do you have about blogging that you’d like answered? Please leave comments below.

If you’re in New York, I hope you’ll attend!

. . .You are a fool.

Trapped in your delusions, you never fail to miss the obvious. You set your sights too low. You never take things far enough. It always comes as a revelation that someone, somewhere might take an interest in you.

You want her number. She wants to fuck you.

You didn’t shave your balls, and when you arrive she doesn’t pay you much mind. She spoke of blood and needles when you first met. Never mind that she was sweet and young and beautiful — you assumed she wanted something you could not offer. So you put her out of your mind. You didn’t think about her tits (how pert!), nor, God forbid, did you let yourself believe you might get a look at her cunt (how pliant and wet!).

It is much easier to impress civilians.

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. . . To bring Elizabeth’s argument back in: if the feminist marketplace of ideas cannot support a true diversity of sexual theory, and neither can the mainstream, then maybe blogging is a wonderful, messy middleground. Personal sex blogging may be (hopelessly?) marginalized to the hoary Blogspots of the the web, but within every Penthousey story, there can still be an ethic of truth-telling. That ethic isn’t too different from our original feminist sex rebellion: against the over-medicalization and patholgization of women’s sexuality, and in favor of the multiplicity of bodies, genders, desires, and pleasures we ought to have the right to.

Personal sex blogging still matters: that’s where our girlfriends can still whisper to us about how their bodies work, stories about fucking that will never make it into a peer-reviewed journal (Elizabeth’s article being a historic exception). Blogging sex is where we can flex our smarts and fuck up in front of our friends. And if sex blogging spawns a few sexperts along the way, they’ll be different than the previous generations — informed by what it means to write within a community, to share what we’ve got without making a buck right away, to defer to others and not have to agree all the time, and to know: not having to compete for the largely irrelevant and played-out role of Most Important Most Famous Most Whatever Sex Expert Lady makes us all richer for it.

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Congratulations to Elizabeth Wood on the publication of her article about sex blogging and the need for a “sex commons”!!

Consciousness-raising 2.0: Sex Blogging and the Creation of a Feminist Sex Commons

Abstract: In this article, I develop the notion of a `sex commons’ on the internet as one way to help women build more satisfying sex lives. While women have not historically controlled their own sexuality, they have tended to control the dissemination of information about sexuality, first through oral traditions and traditional social networks, and later through media such as advice columns. Medicalization and the culture of expertise removed much of that control, but the consciousness-raising movement of the second wave of feminism used social networks to reclaim it. This article describes the ways that women’s internet sex blogs help develop vocabularies of desire, reduce shame, and build community, enabling women to continue this process of regaining control over information about sexuality. I argue that a commons model is useful for protecting access to that information, especially in the face of continuing medicalization of sexuality and corporate control of the internet, and conclude with suggestions for maintaining the sex commons and building feminist pathways to navigate it.

Citation: Feminism & Psychology, Vol. 18, No. 4, 480-487 (2008)

This was a paper first presented at the first Sex 2.0 in Atlanta (organized by Amber Rhea).

You can read more on what’s in the issue, on the article and how you can help her expand the article at Sex in the Public Square:

http://tinyurl.com/637xxt