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by Viviane on 11/28/2007

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Ok, kids. Susan talked me into it. I’m on Facebook.

I already like that interface better than that service that closed down my account for no reason.

For now, I’m only adding people I know.

Buh bye, MySpace!

by Viviane on 11/28/2007

in MySpace

Heeeey, where did your Myspace go? Wendy Blackheart asked.  Apparently, MySpace deleted my account:

Your MySpace account has been deleted for violating our Terms of Service.

This is usually due to one of the following:

* Nude images, sexually suggestive or violent photos
* Covering our banner ads with HTML
* Harassing other users
* You do not meet the minimum age requirement
* Spamming the classifieds, forums, bulletins, or other sections of the site
* Attempting to artificially inflate scores
* Scripting the site

Your account cannot be restored. If you choose to return to MySpace, please follow the rules.

Perhaps they deleted me because I said was 100. I know I didn’t have any NSFW pics – only the logo for the blog.

If I set up an account again, it’ll just be limited to those I know.

i 13 Sugasm #105

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #106? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Bonbon
“I feel him start; then he groans into my mouth, a deep helpless sound, and I know I’ve got him.”

Domme virginity lost
I’m not asking you. I’m telling you. You know that, don’t you, sweet boy?”

Reality Check: Lessons Learned From Clients
“From my conversations I’ve learned a number of things that have helped me, educated me and surprised me.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Belladonna Likes Heroin

Editor’s Choice
Each Mirror has two sides

NSFW Pics & Videos
Anetta Keys – Mischief In Mind
Carmella Bing – Keeping It Hardcore
Erica Campbell nude by Andrew Blake
The Hottest Babes… Right Here, Right Now
How to behave after sex
Jade | Mirage

Sex News, Reviews & Advice
At least he’s not going blind!
Lust, Caution review
NEW Gender Bending Designs
Orgasm – Do You Fake It?
Pierced for Play
Pjur Eros BodyGlide Original Silicone Lubricant Review
Top 7 Horror Porns

Erotic Writing and Experiences
At Your Service
Boy
Catalina loves (Polyamorous) Fantasies – Part II
Confessions: Babysitter
Encounter 2, Part II: All About Jane
Having her cake
How zep got me my first feel of tit
“I’m not having sex with you in here.”
A Letter…
Sexual Initiation
Splick
Symplexity Presents: The Friendly Skies
An Unexpected Opportunity

Sex Work
In the Heart of Real America: How Porn Made Me a Patriot

BDSM & Fetish
About last night…
Beat Me Baby: A Step in Submission!
Bitch in heat
Dirty, Filthy, Nasty Instructions
Feeling a Twitch
Goofiness
I Will So Whip Your Ass
A Little Fantasy I Wrote For The Mrs.
Masturbation Fantasies
Men are dogs: a fantasy
On Hands and Knees
Re-Education Part 2: A Fantasy
Revisiting the piss slit
Shame, Shame, Shame; Shame of Fools
Whippings in the eighteenth century

Sex Poetry & Recipes
Cooking With Mandy: Get Your Ass In the Kitchen Slut and Spend Some Quality Time With Your Husband Pasta with Shrimp
Friday Poem: Hot Boobs and Spam
Then

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
“As Long As Your Vagina Looks Good…”
Ethical Adultery
Femme vs. Feminine
The Full Body Project, or Fat Can be Sexy, Part 2
Need, Want, Love
Return to sender
Sleepy HNT
Today is “Mom the Minx(’s)” Birthday
You Are So Sexy

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

Photo: Fm Teens

surveybdsm BDSM Survey


I am asking you to please participate in this quick and anonymous survey: the second national Survey of Violence & Discrimination Against Sexual Minorities.

Who is running this survey? Larry Iannotti, LCSW, is a professional social scientist and practicing therapist getting his doctoral degree through the City University of NY. Susan Wright is the Media Spokesperson for NCSF, and is accredited as a research assistant affiliated with CUNY. Both Larry and Susan are friends of mine and I trust them. They are activists and want to help the BDSM-leather-fetish community. For more information, please call Susan at 917-848-6544, or Larry at 212-465-1917.

Being conducted in cooperation with NCSF, this survey includes all of the questions asked on NCSF’s ground-breaking 1998 Violence & Discrimination Against Sexual Minorities survey, and includes new questions on personal, business, and Internet discrimination experienced by BDSM-leather-fetish practitioners.

The 1998 survey found significant discrimination and violence occurring against BDSM-leather-fetish practitioners. The new data may be used in court obscenity cases to prove that sexual minorities have been chilled on the Internet because of fear of prosecution. The survey also includes space for individuals to write about the discrimination they have faced, which will be helpful in illustrating the consequences of the negative stereotypes about BDSM-leather-fetish activities.

Please take a minute to fill out this anonymous survey even if you have not been a victim of violence or discrimination. Everybody please do it! As of right now, it has been mainly white men who have responded, and they want to get answers from people of color and women, too.

This is a community-wide effort and you can help:

  1. Please fill out the anonymous survey.
  2. Please contact surveybdsm@gmail.com to receive hard copies for your event or for distribution to your members.
  3. Please send this announcement to your email lists and/or post it in your blog, LiveJournal, MySpace and other online forums.

Thanks!
Lolita Wolf

 Home from Dark Odyssey Summer Camp

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It’s Wednesday, and I am almost unpacked. I still have bad camp crash. You’d be too, if you’d organized a cabin, spent 15 hours a day in camp, talking, attending workshops, playing, etc. It was great to see old friends from last year’s camp, LJ friends, NY friends, and make new friends.

This year I went on Thursday, so I could travel with Lolita. It’s great to have the extra day to ease into it. I highly recommend it. It meant a lot to meet first timers who told me how helpful it was to read the DO roundups and Jefferson’s blog from last year’s camp, so they would know what they might expect at camp. I’m only recently a newbie, so I know how much that can help. Hunter (who traveled from Hawaii) said reading the blogs helped him decide to come. I just love that.
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sitps Sex in the Public Square   Launch Party

Join us to celebrate the launch of SexInThePublicSquare.org!

Friday, August 17, 2007
Rapture Cafe
200 Avenue A between 12 St. and 13 St. (Google Maps)
Time: 7:00-10:00 PM

Admission: FREE and all are welcome.

The brain/love-child of sociologist Elizabeth Wood and writer Chris Hall, Sex in the Public Square is dedicated to expanding the space for public discussion of sexuality. Blending the techniques of blogging and social networking (think Blogger meets MySpace — but all open source!), Sex in the Public Square is a space on the Internet where members can explore which parts of sex are private, which parts are public, and what happens when private and public collide. We believe that sexuality is a fundamental component of human life, and that by excluding it from “polite conversation,” we lose an important element of democratic participation.

With forums, blogs, reviews, resource lists, calls for action, and a nationwide calendar of events dedicated to sexualities of all genders, colors, and persuasions and with thousands of visitors and new contributors joining each week, we’re ready to celebrate our “birth” and we want you to join us!

Readings and performances by:

Audacia Ray
Rachel Kramer Bussel
Lux Nightmare
Ignacio Rivera

and

NYC Porn Legend Veronica Vera

Plus screenings of film clips from Cinekink and some old sex ed films too!

WNYC’s Brian Lehrer interviewed David Amsden about his New York magazine article about closeted gay men. Listen here.

Via Cinekinkster, the head of IFC has a blog post about the making of the Indie Sex series.

Cinekink is an event partner of the LA Erotica Film Fest.

Via Boinkology, a Village Voice article on the DIY of webcam sex.

NY City Councilman Dennis Gallagher has been indicted for alleged rape.

A recent EEOC informal discussion letter addresses transgender bias (CCH).

Babeland is throwing a Queer Porn night on August 8th.

Margaret Cho’s The Sensuous Woman show is coming to LA, Chicago and New York.

Good Vibrations is accepting submissions to its Amateur Erotica Film Competition until September 10th.

slave leias Ring Toss: Links for 2007 05 29(Photo by bonniegrrl of the Star Wars Celebration IV)

Cory Silverberg writes about how It’s Good to be an Ass in Texas.

via Violet, news of a Russian gay rights demonstration violently broken up by riot police.

Chrisl Hall’s latest Perverted News roundup.

London Times book review/article about the new book about the story of Sex.com, by Kieran McCarthy.

Liz Rizzo of BlogHer (I’m going!) has a call for chivalry (a reaction to the De Anza rape case).

I haven’t browsed A gata e o cao recently, but go for some really hot pics of this couple.

Amber Rhea is making progress on her Sex 2.0 conference.

If you have a pretty common name, you need to be worried you’ll be branded a sex offender and kicked off MySpace.

Always Aroused Girl’s blog has a new home: aagblog.com.

The Chicago Hellfire Club is under fire for its anti-transgender policy. [thanks, Boymeat]

Thursday, May 24

Friday, May 25
DSF: Memorial Day Social
Military Playnight

Saturday, May 26
TES “Introductory Flogging Workshop” with Domina M
Truck Stop Leather/Trucker Night 10pm at The Dugout. $5 Cover
Paddles Munch 8pm at Moonstruck Diner

Sunday, May 27

Monday, May 28

Tuesday, May 29
TES: “Tops Discussion Forum”
Cinekink: Torture Garden TGX

Wednesday, May 30
TES Bondage Group: “Bottoms (Tied) Up! How to be a Happy, Healthy, Helpful Bondage Bottom” with Redhead Sue

Lisa Vandever, Co-Founder & Director of the Cinekink film series, blogs at CineKinkster.

When did you start blogging?

I started a personal blog about a year-and-a-half ago, right before I got married, to serve as a virtual scrap-book and touch upon on everything that was going on at the time. I launched the official CineKink blog late last summer, just as we were beginning to gear up for our annual film festival. I’d been kicking the idea around for awhile, then got the final nudge when I was asked to guest blog about my CineKink experiences over at The Reeler, an NYC film blog. That became the subject of my first post as “CineKinkster.”


What do you like about blogging?

In theory, I’d say the immediacy of it – “in theory” because I often find myself being as editorially compulsive as I do when writing for other media. (See, I just went back and tweaked the preceding sentence twice. And it’s still not right!) But it is really gratifying to have a thought, put it into words and toss it out into the world within the next few moments. (Or next few hours, depending on how compulsive I’m feeling and how many links I’m referencing.)

In terms of CineKink, I also love having the extra space to touch upon things that might be a little unwieldy for our regular email updates, or that aren’t directly related to our programming but might be of interest to our audience, generally anything at the intersection of sex and film/television.

Is blogging a major or minor way of connecting to other people for you?
My personal blog, which is on LiveJournal, has definitely become a way for me to feel connected. Since I don’t work in a bustling office, my “friends list” serves as my water cooler, where I can check in for a bit of contact and gossip. Then post my own occasional tidbit and compulsively hit refresh until I get at least a comment or two.

The CineKink blog is much less interactive and feels more like me pushing information out into the black void. That might partly be a result of the CineKinkster voice, a kind of royal “we” that I co-opted from Defamer and such. It’s fun for the most part, especially if I’m feeling light and snarky, but it doesn’t generally inspire conversation. The only time I’ve ever sparked a number of comments was when I (we?) posted about Ann Coulter and her dominatrix-y ways.

Where’s your blog? Do you use a free hosted service (Blogger, WordPress, Livejournal, AOL, Google Pages, etc.) or do you have your own domain and web server?
CineKinkster is through Blogger, though it’s actually hosted on the CineKink domain and server. I chose it because it seemed geared towards a relatively low level of technical competence (i.e. me). It was a breeze to set up and has been absolutely great so far, but I do keep separate archives of all of my posts, just in case.

What do you do to promote your blog or your writing (using tags in your post, blog roll, del.icio.us , Digg, Pingoat)?
Now that Blogger enables them, I’ve recently started adding tags, though I still need to add them to my archives. I use Feedburner to make the blog available in basically any subscription format. I run a CineKink community on LiveJournal, then post back from there to CineKinkster to up my Technorati links. I submit to various blog carnivals whenever I have a relevant post (yay, Viviane’s Sex Carnival!). I push links to the CineKink page on MySpace and include them wherever I can in our email updates.

Mostly, though, I’m still just getting up to speed on much of this – and look forward to your workshop for help in sussing it all out. That, along with – what’s it called – how to “monetize”?