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Just Play – A Weekend of Play for Women and Transfolk, Baltimore MD

by Viviane on 11/17/2010

in Events, sex

11/26/2010 9:00 PMto11/27/2010 2:00 AM
11/27/2010 9:00 PMto11/28/2010 3:00 AM
11/28/2010 1:00 PMto11/29/2010 8:00 AM

This event is open for leather women of all persuasions who enjoy woman to woman S/M. All S/M dykes, straight, bisexual and trans-sexual/gender women are welcome. FTM transgender bois/boys/men who feel they have a place in the S/M women’s community are also welcome. We ask that cis gender men, cross-dressers and transvestites please respect that this definition does not include you. We welcome you to join any of our many pansexual events at Play House which are held almost every weekend.

Cost: $25 per day, $75 for the weekend; off street parking available for $5 per day.

Location: Play House Studios in Baltimore, MD – street address provided when you RSVP to GlendaCPFA@aol.com

  • RSVPs are Strictly Required as this is a sex positive event!!!
  • Please bring something to share for our communal food table
  • Non-alcoholic beverages are available for purchase at the club
  • All experience levels welcome but you must be over 18 to attend
  • Over-night dorm style crash space is available for an additional fee of $25 per night;
  • A limited number of work exchange scholarships are available;

For more info please write GlendaCPFA@aol.com

Fetlife RSVP: http://fetlife.com/events/33708

Friday 11/26/10: 9 PM -2 AM: Open Play

Friday 11/26/10

10 PM Class: Empowerment Through Erotic Motion by grrlMel – This class is for anyone who wants to feel beautiful, self-assured, and sexy in the body she has right now not the one she hopes to have after her New Year’s resolutions. It is designed to help people harness their own sensual power and reconnect with the joy that comes from expressing yourself in musical motion — whether slow and steamy or high-energy and hot. I encourage everyone to be gentle with themselves they learn to strut their stuff, and shred their clothes (optional) and inhibitions with style and musicality. Come prepared to participate because you can’t learn to move by watching. (presenter bio at end of invitation)

Saturday 11/27/10:

2 PM Visionary Arts Museum (800 Key Highway, Baltimore, MD 21230) Dinner 6:30 PM @ Kumari (911 N Charles St.Balto, MD 21201) All are welcome, RSVPs requested to GlendaCPFA@aol.com – please specify museum, dinner or both in your RSVP and the # of people.

Saturday 11/27/10 9 PM – 3AM Open Play and the Wrestling Mats will be out!   And we are adding a Rope class to Saturday night, too.

Strip Tease and Lap Dancing Extravaganza at Midnight, please bring cash to tip the dancers, it’s for charity!

If you would like to participate in the NCSF Strip Tease and Lap Dancing Extravaganza Fundraiser, please notify Glenda and bring a CD or Mp3 player with your song(s) on it. If you choose to use an Mp3 player, please have your song(s) on it’s own playlist and clearly labeled! You may perform 2 – 3 songs depending on length.

Sunday 11/28/10 1 PM -8 PM: Brunch and Open Play

Sunday 11/28/10 3 PM Class: Strap-ons for Bigger Bodies – A word to the thick soul sistas: Do you find your strap-on sex difficult or clumsy? Is it hard to find a harness that fit you comfortably? Do you wish your dildo was an extension of yourself? We will walk you through how to find the right harness for your size, what to look for in your dildo and how to enhance your pleasure as the thruster while giving your partner that best ride possible. We will also show you different positions in our live demo and how to keep it safe and sexy. (presenter bio at end of invitation)

Please RSVP to GlendaCPFA@aol.com – RSVPs are STRICTLY REQUIRED so that we may bring you sex positive events. Even if you announced your attention to attend via the FetLife events page or a group posting please also RSVP via e mail. THANKS.

We ask that everyone bring something to share for our communal food table. BYOB is allowed but if you choose to drink, please drink only in moderation as inebriation is not appropriate for this event. Non-alcoholic beverages are available for purchase at the club.

Presenter Bios:

ABOUT grrlMEL: grrlMel has been dancing her whole life and teaching dance since 2004. Whether it’s West Coast Swing or Burlesque, she’s known for easy sensuality and her ability to connect to her dance partner and her audience. She focuses on teaching simple, sexy moves set to music (not dancing), to help you connect to your inner sensuality. I strive to provide a supportive environment where folks can relax, be gentle with themselves and gain confidence in expressing themselves through sensual motion.

ABOUT SARA: Sara Vibes was born and raised in New York City. She is a black, polyamorous, queer, kinky, Bi-dyke and an adopted daughter of a sex therapist who had specialized in sex and disability and was disabled herself. Sara knew she was poly when she remembered that her Ken doll dated all the Barbies! Sara is an active member in BDSM, LGBT, and Kink communities in New York City.

She is a founding member of Nina Hartley’s SexWise.me, a sex-positive online community. She currently works as a curator and contributor of SexWise Magazine and a moderator of the online forums. Sara has been interviewed by Nerve magazine and will soon be writing for Zora and Alice, an online magazine for young women of color.
@Sara_Vibes on twitter

ABOUT ASHLEY: Ashley Young is a teacher, writer and artist living in New York City. She identifies as a Fem Queer Dyke and is new to polymory as well as the BDSM scene. Ashley is a huge advocate for people’s fully sexually expressed selves and aspires to be a sex educator along with her partner in the near future. She sums up her poly lifestyle by saying, “I can’t tell the difference between a lesbian and a serial killer, so being poly with my partner has kept me level headed, drama free and allowed me to explore my sexuality with both women and men” @Indig09 on TwitterA

Please help us spread the word about Just Play by forwarding the info to your friends, tweeting your plans to attend and/or posting it to any group where it would be appropriate and welcome. Thanks so much.

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LSM Presents: Surviving Corporal 101 with Boymeat

by Viviane on 11/05/2010

in Events, Events, Fetish & Kink

11/19/2010
8:00 PM

boymeat LSM Presents: Surviving Corporal 101 with Boymeat

Meeting open to all genders

Presented by Lesbian Sex Mafia

How to Handle the Physical and Emotional Effects: Pain is a very complicated thing, and creates a myriad of responses in the body. There is the physical side (Ow, fuck! Jeez, how can he take that!) Then there are the emotional effects; the multitude of emotions and thoughts that go through one’s head through pain. Processing pain, while so simply stated in this world, is actually quite difficult at times. In this class we will talk about how to handle the pain both inside and out. We will explore why we endure it, where it takes us and what we can get out of it.

Date:  Fri, November 19, 8pm – 10pm (In the spirit of community, it is an LSM tradition to open up our November meeting to all genders.)
Location: The LGBT Center, 208 W 13th St, NY
Cost:  LSM member: $5;  Non-members $10 

About Boymeat

Boymeat, is a 31-year-old native New Yorker.

Discovering The Eulenspiegel Society (TES) at the age of 19, he quickly became an active participant and presenter in the New York SM scene. A former TES board member, he also holds memberships with the Gay Male SM Activists (GMSMA), the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) and the Leather Archives & Museum. He is also an associate member of the New York boys of Leather and active with New York’s Leather Pride Night Committee.

Best known for his outreach to the younger members of our community, he co-created the concept of The Next Generation (TNG), specialized groups serving young adults between the ages of 18 and 35 who are interested in SM. Boymeat was the co-founder of both TES-TNG and GMSMA-TNG, groups that helped kick off the national TNG movement. He also helped organize the first 3 national TNG conferences – Chickenstock in 1999, Second Coming in 2002, and TNG3: BDSM in the Big City in 2003. He has presented on TNG and other issues at multiple Leather Leadership Conferences.

Known as a SM educator, he has taught at almost every major educational event in the United States. He has taught SM, role play, fetishes, and relationships at TES Fest, Black Rose, South Plains Leather Fest, Dungeon 701-901, Portland Kinkfest, and many others. He has also been asked to teach to students at New York University and Columbia University. Finally, he presented keynote speeches at SM Odyssey’s Folsom Fringe 2007, Rio Grande Leather 2007, and TNG4: Bound for the Bay in 2008.

Boymeat is honored to have experience on the title circuit as a judge both at Ms. World Leather 2006 and South East Leatherfest 2007. In addition, he appreciates the chutzpah it takes to run for a title, having run for Gotham Leatherman 2000. His latest and greatest honor has been being asked to serve as Tallymaster at International Mr. Leather 2008.

A bisexual, polyamourous switch, with a penchant for foot fetishism, incest role play and piss play, Boymeat is rumored to be the quite the sadist. An aspirational handcuff collector and leather history slut, he is the man who nerve.com said “makes the Marquis de Sade look like Pat Boone.”

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Midori’s East Coast Appearances

by Viviane on 11/03/2010

in Events, nyc

11/03/2010 8:00 PMto11/11/2010 8:00 PM

MIDORI G Midoris East Coast Appearances

New York

Wed Nov 3    The Pleasure Chest, 156 Seventh Avenue South, New York, NY 10014. Tel 212.242.2158:

JoyStick Secrets: How to Thrill a Man

Thurs Nov  4  Purple Passion, 211 West 20th (7th/8th)

Make ‘em Blush, Make ‘em Squirm: Erotic Humiliation Play (SOLD OUT)

Coco De Mer, 236 Elizabeth St (between E. Houston and Prince), New York, NY 10012 (212-966-9069)

Tues Nov 9 Hands-on Japanese Rope Bondage
Wed Nov 10 “Part 2 – Tricks to Please a Man. Male Erogenous Zones

Baltimore
Sugar Shop, 927 W. 36th St, Hampden, Baltimore MD.  (410.467.2632)

Sun 11/7              JoyStick Secrets: How to Thrill a Man
Mon 11/8             Hands-on Rope Bondage

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Call for Entries: CineKink 2011

by Viviane on 10/18/2010

in cinekink

Call for Entries – CineKink 2011

CineKink –”the kinky film festival”–is seeking films and videos, of any length and genre, that explore and celebrate the wide diversity of sexuality. Dedicated to the recognition and encouragement of sex-positive and kink-friendly depictions in film and television, we’re looking to blur some boundaries and will be considering offerings drawn from both Hollywood and beyond, with works ranging from documentary to drama, camp comedy to hot p*rn, mildly spicy to quite explicit–and everything in between.

Cutting across orientations, topics covered at CineKink have included–but are by no means limited to–BDSM, leather and fetish, swinging, non-monogamy and polyamory, roleplay and gender bending, sex work and sex geekery. Basically, as long as it involves consenting adults, just about anything celebrating sex as a right of self expression is fair game. (Far be it from us to define “kink” – if you think your work might make sense in this context, please send it along!)

Scheduled for its eighth annual appearance March 1-6, 2011, the specially-curated CineKink NYC will also feature a short film competition, audience choice awards, a special adult entertainment showcase, presentations, parties and a gala kick-off event, with a national screening tour to follow.

Discounted, early-bird entries have a post-marked deadline of November 5th, while the regular deadline is November 26th and the final deadline is December 10th.

For more information and to download an entry form or submit via Withoutabox, visit http://cinekink.com/programs-and-events/call-for-entries/.

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e[lust] #20

by Lolita Wolf on 10/16/2010

in sexbloggers

20 e[lust] #20

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #21? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

On Making Sex Last: Cheerleading & Open Relationships - as long as the possession stuff can be fun and consensual, and not interfering with each other’s sovereignty, I think the two—cheerleading and possession—aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive.

Owned – I had almost forgotten that while here, with him, I was HIS plaything. I was OWNED by him. We had discussed this. I knew the rules. I must not forget again.

The sheer indecency of what we are doing – Is he looking for what I’m looking for? Surely so—all men want that, don’t they? A flaming succubus that comes only in the dark to bring unworldly pleasures and leave behind strange lingering dreams that spice their dutiful daytime lives.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Stop Hating on Campus Sex Education – Clearly, there is a need for this education, because if it doesn’t come from sexuality educators, it comes from word of mouth (which can often provide incorrect information), or from the internet, or from trial and error.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Is it Really “Strange” Sex?

See also: Pleasurists #96 and #97 for all your sex toy review needs.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Kink & Fetish

A teabreak tawsing
Blow job
Caribbean Screw
His evil twin
My adventure in subbing continues
My Big Pink Robot
Play Party!
Sisters unite for the MFW, part 2
The one with the Violet Wand
Turning Lemons into Lemonade
Wanton Wednesday: Bitten

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Cunning Linguists Are We: Cunnilingus 101
Crushing Swingerphobia by Hitting the Club
Coming Out & Invisible Illness
Hold Up Stockings
My First Grue in Review
NSE – New Swinger Energy
Relationships and Emotions
Sadie’s Thoughts on Cheating. Confession #507
Three’s Company, Too – Dreaming of the Multi-Relationship Home
The Sisterhood
Thoughts on bisexuality and visibility
When I’m Done With Crying…
Why Lie, Why Cheat?

Erotic Writing

A Raise
Any Idea?
Buttlove
Building the Anticipation
Coming Back to Me
Extraordinary Uses for Ordinary Objects
“Enslaved The Story of Jen” Chapter 13
Fantasy: Waking Up
Hotel windows…
I Give Good Head
Lipstick Kisses
Like Mother, Like Daughter
My first little girly night
One Night With NSVG
Oh, What a Night!
Revisited
Rekindling
She
Something in the Air
sacks, part one
The Quick Ebony Fux
up lateish

26 e[lust] #20

Jason Miller and Bobbi Starr on DivineBitches.com

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Perverts of Color Anthology – Call for Submissions

by Viviane on 10/15/2010

in sex, submissions

Mission Statement
The Perverts of Color anthology is a collection of voices from people of color (POCs) who participate in alternative sexual and relationship practices which include but are not limited to: S&M, D/s, leather, kink, fetishism, polyamory, and swinging. “Pervert” is a term that society projects onto our bodies and our desires. We use “pervert” both to acknowledge the rejection and stereotyping we face, and to redefine the word on our own terms.

Our Intent
a) celebrate the experiences of US racial/ethnic minorities navigating alternative sexualities;
b) recover hidden histories and recognize the contributions of POCs to alternative sexuality rights and culture;
c) share stories about ways POCs have resisted dominant narratives about their sexuality; and
d) create possibilities for coalition and resistance for kinky POCs.

Call for Submissions
The voices of US racial minorities in alternative sexual communities are important but often unheard. If you are a POC (“pervert of color”) who has been or is involved in the kink/poly community, the Perverts of Color anthology needs to hear your story.

We are accepting non-fiction essays (1,500-5,000 words) related to the theme of the intersection of race and alternative sexual practices. New authors are welcome. Fiction, erotica, and poetry are not accepted. The Perverts of Color anthology is intended as a multi-ethnic, multi-racial collection, so we encourage all POCs to submit their stories. We invite POCs of all genders, ages, religions/spiritualities, sexual orientations and socio-economic backgrounds. All authors will keep the copyright to their submission, have a printed biography, and receive one copy of the completed book.

Contact Us
If you are interested, email us at pervertsofcolor@gmail.com with a one-paragraph summary of your essay (250 words maximum) and a short bio (250 words maximum). All submission summaries are due by December 15th at 12 midnight (Eastern Standard Time). We will contact authors individually to express interest in a complete submission.

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Bookmarks

by Viviane on 09/30/2010

in del.icio.us, sex

  • The future of sexology comes to San Francisco with the Arse Elektronika conference | io9 – . I love this array of crazy science fiction/science/sex presentations that straddle the line between academic credibility and outright perversion.
  • Dr. Logan Levkoff: Sex Educators Unite to Support University Sex Weeks | Huffington Post – Though Brooks appeared to be concerned for students' and colleges' reputations, she offers no voice for the student organizers of these events or their faculty supporters (and hints at no discussion with them either). In an effort to present their voices, I reached out to sex educators, college student groups, and faculty members from various universities. Every educator and group contacted was frustrated by Brooks' mischaracterization of their events and their work. Many of them were outraged that the individual leading the charge against sex-themed programming was an economics professor with no experience in sexuality education. We decided to respond and together composed a Letter to the Editor of The Chronicle of Higher Education. It was sent it to the editors on September 16th.
  • Assistant attorney general blogs against gay student body president – CNN.com – For nearly six months, Andrew Shirvell, an assistant attorney general for the state of Michigan, has waged an internet campaign against college student Chris Armstrong, the openly gay student assembly president at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor.
  • Sexy Books: Celebrate your freedom to read during Banned Books Week | Examiner.com –
  • Internet Pornographers Now Suing Pirates | Mashable – The producers have targeted users who downloaded titles that prominently feature transsexuals and “barely legal” 18-year old girls. Since the lawsuits are on public record, the defendants’ porn-viewing habits would be exposed.
  • Why Folsom St. Fair is Fun, Sexy and Important | Charlie Glickman – One of the key pieces of sex-positivity can be summed up by the acronym YKINMKBYKIOK, which stands for “Your Kink Is Not My Kink But Your Kink Is OK”. Once you realize that your turn-ons and your squicks come from within you, once you realize that it has less to do with what someone else is doing or saying than you think, you can discover much more sexual freedom within yourself.

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DSD: The Learning Series

by Viviane on 09/06/2010

in Events, nyc

09/09/2010
8:00 PM

customLogo.gif DSD: The Learning Series
DSD is a community of real people who come together to share information, socialize, and discuss the issues that affect us all.

We’re launching a new monthly meet up for anyone who is interested in sexuality! It’s open to everyone!

Location: The LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St (7th/8th)., NYC, Room 410
Cost: Sliding Scale: $0 – 7.

Dov will be presenting for one hour on Crazy Glue Invisible Bondage and Infibulation!

Crazy glue is steeped in the depths of urban legends of late night rushes to the emergency room to unglue hapless victims who didn’t heed the warning on the label: “WILL BOND SKIN INSTANTLY.” This class is about demystifying this fun pervertible for mindfucks. We will discuss and demonstrate many wonderful perversions with this super-strength glue for bondage. We will also cover safety issues, some theory/chemistry of its function, and its intended medical usage.

Afterwards, we will have three 20-minute presentations, KinkForAll-style, by participants from the audience! Just show up — no need to sign-up!

Info: http://www.dsdnyc.org/

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Bookmarks

by Viviane on 07/14/2010

in del.icio.us, sex

  • Fox Television Stations, Inc. v. FCC | 2nd Circuit (text of opinion) – “the FCC’s policy violates the First Amendment because it is unconstitutionally vague, creatin.g a chilling effect that goes far beyond the fleeting expletives at issue here.
  • Supreme Court Strikes Down FCC’s Indecency Policy – WSJ.com – A three-judge panel of the Second U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals in New York said the Federal Communications Commission’s indecency policies violate the First Amendment and are “unconstitutionally vague, creating a chilling effect that goes far beyond the fleeting expletives at issue here.” (Fox v. FCC)
  • “Buttman’s” porn obscenity trial: Why it matters | Salon.com – Whatever the outcome, the moment in our legal history when at last we recognize that community is now everybody with a computer, that “prurience” is in all our cable boxes and our hotel rooms — and that civilization has somehow managed to continue to exist anyway — may soon be upon us.
  • IML 2010 and Getting Real About Contests | Race Bannon – I now liken the contest circuit to the court system within the larger LGBT community. It has its own community, priorities, protocols, rituals, honors, awards and social constructs. It is a subset of the overall LGBT community, but does not necessarily “represent” that entire community in the sense that not all LGBT folks relate to the court system or its adherents. They might attend a court event or mix socially with court members and winners, but that doesn’t mean they relate to them personally whatsoever. That’s not a judgment, just an observation.

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LSM Presents: Fishnets and Furry Handcuffs: The Perception of Kink in Popular Culture with Leila

by Viviane on 07/02/2010

in Events

07/16/2010
8:00 PMto10:00 PM

pleasure in pain LSM Presents: Fishnets and Furry Handcuffs: The Perception of Kink in Popular Culture with Leila

Where: LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave)
Cost: $5/LSM members, $10/Non members
Presented by Lesbian Sex Mafia

What happens when kink becomes commodified?

This presentation explores how contemporary popular culture portrays BDSM (for better or for worse) and what happens when kink comes out of the dungeon and on to prime time. From “Wonder Woman” to “Family Guy”, kink has been a part of our cultural vocabulary for decades. We’ll take a look at and talk about how kink has effected the media and how
the media effects us.

About Leila

Leila is a graphic designer who has worked in corporate branding for the past 15 years, but has been a pervert for far longer than that. Her blog Kink+Culture is devoted to the exploration of BDSM in art, design, and popular culture. She has presented at Kink For All NYC and has been active in the New York BDSM scene for about 3 years. When she’s not making the world a more beautiful place one logo at a time, she gets hit with stuff for fun.

About LSM
LSM is a support and information group for all women 18 years of age or older, including transexual and intersexed women who live their daily lives as women and all female-born transgender people who feel they have a connection with and respect for the women’s community. And, who are interested in fantasy and role playing, bondage, discipline, S/M, fetishes, costumes, alternate gender identities and uninhibited sexual expression in a safe, sane, consensual and confidential way.

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e[lust] #15

by Lolita Wolf on 06/11/2010

in sexbloggers

16 e[lust] #15

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #16? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Evolution – Open Marriage, Swinging, & Polyamory – Do we REALLY believe that there is one love for us? Do we really believe there’s one cock or pussy to fuck for the rest of our life?

Sweet To Taste – “I’m dinner tonight,” she breathes. “So don’t let me get cold before you start feasting.”

Having a boyfriend makes me feel fat - I know my worth as a person isn’t devalued by my weight – but I can’t get past the notion that my worth as a partner is.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Fucked by a Stranger – For as long as I can remember, I’ve had this bizarre, twisted fantasy. The roads leading to it were different, but the end result the same: a stranger fucking a very willing me in my bed in the dead of night.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

At Her Mercy – “You have been such a good boy today. Where do you want me to put your cock next?” she said with a wink.

See also: Pleasurists #78 and #79 for all your sex toy review needs.

Erotic Writing

A Taste of Honey
A Collaborative Fantasy
Dirty in all the Right Places
Fuck my face
I miss your cock
I Didn’t Think I Was Ready…
In a nightclub
Just can’t get enough
Let’s Not Waste That Morning Wood
Morning Lust
Nothing Personal, prologue, part one
Possess Me
Stowaway Dildo. Confession #477
The Black Sheets
The Sitter
Waking Up

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

EdenFantasys: A pattern of deception
HIV, Lube Quality, and Anal Sex: Scare Tactics at the LA Times
I Bet Nick Cage Won’t Eat A Preying Mantis
Interview with Scott Owens of EroticBPM
Reaching a Goal

Kink & Fetish

Another Night of Debauchery
Batteries with a Hook
Chastity and the ensuing Punishment
Differences in Submission
I can feel him punch-fucking me
Patient Griselda
Please hurt me
Please, Sir
Remembrances
Story: The Price (FM/M)
Summoned
The Submissive & My Paddle
Visceral and cerebral
Whippings at the Royal Palace

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Answers with an Agenda 3- Dental Dams
Acceptance
Getting Started – Their Profile
How Swinging Gave Me Confidence
My View on Monogamy
Roxy’s April Visit: Collaring My girl, the Ceremony
Sometimes Simplicity
The Sad Seal Lady & Other Precautionary Tales
The 4 of Swords

10 e[lust] #15

Derrick Pierce and Felony on SexandSubmission.com

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TES Fest 2010

by Viviane on 05/26/2010

in Events, sex

07/02/2010to07/05/2010

tesfest2010 1 TES Fest 2010

Location: Piscataway, NJ

TES Fest  is the annual gathering for the BDSM and sex-positive communities to celebrate the steps TES‘s founding fathers took in 1971:  the opportunity to find our freedom.

Taking place over the Fourth of July weekend, TES Fest is the premiere event in the NYC Metro region for everyone (from amateurs to seasoned veterans) to socialize, learn new skills and simply have a great time. With classes and special events covering the gamut of topics and special interests, TES Fest allows people to explore, educate and entertain themselves in a healthy, safe and sane environment.

TES Fest 2010 will be held July 2-5, 2010 at a 3 star hotel in Piscataway, N. J. We will have the ENTIRE hotel for the weekend. There will be no shuttle buses to ride, everything all in the same place.

We have tons of classes, great vendors, and fabulous play-space setup by The Crucible. Come out and relax and play. No stress. Cool people. Who needs the beach when we have a pool all to ourselves? What more do you want for a holiday weekend.

See the TES Fest website for information about registering, presenters, special events, the event hotel, etc.

TES Fest Class list (subject to change)

Self Skills
- So You Want to Be a Slut?… Survival Tips on How to Do it Safely, Sanely, and Just Have Fun! – Aiden Fyre
- What is Queer?: Dissecting Sex, Gender and Orientation – Aiden Fyre
- They’re Sexy, I’m Not. How To Get Over It And Find You! – Coral
- Gender Transformation – Klawdya Rothschild
- The Greedy Pig Battles the Green-Eyed Monster – Lolita Wolf
- 7 Touchstones for Getting and Keeping Passionate Relationships Fostering & Establishing Leather Families – Lady Hilary and The Marine

Ouch
- Flogging 101 – If Boymeat Can Flog, So Can You! – Boymeat
- Spanking – Pat Baillie
- Advanced Caning – Coraline
- Massaging Masochists – Joshua HighTower
- Beginner Single Tail Whips – Master George
- Advanced Single Tail Whips – Master George
- Sufi-inspired strategies for pain processing – Rope Boi
- Yielding to Brutality: Punching and Kicking with Love – Lady Hilary and The Marine

Potpourri
- Electricity – Shockingly Affordable! – Boymeat
- Aural Sex: The Erotic Power of Music and Words – Coraline
- Feral Play – Joshua HighTower
- I’m a Barbie Girl: Doll fetishes and mindset – Ms. CherriesJubalie
- Cram Your Strawberries! Food Play from Nibbles to the Edge – Nayland
- Sade and Masoch: A History Lesson – Rope Boi

Edge
- Once a Month… Menstrual Play – Coral
- Straight to the Point: Erotic and Intense Play Piercing – Damon Pierce & Claire Adams
- Bloodsports 201 – Sharrin Spector
- Rituals in Blood – Sharrin Spector
- Embarrass, Humiliate Degrade, Objectify: Basics of Psychological Status Play – Nayland
- Fireplay 101 – Pairadox
- Fireplay 201 – Pairadox
- I Ask The Questions Here: Military Style Interrogations – Sir Guy

Rope
- Rope Bondage for Beginners – Lolita Wolf
- Breaking it Down : Symmetrical Ties (Part I) – Damon Pierce & Claire Adams
- Breaking it Down : Asymmetrical Ties (Part II) – Damon Pierce & Claire Adams
- Arm Binders – Leon von Monkey Fetish
- Fancy Simple Knots You Can Pervert for Fun and Profit – Dov
- Throwing away the Book: Techniques to Take Your Bondage to the Next Level – Leon von Monkey Fetish
- Partial Suspension – Dov
- Suspension – Klawdya Rothschild
- Dancing in the Ropes: Adding Dynamics to your Scene – Ms. CherriesJubalie

Sex & Love
- Intro to CBT – Helga
- Sounds and Catheterization – Helga
- Get Back Into the Love in Your Life – Morgan Lewis, HMQ
- Sacred Sex and Sacred Whoredom – Klawdya Rothschild
- Squirting 101 – Sammi Sui
- Anal 101 – Strap-on Jo
- Strap-ons 101 – Strap-on Jo

D/s & M/s
- Discovering Dominance: A Guide to the Dominant Beginner – Sir Guy
- Daddy as an Act of Service – Pat Baillie
- Master/slave Relations: A Corporate Approach – Robert Rubel (Dr. Bob)
- Using Protocols to Make Your Relationship Special – Robert Rubel (Dr. Bob)
- Components of a Submissive’s Psychology – Sea
- Languages of D/s – Sea
- Healthy Surrender – tomo
- Living the Life 24/7 – tomo

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e[lust] #13

by Lolita Wolf on 05/24/2010

in sexbloggers

3 e[lust] #13

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #14? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Stuck – Since I first saw the picture he sent me I have had this visual stuck in my head, like a sweet thing lingering in the mouth…. wrists bound, tied to headboard–ankles bound, tied to baseboard– naked, exposed

Animalistic - I grabbed the back of your ponytail like I owned you. No protest. Only a moan. Fuck, how aroused were you? Even your kiss was desperate, wet, passionate; your body was on fire and it showed.

A Hot Afternoon – She took Grady’s hand and guided it between her legs. Grady’s instinct kicked in as soon as she touched Hatty’s tender clit and felt the wetness gathered there.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Confessional: Fixation/Addiction – In porn, both video and photo, I have little interest in the men. It’s the women who get my full attention, who arouse me. I seek them out. I flick past hetero couplings, bored. Blow jobs? Meh. Oh wait, close-up of her pussy? Her coming? Ok I’ll watch now.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Thanks for the mansplanation, but I greatly prefer my vibrator – His views on female masturbation (derived, clearly, from absolutely nothing legitimate) are so fucked up, so irritating, and so detrimental, that I want to punch him in the face. It is, truly, mansplaining at its finest.

See also: Pleasurists #75 and #76 for all your sex toy review needs.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

A Pondering
An I thought us girls were supposed to be the confusing sex?
I get ragingly horny watching gay porn
Menopausal Body
Over-Rated
Snotty Blowjob
The Ethical Slut
What counts as kinky?
What Is Romance
Why We Swing

Sex News, Interviews, Politics and Humor

Strip Club Series – Part One – Club Super Sexe

Kink & Fetish

An Anal Fairy Tale
How I Turned My (Ex)Husband Into a Pervert Pt.1
In Her Place
Kinky
Love that Thang He Does
On Productivity, Insanity and Grilled Cheese Sandwiches
Rights and Responsibilities
Shoe shopping
Show Me Your Teeth
The Greek Slave
Voice

Erotic Writing

A Recurring Fantasy
almost
Awakenings
A Helping Hand
Bite me
challenge
des fumes
Exposed
Frankie Says Swallow
For your prompt review
Gardening
Glass Elevators
Haze
In The Boardroom With Brock
Microfantasy Monday, week 77: Rain, part 2
Monday Morning Flash – “Homebaking”

One of the Hottest Moments I Had as a Prostitute
Seven
the feast
Unexpected Pleasures
Used
Wet

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Steve Holmes and Mia Lelani on SexandSubmission.com

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e[lust] #10

by Lolita Wolf on 04/07/2010

in sexbloggers

11 e[lust] #10

Welcome to e[lust] - The 10th edition! Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #11? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Negotiation – Not Nearly As Awkward As Having a Breakdown in Public – All the worries about getting to know a new person (“Am I dressed ok? Are they gonna like my stories about my grandma?”) get exaggerated when you’re talking about sex and desire…

Dollar Store Domme – He definitely can’t elude the dollops of toothpaste I dab onto his nipples. It takes a delicious second before he feels the cool burn penetrate his flesh. By that time I’m already up and selecting a plastic spatula from the credenza.

The Best of Both Worlds or Lost in Limbo? – Whether intentional or unthinking, bisexual denial is a frustrating thing for bisexual, pansexual or ‘fluid’ people to have to deal with.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Navigating Genderqueer in Suburbia – But pray tell how do the rest of us navigate it? How the hell am I supposed to know if you identify as male or just like dressing like one?

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

The Daddy Issue: Sexualizing Abuse – I needed to walk through this fear, and turn it into pleasure. I needed to prove to myself that he hadn’t broken me. That he hadn’t changed who I was to become. That I was not affected by what he did. That he didn’t abuse me.

See also: Pleasurists #69 and #70 for all your sex toy review needs.


Erotic Writing

15 minute phone sex
…And Orgasms On Demand
A Neighbor In Need #7
Afternoon Delight!
Casino
Desperation & Dominance
Dreams
Evening Home, Part 3
First Asleep Loses
Happy ending
I Got….
I am a keeper of secrets
I Got Fucked
I am Coming for You: A Letter to Scin
Late Night Satisfaction
Lolita’s Mother
Making M Squirt
Sir ~ intro
The Hatter
The Flash Fiction Friday FAQ!
Trussed
We fucked, they applauded
Where there is a libido, there is a way
Wicked Wednesday: Idyll

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

20 Reasons Why Sex Is Good
Defining Sex
Hurt me, Pet
I Was Raped
Playing Dumb
Red Flags of an Abusive Partner, Part 2
Restrictions and Satisfaction
Someone Else’s Shoes
Sex Isn’t Everything
The Art of Sensual Touching-Caressing for You and Your Partner
The STI You Haven’t Heard of: Molluscum contagiosum
The Suit
Vibrant Woman or Live Masturbation Sleeve
What I Don’t Need

Kink & Fetish

A Little Girl’s Need for Submission
Are You Done Yet?
A Reformatory Punishment
BDSM Advice Series: Floggers
Bruises
Determined to bind
His Slut
I Really Wasn’t In The Mood
Impact
Pain and Healing
Questions From DH About These Things We Do
Surrender
Sub Drop: Fact or Fiction?
Tiiu Ashcraft – Fetish Artist and Beauty
The Eroticism of Tattoos
The Competition
Wanting to want

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

A History of Violence
Asshat of the Day Award
Awesome Mentoring Work and Upcoming Apprenticeship

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Aiden Starr, Maitresse Madeline, Dylan Deap, Zak Tyler
and Fivestar on divinebitches.com

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Mollena Williams’ NYC Tour

by Viviane on 03/16/2010

in bdsm

mollenawilliams 216x300 Mollena Williams NYC Tour

Mollena Williams. Photo by Colm McCarthy

NYC is lucky this week, because my friend, West Coast based kinkster and educator Mollena Williams, is in town. These are workshops you’d otherwise have to travel to national conferences to see, so take advantage of her presence here, and go!

Here’s her schedule:

Tuesday, March 16
TES Presents: RACE: The Final Frontier”

The idea of playing into stereotypes and bigotry, of doing scenes that recall horrors from the darkest moments of history is, in many folk’s opinion, best left alone. But…for those who are drawn to explore deeper crevasses of our psyche, the desire to explore that taboo can be compelling. Even if you’re not desirous of acting on these fantasies, taking charge of them and letting go of guilt can be an amazing release. Should you decide to act on these fantasies, you’ll get tips on how to approach this edgeplay, what to do if things do not fall out as planned and the pros and cons of doing these scenes in public venues. Expect the unexpected and prepare to surprise yourself.
http://fetlife.com/events/14083

Thurs., Mar. 18
BDSM Night at In the Flesh

Get kinky with memoir writers, BDSM educators, erotica authors, a porn star, and more at In The Flesh. Featuring Melissa Febos (author of dominatrix memoir Whip Smart), blogger Selina Fire (Pleasure Salon), rope bondage expert Monk (Twistedmonk.com), Julie Powell (author of Cleaving and Julie and Julia), erotica writer Xan West (contributor, Best SM Erotica 3), Mollena Williams (author, “BDSM and Playing with Race” in Best Sex Writing 2010, BDSM educator Lolita Wolf (LeatherYenta.com) and feminist porn star Madison Young (MadisonBound.com). Note: Both floors of Happy Ending will be opened for this event.
http://fetlife.com/events/11598

Friday, Mar. 19
LSM presents: Taboo Play, and Working Through Extremes

If you have ever had a scene that lured you with the promise of edgy intensity, but wondered if you could handle the situation before, during or afterward, this discussion is for you! We will explore the reasons some people enjoy play that is VERY edgy psychologically, emotionally and physically, and how you can go about making that fantasy a reality. Inherent in this discussion is the level of responsibility of both / all partners, how to manage risk, and how you can support your partner in the aftermath. Edgy play can be hot, and we will look at ways to avoid some common pitfalls, as well as how to recover with grace and honor when things go off of the planned path.
http://bit.ly/91f2gk

Sunday, Mar. 21
Instigate NYC: Strong Slaves, Bodacious Bottoms & Ass-Kicking Submissives: Embracing Dichotomy

Self-identification is difficult for anyone in the alternative lifestyle. It can be even more challenging for people who see themselves as strong in their lives but desirous of submission. There is a great deal of pressure in the BDSM community to “seem submissive,” so what do you do when you see yourself as strong and fierce and yet crave mastery and domination? Believe me, you are not alone. There are many submissives and bottoms and slaves who are strong and independent and finding their way through the maze of the Kink Community! This class is an intense discussion of self-assessment personal identification, passion and power. From those who struggle with their desire to submit, to those who strive for greater strength of purpose, this class will be a wonderful opportunity to bond with the likeminded and suss out your strength in an open setting. And for tops, dominants and masters, this is an excellent opportunity to get into the mind of those who are strong and embrace the dichotomy of strength in submission and freedom in slavery!
http://fetlife.com/events/14295

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