- Grab Your Dick and Double Click : Librarian Hot – It should come as no surprise that I really enjoyed the Blue and Lust books, while I wanted to throw the Jensen and Paul books across the room (or out the window, or off of a really big cliff). I do agree with them about a few things: for one, that pornography addiction is real, and it can cause serious damage to relationships (as can, of course, any addiction or compulsive behavior). I also agree that most mainstream porn is indeed extremely misogynistic. But do you know what I find even more demeaning to women? Anti-porn crusaders’ tired gender essentialism arguments.
- How the Media Should Treat the Sexual Assault Allegations Against Al Gore | The Nation – A handful of feminist blogs, including Feministing, precede me in decrying the media's haste to impugn the credibility of the accuser. As they rightly observe, almost all other media coverage of the story has given the rest of us permission to giggle, when what we really need is a sober dose of reality: that these are credible charges against a very powerful and influential man. It's in our shared interest to take them seriously, evaluate them based on whatever information comes to light and demand answers and accountability.
- The New Abortion Providers – NYTimes.com – This abortion-rights campaign, led by physicians themselves, is trying to recast doctors, changing them from a weak link of abortion to a strong one. Its leaders have built residency programs and fellowships at university hospitals, with the hope that, eventually, more and more doctors will use their training to bring abortion into their practices. The bold idea at the heart of this effort is to integrate abortion so that it’s a seamless part of health care for women — embraced rather than shunned.
- For Women, Social Media is More Than "Girl Talk" | Mashable – It turns out that sociolinguists have found women to be innovators when it comes to communication, especially with new forms of languages. … The practical benefits that social media affords, combined with its emotionally fulfilling features make it likely that women will not only continue to engage with social media, but with future related innovations, as well.
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- 20% of Librarians Have Done It In The Stacks, and Other Sexy Librarian Stats – Sex – Gawker – Will Manley is a retired librarian. In 1992, while working for the Wilson Library Bulletin, he sent a survey to subscribers about sex. 5,000 librarians responded, but the prudish Library Bulletin wouldn't publish the results. They've finally been released!
- Sonoma County CA separates elderly gay couple and sells all of their worldly possessions | The Bilerico Project – Clay and his partner of 20 years, Harold, lived in California. Clay and Harold made diligent efforts to protect their legal rights, and had their legal paperwork in place–wills, powers of attorney, and medical directives, all naming each other. Harold was 88 years old and in frail medical condition, but still living at home with Clay, 77, who was in good health.
- 10 common online reputation mistakes | Blog | Econsultancy – In today's internet-enabled world, your 'reputation' is arguably more important than it has ever been in the past. Increasingly, information about you and your business will find its way online, and what people say about you online has the potential to become a significant asset or liability.<br />
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So it's no surprise that 'online reputation management' is a hot area. But as with SEO and social media, many mistakes are made.
- Gender Spectrum | Creating a more gender sensitive and inclusive environment for all children and teens – Gender Spectrum provides education, training and support to help create a gender sensitive and inclusive environment for all children and teens.
- My opinions on youth at KinkForAll unconferences | Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed › – I’d like to make clear that I am of the opinion anyone under the age of consent should be requested to seek the permission of their parents or legal guardian before participating in a KinkForAll unconference. I remain convinced that it would be inappropriate and unnecessary for a specific age restriction to be imposed as a blanket rule for all KinkForAll unconferences.
- Sex bans in nursing homes – Is it proper, or even legal, to keep intimacy off-limits in nursing homes?
- Four Questions About Urban Tantra –
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These are my links for October 21st through October 22nd:
- Mollena Williams Named Ms. SF Leather 2009 | San Francisco Bay Times – Originally from New York, Mo has been active in the BDSM community since 1996. She is a founding member of the Crowded Fire Theater Company and speaks at leather events across the U.S. on many kinkcentric topics. Over the next year, Mo will be at every major leather event in the Bay Area and will produce several fundraising events to benefit Bay Area non-profits organizations. Mo plans to travel extensively and, in March 2010, will be competing for the title of International Ms. Leather here in San Francisco.
- NYS Updates Rape Kit, For the First Time in 20 Years | WNYC – For the first time in 20 years, New York is overhauling the way it collects forensic evidence from sexual assault victims. They found the rape kit needed to be updated to include more areas of the body for possible DNA collection. Evidence will also be gathered in a different sequence, from head to toe so it's not destroyed.
- Two Yale Law Grads Settle Suit Against Once-Anonymous Online Critics | ABA Journal – Law News Now – Two graduates of Yale Law School have settled their defamation lawsuit against several online critics who wrote nasty comments about them on the law school discussion board AutoAdmit.
- Rape Is a Pre-Existing Condition? The Heartlessness of the Health Insurance Industry Exposed | Health and Wellness | AlterNet – Some women have contacted the Investigative Fund to say they were deemed ineligible for health insurance because they had a pre-existing condition as a result of a rape, such as post traumatic stress disorder or a sexually transmitted disease. Other patients and therapists wrote in with allegations that insurers are routinely denying long-term mental health care to women who have been sexually assaulted.
- The Daisy Dick Strap-on/Strap-off rope harness | Feel the Love – I spent the entire weekend on into tonight mucking with it and ended up making a decorative dick harness that can be taken off, reused, and even washed (theoretically). It can be sized to custom fit any body. The centerpiece knot is a modified doubled up version of the Good Luck Knot, which can be seen here.
- The Gender Illusion | jaysays.com | – Caster outwardly threatens the gender illusion with her deep voice, masculine build and female identity. Because of her amazing athleticism she is now scrutinized and labeled in an attempt to disenfranchise her from her own identity. The boundaries of her gender and the legitimacy of her very existence are being judged by people who have no way of accomplishing such a task.
- Judge shoots down challenge to Craigslist erotic services • The Register – The ruling by US District Judge John F. Grady is good news not only for Craigslist but for any US-based website that accepts comments, photos, or other types of user-submitted content. The 22-page decision made it clear that a provision in the CDA, or Communications Decency Act, fully immunizes the site for user-supplied ads even when they "provide" contact details for prostitutes and brothels.
- KinkForAll (aka. KinkCamp) / KinkForAllSanFrancisco – KinkForAll San Francisco will be the first sexuality unconference of its kind in the Bay Area! Imagine what would be possible if you combined TED Talks with BarCamp. Welcome to KinkForAll! Now, get ready to change the world. Don't worry, it's actually not very difficult, and it's a lot of fun.
- WordPress › WordPress Exploit Scanner « WordPress Plugins – This plugin searches the files on your website, and the posts and comments tables of your database for anything suspicious. It also examines your list of active plugins for unusual filenames.
- WordPress 2.8.5: Hardening Release – We have also been working on trying to make WordPress as secure as possible and during this process we have identified a number of security hardening changes that we thought were worth back-porting to the 2.8 branch so as to get these improvements out there and make all your sites as secure as possible.
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Written by Latoya Peterson
*Trigger Warning*
Latoya’s Note: So, as promised, here’s the original version of the essay that appears in Yes Means Yes. If you see this popping up in your reader, I do not recommend you read it at work.
Rape is only four letters, one small syllable, and yet it is one of the hardest words to coax from your lips when you need it most.
Entering our teenage years in the sex saturated ’90s, my friends and I knew tons about rape. We knew to always be aware while walking, to hold your keys out as a possible weapon against an attack. We knew that we shouldn’t walk alone at night, and if we absolutely had to, we were to avoid shortcuts, dark paths, or alleyways. We even learned ways to combat date rape, even though none of us were old enough to have friends that drove, or to be invited to parties with alcohol. We memorized the mantras, chanting them like a yogic sutra, crafting our words into a protective charm with which to ward off potential rapists: do not walk alone at night. Put a napkin over your drink at parties. Don’t get into cars with strange men. If someone tries to abduct you, scream loudly and try to attack them because a rapist tries to pick women who are easy targets.
Yes, we learned a lot about rape.
What we were not prepared for was everything else. Rape was something we could identify, an act with a strict definition and two distinct scenarios. Not rape was something else entirely.
Not rape was all those other little things that we experienced everyday and struggled to learn how to deal with those situations. In those days, my ears were filled with secrets that were not my own, the confessions of not rapes experienced by the girls I knew then and the women I know now.
When I was twelve, my best friend at the time had met a guy and lied to him about her age. She told him she was sixteen and she did have the body to back it up. Some “poor hapless†guy sleeping with her accidentally would make complete sense – except for the fact that guy was twenty-five. He eventually slept with her, taking her virginity, even after he figured out how old we were. After all, it’s kind of a dead giveaway if you’re picking your girlfriend up at a middle school.
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It took a while to register, but there was something naggingly familiar about Bernann McKinney, the 57-year-old California woman whose ecstatically beaming features were splashed across the world’s media on Aug. 6. The story was already a corker: the five baby pitbull terriers McKinney was showing off had been cloned in Korea from the ear of her late and much-missed pet Booger, who’d once saved her from an attack by another dog that had practically ripped McKinney’s arm off.
Now the story could get even better. McKinney, if British newspaper suspicions prove true, may be none other than Joyce McKinney, the former Miss Wyoming who once fled Britain to escape charges of kidnapping a Mormon missionary and forcibly having sex with him.
Britons over a certain age will recall with a shudder the surreal and sexy details of that story from the winter of 1977. The 27-year-old McKinney was accused in court, along with a friend, Keith May, of abducting 21-year-old Mormon missionary Kirk Anderson from a church in a London suburb and taking him to a cottage in Okehampton, Devon in the southwest of England. There, said Anderson, he was chained to a bed and forced to have sex with McKinney for three days. McKinney, once a Mormon herself, was said to have formed a crush on him after they’d first met and had sex in 1975. Anderson tried to break off the relationship but McKinney was infatuated and stalked him to England where he’d asked for a posting as a missionary to escape her attentions.
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