Blogging

There is a new phenomenon in today’s information society, the anxiety of which becomes pervasive when one realizes the dangers and fragility brought upon by the interconnected Web 2.0 sphere. This is the problem of online oversharing: the tension in finding the right balance of what parts of one’s subjective identity should be put online. This is an anxious search, because, at first, it is understandably hard to realize that the internet is a totally new space with its own novel dynamics; any attempt to categorize it as public or private sphere or any of the classical categories would fail just as miserably as any attempt to introduce old-market commodity dynamics to the remix culture of intellectual property. As such, adapting to the new big Other of the internet becomes even harder.

How much should our online avatar, our novel cyber-embodiment, resemble our stupid, abrupt, physical identity of existence? Of course, we have all the big postmodern theories about how everything is no more than a simulacra, how reality and fantasy becomes blurred, that we live in a state of hyperreality, etc. But I think this idea is a little too naive for today’s society — rather than the blurring of fantasy and reality, is it not more true that the condition of our second embodiment, one I dubbed the monitor phase, calls for an inversion of fantasy? What I mean is quite simple: as our lives are today more and more lived on the other side of the screen, is it not, then, only logical that when the simulation is more real than the reality itself, reality becomes more and more like our fantasies?

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. . .If the sex-writing bubble is bursting, that isn’t entirely a bad thing – and I say this even as a victim of what’s been going on. I like reading and hearing lots of perspectives on sexuality, and delivering real information about sexuality is real work. But writing about sex also has a really low bar for entry – you just have to have sex, or think about it, and be unashamed of putting it out there.

Certainly, the glut of sex blogs that people write for free is affecting the market for those of us who want to be paid for our sex writing. Certainly a lot of what my career is today is the direct result of maintaining a blog though, ahem, I’m not so good at keeping it consistent these days, and I don’t make money from this blog at all.

I would be sad if the above people’s voices disappeared from the internet – but I also don’t think professionals should work for nothing, and I don’t really see a clear path to piles of money for this smart bunch of writers. Compulsively producing more and more content isn’t the answer, and that’s what’s been going on with blogs for the past few years – Gawker publishes posts every fifteen minutes during weekday work hours. There is no reason for there to be that much content – its compulsive, its stressful, it reduces the quality and the impact of the work.

. . .I want to see these folks I so admire, many of whom I’ve worked with and who are my peers and my inspiration, rise from the ashes. But I don’t want to just see another round of blogs founded, columns assigned. I think there has to be more than that – it has to be about culture, not just words and pageviews and links.

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Melissa Giras teaching a class on sex and blogging:

Blogging Sex
Tuesday, October 14, 2008, 7:30pm – 9:00pm
Center for Sex and Culture
1519 Mission Street, San Francisco, CA

Learning how to set up a blog is *so* not the same thing as learning how to deal with what you’re going to say on your blog. Especially if that’s about sex. Your audience may be the dozen friends and lovers who read you every day in a private journal, or it could be as much of the world that you want — and co-workers, family, and a few ex’s to boot. You may write under a pseudonym, or you may want to make a name for yourself. You might write smut, or confession, memoir, or essay: since it’s sex and you’re writing in public, it’s going to get messy sooner or later. Melissa will share some of the more scandalous success stories of where blogging sex has taken a few online personalities you’ve heard of and (since it’s the Internet) some you definitely haven’t heard of yet. She’ll be drawing on her own ten years as a serial oversharer online, and just a little on her stint this year reporting on sex for the Internet industry gossip blog Valleywag.com. If you’ve ever wondered how to write fairly, smartly, and hotly online about your own sex life, come to this talk and workshop with your laptop and your questions.

. . . If anonymous blogging is already writing for the drawer and this blog is a space for my most personal and difficult thoughts, then where do I write down the things that I can’t even say here? One solution is personal friendships. I have a friend that frequently sends me emails with pieces of writing and a subject line like, “I can’t blog this”. Sometimes he is correct. For social reasons or political ones or just “good taste”, he really can’t. Sometimes I convince him that he is wrong because I know his subject line is a challenge to both of us, of course he “can” blog it, but will he?

Me? I don’t even commit these dirtiest of thoughts to words in a publishable way. I may talk about them with friends or even allude to them on Twitter but the simple act of stringing words into sentences and sentences into paragraphs seems very risky and final to me. If I write and I don’t publish, I am admitting that the thoughts are unpublishable. And if I don’t publish the unpublishable, what am I doing here?

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arse Arse Elektronika 2008

Arse Elektronika 2008 — “Do Androids Sleep with Electric Sheep?” — will take place at CELLspace (San Francisco). September 25 thru 28, 2008.

Susan Mernit and I will be doing a panel:

Avoiding the Emily Gould Effect
Susan Mernit & Viviane

“Oversharing”, sex blogging & erotica. How to successfully manage your online identity, whether you’re pseudonymous or right out there. As the legions of bloggers sharing personal stories of sexuality, erotica and adventure grow and as sex & relationship blogs become big business we hear both stories of bloggers who regret what they’ve shared (Emily Gould) and survived a tawdry outing (Zoe Margolis), and those who’ve parlayed sex & erotica blogging into far more mainstream careers (Rachel Kramer Bussel, Melissa Gira Grant, Violet Blue. How do you manage your online persona so you’re in control of your story? What to do if you get outed?  Join Viviane, leader of The Sex Carnival, and Susan Mernit, sex and relationships contributing editor at Blogher, in a discussion of sharing, oversharing, and the best ways to put it out there. A hand out of tips for beginners and getting started will also be provided.

Full schedule here.

About AE

Critical Perspectives on Sexuality and Pornography in Science and Social Fiction

Taking up where the successful conference in autumn 2007 left off, this year’s Arse Elektronika stands under the motto “future” — and the ways in which the present sees itself reflected in it. Maintaining a broadened perspective on technical development and technology while also putting special emphasis on its social implementation, this year’s conference focuses on Science and Social Fiction.

The genre of the “fantastic” is especially well suited to the investigation of the touchy area of sexuality and pornography: actual and assumed developments are frequently depicted positively and approvingly, but just as often with dystopian admonishment. Here the classic, and continuingly valid, themes of modernism represent a clear link between the two aspects: questions of science, research and technologization are of interest, as is the complex surrounding urbanism, artificiality and control (or the loss of control). Depictions of the future, irregardless of the form they take, always address the present as well. Imaginations of the fantastic and the nightmarish give rise to a thematic overlapping of the exotic, the alienating and, of course, the pornographic/sexual as well.

Jezebelism (Lizz Winstead, Huffington Post):

I don’t know if they came to the show drunk, or just ended up drunk by the time they hit the stage, but what I do know is that the discussion that ensued was deeply disturbing to me for a few reasons:

1. Because they had no regard for the people who came that night and paid money to hear them speak.

2. They do not understand the influence they have over the women who read them, nor do they accept any responsibility as role models for young women who are coming of age searching for lifestyles to emulate.


Thoughts About Thinking & Drinking
(Anna, Jezebel.com):

These three women had the chance to have a fun, spirited discussion — or a serious talk; it remains unclear what the event was “supposed” to be — about issues like pop culture, politics, lifestyle choices, what it means to be a woman and/or a feminist, and the intersection of personal and professional responsibility. That chance was squandered. Some blame the format, or the participants, or generational differences, or alcohol, or the provocative subject matter, or unrealistic expectations, inarticulateness and lack of preparedness. I believe that everyone, however, can agree that the whole thing was a fucking shame.

Jezebel Writers Too Smart To Be Raped (College Candy)

We have no problem with the choices these women make in their personal lives, but we do have a problem with the fact that they take an issue like rape and make light of it. Pass it off like it’s funny, impossible, fictional and that they are too smart to let it happen to them…

Though we may not want to be role models, blogging comes with that responsibility. We would be jobless if it weren’t for the people who read and emulate us, so it is disgusting for these two ladies of Jezebel to ignore their responsibilities and make light of such a serious situation. . .

It may have been the wine talking, but what they said is embarrassing and just plain wrong. Women today are very lucky to live in a society that allows us the freedom to choose our lifestyle; we cannot take it for granted.

We’re getting two new contributors to the Carnival!

The mad bad rascal, will be posting occasional videos. If Jefferson can do the Smut Turntable, this blog can have a resident DJ.

And the beautiful Meg, who no longer posts to the tales of a teacher (and slut), will be reviewing sex toys for the Carnival.

Please welcome them!