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e[lust] #21

by Lolita Wolf on 12/26/2010

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #22? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

Important e[lust] update: e[lust] will be going on hiatus for the holidays. The editions for November and December would both occur around the holidays and I know I’ll be short on both submissions and judges as well as personal time. e[lust] #22 will return in January, with ample advance warning, so please make sure you’re subscribed for updates!

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

D/s Without the D/s? – This is one of those situations in a real time D/s relationship where much of the “fun” aspects of the D/s needs to be stuffed in the closet for a bit. And for us, it’s not a great time to be either a masochist or a sadist. We can deal with that.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Yes, Jelly Sex Toys Can be Dangerous – Even if a jelly rubber toy says “phthalate-free”, it still can contain toxic chemicals that can cause skin reactions in some people. These toys are still non-porous and can harbor dirt and bacteria because they cannot be sanitized.

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Unfortunately, this edition has no Top Three picks as I didn’t have enough volunteer judges. If you’d like to volunteer to help, visit this page to find out more info and ensure that the Top Three picks continue.

See also: Pleasurists #101 and #100 for all your sex toy review needs.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

All Painted Up…
A Modest Proposal: Should Ginger & Cooper Fuck?
Happy Sexual Freedom Day
How Do You Explain
Life in spanking after 30: part 2

Erotic Writing

blindfold
Fantasy: Movie Night
Feeling Helpless
Gabrielle, Guest Star
Happy Anniversary…
History Lesson
I Still Don’t Know How You Taste
Monday Morning 2am
Metallic Seduction
Need
New Erotic Story For The Holidays – Tinsel Temptation
Putting the car into park
The Ordeal (Part Four)
The Sweetest Violation
The Young Mom
The Moment
The Soccer Mom
Timeless in a Window’s Light

Kink & Fetish

A space to hate and rage and be angry (photo story)
Beyond the Bedroom
Does liking Helmut Newton equal a fetish?
Happy Halloween: Light Me Up
I am all pins and needles
Kink and Fibromyalgia
Ownership and Monogamy
Pi
Punishing the servants
Switching It Up
The Cage
The Sacred Swinger Holiday: Halloween!
the most amazing night with HIM
The Pedicure
The Right Question
Wax on, wax off!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

All Roads Lead to Acceptance… I hope!
Crisis Averted
Dear boyfriend, I love you. And your cock.
Having Great Goddamned Expectations
If You Google it, I will Answer #9
I Don’t Know If I’ve Ever Been Really Loved By a Hand That’s Touched Me
How to Massage Man’s G-spot
My Coming Out Story
National Coming Out Day
Recovering From Anorexia
Role Reversal
Sadie’s Condom PSA

Evilyn Fierce on TheTrainingOfO.com

Tagged as: bdsm, erotica, e[lust], fetish, kink, sex, sex blog

Winter Solstice 2011

by Viviane on 12/15/2010

in Events, sex

12/31/2010

01/02/2011

This three day, three night lifestyle event featuring classes, New Year’s Eve celebration and night time play space will be held at the Radisson Hotel, Piscataway NJ.

Winter Solstice is a three day/night lifestyle event featuring 66 classes consisting of six tracks broken down into four sessions/day. Topics included Bondage/Suspension; Master/slave; SM, Singles, Women, Polyamorous and other eclectic topics. Also featured is a New Year’s Eve Dinner celebrations, pre-paid food plan and three nights in our play space.

For more information, visit the Winter Solstice site.

Fetlife page: http://fetlife.com/events/23218

Black Phoenix on Fetlife: http://fetlife.com/groups/5483

Tagged as: bdsm, bondage, Events, kink, tantra

Just Play – A Weekend of Play for Women and Transfolk, Baltimore MD

by Viviane on 11/17/2010

in Events, sex

11/26/2010 9:00 PM	to	11/27/2010 2:00 AM
11/27/2010 9:00 PM	to	11/28/2010 3:00 AM
11/28/2010 1:00 PM	to	11/29/2010 8:00 AM

This event is open for leather women of all persuasions who enjoy woman to woman S/M. All S/M dykes, straight, bisexual and trans-sexual/gender women are welcome. FTM transgender bois/boys/men who feel they have a place in the S/M women’s community are also welcome. We ask that cis gender men, cross-dressers and transvestites please respect that this definition does not include you. We welcome you to join any of our many pansexual events at Play House which are held almost every weekend.

Cost: $25 per day, $75 for the weekend; off street parking available for $5 per day.

Location: Play House Studios in Baltimore, MD – street address provided when you RSVP to GlendaCPFA@aol.com

RSVPs are Strictly Required as this is a sex positive event!!!
Please bring something to share for our communal food table
Non-alcoholic beverages are available for purchase at the club
All experience levels welcome but you must be over 18 to attend
Over-night dorm style crash space is available for an additional fee of $25 per night;
A limited number of work exchange scholarships are available;

For more info please write GlendaCPFA@aol.com

Fetlife RSVP: http://fetlife.com/events/33708

Friday 11/26/10: 9 PM -2 AM: Open Play

Friday 11/26/10

10 PM Class: Empowerment Through Erotic Motion by grrlMel – This class is for anyone who wants to feel beautiful, self-assured, and sexy in the body she has right now not the one she hopes to have after her New Year’s resolutions. It is designed to help people harness their own sensual power and reconnect with the joy that comes from expressing yourself in musical motion — whether slow and steamy or high-energy and hot. I encourage everyone to be gentle with themselves they learn to strut their stuff, and shred their clothes (optional) and inhibitions with style and musicality. Come prepared to participate because you can’t learn to move by watching. (presenter bio at end of invitation)

Saturday 11/27/10:

2 PM Visionary Arts Museum (800 Key Highway, Baltimore, MD 21230) Dinner 6:30 PM @ Kumari (911 N Charles St.Balto, MD 21201) All are welcome, RSVPs requested to GlendaCPFA@aol.com – please specify museum, dinner or both in your RSVP and the # of people.

Saturday 11/27/10 9 PM – 3AM Open Play and the Wrestling Mats will be out! And we are adding a Rope class to Saturday night, too.

Strip Tease and Lap Dancing Extravaganza at Midnight, please bring cash to tip the dancers, it’s for charity!

If you would like to participate in the NCSF Strip Tease and Lap Dancing Extravaganza Fundraiser, please notify Glenda and bring a CD or Mp3 player with your song(s) on it. If you choose to use an Mp3 player, please have your song(s) on it’s own playlist and clearly labeled! You may perform 2 – 3 songs depending on length.

Sunday 11/28/10 1 PM -8 PM: Brunch and Open Play

Sunday 11/28/10 3 PM Class: Strap-ons for Bigger Bodies – A word to the thick soul sistas: Do you find your strap-on sex difficult or clumsy? Is it hard to find a harness that fit you comfortably? Do you wish your dildo was an extension of yourself? We will walk you through how to find the right harness for your size, what to look for in your dildo and how to enhance your pleasure as the thruster while giving your partner that best ride possible. We will also show you different positions in our live demo and how to keep it safe and sexy. (presenter bio at end of invitation)

Please RSVP to GlendaCPFA@aol.com – RSVPs are STRICTLY REQUIRED so that we may bring you sex positive events. Even if you announced your attention to attend via the FetLife events page or a group posting please also RSVP via e mail. THANKS.

We ask that everyone bring something to share for our communal food table. BYOB is allowed but if you choose to drink, please drink only in moderation as inebriation is not appropriate for this event. Non-alcoholic beverages are available for purchase at the club.

Presenter Bios:

ABOUT grrlMEL: grrlMel has been dancing her whole life and teaching dance since 2004. Whether it’s West Coast Swing or Burlesque, she’s known for easy sensuality and her ability to connect to her dance partner and her audience. She focuses on teaching simple, sexy moves set to music (not dancing), to help you connect to your inner sensuality. I strive to provide a supportive environment where folks can relax, be gentle with themselves and gain confidence in expressing themselves through sensual motion.

ABOUT SARA: Sara Vibes was born and raised in New York City. She is a black, polyamorous, queer, kinky, Bi-dyke and an adopted daughter of a sex therapist who had specialized in sex and disability and was disabled herself. Sara knew she was poly when she remembered that her Ken doll dated all the Barbies! Sara is an active member in BDSM, LGBT, and Kink communities in New York City.

She is a founding member of Nina Hartley’s SexWise.me, a sex-positive online community. She currently works as a curator and contributor of SexWise Magazine and a moderator of the online forums. Sara has been interviewed by Nerve magazine and will soon be writing for Zora and Alice, an online magazine for young women of color.
@Sara_Vibes on twitter

ABOUT ASHLEY: Ashley Young is a teacher, writer and artist living in New York City. She identifies as a Fem Queer Dyke and is new to polymory as well as the BDSM scene. Ashley is a huge advocate for people’s fully sexually expressed selves and aspires to be a sex educator along with her partner in the near future. She sums up her poly lifestyle by saying, “I can’t tell the difference between a lesbian and a serial killer, so being poly with my partner has kept me level headed, drama free and allowed me to explore my sexuality with both women and men” @Indig09 on TwitterA

Please help us spread the word about Just Play by forwarding the info to your friends, tweeting your plans to attend and/or posting it to any group where it would be appropriate and welcome. Thanks so much.

Tagged as: baltimore, bdsm, Events, fetish, kink, rope, sexed, sextoys

LSM Presents: Surviving Corporal 101 with Boymeat

by Viviane on 11/05/2010

in Events, Events, Fetish & Kink

11/19/2010
8:00 PM

Meeting open to all genders

Presented by Lesbian Sex Mafia

How to Handle the Physical and Emotional Effects: Pain is a very complicated thing, and creates a myriad of responses in the body. There is the physical side (Ow, fuck! Jeez, how can he take that!) Then there are the emotional effects; the multitude of emotions and thoughts that go through one’s head through pain. Processing pain, while so simply stated in this world, is actually quite difficult at times. In this class we will talk about how to handle the pain both inside and out. We will explore why we endure it, where it takes us and what we can get out of it.

Date: Fri, November 19, 8pm – 10pm (In the spirit of community, it is an LSM tradition to open up our November meeting to all genders.)
Location: The LGBT Center, 208 W 13th St, NY
Cost: LSM member: $5; Non-members $10

About Boymeat

Boymeat, is a 31-year-old native New Yorker.

Discovering The Eulenspiegel Society (TES) at the age of 19, he quickly became an active participant and presenter in the New York SM scene. A former TES board member, he also holds memberships with the Gay Male SM Activists (GMSMA), the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) and the Leather Archives & Museum. He is also an associate member of the New York boys of Leather and active with New York’s Leather Pride Night Committee.

Best known for his outreach to the younger members of our community, he co-created the concept of The Next Generation (TNG), specialized groups serving young adults between the ages of 18 and 35 who are interested in SM. Boymeat was the co-founder of both TES-TNG and GMSMA-TNG, groups that helped kick off the national TNG movement. He also helped organize the first 3 national TNG conferences – Chickenstock in 1999, Second Coming in 2002, and TNG3: BDSM in the Big City in 2003. He has presented on TNG and other issues at multiple Leather Leadership Conferences.

Known as a SM educator, he has taught at almost every major educational event in the United States. He has taught SM, role play, fetishes, and relationships at TES Fest, Black Rose, South Plains Leather Fest, Dungeon 701-901, Portland Kinkfest, and many others. He has also been asked to teach to students at New York University and Columbia University. Finally, he presented keynote speeches at SM Odyssey’s Folsom Fringe 2007, Rio Grande Leather 2007, and TNG4: Bound for the Bay in 2008.

Boymeat is honored to have experience on the title circuit as a judge both at Ms. World Leather 2006 and South East Leatherfest 2007. In addition, he appreciates the chutzpah it takes to run for a title, having run for Gotham Leatherman 2000. His latest and greatest honor has been being asked to serve as Tallymaster at International Mr. Leather 2008.

A bisexual, polyamourous switch, with a penchant for foot fetishism, incest role play and piss play, Boymeat is rumored to be the quite the sadist. An aspirational handcuff collector and leather history slut, he is the man who nerve.com said “makes the Marquis de Sade look like Pat Boone.”

Tagged as: bdsm, boymeat, kink, nyc

Lolita’s NYC Picks of the Week: November 4-10

by Lolita Wolf on 11/04/2010

in Events, Fetish & Kink, nyc

Thursday: Midori is teaching Erotic Humiliation at Purple Passion, but it’s sold out. She’ll be back in 2011. Get your spots early!

Friday: “Artistic Needle Play” with Mistress Sade Ami at DSF.

Saturday: Head down to Philly for Philadelphia Leather Pride Night.

Sunday: The Baroness‘ Fetish Retinue returns on a new night (first Sunday of every month) and at a new place (White Noise, 225 Avenue B). www.Baroness.com

Monday: Poly Cocktails with Sex at Dawn author Christopher Ryan.

Tuesday: TES Meeting — “Cunt and Ball Busting” with Mistress Trish

Wednesday: Impact has moved to Wednesday because Thursday is a holiday.

James Deen, Kristina Rose, Mark Davis, Jessie Cox
and Lorelei Lee on sexandsubmission.com

Tagged as: bdsm, Events, nyc, weekly calendar

Midori’s East Coast Appearances

by Viviane on 11/03/2010

in Events, nyc

11/03/2010 8:00 PM

11/11/2010 8:00 PM

New York

Wed Nov 3 The Pleasure Chest, 156 Seventh Avenue South, New York, NY 10014. Tel 212.242.2158:

JoyStick Secrets: How to Thrill a Man

Thurs Nov 4 Purple Passion, 211 West 20th (7th/8th)

Make ‘em Blush, Make ‘em Squirm: Erotic Humiliation Play (SOLD OUT)

Coco De Mer, 236 Elizabeth St (between E. Houston and Prince), New York, NY 10012 (212-966-9069)

Tues Nov 9 Hands-on Japanese Rope Bondage
Wed Nov 10 “Part 2 – Tricks to Please a Man. Male Erogenous Zones

Baltimore
Sugar Shop, 927 W. 36th St, Hampden, Baltimore MD. (410.467.2632)

Sun 11/7 JoyStick Secrets: How to Thrill a Man
Mon 11/8 Hands-on Rope Bondage

Tagged as: bdsm, Events, kink, Midori, nyc, rope, shibari

Call for Submissions: Lesbian BDSM Erotica Anthology

by Viviane on 11/01/2010

in bdsm, publishing, submissions

To be published by Cleis Press in fall 2011

Editor Sinclair Sexsmith is looking for hot, sexy, well-written stories about kinky sex between queer women, from bondage scenarios to power play to role play to sadism and masochism to sensation play for a new anthology of lesbian BDSM erotica. Looking for characters with a range of age, race, sexual experience, gender identity and gender expression: butch, femme, genderqueer, gender-non-conforming, dapper, and others will all be considered. Cis women, trans women, and genderqueer characters who identify with the lesbian community are welcome. Stories should have strong literary voice, characters, tension, and rising action. All characters must be over 18. Prose only will be considered, no comics, graphic stories, or poetry. For examples of what I am looking for, see Tristan Taormino’s collection Best Lesbian Bondage Erotica.

Deadline: January 1, 2011

How to submit: Send your story in a Times New Roman 12 point black font Word document (.doc) with pages numbered of 1,500 to 5,000 words to lesbianbdsmerotica@gmail.com. Double space the document and indent the first line of each paragraph. US grammar required. If you are using a pseudonym, provide your real name and be clear under which you would like to be published. Include your mailing address and a 50 words or less bio in the third person. Publisher has final approval over the manuscript.

About the editor: Sinclair Sexsmith runs the award-winning personal online writing project Sugarbutch Chronicles: The Gender, and Relationship Adventures of a Kinky Queer Butch Top at www.sugarbutch.net. With work published in various anthologies, including the Best Lesbian Erotica series, Sometimes She Lets Me: Butch/Femme Erotica, and Visible: A Femmethology volume 2, Mr. Sexsmith also writes columns for online publications and facilitates workshops on sex, gender, and relationships. Find her full portfolio and schedule at www.mrsexsmith.com.

Tagged as: bdsm, erotica, genderqueer, lesbian, publishing, queer, submissions

e[lust] #20

by Lolita Wolf on 10/16/2010

in sexbloggers

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #21? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

On Making Sex Last: Cheerleading & Open Relationships - as long as the possession stuff can be fun and consensual, and not interfering with each other’s sovereignty, I think the two—cheerleading and possession—aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive.

Owned – I had almost forgotten that while here, with him, I was HIS plaything. I was OWNED by him. We had discussed this. I knew the rules. I must not forget again.

The sheer indecency of what we are doing – Is he looking for what I’m looking for? Surely so—all men want that, don’t they? A flaming succubus that comes only in the dark to bring unworldly pleasures and leave behind strange lingering dreams that spice their dutiful daytime lives.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Stop Hating on Campus Sex Education – Clearly, there is a need for this education, because if it doesn’t come from sexuality educators, it comes from word of mouth (which can often provide incorrect information), or from the internet, or from trial and error.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Is it Really “Strange” Sex?

See also: Pleasurists #96 and #97 for all your sex toy review needs.

Kink & Fetish

A teabreak tawsing
Blow job
Caribbean Screw
His evil twin
My adventure in subbing continues
My Big Pink Robot
Play Party!
Sisters unite for the MFW, part 2
The one with the Violet Wand
Turning Lemons into Lemonade
Wanton Wednesday: Bitten

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Cunning Linguists Are We: Cunnilingus 101
Crushing Swingerphobia by Hitting the Club
Coming Out & Invisible Illness
Hold Up Stockings
My First Grue in Review
NSE – New Swinger Energy
Relationships and Emotions
Sadie’s Thoughts on Cheating. Confession #507
Three’s Company, Too – Dreaming of the Multi-Relationship Home
The Sisterhood
Thoughts on bisexuality and visibility
When I’m Done With Crying…
Why Lie, Why Cheat?

Erotic Writing

A Raise
Any Idea?
Buttlove
Building the Anticipation
Coming Back to Me
Extraordinary Uses for Ordinary Objects
“Enslaved The Story of Jen” Chapter 13
Fantasy: Waking Up
Hotel windows…
I Give Good Head
Lipstick Kisses
Like Mother, Like Daughter
My first little girly night
One Night With NSVG
Oh, What a Night!
Revisited
Rekindling
She
Something in the Air
sacks, part one
The Quick Ebony Fux
up lateish

Jason Miller and Bobbi Starr on DivineBitches.com

Tagged as: bdsm, erotica, e[lust], fetish, kink, sex, sex blog

Lolita’s NYC Picks of the Week: 14-20

by Lolita Wolf on 10/15/2010

in Events, Fetish & Kink, nyc

Thursday: Bondage or Impact? New York boys of Leather presents
a Basic Rope Bondage Demonstration with Scot Laney or… choose my Flogging 101 class at Purple Passion.

Friday Oct 15: Laine teaches “A Servant’s Toolkit – Guide To Being Prepared” at LSM. Then go to play at the Switch party

Saturday is the Mr American Rubber contest at the Eagle.

Sunday: Graydancer is in town and teaching “TIE ‘EM UP & FUCK ‘EM: Rope Bondage for the Impatiently Kinky”

Tuesday: “BDSM for Couples” at The Pleasure Chest.

Wednesday: The TES Dominant Women/submissive men’s group has a panel discussion with the Doom Maidens on “Fetishizing Female Physical Force.”

Lea Lexis on HogTied.com

Tagged as: bdsm, Events, nyc, weekly calendar

Lolita’s NYC Picks of the Week: Oct 7-13

by Lolita Wolf on 10/08/2010

in Events, Fetish & Kink, nyc

This week is all about the NYC Fetish Tribe Experience. There’s parties four nights in a row and plenty of daytime activities including a shopping trip to Purple Passion with 20% off everything in the store.

Tuesday: TES presents “A Tale of Two Histories” with Justin John Costello. He’ll discuss the histories of both the Leather and the BDSM communities from the Marquis de Sade, to the 303rd Bombardment Troop and more.

Mark Davis and Jynx Maze on SexAndSubmission.com

Tagged as: bdsm, Events, nyc, weekly calendar

NYC Fetish Tribe Experience

by Viviane on 09/24/2010

in Events

10/07/2010

10/11/2010

Four nights of fetish fun in The City That Never Sleeps!

The NYC Fetish Tribe Experience is an innovative approach to expanding your kinky horizons while simultaneously providing the most unique opportunity to explore The Big Apple ever offered.

We will deliver an interactive experience epitomizing the Tribe philosophy of inclusion and cooperation coupled with non-stop opportunities to socialize and play as you create meaningful connections with like-minded kinksters and discover the sights and sounds of the greatest city on Earth.Prepare to be taken beyond the convention model, to exceed the party concept, and to be part of the groundbreaking NYC Fetish Tribe EXPERIENCE!

Join us over Columbus Day weekend, October 7-11, for a fetish event unlike any other, designed to get you out of the dungeon and into (gasp!) the light of day! We have arranged many excursions designed for you to experience some of the best of what New York City has to offer while you mingle and meet folks from around the country and make new kinky friends.

Don’t worry! You’ll still get all the classes, demos, seminars, parties and play, play, play you’ve come to expect from a multi-day fetish convention!

Often imitated, never duplicated, Tribe parties have redefined the standard by which all fetish parties are measured. The NYC Fetish Tribe Experience delivers four knock-out nights of non-stop party power play! NYC Fetish Tribe parties have become legendary in New York City and across the country. People travel from all over the US to experience the now infamous “Tribe Vibe”. Make no mistake we take no credit, for ultimately it’s all about the people and attitude of tribesman that make it work so well.

Day time fun excursions include:

Play croquet in your finest undergarments on the lawn of Governors Island. Hosted by NYC TNG (Saturday at 2 pm.)
Sunrise Bondage and Bagels on da Brooklyn Bridge – hosted by KinkyJews . Do not miss this photo op. (Saturday Morning 5 am after Impact party.)
Be on TOP of the Empire State Building. See NYC like never before. Be Kink Kong! (Sunday at 1pm)
Classes for beginners and experts alike ) on suspension, rope, steel, whips, floggers and much more taught by NYC’s leading BDSM sexperts. (Sunday at 4:30 pm.)
NYC original Turkish bathhouse – Relaxation, sauna, plunge pools, steam rooms, spa treatments and more with an old time NYC flare!
Organized Fetish shopping tours (“I just love what you are not wearing”)

….and the Parties!?!

Do you want to PARTY until 4 am? NYC Fetish Tribe parties have become legendary in New York City and across the country. People travel from all over the US and the world to experience our one of a kind events. Often imitated, never duplicated, Tribe parties have redefined the standard by which all fetish parties are measured. The NYC Fetish Tribe Experience delivers four knock-out nights of non-stop party power play!

Nocturne. Tribe mixer and cabaret show (Thursday Oct 7) The Chandelier Room-Downstairs at 249 west 30th St
Impact play party and Rubber latex showcase (Friday Oct Location-Rebel nightclub Upstairs 251 west 30th ST
Dress to {xcess-Costume ball (Saturday Oct 9) Location-Element-225 East Houston St
Suspension-a play soiree’ (Sunday Oct 10) Location-The Delancey lounge-168 Delancey St

Fetlife RSVP: http://fetlife.com/events/20510

Tagged as: bdsm, bondage, Events, nyc, rope, shibari

Lolita’s NYC Picks of the Week: Sept 23-29

by Lolita Wolf on 09/23/2010

in Events, Fetish & Kink, nyc

Thursday: Sinclair Sexsmith will be teaching “A Dyke’s Secrets for Cunnillingus” at Purple Passion.

Friday thru Sunday: 2nd annual Sacred Sex Roundup. I’m teaching a class on Sunday.

Saturday: LSM meets for dinner and socializing before going to Submit. With the Butch Voices Conference in town, the Submit Party will be hopping!

Sunday: Suspension party at The Delancey. Woot!

Maitresse Madeline and Mckenzie Lee on WhippedAss.com

Tagged as: bdsm, Events, nyc, weekly calendar

Lolita’s NYC Picks of the Week: Sept 16-22

by Lolita Wolf on 09/15/2010

in Events, Fetish & Kink, nyc

Thursday: The TES Queer SIG hosts an open forum about “The State of New York Queerdom.”

Friday: Eric Pride will be at DomSubFriends with a demo at Paddles on “Interrogation: The Border Between Play & Reality.” Also at Paddles later in a separate space is the Switch party for women and trans.

Saturday: Two good parties: TES and Stimulate.

Sunday: Rawhide Bar hosts “Guard,” a monthly Fetish CODE night 6pm to Midnight with special guest Bryan Slater, give-aways, demos and 2 for 1 drinks if you are in gear. 8th Ave at 21st Street.

Wednesday: The TES Bondage SIG invites you to share your knowledge at: ” Rope Tips and Tricks – A Bondage Experience.” Bring rope. This will be very hands-on!

Amber Rayne on hogtied.com

Tagged as: bdsm, Events, nyc, weekly calendar

Lolita’s NYC Picks of the Week: Sept 9-15

by Lolita Wolf on 09/08/2010

in Events, Fetish & Kink, nyc

Thursday: The first DSD meeting is open to everyone and features Dov presenting “Crazy Glue Invisible Bondage and Infibulation!”

Saturday: New York boys of Leather and The Jersey boys of Leather host a Boy on Boy! bar night upstairs at the Stonewall, Wear fetish gear for drink specials. They’re having a 50/50 raffle to benefit the Women’s Leather History Project.

Wednesday: The TES Dominant Women/submissive men’s Group has Mistress Jada teaching: “Singletails: for the Safe, Sane, and Sadistic”

James Deen and Ashli Orion on SexandSubmission.com

Tagged as: bdsm, Events, nyc, weekly calendar

Bookmarks

by Viviane on 09/04/2010

in del.icio.us, sex

Comment Period Now Open on .XXX – Make Your Voice Heard | techyum :: – On August 24 the 30-day comment period opened for the proposed .XXX top-level domain. Until September 23, the public is invited to tell ICANN what they think. If you’re unfamiliar with the history and issues around .XXX, and the men who stand to profit from it (while exhibiting blatant disregard for the very serious problems it poses) please read Now Playing: .XXX. TLD Carpetbaggers Give New Meaning to “Drop and Snatch” (carnalnation.com).
How To Get A Sex Blogger To Have Sex With You | Sex and the 405 – A good way to get to know me is to engage me regarding the content I post. Yes, we may talk about sex, my preferences and your own. That does not mean you should suggest we fuck. It just means we’re discussing our preferences. Please note that many people engage me in this way and the best way to differentiate yourself is by having intelligent conversation with me.
An Interview with the author of Sex at Dawn; The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality | Examiner.com – I recently had the opportunity to speak with psychologist Christopher Ryan, one of the authors of a revolutionary new book that debunks the theory that monogamy is a natural and thus appropriate construct for our species. The book is entitled Sex at Dawn; The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality and was co-written by Ryan's wife, psychiatrist Cacilda Jetha.
“it’s not about sex” and other lies « Sex Geek – I realize that I come to my poly from a place of queerness, where because of a long history of oppression, of being told our sex is bad, many of us hold onto and defend the beauty of our sexuality with great ferocity. I come to it from a place of kink, where we spend tons of time talking about how to play and have sex in ways that feel good to us. But whether you’re kinky or queer or poly, all of the above or none of the above, I invite you to join me in refusing to buy into any variety of “sex is bad” or “sex is less than,” no matter whose mouth it comes out of. Whether it’s conservative lawmakers, or our intimate partners; the American Psychological Association or our community leaders; the Religious Right or the sacred sexuality proponents.
5 Things an Affair May Not Mean | Christopher Ryan | Huffington Post – In "Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality," Cacilda Jethá, my coauthor (and wife) and I argue that there's a good reason long-term sexual monogamy is hard for human beings. The evidence we present in the book shows that til death do us part may be a wonderful ideal, but it's anything but an easy (or natural) path for most human beings. Yes, we are moral beings (most of us) with the capacity to override our evolved predispositions to some extent, but maybe, just maybe, an occasional slip on that long and arduous path is to be expected…Or maybe not. Such notions of tolerance are actively discouraged in America. As Pamela Druckerman explains in "Lust in Translation," her survey of global attitudes toward infidelity, "It has come to seem obvious to Americans that the discovery of infidelity leads to a confrontation, followed by counseling, perhaps other forms of support, and a long period of discussion and recovery (sometimes in perpetuity)."
Sex and Censorship: What Recent Attacks on Online Sex Discussions Have to Do With Your Blog | BlogHer – That is what is at stake here. This isn't an issue of us versus them, morality versus indecency, conservatives versus liberals, believers versus atheists. This is a matter of freedom to speak, freedom to congregate, freedom to learn about ourselves and to share that knowledge. That's what this country stands for and it's essential that those of us who believe in these tenets take a stance against those seeking to oppress them.