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Let your fingers and mouse do the walking, and start your shopping, sports racers!
- Sexy Holiday Gift Guide Part 1 (Lusty Lady)
- Bust Mag Craftacular
- Sexy / Kinky Christmas Shopping, If You Hurry (Erosblog)
- Luxury Sex Toy Christmas Gifts (Cory Silverberg)
- Erotic Photography Book Gift Ideas (Cory Silverberg)
- Sexy Stocking Stuffers (sex gifts under $30) (Cory Silverberg)
- Sexual Philanthropy (Cory Silverberg)
- Eros Zine Holiday Gift Guide (Abby Ehmann)
- Fleshbot’s Sexy Holiday Gift Guide
- My Personal Holiday Shopping Picks (Tristan Taormino)
- the first ultra-decadent sexy holiday shopping guide (violet blue)
- HOWTO: give an erotic gift (for the holidays and beyond)
- Sexy Holiday Shopping Guide (violet blue; SF Chronicle)
- Dirty Minds (Josey Vogels)
- Babeland Gift Packs
- Good Vibrations’ Holiday Gift Guide
- J.T.’s Stockroom Christmas sale and gift ideas
Photo of Sofia and Jana (Hegre-Art)
I’m now absolutely certain that Bill O’Reilly is the reason ball gags were invented.
Two weeks ago, Fox commentator Bill O’Reilly and Newt Gingrich used the term “San Francisco values” as the three dirtiest words they could think of to label future Speaker of the House Nancy Pelosi (and her Democratic brethren). While politer pundits rally for and against what these words mean, citing liberal issues and pot clubs and immigration, we all know what “San Francisco values” posited as dirty words really mean. When someone says, “San Francisco values,” they mean sex.
But while conservative pundits cite San Francisco’s sexual values as the new evil — no doubt imagining all kinds of lurid details about assless chaps and sodomy, glory-hole fellatio and white shoes after Labor Day in the Castro — they are actually right. In truth, San Francisco’s sexual values go further and run deeper than they can even imagine. Because if we’re going to talk about San Francisco as a placeholder for a certain kind of sexual value, let’s really talk about what’s so different about San Francisco’s collective sex life. (more…)
by Thomas Roche
It was our two-week anniversary. I had been watching her gorgeous ass for hours as we danced, had been admiring the way it fit in to those skintight PVC pants she wore; the way the infinitesimal strap of her tiger-striped thong invited me to imagine her without the pants; the way the zipper in the back led my eyes down deep into the cleft between her perfect cheeks and similarly invited me — no, begged me — to imagine her without the pants or the thong.
The sex was incredible. In our two weeks we’d spent more time fucking than talking, which is saying a lot since our conversations were equally great. But the moment I got Lisa alone, I was unable to keep my hands off of her. Truth be told, I could only rarely keep my hands off her when we weren’t alone.
And she knew how to use that ass. Pressed up against me on the crowded dance floor, she let it grind in time with the rhythmic music, wriggling it back against my crotch as if inviting me in. While she was a skilled jazz dancer — four years of jazz and tap lessons in high school, she’d told me — she showed quite a fondness for the defining move of rock ‘n’ roll. When, about midnight, she ground her ass up against my crotch and discovered that I was hard as a rock, she didn’t pull away but pressed herself against me harder. (more…)
- Julia Allison: Matchmaking moms: Cute or pathetic? (AM NY)
- Erin Bradley: Miss Information (Nerve)
- Rachel Kramer Bussel: Desirable Damsels in Distress (Village Voice)
- Miriam Datskovsky: I Want You To Want Me (Columbia Spectator)
- Ashlea Halpern: Bareback Nation (Philadelphia City Paper)
- Judy McGuire: Date Girl: Lip Smacker (Seattle Weekly)
- Dan Savage: Savage Love
- Cory Silverberg: Republicans Have Trouble Getting Sex Smear Ads on TV
- Mistress Matisse: Things Polyamorous People Should Know (The Stranger)
- Tristan Taormino: Sex, Drugs, and Punk Rock Music
- violet blue: Litquake’s Sexquake (San Francisco Chronicle)
- Julia Allison: Party of One (AM NY)
- Erin Bradley: Miss Information
- Rachel Kramer Bussel: Boys Toys
- Miriam Datskovsky: Porn Again (Columbia Spectator)
- Judy McGuire: Fools Ball (Seattle Weekly)
- Dan Savage: Savage Love
- Cory Silverberg: Emergency Contraception Denied
- Mistress Matisse: Keeping Your Privates Private (The Stranger)
- Tristan Taormino: Brooklyn Angel
- violet blue: Club Kiss for that thoroughly modern vibe
(Photo by Thomas Roche)Violet Blue: Open Source Sex
Club Kiss for that thoroughly modern vibe
Because I grew up in San Francisco, it makes perfect sense that I should be friends with an Elvis impersonator. Less so than Las Vegas, but it also makes even more sense that he met his girlfriend at an Elvis convention, because she’s an Elvis impersonator, too. Of course. And she happens to work at one of the largest, busiest online kinky sex toy stores in the world. This is a perfectly pervy San Francisco love story, except that they now live in Los Angeles.
But they came up to visit recently and asked me if there were any fun sex parties to go to. Here? Maybe. Maybe like ten on a weekend. But the trick, the hot Elvises (Elvii?) told me, was finding a party that would appeal to their sexual sensibilities, would include people their age, and wouldn’t be truly open to the public. It sounded to me like they wanted “Viva Las Vegas,” the Folsom Street Fair and “Eyes Wide Shut,” all in a single weekend. And as it turns out, you can get there from here. But only from here.
It is pretty weird that there are no links in the online version, but miss violet will educate them (No, we can’t do that – it’ll drive traffic away from our site! To which I ask, how many SF’ers read the New York Times online instead of the Chronicle.).
How auspicious is the timing of her debut?
Tomorrow is violet’s birthday! Happy birthday, violet! *MWAH*
When not writing best-selling sex ed books, editing best-selling erotic anthologies and hobnobbing with San Francisco’s literati, Violet Blue explores the razor’s edge between sex and technology.
One of the first people to enter the erotic podcasting world with her insanely popular Open Source Sex, Violet also rips porn a new one on a regular basis on the smartest pornblog around, Fleshbot, and on her personal blog at her website Tiny Nibbles. That wildly entertaining blog covers everything from programming to perversion, sex to switchblades, Berettas to bukkake, expanding on Violet’s work in books and podcasts, on camera, and with outlaw machine-arts troupe Survival Research Laboratories.
Eros Zine: Your best-known books are probably The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus and The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio. Why is good oral sex so important?
Violet Blue: It’s not so much that good oral sex is important — and it is very important — but more that oral sex is a topic that lots of people have questions about, and until the books came out there were few places to find accurate answers. Most sex books just glaze over oral sex (especially cunnilingus) and never really explain how to do it, why it feels good and how to make it hot for both the giver and the receiver.
I still hear female “sex experts” (like Erica Jong in Inside Deep Throat) claim that women derive no pleasure from fellatio, which is crazy-untrue. And people have all kinds of questions like how to deep throat, how to control when and where a man ejaculates, what to do when going down on a woman to bring her to orgasm, and just what to expect in terms of taste and smell and appearance of genitals. Answering these questions gives people the tools they need to become really good at oral sex (along with lots of techniques, which I provide by the dozen).
Because you’re face-to-face with the most personal and private part of a person during oral sex, you need to have your questions answered in order to relax and have fun — and get off. Oral sex is taboo, oral sex is hot; I’m not surprised the books have done so well.
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Yesterday I mentioned a post at Thirty Stories Up by the name of 7 Mistakes for your First Week of Blogging as part of the 31 Days project – it’s a worthwhile article to read but I want to mention it again not because of what it says but because of the response that it had.
There are over 40 comments on the past now which is pretty cool – Kurt the author of the blog writes in comments that the reason for the response is that the post got picked up and ranked highly by Digg which led to 8000 or so page views in just a 24 hour period – not bad for a blog that has been going for just 20 days! At the time of writing this the post in question is ranked the 11th most ‘dugg’ post for the week so far.
It just goes to show the power of social bookmarking sites like Digg which have the ability to push vast quantities of visitors around the web at the drop of a hat. Having been ‘dugg’ numerous times myself it’s quite an amazing experience. Similarly del.icio.us is another example of a site that has been known to lift the profile of my posts (in fact at present my 31 Days project HQ is ranking well on their popular links page). Furl is yet another example (although from what I can tell it’s less popular than it once was) as is Linkfilter, another smaller social bookmarking sit. The great thing for bloggers is that each of these services allows you to submit/suggest posts to them and all of them accept every submission (unless you spam them) – unlike other sites like Slashdot who strongly moderate submissions. (more…)
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I knew Jefferson, Madeline and me were getting somewhere once we started seeing that violet blue had added our blogs to her del.icio.us bookmarks!
Violet Blue sex writer, editor, adult book and video reviewer and machine artist. By day she is Assistant Editor at Fleshbot.
Strange: I have been an international terrorism suspect. Stranger: I am currently obsessed with photographing myself in a variety of death scenes. Fact: I had no intention of becoming a writer. An astrologer told me in 1995 that I would be a famous writer and I had never heard anything more ridiculous. I wanted to be a painter and compulsive fuckup, with a bad reputation for sin, drinking, sex and crime. Confusion: I think sex, writing, food and dangerous machines are the same things. They are all my reason for living. Identity: If I was a wine, I’d be a Shiraz. A drug, Absinthe. An article of clothing, warm white cotton panties. A dessert, opium-grade chocolate. An animal, cat. An incident, accident. A substance, accelerant. Deactivation: I want to die a fabulous death long after my brain has been kept alive in a jar as a criminal mastermind, hopefully with my own army of the undead. Recharge: I require at least ten hours of sleep a night. I can write for up to fifteen hours straight, with bathroom and fuel breaks. When I am upset or need to re-orient myself, I work at SRL. I try to have an orgasm a day. I am a cook, and like fine foods. Dirty: I once masturbated on a rooftop while watching a man take a bath in a nearby apartment. He was also masturbating but did not see me. Goal: To play the best pranks. To make a lasting cultural contribution. To help change the conversation about sex in this generation. To change the way people see women as sexual consumers. Past: I do not know my family. I lived on the streets of San Francisco for four years, ages 14-18. Hate: Celebrity. People with no concept of poverty. The word “nubs.” Bad sex toys. Dumb porn stars. The Baldwin family. Misspellings on porn box covers. Languages: English, Pornbonics. Like: Pie. Writing. Watching movies. Fucking and sucking, and licking, too. Drinking. Dancing. Jazz and horn music. Machines. Emir Kusturica films. Chosen family. All things cheesy and all things Goth. Downtempo music. Lube of all kinds.
Violet Blue says:
If you liked the post I did about the bloggers all having sex with each other (and many of you did), then you’ll love the ultra-nasty roundup over at (hottie) Vivian’s Sex Carnival.
Thanks, Violet!
Jefferson
Man About Town
Missing
So Adult
Off Again
Six Figures
Noah P.
Readers’ Queries
Colton
Carmen, Act I, Scene III
Dacia
Damaged Goods
Farewell Fuck
Hurtling towards go
Ask Audacia Anything 3
Jane
memory multiple choice
birthday curse
tonight, tonight
in the flesh
Madeline
Chosen
Associations
Wishful Thinking
Taps
Operational Intelligence
Reveille
Meg
out of stock
summer plans
father’s day
Shelby
Kitties!
tiny update
Gallery Carre
