…which means I get to remind you about Shiburkey and How to Dominate a Turkey. ;-D
Safe travels everyone and I hope your family gatherings are joyous, with minimal unveiling of the grievances.
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From the monthly archives:
November 2010
Matthew Bourne’s Swan Lake is a triumph … and an unforgettable erotic experience.
Matthew Bourne’s narrative can be read as a classic romance. Lovers meet, their passions intertwine, grim forces of the world tear them apart, and in the end they are united in death and redemption. On another level, though, what we have here is one big tragic queer coming-out story, complete with a rejecting parent, the obligatory girlfriend and desperate attempt to conform to social expectation … followed by depression, the first gay hookup, elation, hope, brutal bullying and finally, suicide. The attacking swan troupe, descending upon and tearing apart the lover Swan was as horrific as a lynching. I felt helpless and heart wrenched.
Far too many suffered their fate in silence and invisibility. Although debuted in 1995, this performance seems particularly timely now, given the recent media attention on homophobic bullying, youth suicides, and new efforts of outreach such the “It Gets Better” project.
Lest you think this piece is just about the boys and their swinging masculine prowess, as it can be in many homo focused works, I happily testify that the women and their roles are fiercely and unapologetically sexual as well. The Queen, richly played by Nina Goldman, is a complex mix of regal, cold, lustful, glamorous and dramatic. In one scene she chooses an evening’s lover from the ranks of military men she inspects. In another she allows the Stranger to give her pleasures, despite her son’s conflicted protestations. During the Ball, the stage is so full of mini tableaux of couples dancing entwined in lust, jealousy and struggle of wills that it’s hard to know where to focus one’s attention. I clearly recall one woman carried off stage by a group of men … possibly to be the queen bee of an orgy?
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| 11/20/2010 |
The Transgender Day of Remembrance was set aside to memorialize those who were killed due to anti-transgender hatred or prejudice. The event is held in November to honor Rita Hester, whose murder on November 28th, 1998 kicked off the “Remembering Our Dead” web project and a San Francisco candlelight vigil in 1999. Rita Hester’s murder — like most anti-transgender murder cases — has yet to be solved.
Although not every person represented during the Day of Remembrance self-identified as transgender — that is, as a transsexual, crossdresser, or otherwise gender-variant — each was a victim of violence based on bias against transgender people.
- International Transgender Day of Remembrance site Remembering Our Dead
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| 11/19/2010 | to | 11/20/2010 |
CINEKINK: CHICAGO … THIS WEEKEND!
We’ll be wrapping up our 2010 tour on Friday-Saturday, November 19-20, as “the kinky film festival” makes one last, grand splash in Chicago!
With screenings at the Leather Archives and Museum, CINEKINK: CHICAGO will offer a specially-curated program of films and videos that celebrate and explore a wide and exciting world of sexual diversity, with works ranging from documentary to drama, comedy to experimental, mildly spicy to rather explicit – and everything in between.
FRIDAY – 8 pm
The festival kicks off on Friday, November 19th at 8 pm with the CineKink audience choice award-winner, S&M JUDGE, a compelling drama in which a respected judge finds his job, reputation and family life in jeopardy after he and his wife begin to explore sadomasochism.
An opening night reception for CineKink: Chicago will immediately follow this screening, made possible by the support of our friends at Shibaricon.
SATURDAY – 2 pm
On Saturday at 2 pm, MY SEXUALITY: A SENSORY EXPERIENCE shines light on five ordinary women from different backgrounds, sexual preferences and past experiences as they experiment with activities intended to boost both sense of self and sexuality. Afterwards, a panel discussion on women, representations of sexuality and sex-positive filmmaking will feature Leah Eva, who appears in the documentary, filmmakers Julie Keck and Jessica Kink (‘Libidoland’), and educator/activist Clarisse Thorn.
SATURDAY – 4:30 pm
At 4:30 pm, playing with the hit short, THE SHEEP AND THE RANCH HAND, the “boylesque” sensation WAXIE MOON takes the world of neo-burlesque by storm in a thought-provoking and hilarious documentary look at one artist’s unlikely journey.
SATURDAY – 6:30 pm
At 6:30 PM, the film shorts program YES, MISTRESS–including works by several Chicago filmmakers–asks (and sometimes answers!) the question: “How may I be of service?” The films in the mix include:
** Anti-Samaritan Hotline
** The Pawn Layman
** Girls Rock
** Taxi, Episode One: Domme
** Trampling MX-Bear
** Service
** Housekeeper
** Libidoland
SATURDAY – 8:30 pm
And the festival concludes at 8:30 pm with THE BEST OF CINEKINK/2010, a mix of award-winning shorts deemed the year’s very best. The program includes:
** The Pinky Song
** Balloons
** Handcuffs
** Coverage
** Hungry for Love
** Walking the Dog
LOCATION:
Leather Archives and Museum
6418 N. Greenview Avenue
Chicago, IL
http://leatherarchives.org
MORE INFO: http://cinekink.com/programs-and-events/tour/chicago
TICKETS: http://cinekinkchicago.eventbrite.com
ADMISSION:
Ticket prices for each regular screening are $10 door/$8 advance ($6 advance students/seniors, $5 advance for CineKinksters and LA&M members)
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| 11/26/2010 9:00 PM | to | 11/27/2010 2:00 AM |
| 11/27/2010 9:00 PM | to | 11/28/2010 3:00 AM |
| 11/28/2010 1:00 PM | to | 11/29/2010 8:00 AM |
This event is open for leather women of all persuasions who enjoy woman to woman S/M. All S/M dykes, straight, bisexual and trans-sexual/gender women are welcome. FTM transgender bois/boys/men who feel they have a place in the S/M women’s community are also welcome. We ask that cis gender men, cross-dressers and transvestites please respect that this definition does not include you. We welcome you to join any of our many pansexual events at Play House which are held almost every weekend.
Cost: $25 per day, $75 for the weekend; off street parking available for $5 per day.
Location: Play House Studios in Baltimore, MD – street address provided when you RSVP to GlendaCPFA@aol.com
- RSVPs are Strictly Required as this is a sex positive event!!!
- Please bring something to share for our communal food table
- Non-alcoholic beverages are available for purchase at the club
- All experience levels welcome but you must be over 18 to attend
- Over-night dorm style crash space is available for an additional fee of $25 per night;
- A limited number of work exchange scholarships are available;
For more info please write GlendaCPFA@aol.com
Fetlife RSVP: http://fetlife.com/events/33708
Friday 11/26/10: 9 PM -2 AM: Open Play
Friday 11/26/10
10 PM Class: Empowerment Through Erotic Motion by grrlMel – This class is for anyone who wants to feel beautiful, self-assured, and sexy in the body she has right now not the one she hopes to have after her New Year’s resolutions. It is designed to help people harness their own sensual power and reconnect with the joy that comes from expressing yourself in musical motion — whether slow and steamy or high-energy and hot. I encourage everyone to be gentle with themselves they learn to strut their stuff, and shred their clothes (optional) and inhibitions with style and musicality. Come prepared to participate because you can’t learn to move by watching. (presenter bio at end of invitation)
Saturday 11/27/10:
2 PM Visionary Arts Museum (800 Key Highway, Baltimore, MD 21230) Dinner 6:30 PM @ Kumari (911 N Charles St.Balto, MD 21201) All are welcome, RSVPs requested to GlendaCPFA@aol.com – please specify museum, dinner or both in your RSVP and the # of people.
Saturday 11/27/10 9 PM – 3AM Open Play and the Wrestling Mats will be out! And we are adding a Rope class to Saturday night, too.
Strip Tease and Lap Dancing Extravaganza at Midnight, please bring cash to tip the dancers, it’s for charity!
If you would like to participate in the NCSF Strip Tease and Lap Dancing Extravaganza Fundraiser, please notify Glenda and bring a CD or Mp3 player with your song(s) on it. If you choose to use an Mp3 player, please have your song(s) on it’s own playlist and clearly labeled! You may perform 2 – 3 songs depending on length.
Sunday 11/28/10 1 PM -8 PM: Brunch and Open Play
Sunday 11/28/10 3 PM Class: Strap-ons for Bigger Bodies – A word to the thick soul sistas: Do you find your strap-on sex difficult or clumsy? Is it hard to find a harness that fit you comfortably? Do you wish your dildo was an extension of yourself? We will walk you through how to find the right harness for your size, what to look for in your dildo and how to enhance your pleasure as the thruster while giving your partner that best ride possible. We will also show you different positions in our live demo and how to keep it safe and sexy. (presenter bio at end of invitation)
Please RSVP to GlendaCPFA@aol.com – RSVPs are STRICTLY REQUIRED so that we may bring you sex positive events. Even if you announced your attention to attend via the FetLife events page or a group posting please also RSVP via e mail. THANKS.
We ask that everyone bring something to share for our communal food table. BYOB is allowed but if you choose to drink, please drink only in moderation as inebriation is not appropriate for this event. Non-alcoholic beverages are available for purchase at the club.
Presenter Bios:
ABOUT grrlMEL: grrlMel has been dancing her whole life and teaching dance since 2004. Whether it’s West Coast Swing or Burlesque, she’s known for easy sensuality and her ability to connect to her dance partner and her audience. She focuses on teaching simple, sexy moves set to music (not dancing), to help you connect to your inner sensuality. I strive to provide a supportive environment where folks can relax, be gentle with themselves and gain confidence in expressing themselves through sensual motion.
ABOUT SARA: Sara Vibes was born and raised in New York City. She is a black, polyamorous, queer, kinky, Bi-dyke and an adopted daughter of a sex therapist who had specialized in sex and disability and was disabled herself. Sara knew she was poly when she remembered that her Ken doll dated all the Barbies! Sara is an active member in BDSM, LGBT, and Kink communities in New York City.
She is a founding member of Nina Hartley’s SexWise.me, a sex-positive online community. She currently works as a curator and contributor of SexWise Magazine and a moderator of the online forums. Sara has been interviewed by Nerve magazine and will soon be writing for Zora and Alice, an online magazine for young women of color.
@Sara_Vibes on twitter
ABOUT ASHLEY: Ashley Young is a teacher, writer and artist living in New York City. She identifies as a Fem Queer Dyke and is new to polymory as well as the BDSM scene. Ashley is a huge advocate for people’s fully sexually expressed selves and aspires to be a sex educator along with her partner in the near future. She sums up her poly lifestyle by saying, “I can’t tell the difference between a lesbian and a serial killer, so being poly with my partner has kept me level headed, drama free and allowed me to explore my sexuality with both women and men” @Indig09 on TwitterA
Please help us spread the word about Just Play by forwarding the info to your friends, tweeting your plans to attend and/or posting it to any group where it would be appropriate and welcome. Thanks so much.
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- Facebook and adult social networking: A dream that’s all wet | Violet Blue| ZDNet – That’s what a perfect Faceporn might look like. All of the good aspects of Facebook: finding people with similar interests that aren’t necessarily about sex, but with whom you could also share a dirty gallery with for fun or… or more. Sharing links and videos with friends you’ve chosen in your own network, without the fear of censors deleting your posts without notice.
- To NSFW or not to NSFW? (NSFW) – Roger Ebert’s Journal – Now as to the problem of the workplace. I understand there will be pictures on a computer screen that will be offensive. I get that. Why will they be offensive? Perhaps because they foreground a worker’s sexual desires, and imply similar thoughts about co-workers. Is that what’s happening with the blog entry on Hefner? Is anyone reading it for sexual gratification? I doubt it. That’s what bothers me about so many of the New Puritans. They think I have a dirty mind, but I think I have a healthy mind. It takes a dirty mind to see one, which is why so many of these types are valued as censors or online police.
- ‘Client 9′ Filmmaker Focuses On Spitzer’s Foes : NPR – Filmmaker Alex Gibney’s new documentary, Client 9: The Rise and Fall of Eliot Spitzer, suggests that Spitzer’s demise wasn’t just about sex — that the many enemies Spitzer made on Wall Street and in the New York state capital at Albany may have contributed to his political demise.
- Oakland home to nation’s first transgender trial judge | SF Gate – Oakland resident Vicki Kolakowski became the first transgender trial judge in the country when she won Alameda County’s vacant seat on the county’s Superior Court bench in yesterday’s election.
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| 11/19/2010 | ||
| 8:00 PM |
Meeting open to all genders
Presented by Lesbian Sex Mafia
How to Handle the Physical and Emotional Effects: Pain is a very complicated thing, and creates a myriad of responses in the body. There is the physical side (Ow, fuck! Jeez, how can he take that!) Then there are the emotional effects; the multitude of emotions and thoughts that go through one’s head through pain. Processing pain, while so simply stated in this world, is actually quite difficult at times. In this class we will talk about how to handle the pain both inside and out. We will explore why we endure it, where it takes us and what we can get out of it.
Date: Fri, November 19, 8pm – 10pm (In the spirit of community, it is an LSM tradition to open up our November meeting to all genders.)
Location: The LGBT Center, 208 W 13th St, NY
Cost: LSM member: $5; Non-members $10
About Boymeat
Boymeat, is a 31-year-old native New Yorker.
Discovering The Eulenspiegel Society (TES) at the age of 19, he quickly became an active participant and presenter in the New York SM scene. A former TES board member, he also holds memberships with the Gay Male SM Activists (GMSMA), the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) and the Leather Archives & Museum. He is also an associate member of the New York boys of Leather and active with New York’s Leather Pride Night Committee.
Best known for his outreach to the younger members of our community, he co-created the concept of The Next Generation (TNG), specialized groups serving young adults between the ages of 18 and 35 who are interested in SM. Boymeat was the co-founder of both TES-TNG and GMSMA-TNG, groups that helped kick off the national TNG movement. He also helped organize the first 3 national TNG conferences – Chickenstock in 1999, Second Coming in 2002, and TNG3: BDSM in the Big City in 2003. He has presented on TNG and other issues at multiple Leather Leadership Conferences.
Known as a SM educator, he has taught at almost every major educational event in the United States. He has taught SM, role play, fetishes, and relationships at TES Fest, Black Rose, South Plains Leather Fest, Dungeon 701-901, Portland Kinkfest, and many others. He has also been asked to teach to students at New York University and Columbia University. Finally, he presented keynote speeches at SM Odyssey’s Folsom Fringe 2007, Rio Grande Leather 2007, and TNG4: Bound for the Bay in 2008.
Boymeat is honored to have experience on the title circuit as a judge both at Ms. World Leather 2006 and South East Leatherfest 2007. In addition, he appreciates the chutzpah it takes to run for a title, having run for Gotham Leatherman 2000. His latest and greatest honor has been being asked to serve as Tallymaster at International Mr. Leather 2008.
A bisexual, polyamourous switch, with a penchant for foot fetishism, incest role play and piss play, Boymeat is rumored to be the quite the sadist. An aspirational handcuff collector and leather history slut, he is the man who nerve.com said “makes the Marquis de Sade look like Pat Boone.”
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Thursday: Midori is teaching Erotic Humiliation at Purple Passion, but it’s sold out. She’ll be back in 2011. Get your spots early!
Friday: “Artistic Needle Play” with Mistress Sade Ami at DSF.
Saturday: Head down to Philly for Philadelphia Leather Pride Night.
Sunday: The Baroness‘ Fetish Retinue returns on a new night (first Sunday of every month) and at a new place (White Noise, 225 Avenue B). www.Baroness.com
Monday: Poly Cocktails with Sex at Dawn author Christopher Ryan.
Tuesday: TES Meeting — “Cunt and Ball Busting” with Mistress Trish
Wednesday: Impact has moved to Wednesday because Thursday is a holiday.
James Deen, Kristina Rose, Mark Davis, Jessie Cox
and Lorelei Lee on sexandsubmission.com
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| 11/03/2010 8:00 PM | to | 11/11/2010 8:00 PM |
New York
Wed Nov 3 The Pleasure Chest, 156 Seventh Avenue South, New York, NY 10014. Tel 212.242.2158:
JoyStick Secrets: How to Thrill a Man
Thurs Nov 4 Purple Passion, 211 West 20th (7th/8th)
Make ‘em Blush, Make ‘em Squirm: Erotic Humiliation Play (SOLD OUT)
Coco De Mer, 236 Elizabeth St (between E. Houston and Prince), New York, NY 10012 (212-966-9069)
Tues Nov 9 Hands-on Japanese Rope Bondage
Wed Nov 10 “Part 2 – Tricks to Please a Man. Male Erogenous Zones
Baltimore
Sugar Shop, 927 W. 36th St, Hampden, Baltimore MD. (410.467.2632)
Sun 11/7 JoyStick Secrets: How to Thrill a Man
Mon 11/8 Hands-on Rope Bondage
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To be published by Cleis Press in fall 2011
Editor Sinclair Sexsmith is looking for hot, sexy, well-written stories about kinky sex between queer women, from bondage scenarios to power play to role play to sadism and masochism to sensation play for a new anthology of lesbian BDSM erotica. Looking for characters with a range of age, race, sexual experience, gender identity and gender expression: butch, femme, genderqueer, gender-non-conforming, dapper, and others will all be considered. Cis women, trans women, and genderqueer characters who identify with the lesbian community are welcome. Stories should have strong literary voice, characters, tension, and rising action. All characters must be over 18. Prose only will be considered, no comics, graphic stories, or poetry. For examples of what I am looking for, see Tristan Taormino’s collection Best Lesbian Bondage Erotica.
Deadline: January 1, 2011
How to submit: Send your story in a Times New Roman 12 point black font Word document (.doc) with pages numbered of 1,500 to 5,000 words to lesbianbdsmerotica@gmail.com. Double space the document and indent the first line of each paragraph. US grammar required. If you are using a pseudonym, provide your real name and be clear under which you would like to be published. Include your mailing address and a 50 words or less bio in the third person. Publisher has final approval over the manuscript.
About the editor: Sinclair Sexsmith runs the award-winning personal online writing project Sugarbutch Chronicles: The Gender, and Relationship Adventures of a Kinky Queer Butch Top at www.sugarbutch.net. With work published in various anthologies, including the Best Lesbian Erotica series, Sometimes She Lets Me: Butch/Femme Erotica, and Visible: A Femmethology volume 2, Mr. Sexsmith also writes columns for online publications and facilitates workshops on sex, gender, and relationships. Find her full portfolio and schedule at www.mrsexsmith.com.
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Gallery Carre
