From the monthly archives:

June 2009

Linkage for 6-12-09

by Viviane on 06/12/2009

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Happy Loving Day!

DOJ Abortion Violence Suits Cratered Under Bush:
“From 2000 until 2008, during the eight years of the Bush administration, the Justice Department filed only one civil case under the FACE Act. From 1994 until 1999, in contrast, in just five years of the Clinton administration, the Department filed 17 civil cases under the FACE Act — in addition to its much heavier load of criminal cases that we’ve reported before.” (via @chelseagsummers)

GodzillaBukkake (via @monochrom)

15 Shocking Tales of How Sex Laws Are Screwing the American People
(Alternet):
“We often don’t realize that sex regulations extend beyond archaic blue laws banning things like having sex in a toll booth, or forbidding sororities on the basis that women living together constitute a brothel. Such prohibitions may remain on the books, but people seldom, if ever, face charges for breaking them.  The sex laws that do get enforced every day tend to be a lot less laughable.” [via @raquelita]

Gay Crawler Gay Crawler is an LGBT search engine that provides users access to more than 25,000 user submitted sites and reviews in more than 327 categories of specific interest to the community. (via Queers United)

And you thought getting dumped via Facebook was bad (via @mollena)

Picturing Sex: An article about the curator for the Kinsey Institute’s juried art show (online galleries):
“It’s about personal background, what society and culture did you grow up in, the mores and values of your world. I tried to be as objective as possible but I knew there would be times when my life story would enter into how I look at things and what kind of art I like.” (via @livingsexuality)

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. . .So we’re fucking, when rather abruptly he pulls his cock out of me and climbs over my body to reach the open top drawer of my bedside table, the one with the condoms and lube and my trusty pocket vibe. He grabbed the vibe, twisted it on and half lying on top of me, pressed the vibe to my clit as he pressed his body on top of mine. I was close already and with the sudden over stimulation it didn’t take me long to come. I thrust my hips up to meet the vibe and he held me tight, his back to me, his arms wrapped tight around my body. I groaned and shuddered and felt my heartbeat start to slow down. I shifted my hips away from the vibe, or tried to rather as I came down from the orgasm, but he tightened his grip like a boa constrictor and kept the vibe fixed on my clit. I wriggled my legs, trying to get away when they next orgasm came… and the next, and the next…

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13 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: June 11 17

Savannah West and Maestro on thetrainingofo.com

Thursday, June 11
Queens BDSM Munch
Suspension Party

Friday, June 12
DSF: “Expanded Orgasm/Female Ejaculation Demo” with Anton
NYC Munch
MetroBearsNY: MetroBear/MetroCub Meet The Contestants

Saturday, June 13
TES Spanking Group: “Having Fun with Spanking” w/ Jules
TES Warm Up Your Asses, and Everything Else, Get Ready for TES-Fest Party
MetroBearsNY: MetroBear/MetroCub Contest

Sunday, June 14
New York Bondage Club
OBJECTify

Monday, June 15

Tuesday, June 16
TES: “BDSM and Leather: What’s the Difference?”

Wednesday, June 17
TES Dominant Women/submissive men: “Advanced Genitalia Torture” w/ Mistress Nona
GMSMA annual meeting

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Sugasm #167

by Viviane on 06/10/2009

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Photo: Chloe and Fae (abbywinters.com)

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #168? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Every Time You Orgasm, An Angel Gets Its Wings
“There is nothing that screams “fuck you” to the pain and the hurt in the world than screaming “fuck me” to the person in your bed.”

HNT: Spanked
“I wasn’t sure how I felt about him. But tonight, I was sure.”

A Thousand Kisses
“This wasn’t enough. I knew that I had to try something else.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Congratulations, you’re invited!

Sugasm Editor
Sex Work And Honesty: Religion

Editor’s Choice
Food, fun and commitment

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio

Chloe
HNT
Love HNT Part II
So Many Stripes
Valentina Vaughn
Video Q&A #1

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Dementor
Fat Ass Betty
Full Circle
Going where no one has gone before

Sex Humor
Adventures in Craigslist (and a belated HNT)

Erotic Writing & Experiences
Ass-tute
Conversations about Crossdressing (Early Morning Version)
A Feast of Cock
Gender Fuck
Her Favorite Positions – The Conclusion
I Can’t Get No…Contraception
Lessons from an Orgy
Lilly’s Turn – Part 2: Wherein One Good Turn Deserves Another
Mirrors
Must be the weather…
New Perspective
Party.
Picture of Propriety
Playing with Dolls
Please don’t book me ever again
The Poet Surrenders
Rebirth In An Orgy
The Synestheatre
Wet dream at the airport-part1
A Wicked Birthday Bang

BDSM & Fetish
Bending over for some harsh cane stripes
Digging a hole, is that the way you treat me
Lick me
Preparing for Punishment: part one
Puppy’s first visit
A Salute to Masturbation May
SF Treat
Subs: How to NOT Apply
That Look
Thoughts about the play party and Femdom.
Under 40 ~ The New Kinky Bar
What Kind of Submissive Are You?

Sex Advice
How to be bisexual on the internet
How to Give a Tantric Breast Massage
Sometimes You Need A Break…

News, Reviews & Interviews
It’s Good to be the Intern
Kink Interview: Thomas’s Spanking Exploits
LELO Luna Beads: Because You Deserve Them
Product Review: Intimate Organics Energizing Fresh Orange & Wild Ginger Foot Foreplay Lotion
Top 5 Tuesday – Sun, Sand and Smut!

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by Viviane on 06/10/2009

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home top bg SWOP   Chicago presents Happy Endings?

SEX WORKERS OUTREACH PROJECT-CHICAGO PRESENTS-
An intriguing exploration of the Asian massage parlor industry in Providence, RI

“HAPPY ENDINGS?”
in support of SWOP-Chicago
presented by Clarisse Thorn
and hosted by the Leather Archives & Museum
Film Screening and Post-Screening Discussion

Friday, June 12, 7PM
Leather Archives & Museum
6418 N. Greenview (at Devon)
Chicago, IL 60626
(773) 761-9200
$5-10 suggested donation to SWOP-Chicago

Rhode Island: the only state where prostitution is decriminalized. It had been over 25 years since five prostitutes sued the state of Rhode Island for selective prosecution and prostitution laws were removed from the books, when documentarians Tara Hurley and Nick Marcoux turned their cameras on the underbelly of “The Renaissance City”.

Watch the drama unfold in Asian massage parlors across Providence as Mayor David Ciccilline pushes to close the prostitution “loophole”. Follow Heather, a Korean immigrant, over two years as she manages the
massage parlor. Learn about the women who work in the spas. Hear from the police who arrest them. Watch the fight for and against the legislation. The film includes subtitled interviews with Korean women
who work in the spas, clients who frequent the spas, police, politicians from 1980 and today, local news footage, local radio call-in shows, and “voiced” reviews from internet escort review boards. Read more, watch the trailer, and see clips from the film at http://happyendingsdoc.com.

Just recently — May 2009 — prostitution is in the process of being criminalized again in Rhode Island. Come out, watch the documentary, and talk about it afterwards. What do you think about sex work? Is the change in Rhode Island law fair or unfair? Delicious snacks will be served, and discussion will follow! This is a benefit for the Sex Workers Outreach Project, and we’re requesting a $5-10 donation from attendees.

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Carol Queen in NYC

by Lolita Wolf on 06/09/2009

in nyc

A very fabulous evening at Happy Ending Lounge last night. Hosted by Carol Queen as a fundraiser for San Francisco’s Center for Sex & Culture, the evening featured a great line-up of readers.

carolqueen Carol Queen in NYC
Carol Queen reading from my favorite story of hers,
Leather Daddy and the Femme Carol Queen in NYC.

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Rachel Kramer Bussel

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Elizabeth Wood reading from Patrick Califia’s

Speaking Sex to Power: The Politics of Queer Sex Carol Queen in NYC.

dacia Carol Queen in NYC
Audacia Ray reading from a performance piece (work in progress).

sinclair Carol Queen in NYC
Sinclair wowed us all with hot poetry.

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Morning Edition
by Brenda Wilson

The hookup — that meeting and mating ritual that started among high school and college students — is becoming a trend among young people who have entered the workaday world. For the many who are delaying the responsibilities of marriage and child-rearing, hooking up has virtually replaced dating.

It is a major shift in the culture over the past few decades, says Kathleen Bogle, a professor of sociology and criminal justice at La Salle University.

Young people during one of the most sexually active periods of their lives aren’t necessarily looking for a mate. What used to be a mate-seeking ritual has shifted to hookups: sexual encounters with no strings attached.

“The idea used to be you are going to date someone that is going to lead to something sexual happening,” Bogle says. “In the hookup era, something sexual happens, even though it may be less than sexual intercourse, that may or may not ever lead to dating.”

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LPN2008 BN 019 Be a part of Leather Pride Night and help to make things happen!

The 26th annual Leather Pride Night Auction will take place on Saturday, June 20th, 2009. This year the festivities will be at Splash! at 50 W. 17th Street. SPLASH!’s doors will open for LPN at 6:00 PM, and the auction will run from 7 PM until 10:00 PM.

Leather Pride Night is sponsored by nine NYC S/m-leather-fetish organizations:
Gay Male S/M Activists, Iron Guard BC, Lesbian Sex Mafia, MAsT Metro NY, MetroBearsNY, New York boys of Leather, OnyxNY, Pariah’s MC, The Eulenspiegel Society and many committed individuals. We’re also joined by the Imperial Court of NY.

This year, Leather Pride Night will donate the 2009 Auction proceeds to: Carmen’s Place, National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, Callen-Lorde Community Health Center, By The Grace of George The Pitbull Angel Fund, and as is customary, an annual donation to Heritage of Pride, the producer of New York’s annual Pride March.

Tickets for Leather Pride Night are $15 in advance, and $20 at the door. Because this is a fundraiser, everybody pays (even me and the other committee members). If you need a scholarship, let me know and I will give you a ticket at no cost.

Most volunteer slots are only one hour which is a short time for a four hour event. Volunteering enhances your experience of LPN ands gives you a chance to be part of the action and to meet people. In addition, this year, all volunteers will receive an LPN 2009 Volunteer cloisonne pin. These pins are earned, not sold. A real status symbol!

Here’s where we need help:

Load in Splash with Sigrid, Tip et al, 1-2:30pm
2 people

Location Set-up with Grant, 1- 3pm
4 people

Literature, raffle and silent auction tables Set-up with Grant, 3-4pm
1 person

Setup the Raffle Table with Sigrid, 3-5PM
1 person

Auction Setup with Cubby, 2-6pm
2 people

Handling auction items at Table with Cubby
6:45-8:30 1 people
8:30-10pm 1 person

Backstage helping presenters dress – report to LaRubia and Doc
8:30-10pm 1 person

Silent Auction with JiffE
9-10 3 people

Will Call Assistant – help Lady D with items from auction after bid
8-9 1 person

Ticket takers with Mark & Catelynn
7:30-8:30 1 person
8:30-9:30 1 person

Box Office with Mark & Catelynn
8-9 1 person
9-10 1 person

Food Assistance with Lady Sabrina
Replenishing the food and utensils when it runs low
Ensuring that the dining area is neat and clean
6-8pm 1 person
8-10pm 1 person

Raffle Table Staff with Daddy Sal
9-10 1 person

Raffle Ticket Sales with Daddy Sal
6-7:30 5 people
7:30-8:30 4 people
8:30-9:30 6 people

Security with Jake
5:30-7pm 2 people
7-8pm 4 people
8-9pm 4 people
9-10pm 5 people

Location Breakdown, with Nayland
9:30pm-10pm 2 people

Please send your first, second and third choices to me.  And let me know if you have any questions!

Lolita Wolf

26th Annual Leather Pride Night
Saturday, June 20, 2009
6pm- 10pm At Splash!, 50 West 17th Street (between 5th and 6th Aves), NYC
Sponsored by GMSMA, Iron Guard,
LSM, MaST:MetroNY, MetroBearsNY,
OnyxNY, NYboL, Pariah’s MC and TES

http://www.leatherpridenight.org

$15 in advance, $20 at the door

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Linkage for 6-9-2009

by Viviane on 06/09/2009

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Joe. My.God on the Republican coup in the NYS State Senate:
And here, my friends, is where I fear New York’s quest for marriage equality may have ended for 2009.”

Dr. Tiller’s family has announced that his clinic will be closed. (via @RogueReverend)

Thomas Roche’s Blowfish column on porn and The Lolita Effect:
“But I read the book with another agenda: In a world where Bratz dolls wear micro-minis and fishnets and companies try to market stripper poles to preteen girls (complete with fake money!), where does one fit in adult hootchie-positive behavior and its influence on global culture? Does the fact that teen singers dress like porn stars mean that porn is somehow the culprit?”

Carol Queen on David Carradine’s death: Goodbye, Bill (or, Asphyxia):
“So we’ll talk about auto-erotic asphyxiation for a few days or a few weeks, just as we talked about prescription pills when we lost Heath Ledger, and, out of this awful loss, I hope for two things: anyone hearing what happened to him will take away the message that risk is inherent in this practice, and that it must be mitigated (to the degree it can be) with knowledge; and that Carradine died, if this is what he was doing, chasing something other than demons.”

Elizabeth Wood & Michael Goodyear’s powerpont presentation “Bridging Communities in Sex Work Research“:
To produce meaningful research on such communities, there needs to be engagement and collaborative partnership with those communities. For sex work research this means collaboration with consumers as well as providers. In Participatory Action Research, the community are involved in the design and execution of the research. We will focus on examples of very successful collaborative research but will also discuss problematic studies in order to highlight the differences.”

Michael Castleman on “”Does Pornography Cause Social Harm?”:
“Sexual irresponsibility has declined. Standard measures include rates of abortion and sexually transmitted infections. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), since 1990, the nation’s abortion rate has fallen 41 percent. The syphilis rate has plummeted 74 percent. And the gonorrhea rate has plunged 57 percent.”

Chris Brogan on are you building an audience or a community:
The difference between an audience and a community is which direction the chairs are pointing.”

Watch the trailer from Asexuality: The Making of a Movement. (via @sexgenderbody)

One of Seroquel’s side effects can be “persistent and painful erections.” A prison inmate is suing after the medication left him with a 55 hour boner.

Sarah Sloane’s 10 Things To Remember About Real Life Sex & Kink:
“7. The Law of Attraction – The more you have, the more you get offered. This is because when you’re busy and excited and happy with yourself, you put out an energy that says “come closer!”. Conversely, the more you walk around wanting, the less you’ll find.”

The U.S. Census Bureau has announced that married same-sex couples will not be listed as married in the 2010 census survey. Tell them otherwise. (via @bigolpoofter)

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Call For Submissions
Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation
Kate Bornstein & S Bear Bergman, eds

Deadline: 1 September 2009

In the fifteen years since the release of Gender Outlaw, transgender narratives have made their way into cultural locations from the margins to the mainstream and back again. Today’s trannies and other sex/gender radicals are writing a radically new world into being. GENDER OUTLAWS: THE NEXT GENERATION (Seal Press) will collect and contextualize the work of this generation’s most forward-thinking trans/genderqueer voices—new voices from the stage, on the streets, in the workplace, in the bedroom, and on the pages and websites of the world’s most respected mainstream news sources. Edited by that ol’ original Gender Outlaw herself, Kate Bornstein and writer, raconteur, and theater artist S. Bear Bergman, GENDER OUTLAWS: THE NEXT GENERATION will include essays, commentary, comic art and conversation from a diverse a group of trans-spectrum people who live and believe in barrier-breaking lives.

*What we’re looking for*

GENDER OUTLAWS: THE NEXT GENERATION wants to collect work that represents a quantum leap forward in thinking and talking about gender and the gender binary, in the same way Gender Outlaw did almost twenty years ago. So blow us away. Bring the smart, bring the sexy, blind us with science, break the gender barrier, shine a bright light (or a disco ball) on the whole gender situation. Tell us about your future, what you imagine, how you want things to go and what you (and your friends) intend to do about it. Think big.

We’ll look at whatever you have for us – essays, graphic art, interviews/conversations, haiku, rants – as long as you’re thinking smart and fresh about sex and gender (and being an outlaw, of course). We will feel especially keen about your work if it adds to or advances the conversation about gender (as distinct from simply reflecting it, or lamenting it).

People of any identity are encouraged to submit work. This means you – yes, you!

We intend to privilege non-normatively gendered/sexed voices in the book but will include all the good stuff we can, regardless of current identifiers of the author.

*The Details*

Deadline: Sept 1 (early submissions are encouraged). Submissions should be unpublished; query if you have a reprint that you think we’ll swoon for. While we hesitate to list a maximum, please query first for pieces over 4,000 words. If you have an idea and need help writing it out, contact us to discuss an interview-style piece or other accommodations.

Submit as a Word document or black/white JPEG (no files over 2MB). Please include a cover letter with a brief bio and full contact information (mailing address, phone number, pseudonym if appropriate) when you submit. Submissions without complete contact information will be deleted unread. Payment will be $50 and 2 copies of the book upon publication in Fall 2010. Contributors retain the rights to their pieces. Send your submission as an attachment to genderoutlawsnextgeneration at gmail dot com.

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By Rick Nauert
PhD Senior News Editor

Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on June 4, 2009

Informing men that a new vaccine to prevent human papillomavirus (HPV) would also help protect their female partners against developing cervical cancer from the sexually transmitted infection did not increase their interest in getting the vaccine.

Mary Gerend, assistant professor of medical humanities and social sciences at Florida State University School of Medicine, and Jessica Barley, a 2008 Florida State psychology graduate who based her honors thesis on the study, found that men are no more likely to want the vaccination just because they can help protect their female sexual partners.

An HPV vaccine for women has been available since 2006, and a vaccine for men is likely to be approved in the near future.

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06/19/2009
8:00 PMto10:00 PM

Who:  Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM)*
Where: The LGBT Center, 208 West 13th Street between 7th and 8th Avenues
Cost:  $5 for members;$10 for non-members

Some people think of spanking as the least challenging of BDSM skills, requiring the least knowledge. It’s not flamboyant like singletails or edgy like knife play so it can’t be as exciting. However, in the proper hands, spanking can be a slow, sensuous climb to orgasm or a sharp, harsh discipline. It can be used to create a loving, hands-on scene, reduce the strongest person to tears or re-create a cherished fantasy.

Lady Sabrina will show how spanking can be a valuable tool in your arsenal as she discusses the different styles of spanking, value of role play, safety and use of toys. .

About Lady Sabrina

Lady Sabrina has been a member of the BDSM community for over 15 years presenting for TES, Knot4Everyone, DSF, Black Rose, John Jay College, PEP and others. A BDSM educator, she’s presented on such topics as Designing Protocols, slave training, scene etiquette, flogging, hot wax, Basic Dom Skills, etc. and has acted as an informal Mentor to many in the scene.

Having a love of paddles, floggers and books, Lady Sabrina supports her habit by selling BDSM gear and fetish wear at events like Folsom Street and Leatherfest through her business, My Lady’s Toys.

Lady Sabrina is currently on the Boards of TES, NY Leather Weekend, MAsT Metro NY, Cercle des Dommes and East Coast Leather Town Hall. She’s also a member of ONYX Pearls, LPN, SCONY and FM Masters. Lady Sabrina is honored to be the recipient of the 2008 Pantheon of Leather Northeast Regional Award.

* About LSM
LSM is a support and information group for all women 18 years of age or older, including transexual and intersexed women who live their daily lives as women and all female-born transgender people who feel they have a connection with and respect for the women’s community. And, who are interested in fantasy and role playing, bondage, discipline, S/M, fetishes, costumes, alternate gender identities and uninhibited sexual expression in a safe, sane, consensual and confidential way.

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06/14/2009
9:00 AMto5:30 PM
barbaracarrellas nitke Barbara Carrellas teaches Urban Tantra®: Sacred Sex for the 21st Century

Barbara Carrellas by Barbara Nitke

Urban Tantra® is a radically updated Tantra practice for modern sexual and spiritual explorers and can be used anywhere and by everyone. Tantra is not only a sexual practice, it is also a way of life and a path to spiritual growth and fulfillment. On the Tantric path, pleasure, vision and ecstasy are celebrated and can be as found in both everyday life and in peak sexual experiences. We will develop deep, heart-centered connections (with a partner or with yourself), and explore the bliss that comes when our spiritual and sexual paths are one. We will also learn Tantric techniques for intense, full-bodied pleasure. This workshop is for both couples and singles. It does not include nudity or explicit sexual touch. All genders and sexual preferences are welcome.

Barbara Carrellas, ACS, is a sex educator and sensual revolutionary. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century and Luxurious Loving: Tantric Inspirations for Passion and Pleasure. Barbara’s pioneering Urban Tantra® workshops were named best in New York City by TimeOut and New York magazine.

For more info: http://www.opencenter.org/urban-tantra%C2%AE-sacred-sex-for-the-21st-century/

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06/08/2009
6:00 PMto9:00 PM

Happy Ending Lounge
302 Broome St. Between Eldridge and Forsythe St.
New York City, New York

Look for the hot pink awning that says “XIE HE Health”

(B/D to Grand, J/M/Z to Bowery, F to Delancey or F/V to 2nd Avenue, between Forsyth & Eldridge. Lo (212) 334-9676

Carol Queen’s coming through town and wants to collaborate with her friends Rachel and Elizabeth to make a space for connecting, schmoozing, touching base, and furthering plans for sex-positive world domination! Her SF nonprofit The Center for Sex & Culture has hosted Rachel and Audacia, worked with Elizabeth on her online community Sex in the Public Square, and has plans to expand its educational and cultural offerings online as soon as we can (if we can’t afford NY real estate, at least we can visit you via your computers). Come mingle with your fellow NY sex people and meet some new ones, then enjoy a reading that will surely be more salaciously smart/sexy brain candy than most people ever get on a Monday (and in some cases, sadly, EVER).

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