From the monthly archives:

March 2009

fishnets Pleasurists #22

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Pleasurists is your round-up of the adult product reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #21? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #23? Submit it here before Sunday April 5th at 11:59pm PST. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.

Want to win some free swag? All you’ve got to do is enter.

Madame Editrix

Scarlet Lotus St.Syr

On to the reviews…

Vibrators

Dildos

Anal Toys

Toys for Cocks

Lube/Massage Oil/Bath Stuff

Sex Kits

BDSM/Fetish

Adult Books/Games

Adult Movies/Porn

Storage

Miscellaneous

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pleasure salon Pleasure Salon NYC: Celebrating 2 Years!

When:      Wednesday, April 1, 6:00PM
Location:  Happy Ending, 302 Broome St. NYC (pink awning says “Xie He Health”)
Cost:  FREE
Please RSVP: http://tinyurl.com/c4mlpa
Celebrating two years of building New York City’s Pleasure Positive Community!

Wednesday, April 1st at Happy Ending Lounge. We’re there the first Wednesday of every month.

The Pleasure Salon has been created to build community, allowing sex-positive activists to cross-pollinate. Our gatherings bring together members of the BDSM, swinger, alternative gender, LGBT, sex-activist, sex educator, nudist, sex-magic, polyamory, Pagan, radical faerie, tantra, dark odyssey, sex-blogger, porn, pervert and sex-worker communities, and others whose passion is sex. (Let us know if we missed any one of you!) Through building networks in the sex-positive community, The Pleasure Salon hopes to help create a sex-positive world. It is a place for the open exchange of ideas and sensual expression.

We have been thrilled by the turnout at previous events. Join us in building New York’s pleasure positive community, and bring your like-minded friends to this social gathering. The Pleasure Salon embraces respect, acceptance, and non-judgmental support in this public space.

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Movie: American Swing

by Viviane on 03/31/2009

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American Swing is a documentary about the rise and fall of the 1970s sex club,  Plato’s Retreat. I always talked about going, but was never went (too chicken!).  I can’t seem to find the trailer, but here’s a video clip from New York magazine .  In NY, it’s playing at the Quad Cinema.

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Jenya

by Viviane on 03/31/2009

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How to Be a Dominant Diva
by Georgia Payne and Julie Taylor

dominantdiva How to Be a Dominant Diva

Ok, so who doesn’t want to be a Dominant Diva once in a while?  Even if you are submissive by nature, or like your partner to be the one in control, sometimes it is thrilling, fun, and empowering to switch the power exchange and bring a bit of unexpected excitement into a relationship.  This is what “How to Be a Dominant Diva” is all about.

This book is tremendously different than what I was expecting.  First, I thought by the title that it was a book that focused on D/s play.  And, while there is some spanking, bondage and blindfolding scenarios in the book, it is marketed towards vanilla heterosexual couples.  Second, I thought it might be one of those lame books that gives you stupid ideas and quotes on every page, like: “Tonight, try a blindfold!” or “Flavored lubes are a great way to spice up oral sex!”  But, this book is actually way deeper and more interesting than that.

First of all, the book is written by two fairly qualified Divas.  Julie Taylor is a writer for Cosmopolitan and Glamour and “has written over 100 sex and relationship features for major magazines”.  Georgia Payne is “one of America’s most prominent dominatrixes with a large clientele in both Los Angeles and New York.”  Both these women are long time friends and have put their ideas and experience together in creating this book, with 69 sexy scenarios you can use with your partner to add a bit of spontaneity and exhilaration into an otherwise “ordinary” love life.

I was actually impressed with the thought put into creating these erotic adventures, such as “Naughty Nurse,” “Treasure Hunt,” “Driving Miss Diva,” “Naked Sushi,” “Abduction Seduction,” and “Caught and Cuffed.”  Each scenario has a front page, then a pull out action plan to guide you through each encounter, detailing the props you will need to carry out your seductive quest.  The following is an excerpt from the book, courtesy of DominantDiva.com “Meet me at Halftime”.

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There are a lot of inspiring ideas that will certainly give some fuel to your fire and get your partner’s motor running as well.  Each adventure uses the element of suspense and surprise to entice and seduce, which are techniques that many of us forget in our day-to-day lives.  Many are played out like games or scavengers hunts, in which your lover wins sex as the prize.  These sexual explorations are not just simple rolls in the hay but ideas that will turn each exploit into a sizzling “sexperience” and night to remember.

This book is a great activity book for those seeking ways to add more pleasure and excitement to their love life.  It’s a keeper and will give you lots of food for fodder to create your own unique sexcapades as well.

You can buy “How to Be a Dominant Diva” at Tabu Toys

and while there get some great sex toys to let the games begin!

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alphabetsoupflyer Tonight: Alphabet Soup: Serving up Solidarity!

Date: Thursday, March 26, 2009
Time: 07:00 PM to 12:00 AM
Where: Dtox
Address: 31 2nd Ave, Between 1st and 2nd St.
Cost: FREE
Dress code: Come as you are… no judgments, no labels, no rules!

Alphabet Soup… Serving up Solidarity!

Come join us the Fourth Thursday of Every Month for a Sex-Positive Social Gathering for the Entire Alternative Community!

Uniting the LGBTPQ, FABGLITTER, and other sex-positive communities, Alphabet Soup serves up solidarity! Queer or straight, trans or cisgendered, kinky or vanilla, poly or mono, or anything in between… come be among friends!

Alphabet Soup is for ALL kinksters and sex-positive folk to gather regardless of gender, sexual orientation, relationship paradigms, lifestyle preferences, etc.

This event is free.

Buy One, Get One Free Drink Specials until 10p

Stay for the Drag Show after Midnight!

Spread the Word!

Please join the Evite Guest List

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dita von teese sparkle horse244 Dita Von Teese @ Crazy Horse
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Dita Von Teese Sparkle Horse Burlesque Gallery @ Blueblood.net. Photography by Amelia G and Forrest Black

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7 NYC Weekly Leather Dates: Mar 26 Apr 1

James Deen and Riley Shy on sexandsubmission.com

Thursday, March 26
Alphabet Soup

Friday, March 27
DSF: “Relationships in the BDSM World: Psychology of a scene- Connection, Passion & Play” w/ LordSteven & Kristin
Le Cercle des Dommes
LSM Spring BDSM Play Party for Women and Trans

Saturday, March 28
GMSMA Workshop: “From Tits to Balls”

Sunday, March 29
ONYX-Pearls Northeast: “Mentoring”
Suspension

Monday, March 30
CV Meeting: “Humorous Roleplay in Serious D/s” w/ Jeff Mach

Tuesday, March 31
TES: “The Art of the Pickup” w/ Dr. Victoria Zdrok

Wednesday, April 1
TES Dominant Men/submissive woman “Are We Too Careful in S/M?” w/ Little girl amanda
Pleasure Salon

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marymermaid Mary, Mary, Quite Contrary

I want to start off by stating that I am not an advocate for dual-purpose vibrators.  I have tried several including the We-Vibe [my review], the Rabbit Habit, and the Snugglepuss [my review], all with similar disappointing results.  How I wanted to be like Miranda from Sex in the City and fall in love with my dual-action vibes, but alas, it was never meant to be.

However, I had very high hopes for Mary Mermaid for several reasons.  First, it is designed by Fun Factory, one of my favorite sex toy designers who also makes my beloved G-spot dildo the Curve [my review].  It features a beautiful sleek design that is whimsical, without dubbing down the toy to make it look like a kid’s toy.  Even a grown woman like me may have a secret fantasy for mermaids.  Rabbits-on the other hand-have never been very sexy to me.  The design of the tail was something that also got my attention, and I imagined those wide flippers licking deliciously against my clitoris and causing me to having crazy, awesome orgasms.

The reality it this:  Mary, Mary is quite contrary.  She is beautifully designed, but is more “art for art sake” than functional.  Her phallus-shaped body is fine for penetration, although becomes slimmer on the end, so not ideal for G-spot stimulation.  I prefer a larger, more bulbous head for my G-spot.  And, although she “twists and shakes” neither is sufficient enough to get me overly excited.  The real bummer, however, is Mary’s tail that promised me orgasms but did not deliver.  The tail should have been designed much longer and closer together, so it would snuggle the clitoris on both sides.  As it is, neither side reaches my clit without a struggle.  And, trying to keep the tail on your clit while pumping the dildo to and fro is an exercise in frustration.

Unfortunately, I’m back to using two toys again that do a great job together (one for G-spot and the other for clitoral) rather than a dual-action that does neither.  I’m afraid I will never be converted to a dual-action toy, although I am always so tempted to keep trying.  So, back in the ocean with you Mary Mermaid.  Let’s see if you will sink or swim.

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pomegranates Pleasurists #21

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Pleasurists is your round-up of the adult product reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #20? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #22? Submit it here before Sunday March 29th at 11:59pm PST. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.

Note: Since there are SO MANY contests this week the Editor’s Pick is all of the contests. Enter and win something!

Want to win some free swag? All you’ve got to do is enter.

Madame Editrix

Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek

On to the reviews…

Vibrators

Dildos

Anal Toys

Toys for Cocks

Lube/Massage Oil/Bath Stuff

BDSM/Fetish

Adult Books

Adult Movies/Porn

Storage

Miscellaneous

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Sugasm #161

by Viviane on 03/23/2009

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Photo: Nikky Case (errotica archives)

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #162? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
The Balance of Power
“A wave of lust coursed through her body at his words”

Betrayal
“What’s this? Evidence of pleasure?”

Secret signals
“I will adore him for it”

Sugasm Editor
Not An Overnight

Editor’s Choice
The Ghost of Abuse

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
The Ass
I forgot
Let the Catfighting Begin
Question #5
My Heart is my Strongest Muscle
No Woman
Owning Slut. Confession #239
Want

Sex Advice
Improving Male Orgasm

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Betty in white stockings
The Blue
Delicate Curves -HNT

Sex News, Reviews, and Interviews
20 Questions with Jiz Lee
Blowjob FAIL – the Blowguard
Hysteria and the Hitachi Magic Wand
Industrial Pleasures – the Hitachi Wand
Interview with Daniel Bergner, author of “The Other Side of Desire”
LELO Liv (And Hot Hunk Hugh Jackman Pix)
Sex Toy Review: Go Ringo Cock Ring

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Blindfolded, in a dark forest
Crowded Elevator
How I Became One Groupie’s Real-Life Guitar Hero
Instant Messaging Fun! #1
Oxygen
The Scent Of A Woman
She almost killed me
Sick Day, Part 2
A Sweet and Dirty Love Fuck Story or The Librarian and the Writer
Video Nasty
Watching Girls III, Strike a Pose
What we did on Valentine’s Day

BDSM & Fetish
Diary of a Futa (part 6)
Dream (100 words)
An Enigmatic Angel Returns
On display – Moroccan fantasy 2
Passion
So where’s the missus?
To be or not to be
A weekend with Miss Susan – My version

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

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atranssexuallovestory A Transsexual Love Story

Dr. Annie Sprinkle’s Female-To-Male: A Transsexual Love Story (2008)
Studio:  Joseph Kramer Productions
Director- Annie Sprinkle
Cast:  Annie Sprinkle, Les Nichols

I *heart* Annie Sprinkle.  I have been a big fan of Annie since my university days when I first discovered her in one of my feminist art classes.  I admired her unorthodox performance art that embraced her feminine sexuality as something beautiful, whose purpose was also to educate such as her infamous Public Cervix Announcement, where she got up on stage, spread her legs and invited “the audience to view her cervix with the aid of a speculum and a flashlight.”

Annie has starred in and directed many films in her 26 year career [film review], and what-ever she does, she does in her own unique, radical way.

Dr. Annie Sprinkle’s Female-To-Male: A Transsexual Love Story” is no different.  Part documentary, part biography, part journal, part love story, “A Transsexual Love Story” is unlike any film you have ever seen and defies classification.  It features Annie and her lover Les Nicols (Linda) a FTM transsexual who now lives as a “surgically-made hermaphrodite” through a series of several sexual reassignment surgeries.

Les identifies as a male and has since childhood.  The film shows his evolution from a radical lesbian female butch “man-hater” (his words) to a man who is much more forgiving of his “gender”, due to his understanding after transformation.  Why would someone who doesn’t like men want to become one, you may wonder?  Les explains in the film that he has always seen being a man as a place of privilege in society, and since becoming a man has noticed the change in his social status and the respect that he receives.  Briefly, the film touches on his abusive childhood, which is another indication of why he chose his current body.  But, mainly, it appears that male was what Les truly felt he was inside, and he could no longer identify with his former female self.

The film also touches a bit on the struggles that Les had to overcome during his transformation.  At one point during their lovemaking, Annie breaks down in tears because of the hurt she feels that he must have gone through-that many transsexuals have to go through-to be whom they feel they really are.  The scars that cover Les’ body are visual witnesses to this pain, and you begin to realize how strong and determined Les must have been to make the changes he did.  Still, above all, Les appears incredibly positive and happy about his life now, and reassures Annie by comforting her.  His total attitude during the interviews is very upbeat-he always has a twinkle in his eye and a big smile on his face.  It is easy to see why Annie fell in love with him in the first place.

The film also explains Les’ transformation in medical terms, including the creation of his prosthetic cock, which is pretty amazing.  There is an intimate scene, showing Annie and Les making love for the first time with his new penis which Les first uses by inserting a rod to stiffen it, then later his own thumb.  This is interesting, as a few years back I was fortunate enough to meet Patrick Califia (one of my favorite sex writers), who is a FTM transsexual who joked about using his cock in the same way, with his thumb.  I suspect that both Les and Patrick had the same genital reconstructive surgery, although the film explains a few other methods as well.

What I really loved best about this film, is the human aspect by which Annie portrays their story, which is sweet and wonderful to watch.  And, Les is totally cool in his biker duds, James Dean hair, and tattooed body.  You can’t help but fall in love with him just a little bit too.  My only critique about the film is that it is only thirty minutes in length, and I would have liked to see more interviews with Les, and a more in-depth biography of his life.  But, the film is about Les and Annie and their love, and is more of an artistic celebration of love, rather than a stale documentary with just talking heads.  I’d recommend this film to anyone who loves Annie Sprinkle, to anyone intrigued about FTM transformation, and to those who want to watch a real-life love story that is both intimate and poignant to watch!

You can purchase this film at Tabu Toys as well as many other great sex toys.

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Aiden Starr and Laci Laine on whippedass.com

Thursday, March 19
TES Switchables Group: “Personal Goals & Guidelines for a Happy Poly Life” w/ Pete Mosq
Staten Island Kink Munch

Friday, March 20
DSF: “Advanced Genitalia Torture” with Mistress Nona
SWITCH Women/Trans/Genderqueer BDSM Party

Saturday, March 21
Brooklyn Leather Munch
TES TNG: Fun Time Excursion to Dave & Busters
TES Spanking Group: Fun and Pain with Canes
TES Novice Excursion
TES St. Patrick’s Day Party w/ Tony & Mary Ann
SPAM party
Stimulate

Sunday, March 22
NY Bondage Club: Black Party After Party

Monday, March 23

Tuesday, March 24
TES: “Child Custoy & Sexual Civil Rights” w/ Diana Adams, Esq.

Wednesday, March 25
TES Bondage Group: Foiling the Escape Artist w/ Dov

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 Regard Indescret Set

Have you ever wanted to dress up and play burlesque?  Or get dolled up for an erotic photo shoot in your private boudoir?  Well, Babeland is here to help your exhibitionist fantasies come true with their Regard Indescret Set of sexy accessories by Bijoux Indiscrets.

All items come is a lovely tin hat box which includes a luxurious ostrich feather boa, a pair of leather tasseled pasties, a pearl waist chain, and three ambiance candles to set the mood.  All items are of good quality.  The boa is thick and plush, the pasties easy to apply with double stick tape that is supplied, and the pearl belt fits up to 47″.  The pasties and belt come in a sleek classy box inside the tin and the candles are wrapped in a black organza bag.  This would also make a great gift if you wanted to give your lover a hint for a sexy photo shoot, or erotic strip-tease.

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This kit will really let your inner fashionista shine.  Whether you are taking photos of yourself or with your lover, this is a great way to heat things up for some naughty amusements later on.  Or have a girls night in and dress yourselves as sexy fashion divas.  Camera not included icon wink Regard Indescret Set


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