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Dudes Today: The Emotional Conquistador Is The New Sexual Conquistador (Jezebel)
Jul 8th, 2008 by Viviane
I’ll admit that casual sex for me is a total defense mechanism in order to experience intimacy without risking emotional detriment. I’d so much rather be fucked than fucked with. So when some guy suggested to me last week that we merely make out all night instead of have sex, I was immediately cautious of his intentions. It sounds backwards, I know, but it’s, uh, progressive. Right?
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But I totally should’ve trusted my instincts, because they’ve never failed me before. Especially when one night, he actually asked me to enumerate all the things I liked about him. I thought it was weird, but I obliged with utter honesty, “You’re funny, you’re smart, you’re cute, you’re charming, blah, blah blah.” I ended with, “I like you so much it’s scaring me.” And it was then that he got what he wanted. About 30 hours later, after spending the entire weekend together—brunching, cuddling, kissing on the street, holding hands, playing Connect Four, while sober, mind you—I received a text that said that he really needed to be alone, and he hoped I would understand.