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BF seeks G/BM4M
Nov 9th, 2007 by Mikey Mongol
My friend, novelist and recent Tiptree award winner Catherynne Valente is looking for men that like men. She’s writing a story which necessarily features a lot of man-on-man sex scenes, and she’s having a bit of a problem:
I have no trouble talking about sex between men and women, or women and women. I know all about both, having, you know, done it once or twice. But I am minus the necessary experience to write authoritatively about love between men.
Now, I’ve read and watched porn and I’ve read a great deal of books which have m/m sex in them–largely written by women, actually. (Is spit-lube really that common? I highly doubt it.) And I’ve heard the mockery of such scenes as unrealistic, and while I have a good idea of everything physical that goes on, I don’t know anything about the intimate experience of being a man making love to other men.
And I want to do it well, I want to do it right. This is extremely important to me.
So I’m asking my gay or bisexual male friends … if you would be kind enough to help a girl out–what bothers you about the sex scenes you’ve read, if anything? What do you want to see? And most important and most strange for me to ask–what does it feel like? What, if you’ve had sex with women, is different beyond the obvious? (I could go on for hours about what’s different with a woman as opposed to men, if reciprocation is desired by any other authors out there.) I’m looking for the specific, the peculiar, things not obvious to your local bisexual author girl, both receptive and penetrative experiences.
You can email her or comment on this blog post if you can help her out.